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Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?
 
Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.
 
As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go.

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Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl Cheryl Fraser

    • Health & Fitness
    • 5.0 • 93 Ratings

Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?
 
Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.
 
As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go.

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    Great Love Is No Accident: Become Passion Doors Are OPEN

    Great Love Is No Accident: Become Passion Doors Are OPEN

    The doors to Become Passion are OPEN—make sure you and your sweetheart are signed up before they close on May 3rd!!

    Join me this Thursday, May 2nd for a very special LIVE Q&A over Zoom - email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com and we will send you the link and time

    This week on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame… Today, I’m joined by six REAL couples who have participated in my Become Passion training. 
    Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive Become Passion program are open now and close May 3rd! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts May 3rd.
    A failing relationship doesn’t always look like explosive fights and shouting matches and slamming doors… it can just as easily look like apathy and boredom and quiet resentment. What matters most is how you chose to bring those issues into the light—and whether or not you’re willing to fight to make things better. 

    In This Episode, You Will Learn:

    This Wednesday’s LIVE Q&A on ZOOM is your last chance to join me for a free event before we kick off Become Passion (01:20)

    Karen and Steve didn’t have nasty fights, but they were struggling with their sexuality as they aged (03:57)

    Between kids, careers, and household responsibility, it’s so easy for a relationship to become Marriage Incorporated (07:30)

    Lisa and Cam found themselves in flooded arguments that became destructive to their relationship (18:22)

    Howard and Karen were separated for 6 months before they found Become Passion and learned how to fall in love all over again (22:29)

    Today’s LoveByte (33:00)


    Got questions? Email hello@drcherylfraser.com.

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    • 36 min
    Spend 3 Months with Cheryl Renovating Your Relationship—Welcome to the Passion Masterclass!

    Spend 3 Months with Cheryl Renovating Your Relationship—Welcome to the Passion Masterclass!

    Ready to renovate your OWN relationship? Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, CLICK HERE We begin May 3rd, 2024 and go through July 26th 2024
    In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do ONCE  a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and romance cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist—fun combination.)
    Here’s the good news: You are NOT alone and it's NOT too late… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having any sex whatsoever. 
    In this exclusive recording of my Passion MAsterclass you’ll learn about the keys to great relationship and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business). You’ll also learn how to create much more intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—no matter where your relationship is currently.

    Want to watch the actual masterclass with video? Click here!

    In This Episode, You Will Learn:


    The 3 Keys to Passion – What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime 


    Intimacy: “Marital Friendship”  Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments

     Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going – and what you need to do about it. Getting real

    Sensuality: How to wake up your erotic life. Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month? 


    Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com

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    • 1 hr 35 min
    Marriage 9-11 - Don’t Give Up

    Marriage 9-11 - Don’t Give Up

    This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you.

    You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Doors are not open! You can check it out and join the program HERE 

    Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you!

    Marriage 911! What's your emergency? 
    “We are miserable.When do you know to give up? Or is there a chance this relationship can be saved?” ”

    Let’s face it, staying in love over the long haul is difficult. You may feel you have fallen out of love, ot you argue all the time, or so it seems. Attraction and desire may feel non-existent. But don’t give up. There are proven steps that can help you renovate your relationship. It takes effort to make long term love work - and I am here to help. 


    On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that reviving the love, communication and yes, even the desire in your  relationship is possible. Whatever you and your partner are experiencing, even when it feels like all hope is lost, it is still possible to begin again 

    In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

    Falling in love is easy, but staying in love over the long term takes mindfulness, effort, and dedication (0:11)

    The Become Passion Program involves eight weeks of lessons, live coaching calls with Dr. Cheryl where she answers your confidential questions, and bonuses trrainings with other experts in relationships and sexuality (3:03)

    The Become Passion 12 week program is an online program (3:44)

    The number one predictor of health, happiness, longevity, and more, is the quality of our romantic relationship with our companion - so work on it!  (5:07)

    The Become Passion program is an immersion 3 month program and we do the real work. It’s not easy…but it IS effective. Let’s create the change you desire, starting next week!   (6:13)




    Let’s Connect!  


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    • 9 min
    Marriage 911: Sex & Aging

    Marriage 911: Sex & Aging

    This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you.

    You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd.

    Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you!

    Marriage 911! What's your emergency? 
    My partner and I are getting older and our sex life just isn’t what it used to be. What’s happening to us?

    As we age, we all experience changes in our desire, arousal, and body image. In fact, there are changes in what feels like almost everything to do with our sexual life—whether it’s with our partner or with ourselves. 

    On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that even if you’ve experienced some big changes to your sex life as you’ve gotten older, there are solutions to the trouble you’re facing. I want you to listen carefully and hear the hope.

    In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

    A satisfying sex life for a couple that has at least one male bodied person in it doesn’t have to revolve around a firm erection (01:30)

    Women can still have great sex post-menopause—it might just look different than before (04:54)

    It's easy to give up when your bodies aren't responding well, but there are solutions out there (06:17)

    Sex is a way of connecting erotically, emotionally, and spiritually with our partner and it’s a vital part of life and love (08:21)


    Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!

    Let’s Connect!  


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    Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram 

    • 12 min
    Marriage 911: Roommates—No Passion

    Marriage 911: Roommates—No Passion

    This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you.

    You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd.

    Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you!

    Marriage 911! What's your emergency? 
    “The thrill is gone!”
    “I love my partner, but I'm not in love with them any more.” 
    “We’re no longer lovers—we’re merely roommates.” 

    If any of these relationship emergencies sound familiar, you’re in the right place.

    On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that your relationship isn’t over, even if it feels like all the spark has long fizzled out. The house, the kids, and the bills can all overwhelm your romance, but they don’t have to take priority over passion. 

    In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

    Falling out of love and into Marriage Incorporated is insidious (03:43)

    Make your love life your hobby (06:13)

    Great date nights don’t have to be fancy or expensive—but they are so important to schedule (08:28)

    Big change only happens when we take action (10:27)


    Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!

    Let’s Connect!  


    Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here 

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    If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz


    Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram 

    • 12 min
    Marriage 911: After the Affair

    Marriage 911: After the Affair

    Register now for Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Relationship Reboot couples workshop on Zoom - Saturday April 13th 10-1 Pacific time HERE
    This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you get on the VIP waitlist HERE.
    You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd.
    Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you!
    Marriage 911! What's your emergency? 
    Dr. Cheryl, HELP! How can I ever get over the pain of my partner’s affair? 
    Believe it or not, it is possible to recover from a betrayal in your relationship. It may not be easy, but great relationships always revolve around intention.
    On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you everything you need to know about affairs—and what you and your partner can do in the aftermath to try and reestablish trust in your relationship. 
    In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

    There are sexual affairs and emotional affairs and they can be equally devastating (02:18)

    An emotional affair is when you're sharing intimate hopes and dreams with someone who's not your spouse and your spouse doesn’t know (03:29)

    All sympathy tends to go to the person who’s been cheated on, but we’re all just bozos on the bus who make mistakes (06:49)

    No one can earn our trust, they can only choose to act in a trustworthy manner (09:40)

     Very few things hurt as much as being betrayed, but there is hope (10:33)


    Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!
    Let’s Connect!  


    Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here 

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    If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz


    Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram 


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    • 13 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
93 Ratings

93 Ratings

d schafer ,

Sex love and elephants

This is one of the best relationship podcast I have ever listened to. Thank you so much.

wgajr1 ,

Must listen podcast

Heard Dr. Fraser on another podcast and I’m so glad I did. So much great information presented is an accessible way. Definitely a must listen.

Pete & Lady ,

What a gift!

I found Dr. Cheryl on the Gottman Institute’s website, and how lucky am I to have found her!! Spot on with her advice and suggestions. So grateful you give us a podcast. Please keep it up!!

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