Shadow Work After Dark

Jaclyn Proper
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Welcome! I’m Jaclyn Proper, a Jungian Depth Coach, Educator, Explorer, Underworld Doula, Artist & human doing my best on Earth. This channel is about what it means to be an explorer of shadow and self. We dive into shadow work, eroticism, spiritual psychology, kink, neurodivergence, sexuality, travel, and authentic living through the lens of my personal journey and Jungian psychology. If you’re an unconventional soul, queer, kinky, neurospicy, or simply shadow-curious, you’ll find lighthearted yet no-nonsense conversations here to help you embrace your edges, and uncover the truth of who you are.

  1. 1D AGO

    Sexual Shadow Work: Why It Changes Everything

    What happens when we stop avoiding the most socially conditioned part of ourselves? In this episode, we go deep into sexual shadow work through the lens of Jungian depth psychology - what it is, why it matters, and how to actually start doing it. Not as a way to spice up your sex life, but as a direct line into your creative energy, your intuition, your authenticity, and your aliveness. Because our sexuality isn't just about sex. In Jungian terms, libido is psychic energy - the energy that animates everything. And when it's riddled with shame or disconnection, it shows up in every area of our lives. We cover: What the sexual shadow is and how it forms How unprocessed sexual shame affects creativity, relationships, and abundance How to identify your root sexual programming How to use recurring patterns and judgments as shadow maps What the erotic persona is and what it's hiding How to decode your fantasies and kinks as psychological data What we can expect when we actually do this work This is for anyone who: Has done therapy, breathwork, or personal development work and keeps hitting the same walls Wants to understand the psychology behind desire, shame, and fantasy Is curious about Jungian shadow work applied to sexuality and relationships Feels disconnected from their creative energy, sensuality, or sense of self 🖤 Join REBORN - 12-Week Live Group Program: https://www.jaclynproper.com/reborn 📖 Free Erotic Shadow Workbook: https://www.jaclynproper.com/sexual-shadow-workbook Shadow Work After Dark | Jaclyn Proper - Jungian Depth Coach, Underworld Guide & Mystic 📲 @jaclynproper on TikTok, Instagram & YouTube Tags: sexual shadow work, jungian shadow work, erotic shadow work, depth psychology, shadow work explained, sexual shame healing, libido and creativity, carl jung shadow, erotic individuation, sacral energy healing, kink psychology, sexual awakening, unconscious desires, shadow work for women, purity culture recovery, creative life force, shadow work meditation, jungian coaching READY TO GO DEEPER? 🖤 [📖 FREE Workbook: Erotic Shadow Workbook] [👩‍💻Book a session with me here] [🌹Be REBORN: A 12-week Erotic Shadow Journey]   [☕️ Support my work & keep me caffeinated] Connect with Me: 📱 TikTok: @jaclynproper📺 YouTube: @jaclynproperIf you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a review and sharing it with someone who might benefit.  About Jaclyn Proper: Jaclyn is a Jungian Coach & Underworld Priestess dedicated to helping you explore the depths of your psyche, embrace your true desires, and transform your life through conscious exploration and self-awareness. Join her as she breaks down barriers and opens up conversations about sexuality, creativity, and the journey towards wholeness.

    37 min

  2. MAR 12

    Why You Keep Getting Ghosted (It's Not What You Think)

    If you keep getting ghosted, this video is for you — and it's probably not the answer you're expecting. In this episode, I'm breaking down the pattern of being pursued, falling for someone, and then watching them disappear — from a depth psychology and Jungian perspective. Because ghosting isn't just bad luck, and it isn't just "men being men" or "women being women." It's a message from your unconscious mind. I share my own experience with this exact pattern, how it connects to childhood abandonment trauma, and why our psyche keeps recreating the same emotional architecture — even when we consciously want something completely different. We also get into repetition compulsion, projection, shadow work, and the mirror principle. In this video: Why your psyche recruits people who will ghost you (and what it's trying to heal)The role of your earliest attachment experiences in your adult relationshipsWhy you might be more emotionally unavailable than you thinkHow your shadow plays out in the people you attractReflection questions to map this pattern in your own lifeA guided Jungian active imagination visualization to access deeper wisdom around love and connectionThis isn't about blame — yours or theirs. It's about recognizing that you are a co-creator of your relational patterns, which means you actually have the power to change them. REBORN — my 12-week live program — is open for enrollment now. We go deep on attachment, the erotic imagination, the nervous system, the heart, and more READY TO GO DEEPER? 🖤 [📖 FREE Workbook: Erotic Shadow Workbook] [👩‍💻Book a session with me here] [🌹Be REBORN: A 12-week Erotic Shadow Journey]   [☕️ Support my work & keep me caffeinated] Connect with Me: 📱 TikTok: @jaclynproper📺 YouTube: @jaclynproperIf you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a review and sharing it with someone who might benefit.  About Jaclyn Proper: Jaclyn is a Jungian Coach & Underworld Priestess dedicated to helping you explore the depths of your psyche, embrace your true desires, and transform your life through conscious exploration and self-awareness. Join her as she breaks down barriers and opens up conversations about sexuality, creativity, and the journey towards wholeness.

    33 min

  3. MAR 5

    What Your Sexual Fantasies Are Actually Trying to Tell You (Jungian Psychology)

    Your sexual fantasies are not a problem to fix. They're psychic material — dream language with libido attached. In this episode, we're going deep into the symbolic erotic: what your fantasies, kinks, and desires actually reveal about your unconscious mind, your unmet needs, and your deepest fears. Drawing from Jungian depth psychology, shadow work, and archetypal symbolism, I'm breaking down why your erotic imagination is one of the most honest parts of your psyche — and how to decode it without shame. In this episode: Why your fantasies are symbolic, not shameful What common kinks (domination, submission, humiliation, worship, age play) mean at a deeper psychological level The difference between conscious and unconscious kink How trauma and fantasy intersect — and why it's more adaptive than pathological A journaling framework to decode your own erotic imagination Whether you've spent years confused or ashamed of your desires, or you're a practitioner looking to go deeper with clients, this episode will shift how you relate to your own erotic psyche. Tags: shadow work, Jungian psychology, erotic shadow work, sexual psychology, kink psychology, depth psychology, archetypes, sexual fantasy meaning, conscious sexuality, shadow integration, erotic imagination, somatic psychology READY TO GO DEEPER? 🖤 [📖 FREE Workbook: Erotic Shadow Workbook] [👩‍💻Book a session with me here] [🌹Be REBORN: A 12-week Erotic Shadow Journey]   [☕️ Support my work & keep me caffeinated] Connect with Me: 📱 TikTok: @jaclynproper📺 YouTube: @jaclynproperIf you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a review and sharing it with someone who might benefit.  About Jaclyn Proper: Jaclyn is a Jungian Coach & Underworld Priestess dedicated to helping you explore the depths of your psyche, embrace your true desires, and transform your life through conscious exploration and self-awareness. Join her as she breaks down barriers and opens up conversations about sexuality, creativity, and the journey towards wholeness.

    21 min

  4. FEB 26

    How to (Safely) Work With Deities: Archetypal Mediumship, Goddess Work + Guided Visualization

    Are you being called to deity work but don't know where to start — or want to make sure you're doing it safely? In this episode,  I break down deity work from a depth psychology perspective — what deities actually are, how archetypes live in the collective unconscious, and how to work with goddess energy consciously without losing yourself in the process. In this episode: * What deities really are through a Jungian/depth psychology lens * The truth about archetypal possession and ego inflation (and how to avoid it) * How to know which deity or goddess is calling YOU * Working with Lilith, Hecate, Kali, Inanna, and more * How to build an altar and create conscious invocations * Why ego strength matters more than people talk about * Guided active imagination visualization to connect with your deity Whether you're a beginner curious about goddess work or someone already deep in shadow work and spiritual practice, this episode meets you where you are. 🕯️ Guided Visualization starts at 25:43 Keywords: deity work, goddess work, dark goddess, Jungian psychology, depth psychology, shadow work, archetypes, collective unconscious, Lilith, Hecate, Kali, Inanna, Brigid, archetypal possession, spiritual awakening, dark feminine, erotic sovereignty, active imagination, Carl Jung, shadow work for beginners, spiritual psychology, mediumship, liminal space, divine feminine READY TO GO DEEPER? 🖤 [📖 FREE Workbook: Erotic Shadow Workbook] [👩‍💻Book a session with me here] [🌹Be REBORN: A 12-week Erotic Shadow Journey]   [☕️ Support my work & keep me caffeinated] Connect with Me: 📱 TikTok: @jaclynproper📺 YouTube: @jaclynproperIf you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a review and sharing it with someone who might benefit.  About Jaclyn Proper: Jaclyn is a Jungian Coach & Underworld Priestess dedicated to helping you explore the depths of your psyche, embrace your true desires, and transform your life through conscious exploration and self-awareness. Join her as she breaks down barriers and opens up conversations about sexuality, creativity, and the journey towards wholeness.

    31 min

  5. FEB 20

    Ego Death & Grief in Shadow Work: How to Let Your Old Identity Die

    In this episode, we’re talking about death and grief in shadow work—the ego death / ego grief phase that happens when your old identity starts dissolving and your nervous system is like… “wait, who am I now?” I’m sharing this after a few months of being quiet because I’ve been in my own inner winter—the void, the fog, the liminal space between identities. If you’ve been feeling confused, low energy, unmotivated, or like your old life doesn’t fit anymore… you might not be “off track.” You might be in the death phase of transformation. We’ll cover: What ego death is (and why it’s part of the shadow work cycle)Why grief is not just sadness (conflicting emotions are normal)How grief lives in the body / nervous system (and why stuck emotion = stuck patterns)Coping mechanisms, nervous system regulation, and releasing shameHow to work with dark goddess archetypes + feminine spirituality during inner winterHow to celebrate endings (yes, death can be liberating) ✨ Stay until the end for a guided active imagination visualization to help you: honor what’s dyinghonor your griefand connect with a future version of you who has already made it through this chapterI’m a Jungian shadow work coach, death doula, and priestess, and this episode is for anyone going through an identity transition, dark night, breakup, loss, or major life shift. If you want support in your inner winter or identity rebirth, I have limited 1:1 coaching availability right now. 🖤 Comment below: What are you releasing this season? What’s dying… and what’s trying to be born? #shadowwork #egodeath #grief #darknightofthesoul #jungianpsychology #innerchildhealing #nervoussystem #deathdoula #activeimagination #femininespirituality #darkgoddess READY TO GO DEEPER? 🖤 [📖 FREE Workbook: Erotic Shadow Workbook] [👩‍💻Book a session with me here] [🌹Be REBORN: A 12-week Erotic Shadow Journey]   [☕️ Support my work & keep me caffeinated] Connect with Me: 📱 TikTok: @jaclynproper📺 YouTube: @jaclynproperIf you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a review and sharing it with someone who might benefit.  About Jaclyn Proper: Jaclyn is a Jungian Coach & Underworld Priestess dedicated to helping you explore the depths of your psyche, embrace your true desires, and transform your life through conscious exploration and self-awareness. Join her as she breaks down barriers and opens up conversations about sexuality, creativity, and the journey towards wholeness.

    40 min

  6. 11/12/2025

    Trauma, the Golden Shadow, & “Dark" Parts (a Jungian & IFS POV)

    If you’re afraid there’s something “dark,” “evil,” or fundamentally wrong inside you… this episode will change everything. In this deep dive on childhood trauma, the Golden Shadow, and IFS protectors, I’ll show you why those scary inner voices or impulses aren’t signs that something is wrong with you—they’re actually psychological protectors guarding your brightest, most authentic self. Here’s what we’re getting into: When people with developmental or childhood trauma start doing shadow work, they’re often afraid they’re going to uncover something monstrous—some “dark part” that proves they’re broken. But here’s the truth: 99% of the time, the thing you’re afraid of is actually your Golden Shadow. Your creativity. Your intuition. Your sensitivity. Your joy. Your true personality. All the pieces that were too bright and too beautiful to feel safe in your childhood environment. READY TO GO DEEPER? 🖤 [📖 FREE Workbook: Erotic Shadow Workbook] [👩‍💻Book a session with me here] [🌹Be REBORN: A 12-week Erotic Shadow Journey]   [☕️ Support my work & keep me caffeinated] Connect with Me: 📱 TikTok: @jaclynproper📺 YouTube: @jaclynproperIf you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a review and sharing it with someone who might benefit.  About Jaclyn Proper: Jaclyn is a Jungian Coach & Underworld Priestess dedicated to helping you explore the depths of your psyche, embrace your true desires, and transform your life through conscious exploration and self-awareness. Join her as she breaks down barriers and opens up conversations about sexuality, creativity, and the journey towards wholeness.

    21 min

  7. 10/30/2025

    Collective Sexual Shadow and the Roots of the Madonna-Whore Complex

    This episode we are diving into the Collective Sexual Shadow — the unconscious web of repression, guilt, and control that shapes how we experience sexuality on a cultural level. We’re exploring how patriarchy, colonialism, and religious conditioning gave rise to the Madonna–Whore Complex, splitting the feminine into “holy” and “sinful” and leaving generations disconnected from their bodies and erotic truth. We’ll talk about how this split still plays out in our modern relationships, gender dynamics, and even our spiritual beliefs — and how we can begin to integrate what’s been exiled. I’ll also share what my travels through the American South revealed about witnessing collective suffering, embodiment, and the deeper roots of shadow work. ✨ In this episode, we explore: What the collective sexual shadow actually is How patriarchy and colonialism shaped our relationship with sex and power The deeper meaning of the Madonna–Whore Complex Healing the split between the light and dark feminine Reclaiming erotic wholeness through shadow work READY TO GO DEEPER? 🖤 [📖 FREE Workbook: Erotic Shadow Workbook] [👩‍💻Book a session with me here] [🌹Be REBORN: A 12-week Erotic Shadow Journey]   [☕️ Support my work & keep me caffeinated] Connect with Me: 📱 TikTok: @jaclynproper📺 YouTube: @jaclynproperIf you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a review and sharing it with someone who might benefit.  About Jaclyn Proper: Jaclyn is a Jungian Coach & Underworld Priestess dedicated to helping you explore the depths of your psyche, embrace your true desires, and transform your life through conscious exploration and self-awareness. Join her as she breaks down barriers and opens up conversations about sexuality, creativity, and the journey towards wholeness.

    30 min

  8. 10/07/2025

    FEAR OF BEING SEEN: Shadow Work for Intimacy, Visibility & Success

    Do you ever sabotage what you actually want — love, success, attention, pleasure — because being seen feels terrifying? This episode dives into the fear of being seen, the shadow behind self-sabotage, and how it’s wired into your nervous system, sexuality, and self-expression. You’ll learn how fear of visibility connects to: ✦ Fear of success, failure, and rejection ✦ The throat chakra and difficulty speaking your truth ✦ Performative vs authentic sexuality ✦ Nervous system dysregulation and early trauma ✦ Perfectionism, shame, and “too much / not enough” energy This conversation is for the deep feelers, the neurodivergent, the spiritually-curious, the ones who know they’re meant for more but still shrink when the spotlight hits. I share my own story — from childhood trauma to becoming a teacher of shadow integration — and practical tools to expand your capacity for visibility, intimacy, and pleasure. 🌹 Want to go deeper? If this hits you in the gut, it’s because this wound is archetypal.In REBORN, my 8-module on-demand journey into the erotic shadow, you’ll explore how fear, shame, and repression block your life-force — and learn to alchemize them into power, pleasure, and expression. ✨ Explore REBORN → https://www.jaclynproper.com/reborn 🕯 Chapters Intro: The fear of being seen My personal story with visibility trauma The ego, persona & shadow Throat chakra + expression Visibility in intimacy & sex How fear of success hides inside your nervous system Practices to expand your capacity to be seen Integration + REBORN invitation ⚡ Keywords / Hashtags  fear of being seen, shadow work, sexual shadow, erotic shadow work, Jungian psychology, nervous system healing, trauma and sexuality, chakra healing, self-expression, fear of success, inner child healing#ShadowWork #FearOfBeingSeen #SexualShadow #ThroatChakra #TraumaHealing READY TO GO DEEPER? 🖤 [📖 FREE Workbook: Erotic Shadow Workbook] [👩‍💻Book a session with me here] [🌹Be REBORN: A 12-week Erotic Shadow Journey]   [☕️ Support my work & keep me caffeinated] Connect with Me: 📱 TikTok: @jaclynproper📺 YouTube: @jaclynproperIf you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a review and sharing it with someone who might benefit.  About Jaclyn Proper: Jaclyn is a Jungian Coach & Underworld Priestess dedicated to helping you explore the depths of your psyche, embrace your true desires, and transform your life through conscious exploration and self-awareness. Join her as she breaks down barriers and opens up conversations about sexuality, creativity, and the journey towards wholeness.

    23 min
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Welcome! I’m Jaclyn Proper, a Jungian Depth Coach, Educator, Explorer, Underworld Doula, Artist & human doing my best on Earth. This channel is about what it means to be an explorer of shadow and self. We dive into shadow work, eroticism, spiritual psychology, kink, neurodivergence, sexuality, travel, and authentic living through the lens of my personal journey and Jungian psychology. If you’re an unconventional soul, queer, kinky, neurospicy, or simply shadow-curious, you’ll find lighthearted yet no-nonsense conversations here to help you embrace your edges, and uncover the truth of who you are.

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  • Creator
    Jaclyn Proper
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    51
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 Shadow Work After Dark
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    Shadow Work After Dark

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