The BythewayitsMensa Show

The ByTheWayItsMensa Show Standards for Wealth, Leadership, and Legacy. The ByTheWayItsMensa Show is a weekly conversation about building a life that's actually yours, wealth, leadership, discipline, legacy, mindset, and freedom, with relationships woven in when the moment calls for it. Hosted by KJ.Mensah, author of Standards, this show speaks first to Africans building a life across two continents and Africans building at home, and just as directly to African American listeners and anyone else navigating the same tension between where you come from and who you're becoming. Some weeks it's a solo teaching episode breaking down a real standard to live by. Other weeks it's a listener's own story, a real coaching session, or an honest answer to a question sent in. No guest required, no filler, no performance. Just real talk about building wealth that lasts, leading without losing yourself, discipline that holds when no one's watching, and the kind of legacy and love worth actually building on purpose. New episodes weekly. Standards you can actually keep.

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  1. 10/19/2025

    Sarah Fontenot | Gender Roles, Money & Leadership

    All right, welcome back to Conversations. I have a fun pack today. Literally, I think I have about 10 videos, maybe nine or maybe eight. I think it's about nine or 10. So, we have a lot to go through. If you are first time here, I will I would really appreciate it if you you can give this video a thumbs up. If you want to follow, please go ahead follow, hit a subscribe button, hit that notification button. I really appreciate you for that.Are modern women truly submissive—or only when it benefits them?In today’s episode of Conversations, we dive deep into the selective submission debate:Why do some women claim they want a “leader,” but only follow when it’s fun, comfortable, or financially beneficial?We break down viral clips on modern relationships, money dynamics, feminism vs. femininity, and whether submission has become conditional in 2025 dating culture.TIMESTAMP00: 00 Opener , You Are Supposed to Pay your own Bills 06:48 I only Submit To Men with money 16:19 Can your man ask you to change outfit22:04 Combative Women Don't listen to Men28:03 Women Aren't Submissive Anymore Debate on Pop the balloon💬 Topics Covered:The difference between leadership and control in relationshipsSelective submission vs. consistent partnershipWhy money seems to define respect for some womenThird-wave feminism and the rise of gender wars onlineCan a man who earns less still lead a relationship?👊🏽 Join the conversation, drop your thoughts in the comments, and don’t forget to subscribe for more real-talk relationship breakdowns and viral debates. #sarahfontenot #kjmensah #modernrelationships #tonightsconversation #kittarose #SubmissionDebate #genderroles #feminineenergy #masculineenergy #RelationshipTalk #Konversations #DatingPodcast #MoneyAndLove #realtalkhttps://youtu.be/-Yrfx8Iaheo

    Sarah Fontenot | Gender Roles, Money & Leadership
  2. 10/19/2025

    Older Women Are The Problem ?

    ARE MEN HAPPIER WHEN MARRIED WITH KIDS?ARE OLDER WOMEN ARE BITTER BECAUSE THEY RUN OUT OF OPTIONS ?When you know he can’t lead, don’t stay hoping to change him. In this video, KJ Mensah breaks down why dating without direction leads to chaos—and why both men and women lose focus once intimacy starts too soon. We’ll unpack the truth about purpose, leadership, marriage, and why peace—not pleasure—makes men happier.TIMESTAMP00:00 Men are Happier with Family 11:40 Older Women Are Bitter because they run out of options ____________________________________________________PLEASE SEND VIDEO IDEAS TO:TikTok: kj.mensahIG: bythewayitsmensa_____________________________________________________Buy me a drink and support the channel💸CashApp | https://cash.me/$joeykmennPayPal | https://paypal.me/MHFM3nsa_____________________________________________________Hit The LIKE & SUBSCIBE BUTTON GET TO 5000 SUBS!TURN ON YOUR NOTIFICATION 🔔NEW CONTENT DROPPING DAILY_____________________________________________________Disclaimers:Fair use is a legal doctrine that says I can reuse copyright-protected material under certain circumstances without getting permission from the copyright owner.**Copyright Disclaimer Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, allowance is made for "fair use" for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship, and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use. No copyright infringement intended. ALL RIGHTS BELONG TO THEIR RESPECTIVE OWNERS**All opinions are my own. This video is for entertainmnet & educational purposes only.I do not own the rights to any vidoes I'm reacting to. I'm only stating my opinion about the video My opinions doesn't make it factsThis Channel and my videos are for educational purposes only.Fair UseCopyright Disclaimer under section 107 of the Copyright Act of 1976, allowance is made for “fair use” for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship, education and research.Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing.Fair Use DefinitionFair use is a doctrine in United States copyright law that allows limited use of copyrighted material without requiring permission from the rights holders, such as commentary, criticism, news reporting, research, teaching or scholarship. It provides for the legal, non-licensed citation or incorporation of copyrighted material in another author’s work under a four-factor balancing test.#ModernRelationships #DatingAdvice #MarriageTalk #KJMensah #PurposeAndPeace #RelationshipPodcast #Masculinity #FeminineEnergyhttps://youtu.be/xx28UmhYtY0

    Older Women Are The Problem ?

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The ByTheWayItsMensa Show Standards for Wealth, Leadership, and Legacy. The ByTheWayItsMensa Show is a weekly conversation about building a life that's actually yours, wealth, leadership, discipline, legacy, mindset, and freedom, with relationships woven in when the moment calls for it. Hosted by KJ.Mensah, author of Standards, this show speaks first to Africans building a life across two continents and Africans building at home, and just as directly to African American listeners and anyone else navigating the same tension between where you come from and who you're becoming. Some weeks it's a solo teaching episode breaking down a real standard to live by. Other weeks it's a listener's own story, a real coaching session, or an honest answer to a question sent in. No guest required, no filler, no performance. Just real talk about building wealth that lasts, leading without losing yourself, discipline that holds when no one's watching, and the kind of legacy and love worth actually building on purpose. New episodes weekly. Standards you can actually keep.

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