Simply Enough Dr. Elizabeth Ignacio, MD, and Mr. Zachary Linnert

Does ending or quitting equate with failure? And if so, what's the big deal about failure? With life as a journey, circumstances change and priorities shift, "and that's ok"! Just like it's said that it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, it's better to have tried and "failed" because learning and growth is a part of it and makes us better. Failure is actually a component of how progress is made. So when making choices and decisions, honor your heart as much as your head, especially when you feel the least angst and the most peace, including choosing when it's time for a commitment or relationship to end.

Why is it easier sometimes to point fingers rather than look at ourselves? It's said that blame is easier to digest than guilt. But self-awareness and self-accountability isn't always about accepting blame, shame or guilt. It's very empowering when we look inward before looking outward, to confront and acknowledge where we are, and what we bring to the table. We train people how to treat us, because we get what we accept. When we're at the mercy of others, we give our power away. When we embrace accountability and agency, asking "what is my role and what part do I play", we put power back in our hands. When we mindfully own our choices and decisions, we can grow out of avoidance-mode or triggered-mode, and instead move forward wholeheartedly in activated mode!

When in conversations or in meetings, do you ever start with "I could be wrong, but" or "Sorry but can I" or "Just wanted to"? We certainly have! Why do we feel the need to lead with apologizing, disclaiming, or discrediting ourselves? Is taking the one-down position to make others feel one-up at our own expense? Diminishing ourselves in front of others isn't self-protection; it's self-sabotage. We can be mindful of our Enoughness and make sure our words reflect that. How we explain ourselves externally is messaging for how we weel internally. Serve the world and serve yourself by not making yourself small. Because you are more than "just" enough, exactly as you are. Period.

Have you ever felt lonely while alone, or in a crowd. or even in a relationship? Can you lift yourself out of those feelings? Consider that the Universe has your back. Faith in something Greater can uplift you and even carry you. Plainly name and call out the feelings of being lonely, without shame, because they're universal feelings. Then welcome and receive invitations and moments when others reach out, and recognize when "little birdies" show up for us. We also have the ability to do that for others as divine extensions and instruments. Let's be open to the idea that we're all connected, because things can happen to us, and also through us and from us, so we really are never alone.

Have you ever wondered "Am I the a-hole" in this situation? Or watered-down a message, or even muted yourself, fearing being perceived as an a-hole? Accountability and self-reflection are important, but standing firm in one's convictions is equally important, depending on the scenario, and depending on the audience. Communication, connection. or mere civil discourse doesn't necessarily mean mutual agreement, and that's ok.  A person can give you their interpretation of you, and it's in your power to take it or not. A clear message delivered with composure and empathy is what you control, while another person's reception of it isn't under your control. You can be like teflon, and deflect weaponized labels and insults hurled your way, with a strong centered Self, because you are enough, just as you are.

What do you mean when you say "it's just my luck..."? Do you believe the Universe has got your back, and conspires to help you? Not everything in life is earned, deserved, or based on merit. There are things in your life that you have nothing to do with, and are out of your control. Can you recall unexplained circumstances in life where the open windows were even better than the closed doors you were banging on? In taking a Blessings Inventory, recognition of unmerited favor can take you beyond gratitude into a sense of awe. When we can become aware that not everything comes from effort, and surrender to something completely external and Greater than our human do-ing, when there is no explanation or algorithm-- that is when we can abundantly receive Grace bestowed on us, and the double blessing of the acute awareness of those gifts in our lives.