SIP with Summers

Jennifer Marie Summers
  • 5.0 (12)
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Welcome to SIP with Summers — the podcast where we uncork conversations about sex, intimacy, and pleasure! Hosted by Jennifer Marie Summers, Board Certified Sexologist, Certified Sex Coach, and Menopause Coaching, this show is dedicated to empowering women and couples to embrace their bodies, enhance their sexual wellness, and explore their spiritual sides—through every season of life. Each episode dives into topics like body positivity, sexual health education, navigating menopause, overcoming intimacy challenges, and discovering the joy of self-love.

  1. 3d ago

    023: Your Body Knows What It Wants: Reconnecting with Desire, Pleasure & Intimacy with Dr. Laura Jurgens

    What if your libido isn't broken? In this powerful conversation, Jennifer sits down with desire gap specialist and somatic sex coach Dr. Laura Jurgens to explore why so many people feel disconnected from desire, pleasure, and intimacy, especially in midlife. Together, they unpack the difference between low libido and disconnection, why so many women have learned to live in their heads instead of their bodies, and how stress, burnout, people-pleasing, and cultural conditioning can impact our relationship with sex. Laura shares her expertise on responsive desire, mismatched libido, nervous system regulation, embodiment, and the concept of "disembodied consent" while offering practical ways to reconnect with your body's wisdom and reclaim authentic intimacy. If you've ever wondered whether your desire is gone forever, struggled with mismatched libido in your relationship, or felt disconnected from your pleasure, this episode is for you. In This Episode We Discuss: Why low libido is often misunderstoodThe difference between spontaneous and responsive desireHow stress, burnout, and midlife changes affect intimacyWhy getting out of your head is essential for pleasureReconnecting with your body through somatic awarenessThe impact of ADHD and neurodivergence on desireWhy mismatched libido feels so personalThe biggest mistakes couples make when navigating desire differencesWhat "disembodied consent" means and why it mattersHow obligation sex damages intimacyPractical ways to rebuild connection and desireWhy long-term relationships don't have to kill passionHow honesty and embodiment can transform your sex life Connect with Dr. Laura Jurgens🌐 Website: Laura Jurgens Website 🎙️ Podcast: Pleasure Uprising Podcast 📝 Substack: Pleasure Uprising Substack Free Resource for ListenersLaura created a free guide exclusively for listeners: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy Inside you'll learn: Why overthinking during intimacy is a nervous system response, not a personal failureHow to release shame and "should" thinkingBody-based practices you can use immediatelyHow to better understand your own desire patternsDownload it here: 👉 Get Out of Your Head Free Guide Connect with Jennifer Summers🌐 Summers of Love 📱 Follow Jennifer on social: @theselfmadediva 🎙️ Subscribe to SIP with Summers for honest conversations about sex, intimacy, relationships, menopause, pleasure, and living fully in midlife. Because pleasure is your birthright... and awkward is our love language. 💋

    49 min

  2. Jun 18

    022: Pleasure Is Your Birthright: Reclaiming Desire, Safety & Feminine Power with Kayla Moore

    What if low desire isn't the problem? What if feeling disconnected from your body, your pleasure, and your sexuality is actually a response to years of conditioning, stress, overwhelm, and disconnection? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Feminine Liberation Coach and Priestess-in-Training Kayla Moore to explore the connection between pleasure, safety, desire, feminine power, and the patriarchal messages many women have internalized throughout their lives. Together, we unpack what it really means to reconnect with your body, reclaim your pleasure, and create a life that feels aligned with who you truly are. We discuss: ✨ Why pleasure is so much bigger than sex✨ The connection between safety and desire✨ How shame and body disconnection impact intimacy✨ The mental load women carry and how it affects pleasure✨ The Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine explained in a practical way✨ Why so many women struggle to ask for what they want✨ The role of community in healing and empowerment✨ Simple ways to reconnect with your body starting today✨ Why joy, creativity, and pleasure belong in everyday life Whether you're navigating low desire, relationship challenges, midlife transitions, or simply looking to feel more connected to yourself, this conversation offers insight, compassion, and plenty of permission to take up space. Connect with Jennifer🌐 Website: www.summersoflove.com 📱 Instagram, Facebook, Threads & more: @theselfmadediva Connect with Kayla Moore🎙 Liberation Wisdom PodcastLiberation Wisdom Podcast 💌 Join Kayla's NewsletterNewsletter Sign Up 🔥 Holy Rage CircleHoly Rage Circle

    58 min

  3. Jun 4

    021: Sex, Good Sex, and Sacred Sex: Why Your Best Intimacy May Still Be Ahead of You

    Is all sex created equal? In this thought-provoking conversation, Jennifer sits down with psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Bruce Chalmer to explore the difference between sex, good sex, and sacred sex, and why intimacy may be the missing ingredient many couples are searching for. Drawing from more than 30 years of experience working with couples, Dr. Chalmer explains why great sex isn't about performance, technique, or getting everything "right." Instead, it starts with presence, honesty, vulnerability, and the willingness to tolerate a little discomfort. Together, Jennifer and Dr. Chalmer discuss how intimacy creates deeper connection, why communication is more than just learning the right words, and how couples can navigate desire differences with grace rather than resentment. They also explore the concept of sacred sex, those rare moments when sexual connection becomes something larger than ourselves and connects us to meaning, spirituality, and awe. Whether you're in a long-term relationship, navigating midlife changes, or simply curious about creating more connection in your intimate life, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on what truly makes sex fulfilling. In This Episode: ✨ The difference between sex, good sex, and sacred sex ✨ Why intimacy requires vulnerability and the ability to tolerate anxiety ✨ How couples unintentionally lose connection ✨ The role communication plays in creating better sex ✨ Responsive desire and why "not in the mood" doesn't always mean no ✨ Why lubrication, toys, and sexual tools are nothing to be ashamed of ✨ Common misunderstandings men and women have about sex ✨ Why many people experience their best sex later in life ✨ How maturity can lead to deeper intimacy and connection ✨ The powerful relationship philosophy: "Be kind, don't panic, and have faith" About Dr. Bruce ChalmerDr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist who has spent more than three decades helping couples build stronger, more connected relationships. He is the author of several books, including Reigniting the Spark, It's Not About Communication!, The Passion Paradox, and Betrayal and Forgiveness. He is also co-host of the Couples Therapy in Seven Words podcast with his wife, Judy Alexander. Connect with Dr. Bruce Chalmer🌐 Website: Bruce Chalmer Official Website 🎙️ Podcast: Couples Therapy in Seven Words Connect with Jennifer🌐 Summers of Love 📱 Follow Jennifer for conversations about sex, intimacy, pleasure, menopause, and living fully in every stage of life.

    48 min

  4. May 28

    020: How the “Good Girl” Archetype Is Secretly Killing Your Relationship

    What if the very behaviors that made you feel lovable are the same ones disconnecting you from intimacy, desire, and authentic connection? In this powerful episode of SIP with Summers, Jennifer sits down with relationship and feminine embodiment coach Bella Krutik to unpack how “good girl conditioning” quietly shapes women’s relationships, boundaries, sexuality, and sense of self. Bella shares her deeply personal story of reconciling with her ex-husband years after divorce, and how embodiment work, nervous system regulation, and radical self-awareness transformed not only her relationship… but her relationship with herself. Together, Jennifer and Bella explore: People pleasing and lack of boundariesWhy over-functioning kills attractionThe connection between authenticity and libidoNervous system regulation and intimacyEmotional safety vs. emotional avoidanceThe “roommate phase” in long-term relationshipsFeminine embodiment and reconnecting to your bodyHow “good girls” become emotionally unavailableWhy pleasure requires vulnerabilityPlus, Bella guides listeners through a beautiful grounding and presence exercise you can try yourself. This episode is for every woman who has ever felt disconnected, resentful, emotionally shut down, or stuck performing a version of herself that no longer fits. Connect with Bella:Instagram: @bellakcoaching Head to Bella's Instagram page and either book a discovery call or download her freebies (these include a Relationship Reconnection guide and Pleasure Playlist to help you move into pleasure before a date night). Connect with Jennifer: 🌐 Summers of Love🎙️ All of her social links and upcoming events

    46 min

  5. Feb 11

    019: Pleasure at Every Size: Reclaiming Desire, Confidence, and Connection in the Body You Have Now

    Pleasure is not a reward. It is a right. ⁠Book a session⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Join The Self Love Club⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Ask me anything⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Shop enhancement products⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Shop TOYS! ⁠ In this episode of SIP With Summers, we are talking about pleasure at every size and why your body, exactly as it is today, is already capable of deep, satisfying, toe-curling pleasure. If you have ever thought: • “I need to lose weight first.” • “My body gets in the way.” • “I should hide myself during sex.” • “Sex isn’t as good in a bigger body.” This episode is for you. We are dismantling shame, debunking myths, and replacing them with real tools, real education, and real permission to feel sexy, powerful, and desirable right now. • Why pleasure is not conditional on body size or appearance • How shame shuts down arousal and how to gently release it • Body neutrality and why you do not have to love your body to enjoy pleasure • Simple embodiment practices that reconnect you to sensation • Pleasure anatomy basics, including why the clitoris is way bigger than you were taught • How plus-size bodies are not a barrier to pleasure, they are a pathway • Lube, toys, props, and positioning that support comfort and access • The best positions and pleasure hacks for plus-size and midlife bodies • How to ask for comfort and support in bed without killing the vibe • Three things you can try tonight to increase pleasure immediately This is a shame-free, judgment-free conversation designed to help you feel more at home in your body and more confident asking for what feels good. I work with women and couples through intimacy coaching, body confidence, low desire, perimenopause and menopause transitions, and communication around pleasure. Coaching is available virtually and in person. I also host Sex-Ed Meets Stand-Up toy parties that are educational, fun, spicy, and inclusive of every body. If this episode resonated, please subscribe, leave a five-star review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Your body is not a problem to solve. Your body is a pleasure source waiting to be explored.

    34 min

  6. Jan 29

    018: Ask the Sexologist: Painful Sex, Desire Mismatch, G-Spot Myths & More

    Real, anonymous questions about sex, intimacy, pleasure, and everything we were never properly taught. Book a session⁠ | ⁠Join The Self Love Club⁠ | ⁠Ask me anything⁠ | ⁠Shop enhancement products⁠ | ⁠Shop TOYS! From painful sex without lube to why the G-spot can feel elusive, this episode is packed with practical, sex-positive education you can actually use. No shame, no fluff, just honest answers and tools that help you feel more confident in your body and your relationships. In this episode, we cover: • Why sex can suddenly feel painful without lube, even if it never used to • How arousal, aging, and perimenopause affect natural lubrication • Why lubrication increases pleasure, comfort, and sexual health • Recommended books for healing intimacy and deepening desire • What the G-spot really is and why it can be hard to stimulate consistently • How breath, mindset, and warming up the body support stronger orgasms • Why rushing foreplay makes orgasms harder, not easier • How to get out of your head and back into your body during sex • What to do when partners have mismatched libidos • Why intimacy does not always have to mean penetration • How toys can support connection, not replace it • Best positions and pleasure tips when trying to conceive • Body confidence, lights-off sex, and easing sexual insecurity • Simple, approachable ways to initiate intimacy and try new things Jennifer also shares practical tools like breathing techniques, foreplay timing ideas, pleasure-first mindset shifts, and ways couples can communicate more openly about their needs without pressure or guilt. If you have ever wondered “Is this normal?” this episode is for you. ✨ Have a question you want answered on the show? Submit anonymously at www.selfmadediva.com If you enjoyed this episode, leave a review, share it with a friend, or send it to that group chat that definitely needs it. Stay curious. Stay turned on. And as always, keep sipping. 🍷

    24 min

  7. Jan 14

    017: Ask the Sexologist: Libido, Menopause, Orgasms, and Real Talk

    Low libido. Stress. Menopause questions. Orgasms that feel impossible. If any of that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. Book a session | Join The Self Love Club | Elevated lubricant for 40+ women | Vulva balm | Ask me anything | Best intimate shaving cream | The Herpes Plug | Shop enhancement products | Shop TOYS! In this solo Q&A episode of SIP With Summers, board-certified sexologist and menopause coach Jennifer Marie Summers answers your anonymous questions about desire, stress, orgasms, menopause, vaginal dryness, pain during sex, sleep issues, body hair, herpes disclosure, and so much more. We talk about why anxiety kills desire, why foreplay matters more than you were ever taught, what’s actually happening in your body during perimenopause, and why not orgasming from penetration is completely normal. You’ll learn: • How to get in the mood without pills or supplements • Why stress directly affects libido and arousal • What helps with vaginal dryness and painful sex during menopause • When fertility actually ends and what perimenopause really looks like • Why so many women struggle to orgasm and what actually helps • How to talk to partners about pleasure, STIs, and shame-free sex This is sex education without judgment, medical shame, or whispering. You’re not broken. You might just need better information and support. 💬 Have a question you’re afraid to ask out loud? Submit it anonymously at selfmadediva.com and it may be featured in a future episode.

    31 min

  8. 10/29/2025

    016: You Are Not Broken: Midlife Orgasms, Desire, and Menopause Care with Dr. Christine Hart Kress

    Host: Jennifer Marie Summers, Board Certified Sexologist, Certified Sex Coach, menopause coach in training Guest: Dr. Christine Hart Cress, DNP, APRN, WHNP-BC, MSCP. CEO of a telemedicine practice for midlife and menopause care, Menopause Society Certified Practitioner, Air Force veteran, co-host of The Dusty Muffin. If your brain says “let’s get it on” but your body says “let me sleep,” this one’s for you. We talk responsive vs spontaneous desire, why faking orgasms backfires, how clitoral stimulation actually works, and what evidence-based options can help with arousal and orgasm in midlife. We dig into testosterone, Addyi, Vyleesi, vaginal estrogen, DHEA, lube and moisturizers, and the not-so-sexy basics that change everything like sleep and stress. The theme of the day is empowerment. You are not broken. What we cover Why most medical training skipped sexual health and how that is changing The full clitoral anatomy and why penetration alone rarely does it Responsive vs spontaneous desire and how to work with both Tools that can help: vibrators, clitoral stimulators, and why solo practice matters Hormone therapy myths vs facts, plus when to consider transdermal options Testosterone for women, timelines, common dosing formats, and realistic expectations Addyi and Vyleesi basics, where they fit, and cost access tips discussed in the show Vaginal estrogen and DHEA for comfort, arousal, and orgasm support Why sleep, mood, strength training, and protein quietly drive libido The mindset shift that unlocks desire in midlife Resources mentioned Vibrators and clitoral stimulators for blood flow and arousal Testosterone gel or compounded cream under clinician guidance Addyi and Vyleesi as options for certain women Vaginal estrogen and vaginal DHEA for GSM comfort and orgasm support Daily vulvar moisturizers and quality lubricants for pain-free play Talk to a qualified clinician to determine what is right for you. Find Dr. Christine Cress Telemedicine practice for midlife and menopause care Co-host of The Dusty Muffin podcast Boards: Bite Me Cancer Foundation, Empower Scholarship FundWebsite | Instagram | YouTube Work with Jennifer Sex and intimacy coaching for women and couples Perimenopause and menopause coaching in training Parties, workshops, and my podcast SIP With Summers Shop Intimacy Products | Connect on Socials Enchanted Rose Vulva Balm Lubricants for sex, pleasure, and comfort Disclaimer Educational content only. Not medical advice. Consult your own clinician. midlife libido, perimenopause sex, menopause desire, clitoral anatomy, orgasm difficulty, testosterone for women, Addyi, Vyleesi, vaginal estrogen, DHEA, vibrator benefits, responsive desire

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Welcome to SIP with Summers — the podcast where we uncork conversations about sex, intimacy, and pleasure! Hosted by Jennifer Marie Summers, Board Certified Sexologist, Certified Sex Coach, and Menopause Coaching, this show is dedicated to empowering women and couples to embrace their bodies, enhance their sexual wellness, and explore their spiritual sides—through every season of life. Each episode dives into topics like body positivity, sexual health education, navigating menopause, overcoming intimacy challenges, and discovering the joy of self-love.

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  • Creator
    Jennifer Marie Summers
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    23
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Jennifer Marie Summers
  • Show Website
    SIP with Summers