Sit Around the Fire

Ashlea Dillard
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🔥 Sit Around the Fire 🔥 For First Responders, Military Members, and Families Seeking Healing, Growth, and Connection Welcome to Sit Around the Fire — the space where stories ignite transformation. Hosted by a retired first responder turned licensed professional counselor and hypnotherapist, this podcast blends real-life experiences, powerful teachings, and practical tools for mental and physical health. Each episode invites you to slow down, reflect, and find your spark again. Together, we explore mindfulness, stress management, trauma recovery, and PTSD healing — all through the lens of someone who’s lived it. You’ll hear raw conversations with first responders, veterans, and mental health experts as well as other incredible human beings with amazing stories and missions who share their wisdom on how to move from burnout to balance, from survival mode to thriving. If you’re ready to break free from old patterns and beliefs, reclaim your peace, and live your most abundant, limitless life, this is your community. ✨ What you’ll learn: How to manage stress and trauma while building emotional resilience.Practical mindfulness and mental well-being techniques that fit your lifestyle.Real stories of healing from first responders and military families.Tools to strengthen both mental and physical health for lasting change.💬 Call to Action:Don’t suffer in silence. Join our community — subscribe, follow, and connect.👉 Subscribe to Sit Around the Fire wherever you listen to podcasts.👉 Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok for daily inspiration.👉 Visit our site to join the email list and start doing the inner work today. It’s time to heal. It’s time to rise. It’s time to sit around the fire. 🔥 🔥Get Connected with Us!  www.sitaroundthefire.org 🫶🏼 Let's Be Friends  Facebook Instagram Ticktock

  1. #037: Brian Sachetta: Chronic Stress vs Acute Stress: Which One's Killing You?

    4D AGO

    #037: Brian Sachetta: Chronic Stress vs Acute Stress: Which One's Killing You?

    In this episode of Sit Around the Fire, Ashlea Dillard sits down with Brian Sachetta to discuss mental health, focusing on anxiety and depression. Brian shares his personal journey with anxiety, the importance of understanding the root causes, and the body's physiological responses to stress. They explore the significance of safety and security in mental well-being, the power of surrendering in the healing process, and the value of community in overcoming mental health challenges. The conversation emphasizes actionable strategies for coping with anxiety and the importance of sharing personal stories to reduce stigma. Keywords mental health, anxiety, depression, safety, security, coping strategies, emotional regulation, personal growth, Brian Sachetta, mental wellness Takeaways Actionable tactics for mental health are essential.Understanding the root cause of anxiety is crucial.The body’s response to threats is often misunderstood.Chronic stressors differ from acute stressors.Safety and security are fundamental to mental well-being.Surrendering can lead to healing and growth.Resistance to anxiety can perpetuate suffering.Community and shared experiences reduce stigma.Personal stories can inspire and help others.Finding silver linings in suffering is transformative. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Mental Health Conversations 02:48 Brian Sachetta's Journey with Anxiety 06:33 Exploring Anxiety: Personal Experiences and Breakthroughs 16:41 Understanding the Physiological Response to Anxiety 23:07 Tools for Managing Anxiety and Stress 28:56 The Power of Thoughts and Anxiety 30:04 Understanding Safety and Security in Mental Health 34:30 Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs and Anxiety 41:45 Surrendering to Anxiety and Finding Peace 49:37 The Role of Control in Anxiety and Addiction Check out Brian's book: Get Out of Your Head 🔗https://getoutofyourhead.com/about/ 🔥 We appreciate you! Like, share, and subscribe! Your supports helps us move our mission forward.

    58 min

  2. FEB 6

    #036 Parts Work: Aspects of Our Mind That Get Into Conflict

    In this episode, Ashlea Dillard delves into the concept of parts work, a therapeutic approach that explores the various aspects of our minds, akin to the characters in the movie 'Inside Out.' She explains how different parts of ourselves, such as the inner critic, inner child, and inner adult, can often be in conflict, leading to emotional turmoil and hindering personal growth. By understanding these parts, listeners can learn to navigate their internal dialogues and foster a more harmonious relationship with themselves. Dillard emphasizes that all parts are inherently good and serve a purpose, even if they manifest as anxiety, fear, or self-criticism. She encourages listeners to engage in dialogue with these parts, offering them new roles that align with their current needs. The episode concludes with practical advice on how to integrate these parts through methods like hypnosis and self-reflection, ultimately empowering individuals to achieve a more balanced and fulfilling life. Keywords parts work, inner critic, inner child, mental health, self-awareness, emotional healing, therapy, personal growth, self-discovery, conflict resolution Takeaways -Understanding parts work can lead to personal empowerment. -All parts of ourselves are inherently good and serve a purpose. -Conflict between parts can hinder personal growth and emotional well-being. -Engaging in dialogue with our parts can foster healing and integration. -Using methods like hypnosis can help in addressing and transforming our parts. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Parts Work 01:07 Understanding Internal Conflicts 02:58 Defining Parts and Their Roles 06:16 Emotions as Parts 08:10 The Three Primary Ego States 12:17 The Inner Critic and Its Impact 15:07 The Role of Protectors 18:18 Healing the Inner Child 20:10 Integrating the Inner Adult 22:05 Exploring Shadow Work 24:27 Final Thoughts on Parts Work

    28 min
  3. #035 Chris Tiller: The Fire Service Is Changing: Generations, Call Volume, and the Cost

    JAN 27

    #035 Chris Tiller: The Fire Service Is Changing: Generations, Call Volume, and the Cost

    The conversation with Chris Tiller delves into the generational gap in the fire service and the impact of technology on communication and community within the service. It explores recruitment challenges, leadership's role in mental health support, and the evolving identity and community dynamics in the fire service. The conversation delves into the impact of call volume and the types of calls on firefighters, highlighting the strain on the system and the toll it takes on the individuals. It also explores the changing nature of emergency calls and the challenges faced by firefighters in responding to non-emergency situations. Takeaways Generational gap in the fire serviceImpact of technology on communication and community in the fire service Call volume impactTypes of calls and their toll on firefighters

    1h 46m

  4. JAN 21

    #034: The Power of Emotions: Understanding and Managing Your Feelings

    The conversation delves into the exploration of emotions and their impact on behavior and well-being. It discusses the two methods of dealing with emotions, the importance of stepping out of emotions and processing them, practical steps for dealing with emotions, and the concept of letting emotions burn off. Takeaways Understanding the cascade of thoughts, emotions, and behaviorsThe importance of being with and processing emotions Chapters 00:00 Exploring Emotions and Their Impact11:04 Stepping Out of Emotions and Processing Them17:45 Practical Steps for Dealing with Emotions24:14 Letting Emotions Burn Off Keywords Emotions, Anxiety, Anger, Depression, Emotional Regulation, Breathe, Sadness, Happiness, Joy, Psychology, Mental Health

    29 min
  5. #033 Breaking Free: Your Thoughts Become Your Reality

    JAN 11

    #033 Breaking Free: Your Thoughts Become Your Reality

    In this episode, Ashlea Dillard explores the profound impact of our thoughts on our physical and emotional well-being. She emphasizes the importance of awareness in recognizing negative self-talk and its effects on the subconscious mind. Dillard discusses the consequences of chronic stress and the necessity of breaking free from old patterns that no longer serve us. She encourages listeners to embrace change, let go of limiting beliefs, and actively choose thoughts that empower them to create a new reality. Takeaways Our thoughts send direct signals to our body.The subconscious mind operates 24/7, absorbing all messages.Negative self-talk can lead to chronic stress and inflammation.Awareness is key to interrupting negative thought patterns.Letting go of old identities is essential for growth.We have the power to choose our thoughts and beliefs.Change can happen instantly; it's about choosing differently.Our internal dialogue shapes our reality and experiences.It's important to question the truth of our thoughts.Embracing change leads to freedom and vitality. Chapters 00:00The Power of Language and Thoughts 10:44Breaking Old Patterns and Choosing Again 20:26Shedding Old Identities for New Beginnings

    26 min
  6. #032 Robert Tornabene: Breaking the Silence: Mental Health in Law Enforcement

    12/30/2025

    #032 Robert Tornabene: Breaking the Silence: Mental Health in Law Enforcement

    In this conversation, Ashlea Dillard interviews Robert Tornabene, a retired police officer from Chicago, who shares his insights on mental health, leadership, and the challenges faced by law enforcement officers. Robert emphasizes the importance of self-care, the stigma surrounding mental health in policing, and the need for open communication in relationships. He also discusses the unique challenges faced by Chicago police, including high suicide rates and the impact of political climate on morale. Throughout the conversation, Robert offers valuable advice for new officers and highlights the significance of finding balance and pursuing hobbies outside of work. Takeaways Always try to improve yourself the next day.Journaling can help explore emotions and track personal growth. Cops often build a veneer that makes communication difficult. Mental health is a significant issue in law enforcement.The political climate can heavily impact police morale. Leadership should prioritize the well-being of officers. Stigma around mental health prevents officers from seeking help. Hypervigilance can lead to serious health issues.Maintaining relationships outside of work is crucial. Finding hobbies can help officers decompress and find balance. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Key Messages 02:55 Robert's Background and Career Journey 05:51 Challenges in Law Enforcement and Mental Health 09:42 Leadership and Morale in Police Departments 14:52 The Impact of Trauma and Hypervigilance 21:35 Health and Well-being of First Responders 26:20 Establishing Healthy Routines 28:42 The Dynamics of First Responder Relationships 33:03 Navigating Life After Retirement 35:55 Marriage and Communication in High-Demand Careers 40:18 Advice for New Officers 44:58 Prioritizing Mental Health and Well-Being

    54 min

  7. 12/26/2025

    #031 Grief & Loss from My Heart

    In this heartfelt conversation, Ashlea Dillard shares her personal journey through grief and loss, emphasizing the importance of accepting and living through these emotions rather than resisting them. She discusses the illusion of returning to a 'normal' state after loss, the unconditional nature of peace, and the significance of finding purpose amidst pain. Ashlea encourages listeners to embrace their authentic emotional experiences and highlights the support available during difficult times. Takeaways Grief and loss are universal experiences that everyone faces.The desire to return to 'normal' after loss is a common misconception.Peace can be found even in the midst of chaos and grief.Surrendering to the present moment is crucial in navigating grief.Authentic emotional experiences are essential for healing.Resisting emotions can lead to greater pain and suffering.Finding purpose can help guide you through difficult times.Support systems are vital during seasons of grief.Every season of grief is temporary and can lead to growth.You are never alone in your journey of grief. Chapters 00:00Navigating Grief and Loss 02:54The Illusion of Returning to Normal 05:50Finding Peace in Uncertainty 09:11Living Authentically Through Grief 12:02Embracing Growth in Difficult Seasons 14:49The Journey of Healing and Support

    19 min
  8. #030 Mr. Whiskey: From Navy Vet to Podcast Pioneer

    12/16/2025

    #030 Mr. Whiskey: From Navy Vet to Podcast Pioneer

    This conversation delves into the challenges faced by first responders and military personnel, particularly focusing on mental health issues, identity crises, and the importance of community and support. The discussion highlights the impact of societal pressures, the need for mentorship, and the critical role of human connection in suicide prevention. The speaker shares personal experiences and insights on navigating these complex issues, emphasizing hope and the potential for change. Takeaways First responders often face mental health challenges due to their work environment. Identity can become intertwined with occupation, making transitions difficult. The military experience can lead to a lack of transferable skills for civilian life. Mentorship is crucial for personal and professional development in the military. Human connection is vital in suicide prevention efforts. Suicide is often a result of societal pressures and conformity. There are online communities that provide support for veterans and first responders. Hope and change are possible as long as one is alive. Education and self-research are important for personal development. The military needs to focus on the humanity of its members. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to First Responders' Challenges 02:50 The Impact of Identity on First Responders 06:07 Mental Health and the Military Experience 08:59 The Struggles of Transitioning to Civilian Life 11:48 The Importance of Mentorship in the Military 15:09 The Role of Humanity in Suicide Prevention 18:02 Addressing the Suicide Epidemic 20:53 The Power of Hope and Change 23:41 Finding Community and Support 27:05 Conclusion and Resources

    47 min
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🔥 Sit Around the Fire 🔥 For First Responders, Military Members, and Families Seeking Healing, Growth, and Connection Welcome to Sit Around the Fire — the space where stories ignite transformation. Hosted by a retired first responder turned licensed professional counselor and hypnotherapist, this podcast blends real-life experiences, powerful teachings, and practical tools for mental and physical health. Each episode invites you to slow down, reflect, and find your spark again. Together, we explore mindfulness, stress management, trauma recovery, and PTSD healing — all through the lens of someone who’s lived it. You’ll hear raw conversations with first responders, veterans, and mental health experts as well as other incredible human beings with amazing stories and missions who share their wisdom on how to move from burnout to balance, from survival mode to thriving. If you’re ready to break free from old patterns and beliefs, reclaim your peace, and live your most abundant, limitless life, this is your community. ✨ What you’ll learn: How to manage stress and trauma while building emotional resilience.Practical mindfulness and mental well-being techniques that fit your lifestyle.Real stories of healing from first responders and military families.Tools to strengthen both mental and physical health for lasting change.💬 Call to Action:Don’t suffer in silence. Join our community — subscribe, follow, and connect.👉 Subscribe to Sit Around the Fire wherever you listen to podcasts.👉 Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok for daily inspiration.👉 Visit our site to join the email list and start doing the inner work today. It’s time to heal. It’s time to rise. It’s time to sit around the fire. 🔥 🔥Get Connected with Us!  www.sitaroundthefire.org 🫶🏼 Let's Be Friends  Facebook Instagram Ticktock

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  • Creator
    Ashlea Dillard
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    39
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2025 Ashlea Dillard
  • Show Website
    Sit Around the Fire