Slaying Sober

James Date

Where we tell stories of addiction, recovery and hope.

  1. 4D AGO

    Ep. 30 - Kate Rowe – Drug Smuggler, Author, Queer History Maker - How the Fck would I know?

    From £10 Pom to heroin haze in 1970s Bali — speed psychosis, queer activism, jail time, and 48 years sober. Kate Rowe’s raw memoir How the Fck Would I Know? proves recovery miracles happen — but only with brutal honesty and hard work. 🎧 Listen if you want hope that “geographical cures” fail, fragments can reform, and life past 75 sober can feel like the fourth dimension. Raw recovery talk for addicts, LGBTQ+ history buffs, and anyone chasing that humility glow-up. Guest Bio – Kate Rowe🏳️‍🌈 78er: Arrested at Sydney’s first Mardi Gras (1978); bashed and jailed for shouting “Up the lezzos!” — paving the way for today’s Pride.📚 Author: How the Fck Would I Know? (2025) — a no-BS memoir of addiction, near-death from hepatitis, smuggling fails, suicide bids, and a full sobriety rebuild.🏊 Ironwoman: Competed in brutal ocean swims post-recovery.🎶 Ukulele player: Her sober-life hack — “you can have fun!”🌐 Connect: katerowe.net | Buy book on Booktopia Timestamped Highlights (Recovery Gold)00:40 – Book meaning: “What the f*ck would I know?” = Stay teachable at 75. No ego, just growth.01:52 – £10 Pom escape: Fled UK booze/pills/anorexia; landed in Australia’s 70s drug scene.06:39 – Bali 1970s drug fest: Heroin smoke (no needles = “not addict” delusion). Smuggling, hepatitis, chaos.12:37 – UK welfare job turned coke-dealing den; bosses, guns, paranoia.17:13 – Speed psychosis, suicide attempts, Mogadon OD — AA at Rozelle saves her.21:55 – Therapist: “You’re fragmented.” The long road to wholeness — now 48 years sober.26:45 – Lesbian awakening, Mardi Gras fightback, queer denial around addiction.36:43 – Sober at 75: “Miracles take years and brutal work.” Talks to the sky for guidance. 4 Brutal Takeaways You take you everywhere: “Geographical cures” are myths. Addict logic: “Doc said no booze, not no drugs.” Madness. Fragment fix: Honesty + work rebuilds you (took 20 years). Sober joy: Ukulele, Ironwoman events, Pride hugs from Gen Z.

    43 min
  2. Ep. 28 - John - A Professional Drug Addict for 33 years. And 4 Golden Rules for Recovery

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    Ep. 28 - John - A Professional Drug Addict for 33 years. And 4 Golden Rules for Recovery

    Ep. 28 - John - A Professional Drug Addict for 33 years. And 4 Golden Rules for Recovery John – A Professional Drug Addict for 33 YearsA 33-Year Addiction, Rock Bottom & Real Recovery What does rock bottom really look like after three decades of addiction? In this unfiltered episode of Slaying Sober, host James Date sits down with John, a recovering addict who tells it exactly as it was — no masks, no excuses. From gang life and violence to jail time, suicide attempts, and the insanity of addiction, nothing is off limits. John reminds us that addiction isn’t a moral weakness — it’s an emotional response — and that real recovery demands relentless honesty and total commitment. This isn’t a “feel-good” recovery story. It’s a real one. A 33-year addiction told with brutal honesty — no filters, no fluff Real talk on the 12 steps, sponsors, and true fellowship Addiction unpacked beyond drugs — it’s about behavior, thought, and identity A grounded take on spirituality without labels or dogma Recovery described like a football game — every quarter, every play counts “Addiction is an emotional response — not a moral failure.” “If I’m serious, I have to give it everything I’ve got.” “Rock bottom for an addict is death.” Recovery begins with honesty, awareness, and connection Gratitude for hard times is spiritual mastery You don’t have to call it God — just learn to understand yourself 00:00 – John’s story begins00:57 – Childhood, bullying & belonging04:44 – Addiction takes over08:27 – Jail, chaos & consequences13:51 – What rock bottom really is18:52 – Relapse, pain & truth29:59 – Hardcore recovery explained35:15 – Spirituality without labels44:18 – Words, perception & reality55:45 – Growth, service & rebuilding life Anyone struggling with addiction or relapse People curious about 12-step recovery and community Listeners interested in mental health, spirituality & self-awareness Anyone who needs hope — without the hype #SlayingSober #AddictionRecovery #RecoveryJourney #12StepProgram #Sobriety #MentalHealthAwareness #RockBottom #LifeAfterAddiction #HealingJourney #PersonalTransformation

    59 min
  3. Suzie Browne — From Chaos to Clarity. Sober at 63.

    JAN 19

    Suzie Browne — From Chaos to Clarity. Sober at 63.

    Suzie Browne — From Chaos to Clarity. Sober at 63. She drank for 45 years.She got sober at 63. And she’s telling the kind of truth most people spend a lifetime avoiding. In this raw, no‑filters chat, Suzie opens up about hermemoir The Hole in the Soul: From Chaos to Clarity — a storybuilt on addiction, jail time, broken relationships, spiritual bankruptcy… and the long road to redemption. We talk about what it’s really like when: Alcohol feels like the love of your life — until it turns on you. You drink against your own will. Relapse knocks you flat after years of “doing so well.” The shame is quiet, but it’s everywhere. And one moment in a bar changes everything. This isn’t a shiny recovery story. It’s real — messy, confronting, and deeply human. Why this conversation hits different: Most stories about addiction tidy up the truth. Suzie doesn’t. She doesn’t sell hope — she lives it, one day, one choice at a time. If you’ve ever felt: Stuck in habits you hate Afraid you’ve gone too far to come back Tired of pretending everything’s fine This conversation’s for you. 🎧 Listen now: SuzieBrowne — From Chaos to Clarity. Sober at 63. Follow Slaying Sober for more real, honest stories that cut through the noise. And if someone you love needs to hear this… send it their way. Because sometimes, the path to clarity really doesbegin in chaos. #AddictionRecovery #SobrietyStories #NeverTooLate#HealingJourney #RealTalk #FromChaosToClarity #SlayingSober Suzie Browne – A Hole in the Soul Available here: www.amazon.com.au/Hole-Soul-Suzie-Browne/dp/1764350502

    54 min
  4. JAN 13

    Dale - Boys Do Cry: You Get What You Earn

    This is not just a sobriety story — it’s a fatherhood, identity, and transformation story. In this deeply honest episode of Slaying Sober, James sits down with Dale, a husband, father, musician, powerlifter, and recovering alcoholic, to unpack how casual drinking quietly turned into isolation, shame, and dependency — and how choosing sobriety gave him the life he never thought possible. From hiding cans and drinking alone… to journaling, setting boundaries, and becoming the dad his kids have never seenwith a drink in his hand — this conversation hits where ithurts and where it heals. • A real story of functional alcoholism that manyrelate to but rarely admit• The emotional moment that made him say: “I have a problem”• How fatherhood became the non-negotiable reason to quit• Sobriety without AA — journaling, honesty, and community instead• Why strength training, routine, and kindness became survival tools• A powerful reminder: you don’t miss what alcohol took from you until it’s gone Drinking alone, shame, and hiding in plain sightEmotional regulation through alcohol — and what happens when it stops workingCrying, masculinity, and learning to feel againMarriage, boundaries, and outgrowing old friendshipsWhy sobriety didn’t make life smaller — it made it meaningful   00:01 What truly brings joy after addiction04:33 When weekend drinking became daily drinking06:02 Drinking alone, shame, and isolation12:22 What “rock bottom” actually looked like18:25 “I think I have a problem” — the turning point21:42 Choosing sobriety without an end date24:26 Tattoos, mantras, and earning your life back26:40 Crying, kids, and emotional presence29:00 Fatherhood as the ultimate why32:45 Journaling, talking, and staying sober36:14 Helping others and receiving it back42:12 “I hope I never drink again” If you’re questioning your relationship with alcohol, this episode is for you.If you’re sober-curious, struggling quietly, or supporting someone who is — this episode matters. Like to support real recovery storiesSubscribe to Slaying Sober for honest conversations about addiction,healing, and growth #SlayingSober #AddictionRecovery #SobrietyJourney #Fatherhood#MentalHealthMatters#RecoveryPodcast #RealStories #TraumaHealing #AlcoholFreeLife

    53 min
  5. JAN 5

    Part 2 - Amber - From Ice House Hell to Clean at 19

    She was using ice through needles, selling her body at 17, and disappearing from herself—until one moment of surrender changed everything Amber’s story on the Slaying Sober podcast is raw, confronting, and deeply hopeful.From growing up in Australia’s heavy drinking culture to teenage substance use, sex work, and intravenous ice addiction, Amber takes us through the unfiltered reality of addiction—and the quiet power of recovery. Now three years sober through a 12-step program, Amber shares how detox, ninemonths of rehab, daily sponsor calls, and relentless honesty helped her rebuild a life she never thought she deserved. This episode dives into youth mental health, neurodivergence, codependency, and what it really means to surrender when you’ve tried everything else. She also opens up about her 20-hour silence challenge for youth mental health—transforming loneliness into peace—and how recovery taught her authenticity after years of masking, bullying, and emotional neglect. This is not a glamorized recovery story. It’s real, uncomfortable, and proof that sobriety works—even when you’re young, broken, and convinced you’re too far gone.   •From first drink at 14 to drug-induced psychosis •Losing 30kg in one month during active addiction •Ice addiction through pipes and needles •Sex work, court bonds, and criminal survival •The moment of rock bottom that sparked change •Why surrender isn’t weakness—it’s freedom •“Find better meetings like you found better drugs”    Sobriety Milestones: Clean since November 21, 2022 | Detox + 9-month rehab | 4–5meetings weekly   Recovery Tools: 12-step fellowship, sponsor accountability, grounding practices, service work  Personal Growth: From people-pleasing and masking to self-acceptance and advocacy   Challenges Overcome: Ice addiction, sex work from age 17, psychosis, emotional abandonment   00:01:19– Silence challenge: boredom vs peace 02:11:00– Alcohol normalized in childhood 07:20:00– Drugs used to quiet the mind (neurodivergence) 19:10:00– Rock bottom and mirror moment 26:53:00– Detox, rehab, surrender 41:28:00– Three years sober & life today   Why This Episode Matters: This is a 22-year-old’s unfiltered truth—no recovery clichés, no sugar-coating. A rare youth perspective on ice addiction, sex work, and sobriety within Australian culture, offering practical tools and real hope for anyone who thinks they’re “too young” or “too far gone.”     If you’re questioning your relationship with substances, supporting someone in recovery, or searching for real hope—listen now. Share this episode with someone who needs proof that change is possible.

    46 min
  6. JAN 4

    Part 1 - Amber -From Ice House Hell to Clean at 19

    She was using ice through needles, selling her body at 17, and disappearing from herself—until one moment of surrender changed everything   Amber’s story on the Slaying Sober podcast is raw, confronting, and deeply hopeful.From growing up in Australia’s heavy drinking culture to teenage substance use, sex work, and intravenous ice addiction, Amber takes us through the unfiltered reality of addiction—and the quiet power of recovery. Now three years sober through a 12-step program, Amber shares how detox, nine months of rehab, daily sponsor calls, and relentless honesty helped her rebuild a life she never thought she deserved. This episode dives into youth mentalhealth, neurodivergence, codependency, and what it really means to surrender when you’ve tried everything else. She also opens up about her 20-hour silence challenge for youth mental health—transforming loneliness into peace—and how recovery taught her authenticity after years of masking, bullying, and emotional neglect. This is not a glamorized recovery story. It’s real, uncomfortable, and proof thatsobriety works—even when you’re young, broken, and convinced you’re too far gone.   •From first drink at 14 to drug-induced psychosis •Losing 30kg in one month during active addiction •Ice addiction through pipes and needles •Sex work, court bonds, and criminal survival •The moment of rock bottom that sparked change •Why surrender isn’t weakness—it’s freedom •“Find better meetings like you found better drugs”    Sobriety Milestones: Clean since November 21, 2022 | Detox + 9-month rehab | 4–5 meetings weekly Recovery Tools: 12-step fellowship, sponsor accountability, grounding practices, servicework Personal Growth: From people-pleasing and masking to self-acceptance and advocacy Challenges Overcome: Ice addiction, sex work from age 17, psychosis, emotional abandonment     00:01:19– Silence challenge: boredom vs peace 02:11:00– Alcohol normalized in childhood 07:20:00– Drugs used to quiet the mind (neurodivergence) 19:10:00– Rock bottom and mirror moment 26:53:00– Detox, rehab, surrender 41:28:00– Three years sober & life today   Why This Episode Matters: This is a 22-year-old’s unfiltered truth—no recovery clichés, no sugar-coating. A rare youth perspective on ice addiction, sex work, and sobriety within Australian culture, offering practical tools and real hope for anyone who thinks they’re “too young” or “too far gone.” If you’re questioning your relationship with substances, supporting someone in recovery, or searching for real hope—listen now. Share this episode with someone who needs proof that change is possible.

    36 min

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