SmartEmpath® Podcast | Skills to Heal Beyond Narcissistic Abuse for Empaths

Dr. Michael Haggstrom

Hosted by Dr. Michael Haggstrom → You’re not “too sensitive.” You were just trained to believe that your empathy was a problem. Whether you were raised by a narcissistic parent, partnered with a narcissist, or worked under a controlling boss—if you’re an empath, you’ve likely been used, blamed, and made to feel like you were the issue. But here’s the truth: Your empathy isn’t the weakness. Your lack of skills is what made you vulnerable. And that’s exactly what this podcast is here to change. The SmartEmpath® Podcast is for compassionate, intuitive, and big-hearted people who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse and finally understand what the hell happened—without losing who they are. Each episode teaches you to: Identify manipulative patterns and protect yourself earlyUnderstand how trauma rewires your brain for guilt and silenceRelease the shame that was never yours to carrySpeak your truth with boundaries instead of fearuild real emotional skills to stop being the narcissist’s supply I’m Dr. Michael Haggstrom, and I’ve been there. Now I’m here to guide you with everything I wish someone had told me sooner. Because this isn’t just about surviving abuse—it’s about reclaiming your agency, your mind, and your life. If you're tired of insight with no tools, tired of blaming yourself, and ready to finally feel sane again—you're in the right place.

Episodes

  1. How Narcissists Destroy Your Optimism: Alex’s Story of Abuse and Betrayal

    04/01/2025

    How Narcissists Destroy Your Optimism: Alex’s Story of Abuse and Betrayal

    Narcissistic leaders will use your optimistic outlook on life for their own personal gain. But when you wake up to their abuse—they will chew you up, and spit you out. This can be such a shock that you collapse into cynicism and depression, wondering if you can ever trust anyone again. This episode explores narcissistic power structures and how toxic leaders manipulate good people—especially empaths—by exploiting their values, empathy, and desire to make a difference. 🚨 Meet Alex: A young man who entered politics full of hope and integrity but walked away in shame after being manipulated by a corrupt system. His story is a gut-punch for anyone who’s ever silenced their instincts to keep the peace. 🔍 In this episode, we cover: ✅ How narcissistic leaders trap empaths in abusive systems by exploiting their goodness ✅ The devastating impact of compromising integrity for power ✅ Why empathy alone isn’t enough to protect you—skills are essential 💡 Ask yourself: Where have I silenced my gut to avoid conflict?Who convinced me that their manipulation was “just how things are done?”What does my body feel like around toxic environments?🎁 Ready to reclaim your power? Sign up for free weekly insights at smartempath.com/newsletter and start breaking free from toxic cycles. 👉 Follow SmartEmpath® Podcast for raw, real insights on healing relationship trauma and reclaiming your life. ⭐ Rate and review if this episode speaks to you—it helps more empaths find the support they need. Personal Note from Dr. Michael Haggstrom: I’ve walked this road myself. I know what it feels like to be used, manipulated, and left questioning everything you stood for. That’s why I’m so passionate about helping empaths see through these narcissistic traps. You’re not weak for wanting to believe in people—but you need the right skills to protect yourself. If Alex’s story hits close to home, know that you’re not alone. I created the SmartEmpath Newsletter to give you the tools and insights to break free and reclaim your life. Join me every Tuesday, and let’s start this journey together. Sign up at: smartempath.com/newsletter “Send me a Text Message...”

    11 min
  2. Narcissistic Fathers & Jeremy's Story: How He Chose His Boss over His Family

    03/25/2025

    Narcissistic Fathers & Jeremy's Story: How He Chose His Boss over His Family

    Why would a man sacrifice his marriage to keep pleasing his boss? In this deeply emotional and eye-opening episode of the SmartEmpath® Podcast, Dr. Michael Haggstrom dives into the real reason so many men grind themselves to the bone at work—even when their relationships are falling apart. This isn’t about work ethic. It’s not just bad boundaries. It’s the father wound. Meet Jeremy—a man stuck in a cycle that millions of men silently live every day. He’s overworked, emotionally shut down, and running on fumes. At home, his wife is on the verge of leaving. His kids barely see him. His body is screaming from stress. And yet… he can’t stop. Because somewhere deep inside, his nervous system has been hijacked by trauma. He’s chasing approval from a boss who mirrors the narcissistic, emotionally absent father he never stopped trying to impress. This episode unpacks: How the father wound forms and why it’s so commonThe freeze–fawn trauma response and why it keeps men stuck in submissionWhy some men equate setting boundaries with losing their identityHow narcissistic bosses exploit unhealed childhood traumaThe true cost of performance-based masculinityWhat men need to finally break the cycleDr. Haggstrom shares powerful clinical insight, lived experience, and real examples of how early wounds shape adult choices. If you’re an empathic man—or love one—this episode will change how you see the pressures men face and why emotional healing is not optional anymore. This is a call to every man still trying to earn the love he never got. Because masculinity was never meant to be submissive. 🔥 If this hits home, subscribe to the SmartEmpath® Newsletter and get weekly tools to break the cycle and reclaim your strength: 👉 SmartEmpath.com/newsletter  “Send me a Text Message...”

    11 min
  3. Is Empathy a Sin? How Christian Nationalism Is Weaponizing Faith to Kill Democracy

    03/21/2025

    Is Empathy a Sin? How Christian Nationalism Is Weaponizing Faith to Kill Democracy

    "Empathy Is Sin" — How Christian Doctrine Ushers in the End of Democracy SmartEmpath® Podcast | Dr. Michael Haggstrom | Free Newsletter Empathy is now being preached as a sin.  This isn’t just bad theology—it’s a strategy for control over you, our families, and the government. In this episode of the SmartEmpath® Podcast, Dr. Michael Haggstrom exposes a growing and dangerous belief inside modern American Christianity: that empathy is weakness, and even a literal sin. This isn’t about faith. This is religious narcissism—a system built to suppress compassion, silence dissent, and manufacture obedience in the name of God. From “love the sinner, hate the sin” to full-blown Christian nationalism, this episode unpacks how religious systems are being hijacked to: Demonize empathyDehumanize othersJustify crueltyAnd pave the way for authoritarian powerLearn how this doctrine rewires your brain against your own humanity. Understand how obedience is manufactured through emotional numbing. Discover why suppressing compassion is a key strategy that religious and political narcissists use to control their followers. Dr. Haggstrom warns: What happened on January 6 wasn’t a one-off—it was a dress rehearsal.And make no mistake: Christian nationalism is on the rise, and it’s using the church to erase empathy from culture and politics.This episode is a wake-up call for empaths, deep feelers, and truth-seekers who know something is wrong—but haven’t had the language to name it. 🎧 Listen now and reclaim your voice. Your empathy is not a flaw. It’s your greatest strength. Join the movement to reclaim sanity, compassion, and critical thought: 👉 SmartEmpath.com/newsletter “Send me a Text Message...”

    11 min
  4. Trump’s Army: Dangers of Christian Nationalism & High-Control Religious Abuse

    03/18/2025

    Trump’s Army: Dangers of Christian Nationalism & High-Control Religious Abuse

    Trump isn’t just a politician—he has built an army from the Christian Nationalism movement, one that is projecting him to be "a saviour", willing to follow him no matter what.  I present the perspective of this being a dangerous combination of two forms of narcissism: Political narcissism and Religious narcissism. Download my free guide: 15 Signs of Religious Narcissistic Abuse → http://www.SmartEmpath.com/faith-abuse In this episode, we break down how religious narcissism set the stage for Trump's rise, why faith leaders primed their congregations for political takeover, and why so many within Christian Nationalism movement defend Trump—even when he does not live a life founded upon their values. I discuss the perspective that January 6 wasn’t just an attack—it was a test run. Now, with 1,500 insurrectionists freed and the church standing behind him, we are on the edge of something even more dangerous. This is not just about politics. It’s about power, manipulation, and control. It’s about how faith has been hijacked by religious narcissists who preach fear and rage, instead of love. Here’s what we’re covering in this episode: 1️⃣ How the Church Became a Tool for Political Power – Faith leaders spent decades conditioning their followers to see themselves as victims under attack, priming them to rally behind authoritarian figures like Trump.   2️⃣ Why Christian Nationalists Defend Him—Even When He Doesn't Live Their Values – When people invest their identity in a leader, admitting they were deceived is too painful—so they double down, no matter the evidence.   3️⃣ How Compassion Became a Sin in High-Control Religion – Trump didn’t just gain Christian loyalty; he reshaped their moral code, convincing them that kindness, empathy, and justice are weaknesses. This isn’t just about one man. It’s about how religious narcissists use fear to control, how entire communities become trapped in a cycle of blind obedience, and why the church is bleeding members who see through the lies. 🔔 Subscribe for more: 📝 Newsletter → http://www.SmartEmpath.com/newsletter "If you’ve experienced religious narcissistic abuse firsthand, the healing process often requires specialized trauma-centred methodology that helps to effectively break free from the shame and self-doubt instilled. I'm here to help and that is why I've created the SmartEmpath® Healing System."  - Dr. Michael Haggstrom “Send me a Text Message...”

    11 min
  5. The Dangers of Spiritual Blindness: The Gospel of Guilt, Fear & Shame - Religious Narcissism

    03/18/2025

    The Dangers of Spiritual Blindness: The Gospel of Guilt, Fear & Shame - Religious Narcissism

    What Happens When You Wake Up to Religious Control & When You Lose Family to Religious Narcissism 📚 Read Article: https://smartempath.com/religious-narcissism-abuse/ Have you lost family because you started questioning the faith you grew up in? Have you felt the crushing weight of realizing that what you thought was love, was actually control? If you’ve woken up to religious narcissism—if you’ve dared to think for yourself—you already know how brutal the fallout can be. Because when a religion is hijacked by narcissistic leaders, it stops being about faith. It becomes about obedience, submission, and loyalty at all costs. And the moment you question, the moment you start thinking for yourself… you become the enemy. In this episode, we break down: Why religious narcissists demand blind loyaltyHow faith is used to control, manipulate, and isolateWhy family members turn on you when you start asking questionsHow religious gaslighting keeps people trappedWhat really happens when you wake up and break freeThis isn’t just about religion—it’s about power, identity, and fear. Religious narcissists don’t want followers. They want disciples who never question, never push back, never leave. And if you’ve started to see through the lies, if you’ve felt the heartbreak of losing people you love because you refuse to bow to manipulation—you’re not alone. 🎙 Subscribe to the SmartEmpath® Newsletter for weekly insights and exclusive content on how empaths can break free from toxic relationships https://SmartEmpath.com/newsletter Meta tags: #ReligiousNarcissism #NarcissisticAbuse #SpiritualAbuse #ReligiousTrauma #GaslightingInReligion #ToxicFaith #HighControlReligion #ReligiousCults #NarcissisticPastors #ChurchManipulation #LeavingTheChurch #RecoveringFromReligiousAbuse #NarcissisticChurchLeaders #ReligiousGaslighting #DeconstructingFaith #EmpathHealing #NarcissisticControl #ReligiousAbuseRecovery #FaithAndManipulation “Send me a Text Message...”

    12 min
  6. The Cult of Trump: How Political Power Has Corrupted Faith. Religious Narcissism Revealed

    03/17/2025

    The Cult of Trump: How Political Power Has Corrupted Faith. Religious Narcissism Revealed

    I've heard from so many of you how families and communities are being torn apart. How hatred has replaced the loving places of worship you once knew. So many deeply caring and empathic people have had to leave their churches because the empathetic message of "love your neighbour" has now been replaced with a militant message of intolerance. You need to heal, but don't know how. When you left, the narcissistic forces in your church began a smear campaign and you lost friends, perhaps even family. You long to return because you miss the community, but you can no longer submit to church leadership that sees you as a threat because you dare to speak your mind. Know that you are not alone. Watch this video and discover what happens when Christian faith is hijacked for power? Why are empaths and truth-seekers walking away from churches led by narcissistic, power-hungry leaders? And how does Trump’s movement mirror religious cult dynamics? Our very democracy is at risk. You feel it. You see it. In this explosive episode of the SmartEmpath® Podcast, Dr. Michael Haggstrom breaks down the playbook of religious narcissists—the fear-based manipulation, blind loyalty, and gaslighting used to control people in both churches and politics. 📚 Read this Article: Breaking Free from Religious Narcissism: How Fear and Submission Shape Your Brain  https://smartempath.com/religious-narcissism-abuse/ What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✅  How narcissistic pastors manipulate their followers ✅  The 3 tactics religious narcissists use to gain control ✅  Why Trump’s movement mimics a religious cult ✅  How fear-based faith keeps people trapped ✅  The psychology behind religious and political brainwashing 📢 Join the SmartEmpath® Community and get free support every week from an expert in relationships and trauma: Get Free Weekly Support & Bonus Ebook "Healing Relationship Injury" → SmartEmpath.com/newsletter How Democracy Is at Risk with Trump's Cult Movement When religious narcissism and authoritarian politics merge, democracy itself is on the chopping block. This isn’t just about faith—it’s about power, obedience, and the systematic erosion of critical thinking. Trump’s movement isn’t just political; it operates like a high-control religious cult, where questioning the leader is equated with betrayal, and blind loyalty is the ultimate virtue. Historically, democracy thrives on dissent, debate, and accountability—but religious narcissists demonize opposition as heresy. Trump has perfected this playbook, turning political opponents into "enemies of the people" and encouraging his followers to see dissent as sin. Just as corrupt pastors silence critics with claims of divine authority, Trump labels investigations, court rulings, and even democratic elections as “fraudulent” if they don’t serve his interests. This is how democracies collapse—through the slow, calculated conditioning of a population to accept authoritarian control disguised as righteousness. When people believe that questioning a leader is equivalent to questioning God or betraying their country, they stop thinking for themselves. They stop demanding accountability. And they hand over their freedoms without even realizing it. This isn’t just about Trump. It’s about how political and religious narcissism paves the way for authoritarian rule—and why empaths, critical thinkers, and truth-seekers must protect themselves during these dark times. Get Free Weekly Support & Bonus Ebook "Healing Relationship Injury" → SmartEmpath.com/newsletter “Send me a Text Message...”

    11 min
  7. Healing Narcissistic Abuse: The Hidden Wounds We Carry

    08/12/2024

    Healing Narcissistic Abuse: The Hidden Wounds We Carry

    In this powerful episode of the SmartEmpath® Podcast, Dr. Michael Haggstrom delves into the often overlooked yet deeply impactful concept of relationship trauma and narcissistic abuse. Download free e-Book that accompanies this lesson: Healing Relationship Injury: Your Guide to Understanding Emotional, Psychological & Somatic Recovery While most of us think of trauma as stemming from dramatic or obvious events like breakups or betrayals, Dr. Haggstrom reveals the subtle, hidden wounds that many carry from childhood and beyond—wounds that silently shape how we see ourselves and interact with the world. Drawing from his own experiences and those of his clients, Dr. Haggstrom explores how these hidden scars can distort our self-worth, hinder our ability to trust, and even shorten our lives by affecting our physical health. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing these deep-seated injuries as the first step toward true healing. Whether you're an empath who has felt like an outsider or someone struggling to understand why certain relationships leave you feeling broken, this episode offers profound insights and practical steps for beginning the journey toward healing. Dr. Haggstrom also guides listeners through a reflective exercise to connect with their own hidden wounds and provides resources to support ongoing healing, including his free eBook, Healing Relationship Trauma. Join Dr. Haggstrom as he compassionately leads you through understanding, acknowledging, and healing the unseen scars of relationship trauma, empowering you to embrace your full potential as a big-hearted and resilient individual. Listen now and start your healing journey. #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissists #narcissisticabuse #trauma #healingtrauma #ptsd “Send me a Text Message...”

    17 min
  8. Married to a Narcissist: Maya Wakes Up to her Husband's Lies, Abuse & Deception

    10/04/2023

    Married to a Narcissist: Maya Wakes Up to her Husband's Lies, Abuse & Deception

    Married to a Narcissist: Maya Wakes Up to her Husband's Lies, Abuse & Deception An Empath's Nightmare: Should I Fix the Relationship or Leave? Welcome to the latest episode of SmartEmpath® Podcast. In today's episode, I, Dr. Michael Haggstrom, dive deep into the intricate world of relationships and empathy, as we journey alongside Maya, a vibrant empath caught in the deceptive web spun by her partner, Jack. Article by Dr. Michael Haggstrom: 5 Signs of Narcissistic Abuse: Have You Experienced It Without Even Realizing? Maya, like so many empaths, believed in the power of connection. The initial days of their relationship shimmered with the promise of deep connection, but as time unfolded, the façade began to crack. Maya soon found herself in a cycle of blame and gaslighting, a hallmark of relationships where one partner embodies narcissism. This episode delves into the nuances of such relationships, exploring the subtle art of mirroring, the phases of love-bombing and discarding, and the tumultuous internal world of the empath who constantly oscillates between doubt and intuition. While Maya’s story highlights the vulnerability empaths feel, it's also a testament to their strength. Through her journey, she learns the significance of boundaries, self-assertion, and the importance of recognizing patterns of narcissism. However, the emphasis isn't just on recognizing these patterns in others but understanding one's own empathic nature and needs. One of the dilemmas Maya grapples with is a question many empaths face: should they try to change their partner or seek someone who understands and resonates with their empathic nature? This is a significant topic of discussion in this episode, emphasizing the depth empaths crave in their relationships. Emotionally in-tuned individuals often seek out conversations that scratch beneath the surface and need physical touch that assures genuine affection. But this openness can sometimes lead to deception. Navigating the tightrope between deep connection and potential hurt is a common empathic dilemma. This episode aims to provide insights, tools, and knowledge to help empaths thrive in their relationships without compromising their authentic selves. A significant part of this process is understanding the patterns of narcissistic relationships.  To help you navigate these waters, a free guide, "15 Signs: Am I in a Narcissistic Relationship?" As we conclude this journey, let’s reflect on the importance of cherishing our empathic nature, protecting our hearts, and appreciating those in our lives who provide genuine connection and understanding. The depth and warmth of an empath are gifts that should be cherished and protected. The episode underscores the significance of celebrating empathic living while being equipped to thrive in our relationships. Join us next time, as we delve deeper into Maya’s healing journey, celebrating the resilience and growth that emerges from challenging relationships. Remember, you're not alone, and together, we will explore, grow, and thrive. “Send me a Text Message...”

    16 min
  9. Authenticity for an Empath: Search for Meaning - Emotional Connection, Intimacy & Love

    03/26/2023

    Authenticity for an Empath: Search for Meaning - Emotional Connection, Intimacy & Love

    It’s time to shed the shame of being a deeply feeling and empathic person. It's time to embrace empathic intelligence and shake off your insecurities. Discover in this very first episode of the SmartEmpath® Podcast why being your authentic self is vital to your ability to thrive.  Authenticity is invaluable for us all, but it's especially true for empaths who've often been made to feel that something's wrong with them, often since childhood.  The world can be toxic to deeply feeling and highly intuitive people. Indeed, society seems intent on turning empaths into their kind of "normal". This is like clipping the wings of a bird that's meant to fly.  It's true: Empaths are different. And that's a good thing! You see, empaths are meant to colour outside the lines of convention. They are meant to dance to a different tune. They are meant to fly and explore new ways of doing things in this world. To clip the wings of an empath is to deny them the freedom of their true nature, of their true authenticity. When empaths free themselves to become all they can be, immense creativity is unleashed. I believe we are at a turning point in human evolution. I believe this is the age of the empath, an age of an incredible rise in empathic intelligence. And I believe that if humanity is going to thrive throughout the next century, that it's vital to embrace and champion this transformation. ▶︎ In this first episode of the SmartEmpath™ Podcast, Dr. Michael Haggstrom calls it like it is.  LISTEN TO DISCOVER MORE... And GRAB this Free Ebook "Thriving as a SmartEmpath™ : The SECRETS No One is Telling You" DOWNLOAD IT HERE “Send me a Text Message...”

    22 min

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Hosted by Dr. Michael Haggstrom → You’re not “too sensitive.” You were just trained to believe that your empathy was a problem. Whether you were raised by a narcissistic parent, partnered with a narcissist, or worked under a controlling boss—if you’re an empath, you’ve likely been used, blamed, and made to feel like you were the issue. But here’s the truth: Your empathy isn’t the weakness. Your lack of skills is what made you vulnerable. And that’s exactly what this podcast is here to change. The SmartEmpath® Podcast is for compassionate, intuitive, and big-hearted people who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse and finally understand what the hell happened—without losing who they are. Each episode teaches you to: Identify manipulative patterns and protect yourself earlyUnderstand how trauma rewires your brain for guilt and silenceRelease the shame that was never yours to carrySpeak your truth with boundaries instead of fearuild real emotional skills to stop being the narcissist’s supply I’m Dr. Michael Haggstrom, and I’ve been there. Now I’m here to guide you with everything I wish someone had told me sooner. Because this isn’t just about surviving abuse—it’s about reclaiming your agency, your mind, and your life. If you're tired of insight with no tools, tired of blaming yourself, and ready to finally feel sane again—you're in the right place.