JOIN THE UNSPOKEN: https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking Ian Fee grew up around alcohol, started drinking early, and built a life where big nights and heavy drinking were normal, rewarded, and rarely questioned. On the outside, things looked successful, social, and under control. Underneath, alcohol was quietly shaping his choices, relationships, and sense of self. In this conversation, Ian shares how drinking became part of his identity as a provider, a father, and the “fun one”, and how it slowly cost him clarity, trust, and connection. He speaks honestly about high-functioning drinking, denial, repeated attempts to stop, and what finally shifted when he chose sobriety. This episode explores what it’s like to realise alcohol has been woven into your life for decades, why choosing sobriety isn’t a single moment, and what becomes possible when you stop pretending you’re fine. Trigger warning: This episode discusses alcohol use and addiction. Ready to share your story? Email: hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline Creator & Host - Julia Rangiheuea Image & Logo - Jasmine Rule Follow Ian Fee on Instagram - @ian.fee Grab Ian’s book Wild Ride to Sobriety In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.
