Solving Disconnection & Creating Connected Relationships (for Couples & Parents)

Jason A Polk
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Solving Disconnection & Creating Connected Relationships (for Couples & Parents)

Is it possible to solve the disconnection issues in your relationship? This podcast will explore how to solve it, but here's a hint: it takes ongoing work. The good news is that when we know how to have a harmonious and connected relationship, it feels good and can motivate us to keep doing it. This podcast is for couples and parents. We explore how to help you have a strong relationship with your partner and your kids if you have them. Jason A. Polk is a relationship therapist and a Clini-Coach® based in Denver, CO. He loves helping couples have more connection through this podcast and individualized marriage retreats and couples intensives. He's a father of two young daughters and has helped couples for over ten years. He believes we can simultaneously have a healthy relationship and be great parents.

  1. JUN 13

    66: Repair, what it means and why it's so hard

    In this episode of 'Solving Disconnection and Creating Connected Relationships for Couples and Parents,' therapist and coach Jason Polk delves into the importance of repair in relationships, why it's challenging, and how to effectively navigate it. Polk explains the concept of repair as restoring relationships after conflicts and discusses two main barriers: ego and lack of skills. He shares personal insights and strategies, including the importance of repairing in the moment and post-conflict methods like offering a sincere apology and sharing vulnerability. He emphasizes that repair is vital for healthy relationships and provides practical advice for couples to enhance their connection. Listeners are encouraged to prioritize repair over ego for the sake of their relationships and families. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:28 Understanding Conflict and Repair 01:11 The Role of Ego in Repair 03:39 Repairing in the Moment 05:15 Repairing After a Fight 08:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Feedback Wheel PDF This episode was inspired by this blog: The Art of Repair: What It Means and Why It's So Hard

    9 min

  2. APR 29

    65: Marriage Counseling Vs Divorce

    In this episode of 'Solving Disconnection and Creating Connected Relationships for Couples and Parents,' Jason Polk, a therapist and coach with over 10 years of experience, discusses the financial and emotional costs of marriage counseling versus divorce.  Jason highlights the expense and emotional toll of contested divorces, which can range from $10,000 to $15,000, compared to the relatively lower cost of marriage counseling.  He explains how counseling can help either salvage a relationship or make the separation process more compassionate and dignified. Jason states that counseling can be valuable in creating healthier futures, whether couples stay together or separate. 00:00 Introduction to the Show 00:27 Marriage Counseling vs. Divorce: An Overview 00:39 Financial and Emotional Costs of Divorce 02:17 The Role of Marriage Counseling 05:23 When Divorce is Inevitable 06:15 Cost Comparison: Counseling vs. Divorce 06:48 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Couples Intensive episode. This episode was inspired by Jason's blog post.  Jason's marriage counseling practice.

    8 min

  3. APR 5

    64: What is cheating?

    Understanding Cheating: Definitions, Impacts, and Pathways to Healing In this episode of 'Solving Disconnection and Creating Connected Relationships for Couples and Parents,' therapist and coach Jason Polk explores the complex topic of cheating.  He delves into the different forms of infidelity, including financial and emotional cheating, and emphasizes the importance of explicit agreements between partners.  Polk also discusses the synonyms and antonyms of cheating and provides insights into how a lack of openness can create a breeding ground for infidelity.  Key takeaways include the critical role of trust, honesty, and transparency in preventing and recovering from betrayal. 00:00 Introduction to the Show 00:22 Defining Cheating and Infidelity 01:12 Types of Cheating 02:03 Importance of Agreements in Relationships 03:29 Emotional Affairs and Implicit Agreements 05:00 Antonyms of Cheating 05:21 Conditions Leading to Cheating 06:20 Conclusion and Final Thoughts This blog inspired this episode: What is considered cheating?

    8 min

  4. MAR 5

    63: What Is the Purpose of Marriage?

    Jason explores the purpose of marriage beyond initial infatuation and love chemicals.  He explains that marriage is an essential emotional refuge and economic partnership, providing a place for vulnerability, acceptance, and the sharing of resources.  Jason discusses typical relationship dynamics like the pursue-withdraw cycle and how past experiences shape our partner interactions.  He emphasizes the importance of prioritizing the relationship to foster connection and joy. Through understanding and intentional effort, marriage can bring resilience and confidence. By succeeding as a team, it can make life more enjoyable and less expensive. 00:00 Introduction to the Show 00:25 The Science of Love and Monogamy 01:07 Impact of Upbringing on Relationships 02:40 Purpose of Marriage 03:17 Emotional and Economic Benefits of Marriage 04:57 Challenges in Marriage 06:17 Conclusion and Final Thoughts To read the blog that inspired this episode, you can check out: What's the Purpose of Marriage? A Marriage Counselor's Perspective. Click here to learn more about Jason's couples therapy agency.

    7 min

  5. FEB 18

    62: 10 Tips to Fix Your Relationship and Get Back on the Right Track

    In this episode, Jason shares ten actionable tips to help couples maintain harmony, reduce disharmony, and effectively repair their relationships.  The tips are structured within a framework that includes understanding the phases of harmony, disharmony, and repair.  Key points include connecting with your partner through daily gestures, understanding and navigating attachment dynamics, using timeouts to prevent conflicts, making effective apologies, showing vulnerability, using communication tools like the feedback wheel, and taking things less personally.  The goal is to foster more connection and less conflict in relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Relationship Tips 00:06 Understanding Relationship Phases 00:47 Tips for Maintaining Harmony 02:37 Addressing Disharmony 06:04 Effective Repair Strategies 08:46 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Links: State of the Union Meeting Feedback Wheel Relationship (Attachment) Quiz This episode in 10 tips to fix your relationship in blog form.

    10 min

  6. JAN 4

    61: Relationship lessons from Dr. Laura Louis

    In this episode, Dr. Laura Louis, a seasoned couples therapist, shares her insights and experiences from her 20-year career. She discusses the challenges and joys of working with couples, the importance of effective communication, and how vulnerability and emotional intimacy play crucial roles in relationships. Dr. Laura also discusses common issues such as the negative sentiment override, the impact of family of origin, and practical strategies for improving relational dynamics.  Introduction  Dr. Laura's Background  Challenges of Couples Therapy  Creating Connection in Relationships  Men and Feelings  Effective Communication Tools  Signs You Should Seek Couples Therapy  Stonewalling and Taking Breaks  Final Thoughts and Resources Link to Dr. Laura Louis' Atlanta Couple Therapy practice. Her book Martial Peace ___ You can learn more about Jason's couple therapy practice here.

    38 min

  7. 11/26/2024

    60: From Emotional to Sexual Intimacy: A Guide for Males (and Couples)

    Sex can be a powerful way to connect, but for many men, it's often the only way they're taught to access vulnerability and emotional closeness.  This can create a rub, especially when partners need emotional intimacy to feel open to physical intimacy. In this blog, we break down the dynamics of intimacy using the metaphor of a wedding cake. Couples thrive when they intentionally build each layer tier of the cake.  Listen to discover how to strengthen your relationship, deepen intimacy, and foster connection beyond sex. This episode is in blog form: From Emotional to Sexual Intimacy: A Guide for Males (and Couples). For the blog on how to start with awareness of feelings, go here: Get in Touch With Your Feelings.

    7 min

  8. 10/31/2024

    59: How to Fall Back in Love With Your Partner

    Do you two feel like roommates? Or cost-sharing-associates? Have you and your partner drifted into feeling more like roommates than lovers? Just co-parents? Or “cost-sharing-associates?” It’s easy for the initial spark to dim as time passes, but rekindling it is possible. This quick episode talks about how to reconnect and feel love again. I also share why you two have drifted apart, how to break the cycle of disconnection, and how couples therapists help couples do just that. One of our favorite quotes from Terry Real is: “Intimacy is not something you have, but something you do.” I share how you two can intentionally foster intimacy and how you can be that passionate couple again! This blog inspired this episode.

    9 min
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Is it possible to solve the disconnection issues in your relationship? This podcast will explore how to solve it, but here's a hint: it takes ongoing work. The good news is that when we know how to have a harmonious and connected relationship, it feels good and can motivate us to keep doing it. This podcast is for couples and parents. We explore how to help you have a strong relationship with your partner and your kids if you have them. Jason A. Polk is a relationship therapist and a Clini-Coach® based in Denver, CO. He loves helping couples have more connection through this podcast and individualized marriage retreats and couples intensives. He's a father of two young daughters and has helped couples for over ten years. He believes we can simultaneously have a healthy relationship and be great parents.

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