Coffee With Hilary and Les from State of Mind Hypnosis and Training Centre

Hilary & Les
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An almost-daily podcast for the State of Mind Community. Offering ideas and answering questions on how to use your mind for growth, happiness and ultimately peace.Send us your questions: info@somhypnosis.com

  1. 7H AGO

    How To Calm Anxiety By Listening To Emotions

    Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We talk about why fear grows when we resist it and how to find calm by treating emotions as messages instead of threats. We share simple ways to shift your nervous system, question the “truth” of anxious thoughts, and use imagination to move toward what you prefer.  • fear as a normal response that can freeze action  • the subconscious mind as a safety system that looks for reaction  • emotions as messages seeking a response rather than a state of being  • how judgment and resistance lock fear in place  • sympathetic vs parasympathetic nervous system and why it matters  • practical tools: long exhales, peripheral vision, relaxing muscles  • shifting language from “I am” to “there is” to create space  • asking what the emotion means and what is actually true right now  • moving from worry to preference and using imagination for solutions  • a real example with anxiety about selling a home and letting inspiration lead  Support the show We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

    33 min

  2. 5D AGO

    Your Desires Point Toward The Stars - When You Get Quiet

    Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! Desire stops being a guilty want and starts looking like a navigation tool, the inner “stars” we search for when life feels cloudy. We work out how to separate fear-based programming from inspired curiosity so the next step becomes clear even when the big plan is not.  • the origin of desire as “asking for stars” to find direction  • desire reframed as guidance rather than selfishness  • ego as the story of being a body and being alone  • survival needs and Maslow’s hierarchy as drivers of motivation  • socially constructed wants and the pressure of “should”  • boredom defined as a message that we’re meant for more  • a personal wake-up call around work, debt, and maintaining stuff  • learning to listen through silence, meditation, and self-hypnosis  • a 30-minute daily practice with no phone and no distractions  • where ideas come from and why inspiration arrives when the mind slows  • sorting worry thoughts from exciting thoughts that feel alive  • shifting from five-year plans to the next inspired action  Thanks for hanging out today, and thanks for listening and interacting, and have a beautiful day. Support the show We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

    50 min

  3. APR 27

    Desire Or Programming?

    Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We follow one question all the way down: what do we truly want when we strip away fear, approval-seeking, and the quiet pressure to fit in. We unpack how culture turns ordinary things into status symbols, then show a simple way to spot when “desire” is really just programming.  • the gap between authentic desires and socially constructed desires  • body mind dominance through survival needs fear and exhaustion  • belonging and fitting in as a powerful driver of choice  • how culture assigns meaning using wine as an example  • ego class signals and the need to be seen as good  • childhood conditioning and worth tied to others’ judgment  • money as a survival tool versus money as a scorecard  • symbols connotation and why status objects feel compelling  • questions to ask to find the feeling behind a desire  • choosing consciously instead of living by “should”  Support the show We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

    44 min

  4. APR 23

    How To Tell The Difference Between Real Desire And Social Programming

    Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We take on a listener question that sounds simple but changes everything: do we choose our desires, or are our desires shaped by need, fear, and social conditioning. We sort needs from wants, use quick tests to spot programming, and point back to self-knowledge as the clearest path to real motivation. • defining needs vs wants vs desires so we can communicate clearly • noticing how comfort seeking hides inside “small” cravings • separating higher mind desires from socially guided desires • using the deathbed regret test to clarify what matters • using the “because” filter to reveal conditioning • revisiting Maslow’s hierarchy of needs as a motivation map • questioning whether belonging has become the modern base need • stepping away from politics and blame to focus on inner change • leaving open questions about internal vs external desire origins Support the show We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

    39 min

  5. APR 17

    Put Down The Red Pen & Pick Up The Crayons

    Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We sit with the link between creativity and the inner critic, then trace how judgment and criticism get installed and become a habit that shuts down trying. We reframe resilience as the skill of dropping harsh self-evaluation so learning, agency, and encouragement can lead the way again. • childhood roots of self-sabotage and the inner critic • criticism as a learned habit that spreads to self-talk • interpretation as the source of meaning and distress • judgment as the antidote to creative work • why we assume others track our failures • emotions and body “vibrations” that stop action fast • the risk of sharing dreams too early • approval seeking as lost agency and authority • “I am enough” plus gentler alternatives for practice • unworthiness as familiarity and habit reinforcement • encouragement as the opposite of criticism • learning and repetition as the path to skill • the crayons visualization for safe experimentation Support the show We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

    47 min

  6. APR 13

    You Were Born Worthy! Stepping Out Of Self Judgement

    Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We pull apart the quiet rules that make us tie our self-worth to likes, reactions, and being seen as “normal.” We share a real moment of posting something vulnerable, panicking, and deleting it, then use that story to rebuild a healthier sense of value that does not depend on the internet. • noticing the gap between curated online life and real life chaos  • sharing the deleted channeled message story and the fear of being judged  • unpacking how staged content and algorithms shape what we think we “should” be  • naming the approval trap and how it makes us confuse love with reaction  • exploring why we label people as “nuts” to avoid discomfort  • practicing better questions like what am I seeking and what is the purpose  • choosing values over rules and stepping out of judgment  • using reframes like I am not what I do and I am the doer  Next Saturday, there will be a channeled message for the community. For at least a couple of hours. No, no, no, it’s staying up, it’s staying up. Support the show We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

    39 min

  7. APR 8

    What Would Happen If You Had Ice Cream For Dinner?

    Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We follow a simple question from a frozen pond all the way into the mind: what counts as a rule, and how do those rules shape what we call freedom. We use hypnosis style questioning to expose how “choices” get narrowed by fear, judgment, and conditional self worth, then look at what self love means when it clashes with our shoulds. • ducks as a doorway into patterns of behavior and unwritten rules  • instinct versus learned behavior and what “built in rules” might mean  • how we react when we hit a rule we dislike  • decision versus choice and why “choice between” can feel like freedom  • people pleasing as a strategy for safety and approval  • limited choice examples using dinner rules and everyday habits  • fear of making mistakes and how judgment makes rules feel unbreakable  • self love versus conditional love and why self care can feel rebellious  • “good person” programming and the rules society rewards  • choosing rules that serve authenticity rather than shame  Enjoy your ice cream. Yes, go have ice cream. Support the show We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

    58 min

  8. APR 6

    How Hidden Social Rules Shape Choices And Identity

    Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We follow a listener suggestion and look at the human rules that quietly run our days, shaping what we do, what we fear, and what we call “normal.” We keep coming back to one clean interrupt for old programming: asking “Says who?” and choosing agreements that actually serve us.  • rules as subconscious programs learned early  • everyday constructs like manners and family routines  • how “good” and “appropriate” become control tools  • age and appearance rules and the cost of self-censoring  • time and scheduling as invisible authority  • why belonging pressure makes people enforce conformity  • creativity, innovation, and the people we admire for breaking norms  Send us your questions Support the show We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

    43 min
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An almost-daily podcast for the State of Mind Community. Offering ideas and answering questions on how to use your mind for growth, happiness and ultimately peace.Send us your questions: info@somhypnosis.com

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