Stirring The Plot

Dayna J. Francois

Welcome to the Stirring the Plot Podcast, hosted by Dayna J. Francois. Whether you're gay, hot, or doing it for the plot... this is the podcast for you. Meet Dayna: sapphic storyteller, poet, and professional main character. Every week, Dayna spills unfiltered stories from the Black queer lens: situationships, sapphic longing, hot mess epiphanies, and the kind of plot twists that make you gasp out loud. Whether she’s on her own, or joined by a guest, Dayna is spilling tea and feelings, telling the stories, and navigating her way through the world…one espresso martini at a time. Make sure that you subscribe and tune in weekly. Because she's gay, she's hot, and if there is one thing about Dayna...she's gonna stir the plot.

  1. 26 Lessons for 26 Years

    18.08.2025

    26 Lessons for 26 Years

    Twenty-six years. Twenty-six lessons. Today on Stirring the Plot Podcast, your host Dayna J. Francois sits down to unpack 26 lessons she learned so that hopefully, you won't have to. Some came dressed in glitter and lipstick stains, others arrived barefoot with heartbreak, silence, and mascara running down the bathroom sink. This birthday episode is Dayna's love letter to every version of herself who thought she wouldn’t make it here, and a roast of the chaos that tried to stop her. From friendship breakups to surprise kisses, champagne highs to gut-punch lows, Dayna is counting down 26 lessons for 26 years. And because you know her... Lesson 26 will always be this: everything is for the plot. If life insists on giving us drama, we might as well make it cinematic. So, grab a slice of birthday cake, pour yourself an espressos martini, and let’s stir the plot because it's Dayna's birthday! 💌 Share your own dating horror stories: stirringtheplotpodsubmissions@gmail.com SHOW NOTES: SEND ME YOUR STORIES HERE! Email - Stirringtheplotpodsubmissions@gmail.com SOCIALS! Stirring the Plot Podcast Instagram/TikTok- @Stirringtheplotpod Stirring the Plot Podcast Twitter - @Stirringtheplot Dayna's Instagram/TikTok/Twitter -@Daynajfrancois If you liked listening, make sure you subscribe to my podcast! Don't forget to rate and share it with your friends! And make sure that you tune in weekly, because I'm gay, I'm hot, and if there is one thing about me...l'm gonna stir the plot.

    29 мин.
  2. Holy Ghosts & Growing Pains

    08.08.2025

    Holy Ghosts & Growing Pains

    We grew up with worship music in our lungs and guilt stitched into our skin. Today on Stirring the Plot Podcast, your host Dayna J. Francois sits down with longtime friend Megan Neumann, someone who’s known Dayna through awkward middle school youth group phases, purity culture, and the quiet pressure to be the “perfect” church girl. Together, the duo unpack the holy ghosts that raised them, the guilt that followed them, and the grace they’ve finally learned to give themselves. In Episode 17, Dayna and Megan unpack growing up in a predominantly white, conservative church, navigating Puerto Rican identity, hiding poverty, purity culture, sex, shame, and the freedom that came with leaving it all behind. This one is for the church kids who stopped apologizing, the ones who learned that holiness isn’t about hiding your heart... it’s about finding it. This conversation is tender, unfiltered, and long overdue. And if you’ve ever wrestled with who you were told to be versus who you actually are… I hope you find yourself in it. Pour yourself an espresso martini, grab your therapy notes, and settle in while we stir the plot with Megan. SHOW NOTES: 💌 SEND ME YOUR STORIES HERE! 💌 Email - Stirringtheplotpodsubmissions@gmail.com SOCIALS! Stirring the Plot Podcast Instagram/TikTok - @Stirringtheplotpod Stirring the Plot Podcast Twitter - @Stirringtheplot Dayna's Instagram/TikTok/Twitter - @Daynajfrancois Megan's Instagram - @neumann_megan Birdie's Instagram - @birdiegirlphx If you liked listening, make sure you subscribe to my podcast! Don’t forget to rate and share it with your friends! And make sure that you tune in weekly, because I'm gay, I'm hot, and if there is one thing about me...I'm gonna stir the plot.

    1 ч. 8 мин.
  3. NeuroSpice and Everything Nice

    28.07.2025

    NeuroSpice and Everything Nice

    Brains, beauty, and a little bit of spice. Quasia came to stir it up. Today on Stirring the Plot Podcast, your host Dayna J. Francois sits down with the brilliant mind behind @neurospicetea, the one and only Tequasia, for a conversation that’s as raw as it is revolutionary. Episode 16 is a love letter to unmasking, taking up space, and being brave enough to live in your truth. From unmasking as a neurodivergent Black queer woman to navigating love, friendship, and self-expression, Quasia takes us on a journey that feels like church, therapy, and happy hour all in one. Together, we unpack the layers of identity: gender, race, queerness, and neurodivergence, and what it means to stop shrinking for the comfort of others. The tea is hot, the truth is spicier, and this episode is everything nice. Quasia and I go way back, but this convo? It’s next level. In episode 16, we unpack the story behind Quasia’s neurodivergent platform, @neurospicetea, what unmasking looks like in real time, the intersections of queerness, creativity, and identity. All while having a candid conversation about taking up space and choosing joy. Pour yourself an espresso martini and settle in while we stir the plot with Tequasia. SHOW NOTES: 💌 SEND ME YOUR STORIES HERE! 💌 Email - Stirringtheplotpodsubmissions@gmail.com SOCIALS! Stirring the Plot Podcast Instagram/TikTok - @Stirringtheplotpod Stirring the Plot Podcast Twitter - @Stirringtheplot Dayna's Instagram/TikTok/Twitter - @Daynajfrancois Tequasia's Instagram - @_quanos Follow Neuro Spice Tea on Instagram - @neurospicetea If you liked listening, make sure you subscribe to my podcast! Don’t forget to rate and share it with your friends! And make sure that you tune in weekly, because I'm gay, I'm hot, and if there is one thing about me...I'm gonna stir the plot.

    1 ч. 17 мин.
  4. Do U-Haul Lesbians Even Signal Before They Merge?

    18.07.2025

    Do U-Haul Lesbians Even Signal Before They Merge?

    A sapphic speedrun. A bonnet. A salmon dinner. What started as a nail date turned into an unsolicited love confession and a 15-hour lesbian hostage situation. Today on Stirring the Plot Podcast, your host Dayna J. Francois sits down to tell the unhinged story of Insta Wife, a misadventure in queer dating that started with nail polish and ended with emotional whiplash. From bonnet sleepovers to salmon dinners and the illusion of instant intimacy, Dayna is unpacking the U-Haul lesbian stereotype and asking: what does it really mean when someone brings softness… but forgets boundaries? In Episode 15, Dayna dives into queer intimacy, emotional urgency, U-Haul culture, and the myth of instant connection. Sometimes it’s not romance... it’s projection. Sometimes softness is a weapon. And sometimes the story isn’t about love… it’s about the red flag you ignored for content. This one is personal. And funny. And poetic. And chaotic. Just the way we like it. So light a candle. Pour a glass. Let’s stir the plot. 💌 Share your own U-Haul horror stories: stirringtheplotpodsubmissions@gmail.com SHOW NOTES: SEND ME YOUR STORIES HERE! Email - Stirringtheplotpodsubmissions@gmail.com SOCIALS! Stirring the Plot Podcast Instagram/TikTok - @Stirringtheplotpod Stirring the Plot Podcast Twitter - @Stirringtheplot Dayna's Instagram/TikTok/Twitter - @Daynajfrancois If you liked listening, make sure you subscribe to my podcast! Don’t forget to rate and share it with your friends! And make sure that you tune in weekly, because I'm gay, I'm hot, and if there is one thing about me...I'm gonna stir the plot.

    19 мин.
  5. When Best Friends Breakup

    11.07.2025

    When Best Friends Breakup

    Today on Stirring the Plot Podcast, your host Dayna J. Francois sits down to unpack a topic that doesn't get nearly enough airtime. Friendship breakups. We talk about breakups all the time. The playlist. The post-cry selfie. The haircut that screams “new era.” But friendship breakups? Crickets. No rom-com montage. No recovery kit. Just the quiet grief of losing the one person who once knew your soul better than anyone else. In Episode 14, Dayna is pulling back the curtain on the friendship breakups that shook her world in 2024. Three friendships. Three breakups. Three lessons I didn’t ask for but desperately needed. Dayna spills the tea on narcissism in friendship, emotional boundaries, friend bombing, red flags, healing, and what it actually means to make space for better. If you’ve ever grieved someone who’s still alive and posting… this one’s for you. This episode isn’t just about endings, it’s about choosing peace over performance. So light a candle. Pour a glass. Let’s stir the plot. SHOW NOTES: SEND ME YOUR STORIES HERE! Email - Stirringtheplotpodsubmissions@gmail.com SOCIALS! Stirring the Plot Podcast Instagram/TikTok - @Stirringtheplotpod Stirring the Plot Podcast Twitter - @Stirringtheplot Dayna's Instagram/TikTok/Twitter - @Daynajfrancois If you liked listening, make sure you subscribe to my podcast! Don’t forget to rate and share it with your friends! And make sure that you tune in weekly, because I'm gay, I'm hot, and if there is one thing about me...I'm gonna stir the plot.

    39 мин.
  6. A Hot Lesbian’s Guide to Setting Boundaries

    30.06.2025

    A Hot Lesbian’s Guide to Setting Boundaries

    Today on Stirring the Plot Podcast, your host Dayna J. Francois sits down with none other than her besTEA and fellow emotionally intelligent bad bitch, Alexa Austin, for an episode that’s part confessional, part boundary bootcamp, and fully a love letter to no longer lighting yourself on fire to keep other people warm. In episode 13, the duo unpack codependency: how it starts in childhood, blossoms in our little lesbian situationships, and seeps into friendships disguised as “being the strong one.” From people-pleasing in your “perfect daughter” era to performing emotional labor like it’s your full-time job, Dayna and Alexa are pulling back the curtain on what it really means to put yourself first without flinching. The pair unpack exes who drained us, friends who blurred the line between trauma bond and support system, and the unlearning it takes to go from emotional landfill to emotionally unavailable (in a hot, healed kind of way). This episode is for anyone who’s ever shape-shifted to stay loved, shrunk to stay safe, or stayed when they should’ve said “that’s not my job.” So grab your espresso martini, text your ex “do not disturb forever,” and settle in because being a hot lesbian with boundaries? That’s the plot. SHOW NOTES: SEND ME YOUR STORIES HERE! Email - Stirringtheplotpodsubmissions@gmail.com SOCIALS! Stirring the Plot Podcast Instagram/TikTok - @Stirringtheplotpod Stirring the Plot Podcast Twitter - @Stirringtheplot Dayna's Instagram/TikTok/Twitter - @Daynajfrancois Alexa's Instagram - @_alexaaasn If you liked listening, make sure you subscribe to my podcast! Don’t forget to rate and share it with your friends! And make sure that you tune in for the rest of season one, because I'm gay, I'm hot, and if there is one thing about me...I'm gonna stir the plot.

    32 мин.
  7. Detachment, Dysphoria, and the Desire to Be Understood

    20.06.2025

    Detachment, Dysphoria, and the Desire to Be Understood

    Today on Stirring the Plot Podcast, your host Dayna J. Francois is joined by Winter, transmasc legend, emotionally unavailable icon, and fellow avoidant in recovery, for a conversation that might just hit a little too close to home. What happens when two avoidant besties sit down to unpack gender, religion, intimacy, and the Olympic sport of not texting back? Let’s just say… the mask comes off. This episode is for the avoidant girlies, gays, theys, and gentlethems who respond to vulnerability by ghosting, spiraling, or “accidentally” taking three weeks to reply to a message that just said “hey.” It’s for the ones who flinch at intimacy, confuse detachment with strength, and still think emotional repression is a personality trait. In this deep dive, Dayna and Winter unpack how culture, religion, gender identity, and childhood communication (or the lack thereof) shaped their adult relationships: romantic, platonic, and familial. We’re talking about growing up in environments that taught us to shrink, hide, and stay digestible, only to reach adulthood realizing we’ve been ghosting our own identities. From the fear of being perceived to the ache of being misunderstood, from navigating transmasc visibility to learning how to actually say what we feel (instead of just thinking it really loudly), this episode is equal parts mirror and medicine. So if you’ve ever sat across from someone you love and thought, “Why does this feel like a situationship in disguise?” This one’s for you. So, grab your share this with your emotionally avoidant friend, settle in, and unmask with us. SHOW NOTES: SEND ME YOUR STORIES HERE! Email - Stirringtheplotpodsubmissions@gmail.com SOCIALS! Stirring the Plot Podcast Instagram/TikTok - @Stirringtheplotpod Stirring the Plot Podcast Twitter - @Stirringtheplot Dayna's Instagram/TikTok/Twitter - @Daynajfrancois Winter's Instagram - @Winterrosay The Masc Off Podcast Instagram - @themascoffpod If you liked listening, make sure you subscribe to my podcast! Don’t forget to rate and share it with your friends! And make sure that you tune in weekly, because I'm gay, I'm hot, and if there is one thing about me...I'm gonna stir the plot.

    26 мин.

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Welcome to the Stirring the Plot Podcast, hosted by Dayna J. Francois. Whether you're gay, hot, or doing it for the plot... this is the podcast for you. Meet Dayna: sapphic storyteller, poet, and professional main character. Every week, Dayna spills unfiltered stories from the Black queer lens: situationships, sapphic longing, hot mess epiphanies, and the kind of plot twists that make you gasp out loud. Whether she’s on her own, or joined by a guest, Dayna is spilling tea and feelings, telling the stories, and navigating her way through the world…one espresso martini at a time. Make sure that you subscribe and tune in weekly. Because she's gay, she's hot, and if there is one thing about Dayna...she's gonna stir the plot.