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Do you ever feel like you've out growing alcohol, that you are longing for a deeper connection to life? If alcohol is keeping you playing small and feels like the one area you just can't figure out, you are in the right place.  I'm a holistic alcohol coach who ended a 20-year relationship to alcohol without labels, counting days or ever making excuses. Now I help powerful women just like you eliminate their desire to drink on their own terms. In this podcast, we will explore the revolutionary approach of my proven five-shifts process that gets alcohol out of your way by breaking all of the rules, and the profound experience that it is to rediscover who you are on the other side of alcohol. I am so thrilled to be your guide. Welcome to your journey of awakening
Are you ready for the next step to release alcohol?  Uncover the five myths of quitting drinking and the Five shifts You need for lasting change in my free masterclass: 
 register here to learn more about how you can step into a life of greater meaning and connection: register here: https://marywagstaffcoach.com/free-class-sign-up

Stop Drinking and Start Living Mary Wagstaff

    • Education
    • 4.7 • 87 Ratings

Do you ever feel like you've out growing alcohol, that you are longing for a deeper connection to life? If alcohol is keeping you playing small and feels like the one area you just can't figure out, you are in the right place.  I'm a holistic alcohol coach who ended a 20-year relationship to alcohol without labels, counting days or ever making excuses. Now I help powerful women just like you eliminate their desire to drink on their own terms. In this podcast, we will explore the revolutionary approach of my proven five-shifts process that gets alcohol out of your way by breaking all of the rules, and the profound experience that it is to rediscover who you are on the other side of alcohol. I am so thrilled to be your guide. Welcome to your journey of awakening
Are you ready for the next step to release alcohol?  Uncover the five myths of quitting drinking and the Five shifts You need for lasting change in my free masterclass: 
 register here to learn more about how you can step into a life of greater meaning and connection: register here: https://marywagstaffcoach.com/free-class-sign-up

    How To Respond To Others About Your Drinking

    How To Respond To Others About Your Drinking

    If you have ever thought, " I don't want to make anyone feel bad because I'm not drinking." You are in the right place. 

    You don't want your drinking to impact other people in a negative way, so when you are asked about it, you freeze.  

    You don't know how to respond and end up defending, explaining yourself or pointing the blame at you. 

    This is not the way to establish confidence in your alcohol free journey. 

    How you  respond to others as you go along your alcohol free journey, will dictate your success in a huge way.  

    In today's episode you will learn:
    The thoughts you have that aren't true about other peopleWhat you need to understand about yourself to be confident responding to others about your drinking.Exactly what to say and how to say it in a way that invites people in to a conversation rather than creates shame or defiensiveness.Where to focus your attention when you are in social settings that will reduce your fear and desire to drink.Why we go into freeze and need to defend or explain ourselves. 
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    BY EMBRACING A PATH THAT ALLOWS YOU TO MOVE FORWARD WITHOUT THE BURDEN OF COUNTING DAYS OR HIDING YOUR TRUE SELF.
    Sustainable Sobriety Is Here! Keep the needle moving forward no matter if you do or don't drink.
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    • 26 min
    How Sober Are You Willing To Get?

    How Sober Are You Willing To Get?

    How alive are you willing to feel, is really the question I am asking today? Can you show up even bigger for life than you thought possible? Sobriety does stop giving after you get it out of your way. It's a mindset of removing the veil of illusions that have kept you stick in fear.

    In today's episode you will take away:
    the questions you need to keep asking to stay motivatedhow authenticity is now a means of survivalhow to rediscover your vibrancy sobriety as a gateway to a more mindful, conscious lifealcohol as a starting point to a more confident empowered youAND MUCH MORE...PLEASE SHARE, LIKE & SUBSCRIBE. It helps weave the web of awakening the planet. 
    Click Here To Join The Sustainable Sobriety Course Today. YOU CAN BREAK FREE FROM THE CYCLE OF STOPPING AND STARTING AND THE TRAP OF MODERATION,
    BY EMBRACING A PATH THAT ALLOWS YOU TO MOVE FORWARD WITHOUT THE BURDEN OF COUNTING DAYS OR HIDING YOUR TRUE SELF.
    Sustainable Sobriety Is Here! Keep the needle moving forward no matter if you do or don't drink.
    Join Sustainable Sobriety Course, where you'll learn everything to find the confidence to be authentically you in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.

    • 23 min
    Your Desires Are The Key To Your Sober Success

    Your Desires Are The Key To Your Sober Success

    You might know what you don't want, but knowing what your deepest desires are and tapping into them, mind, body heart and soul, will create your inevitable success in sobriety.  Today we dive into the depths of our desires, showing that sobriety empowers us to manifest a life beyond imagination. Let's uncover your truest yearnings, fostering a lifestyle of authenticity and fulfillment. 
    Key takeaways:
    Sobriety is a stepping stone to a life filled with vision and dreams.Mindfulness and somatic practices are invaluable in transcending cravings and anchoring in genuine aspirations.Embodying desires while releasing alcohol's  grip requires courage and commitment.The journey to becoming Naturally Sober is within reach with the five-shift process.Embrace your desires and chart a course for a life of true pleasure and alignment.Click Here To Join The Sustainable Sobriety Course Today. YOU CAN BREAK FREE FROM THE CYCLE OF STOPPING AND STARTING AND THE TRAP OF MODERATION,
    BY EMBRACING A PATH THAT ALLOWS YOU TO MOVE FORWARD WITHOUT THE BURDEN OF COUNTING DAYS OR HIDING YOUR TRUE SELF.
    Sustainable Sobriety Is Here! Keep the needle moving forward no matter if you do or don't drink.
    Join Sustainable Sobriety Course, where you'll learn everything to find the confidence to be authentically you in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.

    • 21 min
    Comparison Narrative

    Comparison Narrative

    Today we are having an eye-opening conversation about alcohols so-called benefits. We're breaking down the myth that alcohol affects us all differently, revealing the universal chemical impact it has on our bodies—whether it's wreaking havoc on our nervous systems, disrupting our gut biomes, or throwing our endocrine systems out of balance. 

    My five shifts process is set to challenge your current beliefs about drinking, peeling back the veil to expose the illusions of pleasure and connection that alcohol promises but doesn't deliver.


    Redefine self-concept in a world where alcohol loses its grip, transitioning from a central role to a mere afterthought in your life. Learn how to step away from damaging comparative narratives that hold us back, and embrace a path of self-love and compassion. Merge spiritual alignment and a feminine perspective to cultivate a sobriety that's not just a fleeting phase, but a lasting transformation. How to realign with your deepest sense of selfClick Here To Join The Sustainable Sobriety Course Today. YOU CAN BREAK FREE FROM THE CYCLE OF STOPPING AND STARTING AND THE TRAP OF MODERATION,
    BY EMBRACING A PATH THAT ALLOWS YOU TO MOVE FORWARD WITHOUT THE BURDEN OF COUNTING DAYS OR HIDING YOUR TRUE SELF.
    Sustainable Sobriety Is Here! Keep the needle moving forward no matter if you do or don't drink.
    Join Sustainable Sobriety Course, where you'll learn everything to find the confidence to be authentically you in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.

    • 15 min
    Rethinking the Romance of Alcohol and Authentic Joy

    Rethinking the Romance of Alcohol and Authentic Joy

    Have you ever found yourself caught up in the enchanting haze of alcohol's promise, believing it holds the key to life's most thrilling chapters? Unpacking  the cultural narrative that paints alcohol as the hero of our stories, the liberator of our inhibitions, and the spark in the romance of life. Explore how these potent tales influence our perceptions and entice us to chase an illusion of freedom that alcohol seems to offer.

    Through the intricacies of pleasure, autonomy, and the societal pressures that shape our experiences—especially through the lens of women's voices. 

    We'll confront the authenticity of joy as it's often depicted, intertwined with alcohol, and challenge the notion that our past indulgences are somehow superior to the possibilities that await us.  With a blend of coaching, mindfulness, and vibrant conversation, let's reimagine a life of romance and connection unclouded by expectations—a journey where each step is an authentic expression of self, crafted by our own hands and hearts. 

    Learn how every moment can be savored to its fullest without the need for a glass in hand. Join us! 
    Click Here To Join The Sustainable Sobriety Course Today. YOU CAN BREAK FREE FROM THE CYCLE OF STOPPING AND STARTING AND THE TRAP OF MODERATION,
    BY EMBRACING A PATH THAT ALLOWS YOU TO MOVE FORWARD WITHOUT THE BURDEN OF COUNTING DAYS OR HIDING YOUR TRUE SELF.
    Sustainable Sobriety Is Here! Keep the needle moving forward no matter if you do or don't drink.
    Join Sustainable Sobriety Course, where you'll learn everything to find the confidence to be authentically you in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.

    • 22 min
    The Path To Self-Acceptance

    The Path To Self-Acceptance

    Self-acceptance is crucial  if you've ever questioned your relationship with alcohol. This episode is a heartfelt invitation to peel back the layers of self-doubt and limiting beliefs, revealing the bright essence of who you truly are. 

    Learn how to rekindle  trust in your instincts, and together, we'll confront the stories we've constructed about our worth, our habits, and our need for external validation. 

    In a world brimming with comparison, learn to embrace your unique narrative and uncover the joy of expressing your deepest, most authentic thoughts.

    Dance and music serve as our companions in the journey of reconnecting to self. 

    We'll explore the synergy of sobriety and self-acceptance, finding refuge in the safety of our own skin. 

    I'll share techniques like breathwork and visualization to anchor your journey in gratitude for the vessel that carries you through life. 

    From the grounding energy of the root chakra to the gentle embrace of mindfulness, witness the power of presence in transforming everyday experiences into profound moments of clarity and belonging.

    I want to celebrate the clarity that sobriety brings to our lives.  These insights offer the next step to recognizing your fundamental human rights, to feeling rooted in your existence, and to expressing thanks for the many facets of your being. 

    Whether you're yearning to break free from old patterns or seeking spiritual alignment for a more fulfilling life, this episode holds space for your personal evolution. 
    Click Here To Join The Sustainable Sobriety Course Today. YOU CAN BREAK FREE FROM THE CYCLE OF STOPPING AND STARTING AND THE TRAP OF MODERATION,
    BY EMBRACING A PATH THAT ALLOWS YOU TO MOVE FORWARD WITHOUT THE BURDEN OF COUNTING DAYS OR HIDING YOUR TRUE SELF.
    Sustainable Sobriety Is Here! Keep the needle moving forward no matter if you do or don't drink.
    Join Sustainable Sobriety Course, where you'll learn everything to find the confidence to be authentically you in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.

    • 21 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
87 Ratings

87 Ratings

NickHoov ,

Mary has Saved my Life!

I found Mary the day after I decided (on my own terms) to actively pursue a life on the other side of alcohol. Mary is amazing! She is so in tune with what I was already feeling in my heart and validated my thoughts and feelings to the point I was in tears (happy tears). I was SO in need of a voice of support and I have found the biggest gift by finding Mary and her podcast. Thank you Mary!!! You are a savior. You are so well spoken and so down to earth. Your voice is my voice in my head that I just couldn’t articulate and get out. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️ You make me feel heard and understood and I am well on my way to living my best life. Your work helps women in so many more ways than just “quitting alcohol”. Your holistic approach is truly a godsend!

Mrsteevee ,

It’s the Brca test…and it saves lives!

So I tuned in since I’m a sober gal and was curious. In the first ten minutes Mary says she doesn’t like fear based information. Ok I agree. She then goes on to say that the brca gene test -she doesn’t even know what it’s called so she says “ummm you know that breast cancer test..like why would anyone want to know that?” Ma’am do you know how many women’s lives have been saved by knowing they carry the gene for breast cancer? Which is also the gene for ovarian cancer the most deadly cancer for women. Being a podcast host in this vein carries responsibility. Responsibility to not negate important medical tests and instead be informed.
And of course the other problem with this podcast is the delivery and the speaking manner. Vocal fry and over enunciation is really annoying in a grown woman. Anyway I sure hope no one listening ignores their medical familial history because of this woo woo delulu host

megabucks2020 ,

She’s inside my brain!

I love how Mary explains why we do somethings and struggle with other things. I especially love how she helps us connect with our bigger life desires. I always find a nugget (or multiples) in every episode. Thanks Mary!

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