Stop Parenting & Start Coaching

Nate Crandall and Steve Galley
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Parenting is the hardest job and there's not a close second! And, parenting children and teens who are athletes and performers provides a unique set of challenges. It requires parents to approach their relationships and interactions from a new perspective. Join Certified High Performance Coaches™ Nate Crandall & Steve Galley, who with their nearly 60 years of coaching, teaching, and parenting experience, guide you on a fun and enlightening journey in the challenging and exciting world of parenting uh, coaching your teen athlete or performer! The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast will provide you with impactful insights and practical tips to help you to transform your parenting. Thank you for watching and/or listening on YouTube (The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast), Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts!

  1. PARENTS: Are You Sleeping on This?!

    3D AGO

    PARENTS: Are You Sleeping on This?!

    Here’s the truth: sleep is a system, not a character issue. So if your plan is “hope they choose better,” you’ll keep getting the same results. In this episode, we ask the questions you need to build a practical sleep system with mutual agreements. Using our Question Only Conversation approach will increase buy-in and cooperation that will help you both sleep well--like a baby (that doesn't wake up all night!). And if you stick around to the end you'll get the 3-2-1 framework, a simple system to help you create a high performance sleep habit!! Let's goooooooooooo................................to sleep! Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz. The Timestamps 00:00 The Importance of Sleep Conversations 02:47 Understanding Sleep as a Biological Need 05:24 Empowering Teens to Own Their Sleep 08:12 Effective Communication Strategies for Parents 10:07 The Question-Only Conversation Technique 12:28 Challenging the Grind Mentality 14:50 Creating a Sleep Agreement 17:45 The 321 Sleep Framework Key Topics -Sleep is a system, not a character issue. -Mutual sleep agreements and conversations must happen. -The tried and true 3-2-1 sleep framework! -Question-only conversations to influence teen behavior. - The impact of sleep on performance and mental health. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us:Please follow us and connect with us: Search "Steve Galley" on LinkedIn. Let’s gooooooooo moms and dads–you got this! -Nate & Steve

    25 min
  2. PARENTS: Are They Getting Enough?!

    FEB 17

    PARENTS: Are They Getting Enough?!

    Teen sleep isn’t just “discipline”—it’s biology. We unpack the teen brain, circadian shifts, recovery, and why inconsistent schedules sabotage energy and focus. We also talk school start times and the ripple effects on mental health and performance. Then we translate it into practical routines you can actually implement by sharing our Sleep Starter Pack with you. Let's go Most Valuable Parents!!!! The Timestamps 00:00 The Importance of Sleep for Performance 03:12 Understanding Recovery and Brain Development 05:55 Equipping Teens for Better Sleep 08:43 The Impact of Sleep on Mental Health and Injury Prevention 10:57 The Role of Consistency in Sleep Patterns 13:13 Advocating for Later School Start Times 15:35 The Sleep Starter Pack: Practical Tips for Parents Takeaways -Equipping kids with energy is crucial for performance. -Sleep is essential for brain development and recovery. -Teens need 8 to 10 hours of sleep for optimal health. -Sleep problems can lead to emotional and mental health issues. -Inadequate sleep increases the risk of injury in teens. -Consistency in sleep schedules is vital for teens. -School start times should be later to benefit students. -Parents should engage in conversations about sleep with their teens. -Creating a sleep starter pack can help facilitate discussions. -Understanding the biological needs of teens can improve sleep habits. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us:Please follow us and connect with us: Search "Steve Galley" on LinkedIn. Let’s gooooooooo moms and dads–you got this! -Nate & Steve

    23 min
  3. Are You in the Market for Relationship Insurance?

    FEB 10

    Are You in the Market for Relationship Insurance?

    In this episode--the third in a series about playing time--we get blunt and right to the truth about the fact that parents struggle to stay neutral. Confirmation bias creeps in and rescuing becomes a habit. What follows is pressure and tension in every conversation or or coach bashing ensues. You love them so much and your intentions are pure, but why is this not working? Much of it is the proximity of you to them and the emotions swirling around in this relationship. So we give you a better play: protect the sacred parent-teen relationship with “relationship insurance.” Learn how to communicate without escalating and how to support emotionally without performing as their designated sport coach. As well as understanding that a neutral, outside voice is the smartest move you can make for your teen’s development—and your connection. The Timestamps 00:00 The Challenge of Coaching Your Own Kids 02:23 Understanding Parental Bias in Youth Sports 05:10 The Impact of Emotional Proximity 07:56 The Role of Outside Voices in Mindset Coaching 10:45 Navigating Status Panic and Expectations 13:09 Building Relationship Insurance with Teens Takeaways -Parents often struggle with neutrality when coaching their own children. -Confirmation bias can cloud parents' judgment regarding their child's performance. -Rescuing behavior can undermine a teen's ability to handle challenges independently. -Neutrality is essential for effective mindset coaching. -Outside voices can provide valuable support and perspective for teens. -Parents should focus on emotional support rather than performance pressure. -The relationship between parents and teens is sacred and irreplaceable. -Bringing in outside voices helps maintain a safe and supportive environment for teens. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us:Please follow us and connect with us: Search "Steve Galley" on LinkedIn. Let’s gooooooooo moms and dads–you got this! -Nate & Steve

    18 min
  4. Duct Tape, Yeah-Buts, & Anchors!!

    FEB 3

    Duct Tape, Yeah-Buts, & Anchors!!

    Playing time is a pressure cooker because it pokes at every parent trigger: fairness, status, control, fear, and helplessness. And if we’re honest, it can feel personal—even when it isn’t. In today's conversation, we deliver a fantastic "reframe" to help you model a healthy response to non-preferred outcomes so your teen learns the real life skill: dealing with disappointment without losing identity, effort, or connection. You’ll learn how to spot your “yeah, buts,” reset your expectations, and have the kind of calm, clear conversation that builds trust—especially when your teen is already on edge. Let's gooooooooooooo Most Valuable Parents!! The Timestamps 00:00 Navigating Playing Time and Parental Pride 03:23 Understanding Control and Helplessness in Sports 06:29 Expectations and Communication with Teens 08:43 Life Lessons from Sports and Non-Preferred Outcomes 11:42 The Duct Tape Analogy: Managing Emotions 14:40 The 24-Hour Rule: Emotional Recovery 16:18 Reframing the Parent-Teen Dynamic Takeaways -Playing time can induce trauma for both parents and teens. -Understanding what is within our control is crucial in handling "playing time." -Parents should model healthy emotional responses to outcomes. -The 24-hour rule helps in managing emotional reactions. -Identifying 'yeah, buts' can clarify our emotional responses. -Being an anchor for our teens is more important than rescuing them. -Life skills are learned in sports by responding well to non-preferred outcomes. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley Let’s gooooooooo moms and dads–you got this! -Nate & Steve

    21 min
  5. Are You a "Mild Manager" or "Perturbed Prosecutor?!"

    JAN 27

    Are You a "Mild Manager" or "Perturbed Prosecutor?!"

    Newsflash! Life isn’t fair. Yep, we all know it! And high school sports and competition are no exception. "It's not fair!" -- the common refrain heard among parents and players and yes, even coaches! And guess what? You are probably right when you're screaming "that is NOT fair!" But your teen athlete or performer doesn’t needs a parent who coaches them into Blaming, Complaining, Defending and Explaining. This perpetuates a victim mindset! In this episode, we coach you through the two things you can always control: your perspective and your response. We’ll unpack why complaining feels productive (but usually backfires), how to keep connection strong when emotions run hot, and how to lead like a calm, mild manager instead of an angry, perturbed prosecutor. If you want your teen athlete to build resilience and confidence under pressure, this starts with how you handle “it's not fair!!” The Timestamps 00:00 The Fairness Addiction 03:14 Playing Time and Parental Perspectives 05:59 The Poison of Complaining 08:45 Understanding Coaches' Decisions 11:34 Perspective and Emotional Discipline 13:30 Important Questions for Parents 16:02 The Prosecutor vs. Manager Mindset 18:59 Modeling Behavior for Teens Takeaways Fairness can become an addiction that affects our mindset.Complaining about unfairness can lead to negative outcomes.Life is inherently unfair, and we must learn to accept that.Parents should focus on what they can control in sports.Understanding the coach's perspective can help mitigate feelings of unfairness.Modeling emotional discipline is crucial for parents.Questions can help parents gain perspective on their child's situation.It's important to avoid labeling coaches negatively without understanding their decisions.Parents should strive to be managers rather than prosecutors in sports situations.Maintaining a positive outlook can benefit both parents and athletes.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% -Nate & Steve

    27 min
  6. Should I Just Do Nothing?!

    JAN 19

    Should I Just Do Nothing?!

    Here’s the hard truth: the moment your teen feels evaluated, the conversation gets worse—and so does your influence. In this episode, we help you build emotional safety without lowering standards, and teach you how to stay calm when your teen isn’t. You’ll get simple, real-life ways to respond when things get tense--when you start feeling "judgy"--plus actionable steps you can use today to reduce conflict, strengthen connection, and support your teen athlete’s mindset the smart way. Hang in there because we're going to drop The 5 Second Lane Test, a simple tool you'll want to have in your Parental Toolkit when you are about ready to make a communication error. This tool is dynamite and will help you blow up the old you and allow you to parent from a neutral position!! Let's goooooooooooo! The Timestamps 00:00 Navigating Parenting Challenges 02:58 The Role of Non-Parental Coaches 05:51 Building a Safe Home Base 08:33 Understanding Emotional Regulation 11:29 The Importance of Neutrality 14:04 Action Steps for Parents 16:29 The Five Second Lane Test Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% -Nate & Steve

    25 min
  7. PARENTS: Are You "The Fixer?"

    JAN 12

    PARENTS: Are You "The Fixer?"

    Here’s the hard truth: your teen athlete/performer might be hiding struggles because they don’t want your common reaction. You tend to activate full-blown Fixer Mode! This doesn't make you a "bad parent" but there is a better way to approach this situation and the opportunity for growth and improved connection is waiting for you. In our bantering and discussion in this episode we call out the mistake we ALL make as parents because we love our offspring so much! We want to FIX their problems for them when sometimes they just want and need us to listen in a way that creates some safety and space to get something off their chest. Asking questions that allow them to be open and honest sets you up to coach your teen athlete/performer into creating their own solutions and building confidence. All without turning every moment into a lecture or a fix it session. Let's gooooooooooo Most Valuable Parents! The Timestamps 00:00 Understanding Teen Struggles 02:33 The Role of Parents as Fixers 05:30 Listening vs. Fixing: The Emotional Safety 08:13 Effective Communication Strategies 10:57 The Detective Approach to Parenting 14:00 Supporting Teen Growth and Independence Takeaways -Teens may hide struggles to avoid parental "fixing." -Parents often jump into problem-solving mode too quickly. -Emotional safety is crucial for open communication. -Listening is more important than providing immediate solutions. -The "curse of knowledge" can hinder effective parenting. -Asking questions can empower teens to find their own solutions. -Parents should adopt a "detective" approach to understand situations better. -Fixing problems can sometimes damage the parent-teen connection. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% -Nate & Steve

    19 min
  8. Are You Making this Same Mistake Other Parents are Making?!

    JAN 5

    Are You Making this Same Mistake Other Parents are Making?!

    Wanna know how to pause, find the “why” behind your reaction, and respond like a calm, high-performance coach—not a panicked or crazed bleacher creature?! Stick with us in this episode because we have some burning questions for you along with a few simple preemptive strikes you can launch before the next competition, plus some communication moves that protect connection with your high achieving teen athlete or performer, especially when emotions run red hot! The Timestamps 00:00 The Common Parental Mistake 03:18 Understanding Emotional Reactions 05:17 The Impact of Highly Emotional Reactions on Relationships 08:00 Navigating a Coach's Substitutions and Your Teen's Mistakes 10:22 The Importance of a Big Picture Perspective 12:33 Preemptive Strike Strategies for Parents Before the Competition Takeaways -Reactions can create blind spots that hinder understanding. -Parents often react without realizing the impact on their children. -Emotional attachment can drive irrational responses. -It's crucial to pause and reflect on a proper response vs. a knee jerk reaction. -Understanding the 'why' behind reactions can prevent misunderstandings. -Parents should focus on what truly matters in competitive situations. -Preemptive strike strategies can help manage emotional responses. -Communication is key to maintaining healthy relationships with teens. -Parents should strive to be aware of their emotional triggers. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% -Nate & Steve

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Parenting is the hardest job and there's not a close second! And, parenting children and teens who are athletes and performers provides a unique set of challenges. It requires parents to approach their relationships and interactions from a new perspective. Join Certified High Performance Coaches™ Nate Crandall & Steve Galley, who with their nearly 60 years of coaching, teaching, and parenting experience, guide you on a fun and enlightening journey in the challenging and exciting world of parenting uh, coaching your teen athlete or performer! The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast will provide you with impactful insights and practical tips to help you to transform your parenting. Thank you for watching and/or listening on YouTube (The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast), Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts!

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