60 episodes

Want the academic take on dating in the modern world? Legal scholar Irina Manta and psychologist Michelle Lange bring you the latest on how to swipe your way through dating apps, find love, navigate complex relationships, and avoid narcissists and other predators. Come learn about cutting-edge research and find out how to make online dating work for YOU!
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Strangers on the Internet Irina Manta & Michelle Lange

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.9 • 45 Ratings

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Want the academic take on dating in the modern world? Legal scholar Irina Manta and psychologist Michelle Lange bring you the latest on how to swipe your way through dating apps, find love, navigate complex relationships, and avoid narcissists and other predators. Come learn about cutting-edge research and find out how to make online dating work for YOU!
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    The Dating Professors: How to Deal with Commitment Phobia

    The Dating Professors: How to Deal with Commitment Phobia

    One of the chief complaints of dating app users (and especially straight women) is that commitment phobia abounds in those they meet. Can people with commitment phobia ever change? And if so, can they ever be nudged into such change? What happens when someone commits out of fear of losing the other person? Irina and Michelle discuss all that and more on this episode, so listen up!
    Show notes
    bell hooks's book "All About Love: New Visions"

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    • 51 min
    Guest Chat: The Philosopher and the Engineer with Dr. Michele Merritt and Paul Hiebing

    Guest Chat: The Philosopher and the Engineer with Dr. Michele Merritt and Paul Hiebing

    On this episode, Arkansas State University philosophy professor Michele Merritt joins us from Tennessee with her engineer husband Paul Hiebing. The couple discusses meeting online and navigating life from dating in Florida to getting married, moving states twice, and adding both kids and pets. How have they weathered mental health challenges, including ones resulting from Michele being adopted and reconnecting with her biological relatives? The couple opens up about depression, suicidality, emotional labor, and the integration of their busy lives. Come check it out!
    Michele Merritt's website
    Michele's faculty profile
    Michele's "Minding Dogs" book

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    • 49 min
    The Dating Professors: Should You Ever Date at Work?

    The Dating Professors: Should You Ever Date at Work?

    According to recent data and media reports, Gen Z has some enthusiasm for dating in the workplace. Is that a good idea, however? Irina and Michelle dissect the pros and cons of finding a significant other at work. What happens if things fall apart and people have to keep collaborating after a break-up? And how might scenarios play out if there is an uneven power dynamic between the individuals involved? The Dating Professors take a look at the issues involved from regular dating situations to extramarital affairs. You won't believe what happened when Michelle worked at Blockbuster Video and later during her psychology practicum!
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    • 41 min
    Guest Chat: Sex Addiction with D.J. Burr

    Guest Chat: Sex Addiction with D.J. Burr

    On this episode, Irina and Michelle chat with psychotherapist and sex addiction specialist D.J. Burr. In recovery from sex addiction himself, D.J. explains the condition and the path toward improvement. He discusses how trauma connects to addiction, how dating apps cause special problems for those with addiction, and why he thinks porn can never be used in healthy ways. D.J. also describes the therapy process involved in recovery and the importance of addressing the issue of shame. Check out this episode filled with information and vulnerability.
    D.J. Burr's website
    D.J.'s Linktree
    D.J.'s "I Just Wanted Love" book (free chapter here)




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    • 50 min
    The Dating Professors: Do Opposites Attract?

    The Dating Professors: Do Opposites Attract?

    "Opposites attract," the old adage goes. Is that really true, however? Irina and Michelle delve into the ways that disparities are a drawback versus advantage in relationships. What are some of the Dating Professors' personal habits and preferences that they think would cause conflict if a mate was diametrically different? Come listen to an exploration of the role of athletic commitment, love of or distaste for going out, and the clash between early birds and night owls.
    Plus don't forget to check out our "Strangers on the Internet" Facebook page for a bonus relationship exercise mentioned in the episode!

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    • 50 min
    Guest Chat: The Artist's Way with Sebastian

    Guest Chat: The Artist's Way with Sebastian

    On this episode, Irina and Michelle talk to German visual artist Sebastian, whom Irina met on a long train ride in Europe over a decade ago. He is a photographer, comic artist, graphic designer, illustrator, silk-screen printer, painter, and musician who has lived as a digital nomad for some time. From photographing Iggy Pop to having his work appear in the New York Times, and from living in Germany to England, Brazil, the United States, and Japan, Sebastian has seen it all. He opens up about why he finds dating difficult and how he does not want to use a partner as a crutch. The blank canvas awaits, and we discuss the kinds of women or men that Sebastian would like to invite into the story.
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    • 45 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
45 Ratings

45 Ratings

Former online dater ,

Very entertaining and current !

The cohosts do their utmost to be genuine and present timely topics relevant to all navigating the strange and often stressful world of dating apps.

JEPZ16 ,

Top notch

Amazing, intelligent conversation led by engaging hosts. A must-listen!

parentfrommidwest ,

Terrific content

Terrific podcast!! Content is excellent. But get some different music.

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