Stubborn Love Paige Bond

In this episode of Stubborn Love, host Paige Bond is joined by Lianna Purjes, a licensed therapist and empowerment coach. They dive deep into the topics like overcoming childhood trauma and dysfunctional family dynamics, particularly those stemming from alcoholic homes. 



Lianna shares valuable insights on understanding attachment styles, regulating stress responses, setting boundaries, and nurturing healthy relationships. You’ll walk away from this episode with practical strategies for emotional regulation and communication skills. 



Key Topics:

00:55 Special Guest: Lianna Purjes on Overcoming Childhood Trauma

03:28 The Power of Understanding Attachment in Healing

04:40 Exploring the Impact of Attachment and Emotional Regulation

08:26 Navigating Codependency and Setting Boundaries

17:16 Emotion Regulation and Coping Strategies

26:55 The Importance of Communication in Relationships

36:33 Lianna's Group Coaching Program: Resentment to Resilience



Lianna Purjes is a licensed therapist and empowerment coach helping women who grew up in alcoholic homes overcome resentment, people-pleasing, and fears of abandonment so they can build healthy and fulfilling relationships. 



Connect with Lianna

FB page: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555634097090 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithlianna/ 

Link to book a call with me: https://www.coachingwithlianna.com/ 

FB group that houses all my freebies: https://www.facebook.com/groups/resentmenttoresilience 

Free Group for Neurodivergent Men Rescuing their Relationships: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ndmenrelationships/ 



Connect with Paige Bond

Instagram: @paigebondcoaching

Facebook: @paigebondcoaching

TikTok: @paigebondcoaching

Website: https://paigebond.com



Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.

Free Jealousy Workbook: 

⁠⁠http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download⁠⁠

Free People Pleasing Workbook: 

⁠⁠https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbook⁠⁠



Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.

Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.

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Do you want a fulfilling love and sex life but find yourself in never ending fights and avoiding intimacy altogether? This episode goes over CRUCIAL conversations you need to get your sex and love life back on track. 

Key takeaways from the episode:


How important communication is in enhancing sexual intimacy between partners


What role foreplay has in a fulfilling sexual experience and how time can vary for a partner’s needs


What aftercare is and why it’s just as important as foreplay


How couples can address and overcome mismatches in their need for physical touch



Katie Ziskind specializes in helping disconnected couples who want to work together after high conflict fights, affairs, sexual avoidance, and sexual rejection to develop a foundation of emotional connection, trust, love, and gain sex positive skills to understand foreplay, sexual pleasure, rebuild sexual desire, connect to their sexual, erotic playful side. 

Katie helps couples feel safe and excited emotionally and sexually about growing together. She gives you a safe place to talk about how your strict, conservative, religious upbringing has lead to feelings of shame, guilt, fear, avoidance, lack of satisfaction, and anxiety around sex and shift into reconnecting to sexual pleasure. She helps couples get familiar and comfortable talking about sex and gain sex positive education. 

Noteworthy quotes from this episode:

[8:45] “Sometimes we grow up in a strict conservative and religious upbringing, where we get no education on sex, and then we also get misinformation. Like sometimes we learn that like sex toys are bad or masturbation is bad and it's like none of those things are inherently bad. We just don't learn about how they can be tools to learn about ourselves or to build desire.

[15:18] “we're very groomed in society to like, You know, pay the bills or like go grocery shopping and you know, take the kids to soccer practice and those are beautiful things that are publicly socially acceptable but you know, we're not taught from a young age: hey, like, let's talk about what areas on your partner's body that they really like touched or what areas do you like touched and how can you vocalize that”

Connect with Katie

Book a free phone consult to work with me at www.WisdomWithinCt.com

Instagram.com/WisdomWithinCt 

All Things Love and Intimacy Podcast with Katie Ziskind

https://wisdomwithinct.com/podcast/

Sex and intimacy course on teachable that therapists and couples wanting help with pleasure, sexual confidence, orgasming and sexual intimacy can take for $20. Check it out https://sex-and-intimacy-course.teachable.com  

Connect with Paige Bond

Instagram: @paigebondcoaching

Facebook: @paigebondcoaching

TikTok: @paigebondcoaching

Website: https://paigebond.com

Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.

Free Jealousy Workbook: 

⁠⁠http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download⁠⁠

Free People Pleasing Workbook: 

⁠⁠https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbook⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.

Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.

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This episode digs deep into the journey of strengthening relationships through the Gottman method, sharing personal anecdotes and professional insights. 

Key takeaways from the episode:


What is the Gottman method and how does it apply to couples therapy?


What are 'bids' in the context of relationship dynamics, and why are they important?


The impact of individual therapy on couples' dynamic


How does the intersection of mental health with kink, BDSM, ethical non-monogamy, and LGBTQ issues impact therapy and relational understanding?


How can communication and understanding intentions in relationships lead to better connection and trust?


What strategies can couples adopt from the Gottman method to prevent relationship issues and strengthen their bond?



A former Industrial and Systems Engineer, Derek Wittman is an LMHC in NY and LPC in PA with over 10 years in clinical practice. From the treatment of Substance Use Disorders to couples therapy with the Gottman Method, he had seen families reconnect in healing  from the grip of trauma into restored relationships. 

With precious operations management experience, Wittman has recently taken the leap from his Clinical Manager position with a top 10 national healthcare company to start his own solo private practice.

Noteworthy quotes from this episode:

[27:17] "and I recognize that if she is hurt about something I did or said, that's absolutely valid, it doesn't mean that she hates me, it means that she trusts me enough to say it. And I'm so glad that I can offer her that level of safety, that she can rest on me and rest in a relationship and I don't get offended by her feelings. I want her to feel safe with me. I see in various communities that I'm a part of where ‘Am I overreacting?’  is a very common question. It's like, well, your feelings are not a reaction period. They're all internal. What are you doing with those feelings? You're throwing a temper tantrum?  Are you crying? Are you calmly sharing  how you feel about something? I hope I can always be calmly sharing or receiving something.”

Connect with Derek

Www.sageintime.com 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php/?id=100092603180057 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sage-in-time-podcast/id1721609280 

Connect with Paige Bond

Instagram: @paigebondcoaching

Facebook: @paigebondcoaching

TikTok: @paigebondcoaching

Website: https://paigebond.com

Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.

Free Jealousy Workbook: 

⁠⁠http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download⁠⁠

Free People Pleasing Workbook: 

⁠⁠https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbook⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.

Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.

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Summary

Simon Rinne is a licensed social worker and shared his personal journey of dealing with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, overcoming alcohol misuse, and his experience finding the right therapists, leading to his commitment to men's mental health.

Key takeaways from the episode:


How the home environment and societal pressures impact men's mental health. We talk about how these pressures can be mitigated.


Simon’s concept to challenge societal norms and embrace a fuller, more emotionally expressive definition of masculinity.


Why is finding the right therapist so important and how can it significantly enhance the effectiveness of the therapy?


Simon's holistic approach to therapy involves blended lifestyle modifications, professional help, and supportive relationships.


How partners can play a supportive role in the journey of men’s mental health.



Simon is a husband and father, mental health advocate and social worker. As the Founder of Mindful Men, he’s dedicated to supporting men with mental illness and disability. Simon lived with OCD, Depression, Anxiety, and Burnout for 30 years, struggling in silence, using alcohol to feel "normal."  At 28 Simon began the journey of healing and hopes to inspire others to believe that they can turn their pain into purpose, and move from surviving to thriving.

Noteworthy quotes from this episode:

[07:15] "I expected to walk into the doctor and the psych and they heal me after one session and that would be it. They give me a magic pill and that would be it. Didn't happen. Um, I didn't really discover that  you need to do the work on yourself and really start changing the way you look at yourself until I burned out.”

[35:34] "I think we need to start normalizing mental health in the same way that we normalize our physical health. Our minds are important part of it because the mind is what gets everything going. So if our mind's cluttered or, fuzzy or depressed or anything like that there's there's ways that we can fix that."

Connect with Simon

www.mindful-men.com.au

https://www.facebook.com/groups/2050441875316594/ (free Facebook community for men)

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mindful.men.aus

IG: https://www.instagram.com/mindful.men.aus/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/mindful.men.aus

Connect with Paige Bond

Instagram: @paigebondcoaching

Facebook: @paigebondcoaching

TikTok: @paigebondcoaching

Website: https://paigebond.com

Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.

Free Jealousy Workbook: 

⁠⁠http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download⁠⁠

Free People Pleasing Workbook: 

⁠⁠https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbook⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.

Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.

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Summary

Betrayal in relationships, discovering cheating, or realizing the person is not who you thought they were. All of these are painful relational experiences that can take quite the journey to recover from, but it doesn’t have to be painful or long with the help of Accelerated Resolution Therapy.

Key takeaways from the episode:


Learn what betrayal trauma is and how it shows up in relationships


Discover the emotional impact of betrayal trauma on your own sense of trust


Understand the role of “Protector” for future betrayal


Find out how Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) can address the root wounds and relieve traumatic responses.



Katie K. May is a therapist, group practice owner, speaker, author, and consultant. As a Linehan Board-Certified Therapist and Master Accelerated Resolution Therapy Practitioner, her expertise shines in her work with depressed teens, the LGBTQ community, and parents dealing with the complex emotions surrounding their child's mental health challenges while reimagining their future. 

Katie's deep passion lies in helping "black sheep," neurodivergent individuals, and those with traumatic backgrounds, find their sense of belonging. Together, she collaborates with her clients to create personalized coping strategies that empower them to navigate overwhelming emotions and build a life of connection and purpose.

Noteworthy quotes from this episode:

[07:44] "I can help my clients regulate and  restructure their beliefs about who they can trust and how they can trust themselves and really activate that self trust again and decrease the self blame."

[31:00] "It is typical in betrayal trauma for your body to go into overdrive and to overcorrect. If you were trusting before, [you may] be completely untrusting as a way to protect yourself which is an extreme that is intended to protect you, but in fact, likely doesn't serve you at all."

Connect with Katie

Website: creativehealingphilly.com 

Instagram: @creative_healing

Facebook: facebook.com/creativehealingphilly

TikTok: @teensupportcenter

Connect with Paige Bond

Instagram: @paigebondcoaching

Facebook: @paigebondcoaching

TikTok: @paigebondcoaching

Website: https://paigebond.com

Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.

Free Jealousy Workbook: 

⁠⁠http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download⁠⁠

Free People Pleasing Workbook: 

⁠⁠https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbook⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.

Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.

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This episodes features a solo episode with your host, Paige Bond, LMFT who provides premarital therapy for couples. 

You'll learn about:


The benefits of premarital counseling
If you HAVE to be struggling with something to seek premarital counseling
Common signs that you may need premarital counseling
What types of skills will you learn in premarital therapy
When to start premarital therapy
Common topics covered during premarital counseling



Paige Bond is the host of the Stubborn Love podcast, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and the Creator of the Jealousy to Joy Journey. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease.

Want to learn ten effective strategies to calm your jealousy in less time than it takes to finish your morning coffee ☕ ⏰?  Download Now at www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download

Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.

Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357) Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.

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