Successful Women Think Differently Valorie Burton

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Having a vision and a goal is great, but there’s one thing that will help you get to the next level faster and you probably have never heard of it.
It’s called a personal growth action plan. 

Oftentimes, we think that the reason it's taking a long time to reach our goals is because we're not taking the right steps. 

But it's really much bigger than just knowing what steps to take. What is even more important is understanding what’s stopping you from taking those steps.

Do you know what the growth gap is that is keeping you from moving forward and keeping you stuck? (If you don’t, go check out Episode 34!)

This is often where our fears, habits, distractions, sometimes circumstances can block us from growing even when we know exactly what to do. 

Discover the personal growth action plan framework and how to use it to reach your goals in 2024. 


In This Episode:
- Why we can’t move forward even though we know what steps to take
- Identifying your growth gaps
- How to close your growth gaps
- Experimenting with new action to close your growth gaps
- How to leverage “positive peer pressure” to get better results
- Big changes for the Successful Women Think Differently Podcast

Resources Mentioned:
Explore how SWA can be your guide in creating and sustaining your personal growth action plan. Visit ValorieBurton.com for details.


Connect with Valorie Burton:
Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ 
Website - https://valorieburton.com/ 
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ 
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/  
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/  
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton 

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If you’re heading into the new year wanting to set goals but you just don’t want it to be another year of goals you didn’t complete. Another year of setting up the same goals for yourself.
Well, this is the episode for you.
Setting goals can often be easy enough. We know we need to set up SMART goals, and small goals, and even sub-goals…Everyone talks about it.
But so often, we still end up missing the mark. Why?
A sneaky little thing called growth gaps. The way YOU need to grow in order to go where you want to go.

Learn what you need to do to ensure 2024 is the year you address those gaps on this episode of the Successful Women Think Differently podcast.

In This Episode:
- What is a growth gap?
- Is fear holding you back?
- Bad habits, missing habits, inconsistent habits
- Are you distracted?
- Is this the right time?


Connect with Valorie Burton:
Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/
Website - https://valorieburton.com/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/

In an ideal world, we’d all admit we need help and get coaching to work on improving ourselves.
But that takes two things:
1. Admitting it - which is possibly what you’ve already done by being here
2. A coach - which you may not have or be able to afford yet
So, while we wait for everything to work together for your good and for you to eventually have a coach, what else can we do to make sure we’re moving forward?
Well, we can self-coach. Self-coaching is something we should do whether we have an external coach or not, but all the more so if we don’t.

Life is hard, and we face various challenges that we don’t often know how to navigate. We can get overwhelmed by decisions or indecision and we can get stuck in our minds.

But being your own coach is like having a toolkit to navigate these challenges that come your way. It requires pausing, reflecting, and coming up with not just the answers but the process of getting to the answers.

Find out what key questions you should be asking yourself during your next self-coaching session. And for some FREE external coaching in the new year, check out: https://valorieburton.com/visionboardchallenge2024 


In This Episode:
- Self-coaching - The basic framework to find answers for yourself
- Identifying the problem
- What’s the vision? What do you want?
- Identify fears, habits and distractions
- Key coaching questions to ask yourself
- What to do when you don’t know what to do


Connect with Valorie Burton:
Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ 
Website - https://valorieburton.com/ 
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ 
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/  
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/  
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton 

Being an overachiever is dangerous.
Overachievers often feel the need to constantly prove themselves through accomplishments, and tend to burnout because they’re never satisfied with how far they’ve come.
We can tend to think that being an overachiever is a good thing but realistically, it’s unsustainable.
Instead, we should aim to be high achievers who focus on intrinsic motivation and personal growth.
This episode is going to help you distinguish several indicators of overachievement and the key attributes in high achievers that allow for sustainability in success.
Tune in to shift toward the growth mindset of a high achiever and away from the dangers of burning out from overachieving and never finding contentment.

In This Episode:
- Overachievers tend to overcompensate
- Fixed mindset vs growth mindset
- Overachievers are prone to upward social comparison
- Primary motivations of overachievers vs high achievers
- High achiever qualities


Resources Mentioned:
Happiness: Lessons from a New Science by Richard Layard https://a.co/d/ary9qvb 
Personal Growth Plan https://go.valorieburton.com/swa58441289 

Connect with Valorie Burton:
Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ 
Website - https://valorieburton.com/ 
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ 
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/  
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/  
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton 

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“We're looking at expectations that might not even be our own, and beating ourselves up because we're not meeting those expectations.” - Valorie Burton
Today, we're talking about how to stop those unhelpful upward social comparisons that can steal your joy.

We've all been there - you see someone doing something better than you and suddenly you feel discontent because you’re not there yet, or guilty because you know you should be happy for them but you’re really just jealous.

Don’t worry, it’s natural.

But because successful women think differently, we must notice these thoughts and re-shift them to better serve us.

How?

Decrease exposure, focus on your growth, and compare yourself to your past and future self - not others. (Tune in to unpack what this looks like practically.)

You have so much to offer, and focusing on others’ highlight reels and comparing them to your reality is only going to distract you from your bigger purpose.

In This Episode:
- What are upward social comparisons?
- What’s the message in it for you?
- Why we compare
- Positively comparing upwardly for inspiration
- What to do when you over-compare
- Downward comparison - who can you help?

Connect with Valorie Burton:
Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ 
Website - https://valorieburton.com/ 
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ 
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/  
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/  
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton 

🛑 If you've ever thought about coaching, or incorporating coaching into your leadership toolkit, don’t miss the Coach Training Intensive happening December 2nd - 4th, 2023! https://cappinstitute.com/coaching-programs/coach-training-intensive/ 🛑
If you’ve ever listened to this show, you’ll likely know that the topics and themes discussed here highly revolve around positive emotion.
That’s because positive emotion is a success strategy. It’s been proven to make us more creative, make better decisions, persevere more, and improve and strengthen the bonds of our relationships.
Which is why, naturally, the focus of this episode is gratitude. Because gratitude is a surefire way to cultivate these positive emotions.

Today, Valorie is talking about creating a Gratitude Letter. It’s exactly what it sounds like, but it’s so powerful that you won’t want to miss the specifics of what to include. Listen in to prepare yourself for a super thankful Thanksgiving. 

In This Episode:
- What is gratitude?
- Taking things for granted
- Writing a Gratitude Letter
- How to make a gratitude letter the most impactful


Resources Mentioned:
Thanks!: How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier by Robert Emmons https://a.co/d/azARwzA 


Connect with Valorie Burton:
Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ 
Website - https://valorieburton.com/ 
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ 
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/  
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/  
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton