Supporting Physician Spouses

Kendra Harvey and Katie Harris
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Supporting Physician Spouses is the go-to podcast for anyone navigating life as the spouse or partner of a physician. Hosted by Kendra, a physician family advocate and coach, and Katie, a resident spouse in the final year of her husband's training, this podcast is all about the transition from residency to practice. Each episode, we dive into candid conversations about the unique challenges, joys, and uncertainties that come with this major life shift—finances, relocations, career changes, family dynamics, and more. Whether you're in the thick of training or looking ahead to the next stage, we're here to offer support, insight, and real talk from both sides of the journey. Join us as we navigate this transition together!

  1. Episode 44: Physician Spouse Day, You Are Doing a Great Job

    4D AGO

    Episode 44: Physician Spouse Day, You Are Doing a Great Job

    Today we're talking about National Physician Spouse Day, a day to honor you for the invisible, essential work you've been doing while everyone else pauses to celebrate the physicians in our lives.   In this episode, we talk about: Why your contributions matter, even if they don't show up on a CV or earn public recognition The particular exhaustion of being capable, of being the one who handles it, and wondering if anyone will ever think to ask if you're okay Why your resentment is not a character flaw, and why wanting more for yourself is not selfish What it means to stop being the supporting character in someone else's story and remember you're living your own   You'll hear: A message Kendra wrote in 2021 that launched the first National Physician Spouse Day, and why the words still ring true today Why you are not behind, even if it feels like everyone else your age has built something with a name the world recognizes Permission to name the resentment, to want something for yourself, and to believe you're doing a great job without any qualifications   This episode is especially for you if: You're holding a household together through training and nobody seems to notice how much you're carrying You're on the other side of training but still braced, still over-functioning, still waiting to exhale You love your spouse and still resent what this life has cost you, and you're tired of feeling guilty about it   Links & resources mentioned: Download our free guide, Life After Survival Mode    Stay connected: Follow us on Instagram: @supportingphysicianspouses | @kendra_itgetsbetternow Learn more about coaching: www.itgetsbetternow.com

    20 min
  2. Episode 43: Finding Home as a Physician Spouse, Real Estate Guidance with Amanda Baron

    MAR 24

    Episode 43: Finding Home as a Physician Spouse, Real Estate Guidance with Amanda Baron

    Today we're talking about relocating as a physician family: juggling housing decisions, community building, and the weight of transitions that feel bigger than just finding the right house.   In this episode, we talk about: How to find a realtor who actually understands medical life, not just your theoretical income What makes a move feel like home, beyond square footage and school districts Why your community matters just as much as your house, and how to build one from scratch Whether to rent or buy when your timeline is uncertain and your schedule is unpredictable   You'll hear: Amanda's story of moving to Nashville without community and how that loneliness became the catalyst for creating a thriving local physician spouse group Why interviewing realtors matters, what questions to ask, and when it's okay to walk away from a transaction that doesn't feel right Practical advice for first-time homebuyers navigating a confusing market, including when the numbers don't actually make sense to buy   This episode is especially for you if: You're staring down a move and feel overwhelmed by all the unknowns stacking up at once You're trying to figure out if you should rent or buy when your partner's contract is short or the job situation still feels uncertain You want to feel less alone in a new city but don't know where to start or who to reach out to   Links & resources mentioned: Connect with Amanda Baron: Instagram @amandabaronrealtor | Behind the White Coat Podcast Download Amanda's Physician Relocation Guide, Moving Checklist, and Rent vs. Buy Guide Free resource: Life After Survival Mode guide  Stay connected: Follow us on Instagram: @supportingphysicianspouses | @kendra_itgetsbetternow Learn more about coaching: www.itgetsbetternow.com

    38 min
  3. BONUS: Secret Lives of Mormon Wives Reality TV as a Mirror

    MAR 20

    BONUS: Secret Lives of Mormon Wives Reality TV as a Mirror

    What happens when someone names survival mode in months while you've been living it for years?   Today we're talking about why it's so hard to name what you're living through—for physician spouses who are juggling the invisible weight of a life that "should" feel better by now.   In this episode, we talk about: What the Hulu reality show Secret Lives of Mormon Wives accidentally revealed about the physician spouse experience and why it's so uncomfortable to watch The difference between noticing you're in survival mode and believing you're allowed to say so Why adaptation that once served you can become the thing keeping you stuck What changes when you stop waiting for circumstances to shift and start untangling from the inside   You'll hear: The story of someone who named survival mode, identity loss, and quiet resentment after just months and what that mirror reveals about how long you've been carrying the same weight Why naming what's real doesn't mean you're ungrateful, dramatic, or failing… it means you're finally paying attention The question that changes everything: not why someone else noticed faster, but what made it so easy for you not to notice at all   This episode is especially for you if: You've been doing this for years and still haven't said out loud that it's hard You recognize yourself in the bathroom, the long shower, the errand that didn't need to take that long You're tired of performing gratitude while quietly resenting a life you can't seem to name   Links & resources mentioned: - Download the free guide: Life After Survival Mode    Stay connected: - Follow us on Instagram: @supportingphysicianspouses | @kendra_itgetsbetternow - Learn more about coaching: www.itgetsbetternow.com

    11 min
  4. Episode 42: Surgical Residency Spouse, What You Actually Need to Know

    MAR 17

    Episode 42: Surgical Residency Spouse, What You Actually Need to Know

    Today we're talking about what it actually means when your partner matches into a surgical specialty. This episode is for physician spouses who are sitting with equal parts pride and terror and aren't sure if you're allowed to be both. In this episode, we talk about: - The three fears surgical spouses carry but rarely say out loud: the length of training, the relentless hours, and whether your partner will still be emotionally available to you - Why your fear is not a problem to solve but clarity trying to surface - How to protect your relationship and yourself before residency starts, not after you're already depleted You'll hear: - Why the hardest part of surgical training is often not the big missed events but the accumulation of small ones—the dinner that goes cold, the conversation that doesn't happen, the text that says "sorry, I'm not gonna make it" - What most surgeons are carrying quietly that they rarely name, and why the distance you feel is usually overwhelm with nowhere to put itself - Three tools to carry into the years ahead: how to find connection in intentional smallness, the conversation to have before you need it, and why protecting yourself now is not selfish but essential This episode is especially for you if: - You just found out your partner matched into surgery and you're not sure what you're walking into - You're already recognizing yourself in the description of survival mode and quiet resentment - You want to enter these years with your eyes wide open and your needs visible, not waiting for the attending years to fix what you gave away during training Links & resources mentioned: - Download the free Match Survival Guide Stay connected: - Follow us on Instagram: @supportingphysicianspouses | @kendra_itgetsbetternow - Learn more about coaching: www.itgetsbetternow.com

    22 min
  5. Episode 41 Match Week: What Happens When Your Partner Doesn't Match

    MAR 10

    Episode 41 Match Week: What Happens When Your Partner Doesn't Match

    Match Week can bring confetti and celebrations, but it can also bring grief, uncertainty, and a week that feels like a blur. Today we're talking about all four possible outcomes of the Match, for physician spouses who are holding their breath, managing the logistics of a potential move, and trying to stay steady while everything feels up in the air. In this episode, we talk about: What the NRMP match process actually is and what it means for your family's next three to seven years All four Match Week outcomes, with real numbers behind them, so you know you're not alone no matter where you land The SOAP process: what it looks like, how fast it moves, and how to prepare yourself and your family before it happens How to protect your relationship and your own emotional wellbeing no matter the outcome You'll hear: A raw, honest conversation with Amy, a PA, girl mom of three, and marathoner whose husband went through SOAP not once, but twice, and the two miracles that came out of it What Amy wishes she'd known going in, including the grief of losing a future that "wasn't even your dream, but was still yours" Practical advice you can act on right now: how to emotionally prepare for SOAP, what to have ready logistically, and how to pump up your partner when their confidence takes a hit This episode is especially for you if: You're heading into Match Week and already feel that mix of excitement and dread you can't quite tell apart Your partner is pursuing a competitive specialty and SOAP feels like a real possibility You matched somewhere that wasn't your first choice and you're trying to figure out how to grieve and be grateful at the same time You didn't match at all and you need someone to tell you this is not the end Links & resources mentioned: Download our free Match Survival Guide, with reflection prompts and practical tools for all four outcomes:  Leave us a voicemail with your best advice for a spouse going through Match Season right now: ‪(214) 810-0468‬  Stay connected: Follow us on Instagram: @supportingphysicianspouses @kendra_itgetsbetternow Learn more about coaching: www.itgetsbetternow.com

    40 min
  6. Episode 40: Why Researching More Won't Calm Your Match Season Anxiety, Physician Spouse

    MAR 3

    Episode 40: Why Researching More Won't Calm Your Match Season Anxiety, Physician Spouse

    If you have 17 browser tabs open and a spreadsheet ranking cities you may never live in, this episode is for you. Today we're talking about what uncertainty actually does to your nervous system during match season, and why researching your way to peace doesn't work, for physician spouses who are holding their families together while waiting on an algorithm to decide their next three to seven years. In this episode, we talk about: Why the research spiral isn't a productivity problem, it's your nervous system trying to create certainty in a structurally uncertain situation How to separate solvable problems from truly unsolvable ones (and why we usually try to solve the wrong ones) What resentment during match season actually means, and why it doesn't mean anything is wrong with your marriage Practical ways to stay connected to yourself while the uncertainty does its thing You'll hear: Katie share what the research loop felt like from interview season all the way through signing a lease sight unseen, and what actually helped her move forward An honest conversation about the unspoken resentment that can show up toward your spouse during match season, and how to loosen its grip without shame A simple reframe for setting limits on research time so you stop disappearing into logistics and stay grounded in your own experience This episode is especially for you if: You're in match season right now and the low-grade anxiety has become your constant background noise You've been in survival mode for so long that uncertainty doesn't just feel uncomfortable, it feels dangerous You're navigating any version of unresolvable uncertainty: a health diagnosis, a job change, a major life crossroads Links & resources mentioned: Free Match Survival Guide (with sections for all four match outcomes): download here Voicemail line for match season questions and advice: 214-810-0468 Stay connected: Follow us on Instagram: @supportingphysicianspouses Learn more about coaching: www.itgetsbetternow.com

    31 min
  7. Episode 39: Restoring Balance in Physician Family Life: 4 Steps to Reconnect and Recenter Your Ecosystem

    FEB 24

    Episode 39: Restoring Balance in Physician Family Life: 4 Steps to Reconnect and Recenter Your Ecosystem

    When your home feels tense and you can't quite name why, it's easy to wonder, "What's wrong with me?" Today we're talking about physician families as ecosystems, and how to rebalance things when your family feels off, for physician spouses who are juggling unpredictable schedules, solo stretches, and the mental load that never seems to turn off. In this episode, we talk about: How to recognize the signs your family ecosystem is out of balance (before things blow up) How to observe what's happening before you rush to fix it, and why that matters How honest communication creates the feedback loops your family needs to adapt How to protect your progress with simple rituals and routines that keep you connected You'll hear: Katie share what it felt like coming off a month of away rotation, and the moment overwhelm hit hard (even with her spouse coming home) A real-time reframe from spiraling thoughts ("this will never end") back to what's factual and true Practical ways to "rebalance the inputs," like sleep, play, laughter, and connection, plus how to identify the drains that are quietly depleting you This episode is especially for you if: you've been holding everything together while your spouse's training schedule keeps shifting you feel overwhelmed, but you struggle to explain what's actually causing it you want your home to feel lighter and more connected, but you don't know where to start Links & resources mentioned: Download the Match Survival Guide: Click here! Leave some encouragement for those going through Match at (214)810-0468 Stay connected: Get email updates + resources: www.itgetsbetternow.com Follow us on Instagram: @supportingphysicianspouses and @kendra_itgetsbetternow

    33 min
  8. Episode 38: It's Not You, It's the Ecosystem: How Physician Families Can Thrive Together

    FEB 17

    Episode 38: It's Not You, It's the Ecosystem: How Physician Families Can Thrive Together

    What if your struggles aren't a sign that something is wrong with you—but rather a signal that your family ecosystem is out of balance? Kendra explores what it means to view your physician family as a living ecosystem. Drawing from an idea that stopped her mid-audiobook, Becoming You by Suzy Welch, she unpacks how the interdependence between spouses, children, and the medical environment mirrors the delicate balance found in nature. Kendra shares how shifts like new jobs, relocations, and call schedules ripple through a family system, and why love, rest, and rituals act like sunlight and water—essential sources of energy for resilience and connection.     In this episode, you'll learn: 💡 Why your struggles aren't personal failures, but ecosystem imbalances 🌱 How to identify your family's unique energy sources (connection, rest, rituals) 🧭 How external factors like hospital culture, relocations, and call schedules shape family life 🔄 What it means to build resilience as a system, not just as individuals 💬 Reflection questions to help you restore balance in your own family ecosystem     Reflection Questions: What are the sources of energy in your family's ecosystem? What are the stressors currently draining it? What small adaptations could bring more balance right now?     Mentioned in this Episode: The 2-2-2 Rule: A rhythm of connection—date night every 2 weeks, overnight every 2 months, vacation every 2 years Inspiration from Becoming You by Suzy Welch: "When one member of the family is struggling, it's an ecosystem problem."     Connect with Us: 💌 Email: hello@supportingphysicianspouses.com 📱 Instagram: @supportingphysicianspouses

    10 min
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Supporting Physician Spouses is the go-to podcast for anyone navigating life as the spouse or partner of a physician. Hosted by Kendra, a physician family advocate and coach, and Katie, a resident spouse in the final year of her husband's training, this podcast is all about the transition from residency to practice. Each episode, we dive into candid conversations about the unique challenges, joys, and uncertainties that come with this major life shift—finances, relocations, career changes, family dynamics, and more. Whether you're in the thick of training or looking ahead to the next stage, we're here to offer support, insight, and real talk from both sides of the journey. Join us as we navigate this transition together!

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  • Creator
    Kendra Harvey and Katie Harris
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    47
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2025
  • Show Website
    Supporting Physician Spouses

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