Table Talks with the Tares

The Honest Underscore
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MJ and Ash are a husband and wife with completely opposite wiring. Every week we sit down and let you into the process of how we pinpoint problems to find the gap, fix the system, and live with more purpose. Welcome to the table. New episodes every Monday. honestunderscore.com

  1. 10h ago

    180 - Old Wounds New Fights: Why am I even this upset right now

    The hard part isn't the fight. It's figuring out what the fight is actually about. In this episode, we talk about what happens when an old pain gets bumped and the reaction that comes out has nothing to do with the person standing in front of you. You'll Walk Away With Why some reactions feel bigger than the moment and what that might be telling you. What it looked like when this showed up for us and why it's hard to trace in real time. A question to ask before you respond that changes the whole direction of the conversation. Continue the conversation: → Your Next Listen: Ep. 100: How Adoption Changed Me — If this one resonated, that one goes deeper as Ash unpacks how this can show up in parenthood, too. Find the gap. Fix the system. Live with purpose. New drop every Monday. If this one helped, share it with someone who needs it or leave a review. It's the best way to help us reach more people. Stay connected: 🌐 The Honest Underscore 📩 Enjoyed the episode? The conversation goes deeper in The Greenroom. Once a month we pull back the curtain on the frameworks we're testing, the gaps we've found, and the questions we can't stop thinking about. So you can see your own gaps more clearly. [Let me into The Greenroom] ✉️ Questions, reflections, or something from this episode hit home? Send it our way → hello@honestunderscore.com

    29 min

  2. Jun 1

    179 - Your Love Language Isn’t Their Love Language

    Spoiler: physical touch doesn't mean what you think it does. In this episode, we talk about the breakdown that happens when we try to love each other well but are speaking different languages. You'll walk away with: Why it’s easy to default to your own love language even when you know better The real moment this showed up for us and how we worked through it One thing to say when you can feel the conversation starting to go sideways Continue the conversation: → Your Next Listen: Ep. 154 — Controlling the Controllables and a Shortcut to Real Connection — Once you know the language, this one is about what happens when you're too exhausted to speak it. Find the gap. Fix the system. Live with purpose. New episodes every Monday. If this one helped, share it with someone who needs it or leave a review. It's the best way to help us reach more people. Stay connected: 🌐 The Honest Underscore 📩 Enjoyed the episode? The conversation goes deeper in The Greenroom. Once a month we pull back the curtain with one coaching insight, one lesson worth passing on, and one question to sit with. [Let me into The Greenroom] ✉️ Questions, reflections, or something from this episode hit home? Send it our way → hello@honestunderscore.com

    28 min

  3. May 25

    178 - Fixing the Communication Gap: Venting vs Asking for Help

    Have you ever meant well and still missed the mark? You didn't need a solution. You needed someone to listen and somehow that got lost. In this episode, we dig into one of the most common friction points in any close relationship: the moment one person needs to be heard and the other instinctively tries to help. It's not a communication problem. It's a mismatch in expectations. And one small question can change everything. You'll Walk Away With Why venting and asking for help aren't the same thing and why mixing them up is a wiring difference, not a character flaw Why the externalizer and the internal processor hear the same conversation completely differently Two questions that reset expectations before the conversation goes sideways Continue the conversation: → Your Next Listen: Ep. 169 — It's Not What You Say, it's How You Say It — Once you know what kind of conversation you're in, this one picks up from there on tone, timing, and why the same words can land completely differently. Find the gap. Fix the system. Live with purpose. New episodes every Monday. If this one helped you — share it with someone who needs it or leave a review. It's the best way to help us reach more people. Stay connected: 🌐 http://honestunderscore.com 📩 Enjoyed the episode? The conversation goes deeper in The Greenroom. Once a month we pull back the curtain on our process with one coaching insight, one lesson worth passing on, one question worth sitting with. Our job — help move your next step from uncertain to clear. [Let me into The Greenroom] ✉️ Questions, reflections, or something from this episode hit home? Send it our way → hello@honestunderscore.com

    35 min

  4. May 18

    177 - Take More Risks. Rhythms become the Fallback

    It started with MJ saying we need to take more risks as a family and somehow that turned into tent camping with a baby. In this episode, we talk about why having strong rhythms isn't just about running a tight ship; it's what gives you the freedom to shake things up, try something hard, and actually recover from it. Plus, it’s a practical way we're teaching our kids to take measured risks. You'll walk away with: Why your rhythms aren't a ceiling, they're a launchpad for taking risks If you don't know how to do the thing, just do it bad first and go from there Resources Referenced: https://youtu.be/gjwofYhUJEM?si=eJ5-LePa6alYe41m Continue the conversation: → Your Next Listen: Ep. 133 — The Legacy We Hope to Build, Not Raising Entitled Kids — if raising kids who embrace hard things resonates, this one goes deeper into the legacy we’re trying to build. Find the gap. Fix the system. Live with purpose. New episodes every Monday. If this one helped you, share it with someone who needs it or leave a review. It's the best way to help us reach more people. Stay connected: 🌐 http://honestunderscore.com 📩 Enjoyed the episode? The conversation goes deeper in The Greenroom. Once a month we pull back the curtain on our process with one coaching insight, one lesson worth passing on, one question worth sitting with. Our job — help move your next step from uncertain to clear. [Let me into The Greenroom] ✉️ Questions, reflections, or something from this episode hit home? Send it our way → hello@honestunderscore.com

    28 min

  5. May 11

    176 - Good Intentions Aren’t Good Enough, Finding Restorative Rest as A Family

    Good intentions don’t automatically create the outcome you hope for. MJ tried to give Ash a break but the rest didn't actually restore. In this episode we unpack why good intentions miss when people recharge differently, and the real difference between rest and restoration. You'll walk away with: How loving your partner well means learning how they refuel The difference between rest and restoration, and why choosing what you need over what you want is sometimes harder than it sounds Continue the conversation: → Your Next Listen: Ep. 12 — The Sabbath: Our Foundational Rhythm— if this episode stirred something in you about rest, this is where we share the rhythm that's anchored our family for years. Find the gap. Fix the system. Live with purpose. New episodes every Monday. If this one helped you — share it with someone who needs it or leave a review. It's the best way to help us reach more people. Stay connected: 🌐 http://honestunderscore.com 📩 Enjoyed the episode? The conversation goes deeper in The Greenroom. Once a month we pull back the curtain on our process with one coaching insight, one lesson worth passing on, one question worth sitting with. Our job — help move your next step from uncertain to clear. [Let me into The Greenroom] ✉️ Questions, reflections, or something from this episode hit home? Send it our way → hello@honestunderscore.com

    44 min

  6. May 4

    175 - It Should Be Easier By Now

    This episode is for everyone who's doing the right things and still feels like they're running behind because that's been us lately. We're getting honest about what happens when the timeline you set for bouncing back from postpartum (your health, your family rhythms, your social life) just doesn't hold. Spoiler: ours hasn’t. Here's what we're unpacking: Why “bouncing back” takes longer than we want to admit What it looks like to actually meet each other where we are Learning to say no without guilt If you've ever looked at your life and thought it shouldn't be this hard, welcome to the table. Continue the conversation: → Your Next Listen: Ep. 169 — It's Not What You Say, It's How You Say It — Because saying the right thing the wrong way still misses. This is a must-listen on how tone, timing, and delivery can completely change the message in your marriage. Find the gap. Fix the system. Live with purpose. New episodes every week. If this one helped, share it with someone who needs it, or leave a review. It's the best way to help us reach more people navigating the same things. Stay connected: 🌐 honestunderscore.com 📩 Monthly newsletter: one problem, one framework, one thing to try differently. Subscribe here. ✉️ hello@honestunderscore.com

    41 min

  7. Apr 27

    174 - Rest or Prep: The Sunday Night Tension

    Sunday nights started feeling kinda tense… like we were already behind before Monday even hit. We realized it wasn’t our schedule, it was us being out of sync. Different expectations, missed communication, and all the other little stuff that adds up fast. So, we started asking 3 simple questions before the week starts. It’s helped us get on the same page and cut down a lot of unnecessary friction. ‌ Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/155-how-we-navigate-a-low-capacity-season-as-a-family/id1661247515?i=1000741341988 ‌ Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time. Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com. Join our monthly newsletter for a curated blend of exclusive leadership insights, personal reflections, and resource releases delivered straight to your inbox. Subscribe to our newsletter! For questions, please email us at hello@honestunderscore.com.

    32 min

  8. Apr 20

    173 - When Intent Doesn’t Match Reality: Postpartum Edition

    Giving a real time health update and what it’s actually been like after 3 pregnancies. We talk about the pressure to “bounce back,” why we’re pushing against it, and what a slower, more sustainable approach to health looks like. If you’ve ever felt stuck and discouraged when it comes to your health journey, this one’s for you. ‌ Resources mentioned: ‌ Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/167-when-you-find-out-your-spouse-has-adhd/id1661247515?i=1000753984829 ‌ Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time. ‌ Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com. Join our monthly newsletter for a curated blend of exclusive leadership insights, personal reflections, and resource releases delivered straight to your inbox. Subscribe to our newsletter! For questions, please email us at hello@honestunderscore.com.

    36 min
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MJ and Ash are a husband and wife with completely opposite wiring. Every week we sit down and let you into the process of how we pinpoint problems to find the gap, fix the system, and live with more purpose. Welcome to the table. New episodes every Monday. honestunderscore.com

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    The Honest Underscore
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
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