Teach Us Consent

Teach Us Consent

Get confident with consent, s*x and relationships – one honest conversation at a time. From the team behind Teach Us Consent, this podcast breaks down the stuff we wish we’d learnt sooner – what flirting and dating respectfully looks like, how alcohol affects consent, the best ways to respond to rejection, how gender roles can cause harm in everyday life, and the ways p*rn and algorithms shape our views on s*x and one another. This podcast is here to make those big conversations easier, clearer, and way more human. No shame. No judgement. S*x and relationship education we all deserve.

  1. Teach Us About: False Accusations, Penis Filler & Social Media Health Advice

    4D AGO

    Teach Us About: False Accusations, Penis Filler & Social Media Health Advice

    Shame, fear, and misinformation shape far more of our lives than we’re taught to notice.  In this episode, we unpack the fear of false accusations and the real harm they can cause, while separating that fear from the reality that sexual violence is widespread and vastly under-reported. We explore why so few victim-survivors go to police, including disbelief, community backlash, cultural stigma, re-traumatisation, and the long, punishing nature of the legal process, as well as why many people only recognise or report harm years later. From there, the conversation widens to how insecurity is manufactured more broadly — from porn and social media distorting what bodies “should” look like, to growing pressure around genital appearance, cosmetic procedures, and intimate hygiene products that create shame to sell solutions.  Hosts: Anthony Stefanos (@anthonystefanos) & Tess Fuller (@tesssfuller) This podcast is produced by Annabelle Kablean (@hellsbell.es), Teach Us Consent and I Want It Yesterday Studios, and supported by the Australian Government Department of Social Services. Want to go deeper? We've created hundreds of resources to help you get confident with consent, sex and relationships - visit teachusconsent.com. Studies and references in this episode: Statistics on female experiences of sexual assault, including victimisation rates, socio-demographics, incident characteristics and responses (ABS) https://www.abs.gov.au/statistics/people/crime-and-justice/sexual-violence/2021-22 Rough justice: How police are failing survivors of sexual assault (ABC)https://www.abc.net.au/news/2020-01-28/how-police-are-failing-survivors-of-sexual-assault/11871364 Challenging misconceptions about sexual offending (Victorian Police) https://www.police.vic.gov.au/sites/default/files/2019-01/FINAL-factsheet-for-web-Challenging-Misconceptions.pdf Attrition of sexual assaults from the New South Wales criminal justice system (ABS) https://bocsar.nsw.gov.au/media/2024/mr-attrition-sexual-assaults-BB170.html Real bodies: understanding and celebrating labia diversity (Women’s Health Victoria) https://www.whv.org.au/training-and-resources/publications-and-submissons/real-bodies-understanding-and-celebrating-labia-library/ The Great Wall of Vulva - Jamie McCartney https://www.thegreatwallofvulva.com/ The Modern Guide to Sex - Georgia Grace https://www.georgiagrace.co/mybook Content note: This material contains sensitive content, and includes references to sexual assault and other forms of violence, how rape plays out in the criminal justice system, and body image concerns. Please listen with care and compassion for yourself, and feel free to switch off at any point.  For a full list of support services, visit https://www.teachusconsent.com/get-support for resources such as 1800RESPECT and 13YARN, or call 000 in emergencies.  In Australia, Mental Health Care Plans are available through GPs and can provide access to subsidised sessions with mental health professionals. Reach out to your GP to discuss your options.  This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Gadigal and Bidegal people. The Teach Us Consent team respects and honours Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander elders past and present, and their enduring connection to this land. We acknowledge that First Nations people disproportionately experience sexual violence, and we are committed to ending sexual violence.  Thank you for listening! Please support us by sharing this with a friend.

    45 min
  2. Teach Us About: How Much S*x Is Normal, Mismatched Desires & Unfollowing Women On Social Media

    FEB 2

    Teach Us About: How Much S*x Is Normal, Mismatched Desires & Unfollowing Women On Social Media

    Online rhetoric spreads quickly, and we're seeing young men increasingly being told that women are a distraction to be eliminated rather than voices to be heard. In this episode, we unpack the rise of male influencers encouraging boys and men to unfollow women who post photos of their bodies so they can “lock in,” and what this reveals about objectification, control, and the idea that women are responsible for men’s focus and behaviour. The conversation then turns to sex and desire, examining different desire styles, why constant sexual wanting is treated as the ideal, and how pressure around “normal” amounts of sex can push people into intimacy they don’t actually want. We challenge the belief that 'everyone is having more sex than you', and centre the importance of consent in all relationships – by reframing the questions that matter most: is sex pleasurable, is communication working, and can everyone freely say yes or no. Hosts: Anthony Stefanos (@anthonystefanos) & Tess Fuller (@tesssfuller) This podcast is produced by Annabelle Kablean (@hellsbell.es), Teach Us Consent and I Want It Yesterday Studios, and supported by the Australian Government Department of Social Services.Want to go deeper? We've created hundreds of resources to help you get confident with consent, sex and relationships - visit teachusconsent.com.Studies referenced in this episode: Unmasking Influence (Tomorrow Woman) https://www.tomorrowwoman.com.au/unmasking-influence-how-the-manosphere-affects-young-women#Unmasking-Influence-Report-FormDo men need sex to feel love? A deep dive with relationship coach Megan Luscombe (KIC Pod)https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/do-men-need-sex-to-feel-love-a-deep-dive/id1457667995?i=1000734864526Is there a 'normal' amount of sex couples should be having? (ABC)https://www.abc.net.au/news/2026-01-20/defining-a-healthy-and-fulfilling-sex-life/106100374Gen Z Aren’t Having the Sex You Think: Here’s Why (Kinsey Institute + Lovehoney)https://www.lovehoney.com/blog/gen-z-are-having-less-sex-here-is-why.html Content note: This material contains sensitive content, and includes references to sexual harassment and assault, and other forms of violence. Please listen with care and compassion for yourself, and feel free to switch off at any point.  For a full list of support services, visit https://www.teachusconsent.com/get-support for resources such as 1800RESPECT and 13YARN, or call 000 in emergencies.  In Australia, Mental Health Care Plans are available through GPs and can provide access to subsidised sessions with mental health professionals. Reach out to your GP to discuss your options.  This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Gadigal and Bidegal people. The Teach Us Consent team respects and honours Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander elders past and present, and their enduring connection to this land. We acknowledge that First Nations people disproportionately experience sexual violence, and we are committed to ending sexual violence.  Thank you for listening! Please support us by sharing this with a friend.

    38 min
  3. Teach Us About: Blue Balls, Why Algorithms Suck & Homophobia in Sport

    JAN 25

    Teach Us About: Blue Balls, Why Algorithms Suck & Homophobia in Sport

    Our ideas about identity, desire and sex are shaped by culture, power, and the digital spaces we spend our time in.In this episode, we chat about 'blue balls' and whether 'blue vulva' exists, and how these ideas are often weaponised to pressure someone into sex. Touching on the ‘2016 trend’, we explore how social media has shifted from something that felt oddly collective to an algorithmic maze designed for profit over connection. Campbell joins to discuss his recent experience with homophobia in the media, Josh Cavallo’s recent statements about his experience playing professional sport, and whether it should ever fall on the person experiencing discrimination to solve it. Closing out with a look at why audiences have connected so deeply with Heated Rivalry, and the pressure society places on people to label themselves or “come out” on demand.Hosts: Anthony Stefanos (@anthonystefanos) & Tess Fuller (@tesssfuller)Featuring: Campbell Harrison (@campbell_harrison547)This podcast is produced by Annabelle Kablean (@hellsbell.es), Teach Us Consent and I Want It Yesterday Studios, and supported by the Australian Government Department of Social Services.Want to go deeper? We've created hundreds of resources to help you get confident with consent, sex and relationships - visit teachusconsent.com.Studies referenced in this episode:“Blue balls” and sexual coercion: a survey study of genitopelvic pain after sexual arousal without orgasm (Sexual Medicine)https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10155057/Dublin City University research on how TikTok and YouTube Shorts rapidly amplify misogynistic contenthttps://www.dcu.ie/humanities-and-social-sciences/news/2024/apr/new-research-shows-how-tiktok-and-youtube-shorts-areProfessor Steven Roberts (Monash University) on queer sport media and audience connection (ABC Religion & Ethics)https://www.abc.net.au/religion/heated-rivalry-why-straight-men-embrace-queer-sport-tv-matters/106225756Content note: This material contains sensitive content, and includes references to sexual harassment and assault, homophobia, and other forms of violence. Please listen with care and compassion for yourself, and feel free to switch off at any point. Support:QLife: 1800 184 427. QLife provides anonymous and free LGBTI peer support and referral for people in Australia wanting to talk about sexuality, identity, gender, bodies, feelings or relationships.Queerspace: 03 9663 6733. Queerspace provides a non-judgemental, queer affirmative counselling service.Lifeline: 13 11 14. Lifeline is a non-profit organisation that provides free, 24-hour telephone crisis support service in Australia. Volunteer crisis supporters provide suicide prevention services, mental health support and emotional assistance, not only via telephone but face-to-face and online.For a full list of support services, visit https://www.teachusconsent.com/get-support for resources such as 1800RESPECT and 13YARN, or call 000 in emergencies. In Australia, Mental Health Care Plans are available through GPs and can provide access to subsidised sessions with mental health professionals. Reach out to your GP to discuss your options. This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Gadigal and Bidegal people. The Teach Us Consent team respects and honours Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander elders past and present, and their enduring connection to this land. We acknowledge that First Nations people disproportionately experience sexual violence, and we are committed to ending sexual violence. Thank you for listening! Please support us by sharing this with a friend.

    43 min
  4. Let's Talk: Chanel Contos & Harrison James on consent in the online world

    09/17/2025

    Let's Talk: Chanel Contos & Harrison James on consent in the online world

    Chanel Contos & Harrison James sat down with Teach Us Consent to chat through some hypothetical scenarios regarding consent, sex and relationships in the ever changing online landscape. Want to go deeper? We’ve created hundreds of resources to help you get confident with consent, s*x and relationships — visit teachusconsent.com. If you'd to make a report to eSafety, head to esafety.com/report. This episode was produced by Teach Us Consent and supported by the Australian Government Department of Social Services. Content note: This material contains sensitive content, and may include references to s*xual harassment and assault, homophobia, transphobia, racism and other forms of violence. Please listen with care and compassion for yourself, and feel free to switch off at any point. Visit teachusconsent.com/support for help resources including 1800RESPECT and 13YARN, or call 000 in an emergency. In Australia, Mental Health Care Plans are available through your GP and can provide access to subsidised sessions with a mental health professional. This podcast was recorded in the UK, and produced and edited on the lands of the Gadigal people. Teach Us Consent honours Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander elders past and present, and their enduring connection to this land. We acknowledge that First Nations people are disproportionately affected by s*xual violence, and we are committed to ending that violence.

    17 min
  5. Teach Us: What To Do About Sexual Assault

    08/04/2025

    Teach Us: What To Do About Sexual Assault

    Sexual and emotional harm isn’t always distant or abstract — it often happens close to home, involving people we know and care about. In this episode, Host Anthony Stefanos is joined by Georgia Grace, Matty Mills, and Zahra Al Hilaly for a raw and compassionate conversation about what it looks like when harm happens within our circles. Together, they explore the realities of supporting a friend coming to terms with an experience, navigating the shock of someone you love being accused of harm, and reflecting on your own actions. They unpack how to show up for others, seek support as a victim-survivor, and what true accountability looks like in our communities. This is a deeply human conversation about care, responsibility, and finding a way forward when the people involved are close to us. Featuring: Georgia Grace (@gspot), Matty Mills (@itsmattymills), Zahra Al Hilaly (@zahuhra). Want to go deeper? We've created hundreds of resources to help you get confident with consent, sex and relationships – visit teachusconsent.com This episode was produced by Teach Us Consent and Not Another and hosted by Anthony Stefanos, supported by the Australian Government Department of Social Services. Content note: This material contains sensitive content and may include references to sexual harassment and assault, homophobia, transphobia, racism, and other forms of violence. Please listen with care and compassion for yourself, and feel free to switch off at any point. You can visit teachusconsent.com/support for resources such as 1800RESPECT and 13YARN, or call 000 in emergencies. In Australia, Mental Health Care Plans are available through GPs and can provide access to subsidised sessions with mental health professionals. Reach out to your GP to discuss your options. This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Gadigal and Bidegal people. The Teach Us Consent team respects and honours Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander elders past and present, and their enduring connection to this land. We acknowledge that First Nations people disproportionately experience sexual violence, and we are committed to ending sexual violence. Thank you for listening. Please support us by sharing this with a friend.

    1h 14m
  6. Teach Us: What Fight, Flight, Freeze & Fawn Are

    07/28/2025

    Teach Us: What Fight, Flight, Freeze & Fawn Are

    You've probably heard of fight or flight, but what about freeze or fawn? In this episode, Host Anthony Stefanos is joined by Georgia Grace, Matty Mills, and Zahra Al Hilaly for a powerful conversation about trauma responses. They unpack the lesser-known ways people react in moments of fear or danger — like freezing up, dissociating, or people-pleasing — and why these automatic survival responses are not the same as giving consent. Together, they explore how trauma can show up in the body, how to support someone who’s experienced it, and what it means to build a more trauma-informed, consent-literate culture. This is an essential listen for anyone who wants to better understand how trauma shapes behaviour, and how we can all respond with more care, empathy and awareness. Featuring: Georgia Grace (@gspot), Matty Mills (@itsmattymills), Zahra Al Hilaly (@zahuhra) Want to go deeper? We've created hundreds of resources to help you get confident with consent, sex and relationships – visit teachusconsent.com This episode was produced by Teach Us Consent and Not Another and hosted by Anthony Stefanos, supported by the Australian Government Department of Social Services. Content note: This material contains sensitive content and may include references to sexual harassment and assault, homophobia, transphobia, racism and other forms of violence. Please listen with care and compassion for yourself, and feel free to switch off at any point. You can visit teachusconsent.com/support for resources such as 1800RESPECT and 13YARN, or call 000 in emergencies. In Australia, Mental Health Care Plans are available through GPs and can provide access to subsidised sessions with mental health professionals. Reach out to your GP to discuss your options. This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Gadigal and Bidegal people. The Teach Us Consent team respects and honours Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Elders past and present, and their enduring connection to this land. We acknowledge that First Nations people disproportionately experience sexual violence, and we are committed to ending sexual violence. Thank you for listening! Please support us by sharing this with a friend.

    56 min

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Get confident with consent, s*x and relationships – one honest conversation at a time. From the team behind Teach Us Consent, this podcast breaks down the stuff we wish we’d learnt sooner – what flirting and dating respectfully looks like, how alcohol affects consent, the best ways to respond to rejection, how gender roles can cause harm in everyday life, and the ways p*rn and algorithms shape our views on s*x and one another. This podcast is here to make those big conversations easier, clearer, and way more human. No shame. No judgement. S*x and relationship education we all deserve.

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