Tea With D

Diane O'Canto

The show that teaches you how to recover, regain and relive. Diving into inner childhood healing, self-love, codependency and trauma. The podcast for people who are looking to find their true authentic self. After losing her father to cancer in 2019, Diane has made it her mission to help others along her journey. Join Diane on the journey to understanding your triggers, needs and what ultimately fills your cup in order to live your best life. 

  1. 08/05/2025

    Confident, But Not Too Confident: When People Only Like It on Their Terms

    In this episode of Tea with D, I unpack the backlash I received from participating in a lighthearted TikTok trend — and how it quickly spiraled into a wave of men attacking my appearance. I was called fake, rated with numbers, asked “how much,” and even told that “time is ticking.” All because I had the nerve to look confident. But this goes deeper than one video. Since I was a little girl, I never felt seen. I was the “ugly duckling” — overlooked and underestimated. Then in high school, I blossomed… and suddenly people did notice me — but with judgment. I was "slut-shamed". I was made fun of for putting effort into my appearance. I could never win. For a long time, I lost my sparkle. But today, I feel like I’m finally stepping into who I was always meant to be — confident, joyful, and free. And yet, here we are again: people trying to tear me down for it. This episode isn’t just about me. It’s for every woman who’s ever been told to be confident, but not too confident. Pretty, but not too pretty. Visible, but not too loud. Let's talk about it. 🔑 Highlights: The viral “decline” trend and the backlash I receivedWhat it feels like to be judged for your appearance — no matter what side you’re onMy personal journey: from the “ugly duckling” to reclaiming my sparkleThe double standard of confidence for womenTurning hate into purpose📌 Reminder: Confidence isn’t the problem — people’s discomfort with it is. Tune in and let’s sip on that truth. Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto

    20 min
  2. 03/06/2025

    Beyond the Mat: The Fight for Discipline, Grit, and Growth with Brandon Betancourt

    From dominating the wrestling mat to navigating life-altering injuries, Brandon Betancourt’s journey is a testament to resilience, discipline, and reinvention. In this episode of Tea with D, we dive deep into the triumphs and setbacks that shaped him—from unexpected losses and career-ending injuries to finding new purpose in firefighting and stepping into the world of MMA. Brandon opens up about: ✅ The mental battles behind every comeback ✅ How wrestling shaped his work ethic beyond the sport ✅ The identity struggles athletes face after leaving competition ✅ Finding purpose again through new challenges ✅ The mindset shift that helped him rebuild after loss Whether you're an athlete, someone navigating setbacks, or looking for motivation to keep pushing forward, this episode is packed with insights on perseverance, growth, and the power of never giving up. Key Topics We Cover: 🔥 The Foundation of Grit – How wrestling built his mindset and discipline ⚡ Overcoming Injury & Unexpected Detours – Losing nationals, Fresno State cutting its program, and finding a new path 🥊 Firefighting & MMA – Training under pressure, staying mentally tough, and the parallels between his careers 🧠 Mental Health & Identity – The struggle of transitioning out of sports and advice for those feeling stuck 🚀 What’s Next? – Going pro in MMA and what keeps him pushing forward Tune in for an inspiring conversation about grit, reinvention, and never backing down from a challenge. Follow Brandon's Journey: Instagram Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto

    33 min
  3. 12/20/2024

    Rewriting Holiday Traditions: Love, Loss, and Finding Comfort.

    The holiday season is a time for joy and connection, but for many, it also brings feelings of loss and longing. In this heartfelt episode, Diane shares her personal journey of navigating the holidays without her father. She reflects on the emotional complexities that surface when traditions shift, family dynamics change, and cherished memories feel bittersweet. Through candid storytelling, she explores the struggles of finding comfort, accepting support, and redefining what the holidays mean after loss. D also shares insights from a recent therapy session, offering hope and practical tips for those experiencing similar emotions this season. Join her for an honest, compassionate conversation that reminds us we’re never truly alone in our feelings — and that there’s strength in reaching out. Topics Covered:  1 Coping with Holiday Traditions After Loss: Adapting to new traditions while honoring the past.  2 Family Dynamics & Boundaries: Navigating feelings of being an “intruder” while accepting invitations with grace.  3 Emotional Triggers During the Holidays: Understanding how small moments can feel heightened when experiencing grief.  4 The Power of Vulnerability & Therapy: How opening up in therapy helped bring clarity and hope.  5 Creating New Holiday Meaning: Finding peace and joy in unexpected places.  6 Extending & Accepting Olive Branches: The importance of giving and receiving support. This episode will resonate with anyone who’s missing a loved one this holiday season, offering comfort, understanding, and a reminder that it’s okay to feel what you feel while still holding space for hope. Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto

    14 min

Ratings & Reviews

4.9
out of 5
9 Ratings

About

The show that teaches you how to recover, regain and relive. Diving into inner childhood healing, self-love, codependency and trauma. The podcast for people who are looking to find their true authentic self. After losing her father to cancer in 2019, Diane has made it her mission to help others along her journey. Join Diane on the journey to understanding your triggers, needs and what ultimately fills your cup in order to live your best life.