Thank You Heartbreak with Chelsea Leigh Trescott

Chelsea Leigh Trescott
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When it comes to heartbreak, most people fear it. But not Chelsea, who believes in feeling and appreciating it all. On this podcast, Breakup Coach Chelsea Leigh Trescott explores the upside of heartbreak, shedding light on how breaking points are our greatest opportunity to become meaningful, relatable human beings who are stronger in love, life, and character.

  1. FEB 18

    267: A Rainy Meditation to Reclaim Your Voice After Heartbreak

    Send a text In this first-ever rainy meditation episode of Thank You Heartbreak, Chelsea Leigh Trescott guides you through a deeply Breakupward practice designed to help you confront the subtle, painful cost of staying quiet—whether in love, in life, or in your own self-expression. Through this meditation, you’ll: Explore how self-abandonment shows up in relationships and your inner life.Witness the parts of yourself that crave love, attention, and validation—and learn how to honor them without losing your power.Practice reclaiming your voice, your boundaries, and your agency, even when it feels risky or vulnerable.Transform the ache of silence into a stepping stone toward self-love and clarity.Inspired by the conversation in The Cost of Quiet episode — where we explore what happens when we suppress our needs, dismiss our instincts, or tolerate patterns that don’t serve us, this is a meditation for anyone who has stayed quiet to avoid conflict, to preserve a connection, or to feel “safe,” and is ready to step into a higher, more empowered way of being. Press play, tune in, and allow yourself to hear what your inner self has been quietly trying to tell you all along. Chelsea Leigh Trescott: Email: chelsea@breakupward.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott

    14 min

  2. FEB 11

    266: Shrinking to Stay: How Avoidance Trains Us to Disappear with Colette Fehr

    Send a text Have you ever noticed how, in love, we sometimes vanish before anyone asks us to? How we shrink, soften, and quiet ourselves—not because someone else forced us to, but because we learned avoidance as survival? In this episode, I sit down with Colette Fehr, licensed marriage and family therapist and author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love. We dive into the patterns of self-silencing that many of us develop in relationships—patterns that quietly erode connection and teach us to disappear. Colette’s book illuminates a truth that’s both shocking and liberating: it’s not only avoidant partners who create distance. Our own avoidance—our quiet quitting, our reluctance to speak up, our people-pleasing—shapes how we show up, how we love, and how we protect ourselves from rejection. Together, we explore: How we become avoidant ourselves through self-silencing and people-pleasingThe slow erosion of connection caused by avoiding the “hard conversations”Identifying our emotional triggers and taking full responsibility for our feelingsCommunication strategies that honor both our needs and our partner’s, without losing ourselvesThe radical Breakupward insight: noticing where we shrink is not shame—it’s a roadmap to reclaim our presence, voice, and boundariesThis conversation isn’t just about heartbreak. It’s about transformation: seeing the ways we’ve disappeared in love, understanding why, and learning how to step fully into ourselves again. If you’ve ever felt the tension between wanting closeness and fearing conflict—or found yourself quietly giving up pieces of yourself to keep love intact—this episode is for you. Colette and I break down the psychology, the patterns, and the radical path to self-loyalty that emerges when we Breakupward. Listen, lean in, and discover how your own avoidance has been both a signal and a teacher—and how reclaiming your voice can change everything. Get in touch with Colette Fehr: Website Book TEDx Talk Podcast Instagram Chelsea Leigh Trescott: Email: chelsea@breakupward.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott

    56 min

  3. JAN 6

    265: Radical Forgiveness, Real Happiness with Dr. Dravon James

    Send a text Heartbreak can turn even the strongest among us into tireless editors of the past. We replay scenes, bargain with “what if,” and try to outrun regret. This conversation changes that script. With transformation specialist Dr. Dravon James, we explore forgiveness not as a soft ideal but as a rigorous, practical pathway to real happiness. Acceptance—“it is what it is”—stops sounding like surrender and starts feeling like authorship. As Dravon says, you can’t change a yellow wall to blue without first naming yellow. We dive into a blank-canvas practice that’s equal parts tender and disarming: release old labels, whisper “I am nothing,” and notice what appears. From that openness, the questions sharpen: Which version of me is complete? What wants to be created now? Along the way, we trade perfection for progress and explore how safety in relationships grows when we allow the power of “no.” Boundaries become bridges when consent enters hard conversations and curiosity replaces assumption. That’s where real repair begins. Dravon’s insights on self-trust come alive here: before self-love, rebuild faith in your own choices by noticing how often you’ve already shown up for yourself. When we tune into that inner station, synchronicity feels less like luck and more like alignment. Sometimes the truth within says a long relationship has run its course. Hearing it is hard. Ignoring it is harder. If you’re ready to stop punishing yourself, to let “no” deepen intimacy rather than threaten it, and to turn heartbreak into wisdom you can actually use, this episode is for you. Listen, share it with someone who needs a softer way forward, and leave a review so more people can find their path to everyday peace. Then tell us: what label are you ready to set down today? Connect with Dr. Dravon James: Website: https://drdravonjames.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdravonjames Facebook:  www.facebook.com/everydaypeacewithdrdravonjames Book: Forgiveness: The Pathway to Happiness Chelsea Leigh Trescott: Email: chelsea@breakupward.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott

    56 min

  4. 12/18/2025

    264: Better, But Not Okay with Tracy Dobmeier and Wendy Katzman

    Send a text Chelsea sits down with authors Tracy Dobmeier and Wendy Katzman to explore their novel Ten Thousand Light Years from Okay and what it means to be “better but not okay”—that space where life is moving forward, but your heart still carries the weight of grief, heartbreak, or uncertainty. We dive into unexpected heartbreak and how to move forward fearlessly when grief has robbed you of your invincibility. We also explore the gap between progress and pain, the individual path of healing, and the sustaining power of friendship in carrying you through grief. Whether you’re navigating heartbreak, a life shift, or just the overwhelm of being human, this episode reminds you that it’s okay to not be okay—and that feeling this way is part of breaking upward. Tracy Dobmeier and Wendy Katzman: Website: https://www.dobmeierkatzman.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katzndobs Amazon: Ten Thousand Light Years from Okay Chelsea Leigh Trescott: Email: chelsea@breakupward.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott

    50 min

  5. 11/30/2023

    263: Committing to Happiness with Beth Romero

    Send a text In a world filled with uncertainty and challenges, finding happiness can often feel like an elusive goal. In this episode, Chelsea engages in a captivating conversation with author Beth Romero about her recently released book, Happy AF,  and her mission to prove that happiness is not just a fleeting emotion, but a choice that can be practiced and cultivated through consistent efforts.  Beth addresses the incongruence between internal feelings and outward presentation and emphasizes the distinction between joy and happiness, positioning the latter as a consistent commitment and a lens through which to interpret life. Happy AF becomes a poignant life raft toward cultivating practices such as gratitude and affirmations, particularly during bouts of heartbreak and depression. Chelsea and Beth delve into the significance of maintaining consistency in happiness practices, encouraging listeners to experiment with different approaches. They touch on the transformative power of empathy in relationships and the potential for altering one's internal narrative to cultivate a more authentic, supportive, and positive existence. Beth Romero: Website: https://bethromeroauthor.com Happy AF via Amazon Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bethromero12 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bethromeroauthor1 Chelsea Leigh Trescott: Website: https://breakupward.com Email: breakupward@icloud.com Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott Chelsea Leigh Trescott: Email: chelsea@breakupward.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott

    54 min

  6. 11/28/2023

    262: Breaking The Cycle of Codependency with Cheryl Fidelman

    Send a text In this courageous episode, we explore the complex world of codependency, trauma, and the healing path towards self-sovereignty. Our guest speaker The Conscious Codependence Coach, Cheryl Fidelman, bravely shares how her own codependent patterns formed as a result of her early exposure to trauma and instability. At the tender age of 4, she was sexually molested and two years later her father left after a domestic violence dispute, leaving her to shoulder the weight and responsibility of managing her mother’s mental health struggles. Throughout the conversation, Cheryl introduces her own unique methodology, Conscious Codependency Recovery, designed to guide individuals on their journey to overcoming codependency and becoming a sovereign being with boundaries and an open heart.  She sheds light on the importance of recognizing the difference between true needs and codependent “illusions of needs,” our true selves and the "traumatic identity" we develop as a result of early life experiences, as well as the distinction between healthy intimacy and codependent intimacy.  We also take a deep dive into forgiveness, emphasizing the significance of self-responsibility and healing the impact of past trauma rather than focusing on the story and assigning blame, as well as the idea of breaking one’s own heart, as codependents often unconsciously create situations that lead to heartbreak. Join us in exploring how to break the cycle of codependency, find your true nature, access deep, healthy intimacy, and embody freedom through the healing process. Cheryl Fidelman: Website: https://cherylfidelman.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cherylfidelman Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cherylfidelman Book a call: https://cherylfidelman.com/connect Chelsea Leigh Trescott: Website: https://breakupward.com Email: breakupward@icloud,com Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott Chelsea Leigh Trescott: Email: chelsea@breakupward.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott

    1h 5m

  7. 09/26/2023

    261: Love In The Midst Of Anxiety with Carrie Berk

    Send a text Tune in as we sit down with the inspiring anti-bullying activist and author of "My Real-Life Rom Com," Carrie Berk. Together, we journey through the fascinating world of modern relationships, where the realms of dating apps, influencer status, and mental health intersect. Prepare to relate as we peel back the layers of our personal stories, revealing how our self-concept intricately weaves its threads into our love lives in this digital era. We'll challenge the notion that "people always leave" and explore why raising our expectations in relationships is not only possible but essential. Carrie Berk: Website: https://www.carrieberk.com My Real-Life Rom Com: Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Target, Walmart, Bookshop. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/carrieberkk TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@carrieberkk Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carrieberkk Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/carrieberkk Chelsea Leigh Trescott: Website: https://breakupward.com Email: breakupward@icloud.com Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott Chelsea Leigh Trescott: Email: chelsea@breakupward.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott

    1h 6m

  8. 08/11/2023

    260: If Nothing Bad Had Ever Happened with Melanie Smith

    Send a text Celebrated for her prominent role in As the World Turns, actress Melanie Smith has redirected her professional journey toward the exploration of heartache, grief, and reinvention. Her endeavors have encompassed guiding numerous individuals in breaking free from their past, unearthing their authentic identities, and masterminding profound shifts in their life trajectories. Joining Thank You Heartbreak at the 7-minute mark, Melanie provides an exclusive peek into the genesis of her inaugural book, "Unfinished Business: 8 Steps to Heal Your Trauma, Transcend Your Past, and Transform Your Life." She delves deeply into the intricate tapestry of emotions that propelled her research, recounting her personal odyssey of conquering childhood illness and subsequent solitude, debunking the illusion of an idealized existence, and embarking on the profound inner journey that facilitated her harmonious union with self and others. Within this emotionally charged narrative lies the poignant tale of her mother's untimely departure due to a rare form of cancer, the tragic death of her sister, the dissolution of her marital bond, and the dizzying relinquishment of her once-cherished dream home. These cascading adversities served as the impetus for her to confront a fundamental query: "Who would I be, could I be, if nothing or no one had ever gotten in my way?" Melanie’s work surrounding Unfinished Business underscores the significance of addressing lingering unresolved issues, which have the potential to obstruct the path to self-discovery and self-fulfillment, ultimately preventing individuals from embracing their destined sense of self. Key episode themes: Trauma from being diverted from our perceived life purpose.Link between early validations and entrapment in adult obligations.Recovery as a vital life skill for inner peace and abundance through life's pain.Trust in oneself and a higher pattern.Value of charge-free and trigger-free dating.Body as a guide to finding our sweet spot of belonging.Girls abandon their bodies; boys abandon their hearts.Healing potential of relationships.Self-attunement for self-understanding.Distinguishing between the necessity for survival-driven special attention and ordinariness.Melanie Smith: Website: https://workwithmelaniesmith.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melaniesmithofficial Unfinished Business: https://unfinishedbusinessthebook.com Unfinished Business via Amazon: Chelsea Leigh Trescott: Email: chelsea@breakupward.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott

    1h 18m
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When it comes to heartbreak, most people fear it. But not Chelsea, who believes in feeling and appreciating it all. On this podcast, Breakup Coach Chelsea Leigh Trescott explores the upside of heartbreak, shedding light on how breaking points are our greatest opportunity to become meaningful, relatable human beings who are stronger in love, life, and character.

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