7 episodes

Three women discuss the unique trauma that brought them together with humor and honesty.

Thanks, It's the Trauma Dr. Alissa, Nikki, Heidi

    • Relationships
    • 5.0 • 27 Ratings

Three women discuss the unique trauma that brought them together with humor and honesty.

    Where We Are Now

    Where We Are Now

    In the season one finale, Dr. Alissa, Nikki, and Heidi catch the listeners up to date. The journey from finding out their husbands were transgender women to today.

    • 1 hr 3 min
    Parenting - With Christina Lafferty-Neal

    Parenting - With Christina Lafferty-Neal

    On this episode Dr. Alissa, Nikki, and Heidi discuss parenting with LGBTQ therapist Christina Lafferty-Neal. The three ask Christina questions about coparenting through and after a divorce as well as ways to help kids through a transgender parent’s transition. The three then discuss their own parenting experiences through this journey.

    • 45 min
    The Black Hole - With Jeff Goins

    The Black Hole - With Jeff Goins

    In Episode 5, Jeff Goins (link all his stuff) interviews Heidi, Nikki and Dr. Alissa on the black hole. Clinically disassociation. The women talk about the black hole that can occur after a significant trauma, how they dealt with the next day after finding out their spouses were trans women and what it felt like. Jeff helps them dive deeper into what it was like to tell people, watching the transition unfold and the first things they did remember and were witness to. As Jeff questions them, more and more emerges. This trio of women would like you to know some of the tools that helped them to cope following their trauma.
    Friends and social networks of support
    Self care
    Insight Timer
    Perspective and Gratitude/Prayer
    Conscious Uncoupling book
    Music and Playlists
    Dogs, kids
    Giving yourself grace

    • 1 hr 12 min


    We learn more about Heidi’s history. From wild childhood experiences and trauma up until finding out her spouse is a transgender woman and everything in between.

    • 50 min


    We learn more about Nikki in this episode, especially as it relates to the various traumas she’s endured and how she’s managed them. Nikki is a survivor of suicide as well as a former spouse of a transgender woman.

    • 40 min
    Dr. Alissa

    Dr. Alissa

    In this episode, we explore Dr. Alissa's past and lead up to the moment she discovered her husband is a transgender woman. 

    • 41 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
27 Ratings

27 Ratings

amp4444 ,

Thank you!

I wish my mother had access to support groups and a podcast like this! She went through this almost 20 years ago with children ranging from 2-16 years old. She had to get through it on her own. As an adult having watched all of this when I was a teen I appreciate the three of you giving me the perspective of what my mother must have gone through. I can’t wait to share this with her. THANK YOU!

KatSqu ,

Such raw honesty.

It takes guts to share the pain all of you have experienced and worked through. Well done, ladies. I believe others will benefit from your stories.

JanetVV2020 ,

Yes to thanking TRAUMA

Love listening to this podcast. It strikes so many parts of vulnerability, love, shame, and guilt. It has helped me further understand the pieces of self that so many are grappling with in today’s world. Sharing our messy, complicated, and beautiful stories truly matters. So thankful for these brace and funny women!

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