Unbecoming

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What happens when a nationally recognized hair artist and a Charleston therapist walk into a podcast studio? Unbecoming— the unfiltered space where beauty meets breakdowns and healing gets real. Host Laura Frazier (@hairzillaa), Redken artist and salon owner, sits down with Chris LaCour, licensed therapist and voice of reason (most of the time), to talk about the messy middle of life — mental health, relationships, identity, creativity, and everything that unravels when you start unbecoming who you were told to be. It’s therapy meets comedy, beauty meets breakdown, and self-work with great hair and sarcasm. Expect vulnerable conversations, hard truths, inappropriate jokes, and moments that feel like a late-night talk with your smartest, most brutally honest friends. Because unbecoming isn’t falling apart — it’s finally falling into yourself.

  1. FEB 10

    Unagreeable (and Unapologetic)

    Laura’s back from New York, and let’s just say… it was a week. In this episode, she breaks down a whirlwind stretch that included working a major hair show, jumping into a Brand photoshoot, and surviving an intense, fast-paced training that tested her patience, confidence, and social battery. Along the way, Laura and her colleague unpack what it really looks like to balance professional expectations with real human energy — especially in rooms where everyone’s watching and the pressure is high. They get into the art of being direct (without being “difficult”), the fine line between confidence and arrogance, and why being a little “unagreeable” isn’t always a bad thing — it might actually be necessary. This conversation is equal parts reflection and reality check, as Laura shares how her communication style has evolved and why staying true to yourself matters more than ever when navigating demanding work environments and big personalities. Honest, insightful, and refreshingly real — this episode is all about showing up, owning who you are, and not shrinking to make anyone else comfortable.

    27 min

  2. JAN 23

    The Edible That Lasted 48 Hours

    In this episode of Unbecoming, Laura (@hairzillaa) catches up on everything from THC-A cigarettes to getting way too high from THC-P, all told with the same “can we laugh about this now?” energy she brings to every chaotic life update. We get into her Yellowstone trip — how insanely beautiful it was, and how humans cannot stop trying to fix things that aren’t broken. Laura also breaks down her ketamine journey so far, what’s helping, what’s weird, and why sometimes healing feels like a science experiment you didn’t know you signed up for. Between cannabis adventures, government conspiracies, Australian friends judging America’s drinking habits, and talks about retirement homes and family patterns, Laura keeps it real about life, healing, and trying to make sense of a world that feels like it’s permanently overstimulated. It’s messy, funny, honest, and very us — just two friends talking through the chaos of being human while trying to find peace wherever we can.

    36 min

  3. JAN 10

    Healing Is the Scariest Thing I’ve Ever Done

    In this episode of Unbecoming, we finally get the origin story — how Charleston therapist Chris LaCour went from trying to “forcibly therapize” Laura Frazier (@hairzillaa) to becoming her co-host, emotional sparring partner, and reluctant best friend. It all started with EMDR that looked suspiciously like electrocution (according to Sean) and a mutual friend, Kelly, who swore Laura was too cool not to meet. Two years later, the friendship—finally stuck. From there, the conversation spirals in true Unbecoming fashion: dark humor, microdosing, sleep struggles, and one too-real story involving a dream, a drunk ex, and a very unfortunate T-shirt. Laura opens up about what it’s really like to sit on both sides of healing—client and coach—as she experiments with ketamine therapy, navigates attachment styles, and admits that sometimes she’s only mean to the people who can’t leave. It’s equal parts therapy session, stand-up set, and existential think-piece about what it means to be healing in real time. Unbecoming isn’t self-help—it’s self-awareness with better hair and way more sarcasm.

    49 min

  4. JAN 1

    The Comeback, the Chaos, and the Circuit

    In the season premiere of Unbecoming, Laura Frazier (@hairzillaa) kicks off the new year and a new era — one that’s raw, unfiltered, and a little faster than Formula 1. Joined by Charleston therapist and co-host Chris LaCour, Laura returns to the mic with fresh energy, fresh perspective, and a few existential side quests involving hiking, therapy, and a brain autopsy bet (yes, really). From lead poisoning jokes to the lessons learned in counseling, Laura opens up about mental health, inherited rage, and the strange beauty of rebuilding yourself after burnout. It’s part confession, part comedy, part midlife-awakening with microphones. Together, Laura and Chris navigate the speed, stillness, and self-discovery that come with unbecoming who you were told to be — one race, one hike, and one brutally honest conversation at a time.

    31 min

  5. 06/01/2025

    Meta Lies and Mental Health Myths

    Summer’s heating up and so is this episode—stay to the end for an announcement that’ll change your weekly routine 👀 I spill all about my call with Meta and how their "support" is basically hot air and high-key flirting to keep creators glued to the app.  Also… I accidentally Snapchatted a girl who worked for me for two days. The same girl who text-quit via text after her microwave lunch exploded.  💥 We also get into the delusions haters are inventing online lately (they're reaching so hard it’s giving yoga class), and why my current salon team is chef’s kiss—no dirty dishes, no chaos, just good hair and good vibes. In today’s therapy corner: apparently some folks think my fave form of trauma healing includes electric shocks?? 😂 I clear that up real quick and talk about my actual journey into NLP and hypnosis coaching—it’s nothing like what you’re picturing. Plus: Disney remakes, boys in pedicure chairs, and why our government seems allergic to helping kids. Press play for drama, laughs, and maybe a few uncomfortable truths.

    44 min

  6. 05/19/2025

    I Wasn't Left. I Was Launched. Reframing Abandonment

    What happens when you start unpacking the beliefs your family handed you — along with the vodka? In this raw episode, I talk about my complicated relationship with drinking, my abandonment as a baby, and the emotional blueprint passed down through my Jewish and Irish roots. I explore the wild question: if I had different parents, would I just be f****d up in a different way? This is about generational trauma, breaking cycles, and reminding ourselves — just because it runs in the family doesn’t mean it needs to keep running you. I was abandoned as a baby. My dad’s family didn’t seem too bothered. Add in a mix of Irish chaos and Jewish guilt, and you’ve got a cocktail of generational dysfunction. In this episode, I get into my relationship with drinking, my family’s history, and the deep-seated limiting beliefs I inherited — ones I’ve spent years trying to unlearn. I’ve wondered what I’d be like if I were raised by alternate parents in some other universe. Would I still be f****d up? Probably. But maybe in a cuter outfit. I truly believe I’m on the best timeline now… but it doesn’t erase how formative our early years are. So let’s talk about it. And maybe — just maybe — stop beating the shit out of our kids, emotionally or otherwise.

    42 min

  7. 05/04/2025

    This Isn’t Love… It’s a Trauma Response

    This episode is a wild ride through the reality of running a modern hair salon—with plenty of laughs, lessons, and unexpected turns. Laura and the crew unpack a recent three-star review from a client whose hair was too damaged for color, explore the disconnect between client expectations and professional boundaries, and call out the toxic entitlement that salon owners deal with daily (spoiler: it’s usually boomers, but not always). From Yelp drama to pets being buried mafia-style in concrete, and even naming shelter animals after Transformers, this episode blends industry tea with raw, real-life stories. It's part hair talk, part animal rescue chaos, and totally unfiltered. 🔥Follow for more hot takes, heartfelt moments, and salon realness.

    42 min

  8. 04/20/2025

    Bullies, Boundaries & Becoming That B*tch

    Ever felt like you're outgrowing people but still trying to keep the peace? This episode unpacks the silent power of boundaries, how to handle subtle (and not-so-subtle) bullies, and what happens when you stop shrinking yourself to fit into rooms you’ve outgrown. We’re talking real-life stories, emotional resilience, and the kind of growth that feels both scary and freeing. Sometimes people just won't let go, and we dissect why people are addicted to drama and the stories they make up in their heads. You’ll laugh, you’ll get chills, and you might just block someone after listening.   ✨ It's not about being mean—it's about being done.   Follow the podcast and connect with us on Instagram: 🖤 @hairzillaa 🎙️@brennans51 🌐 @simulationshaman 📚 @kellywritesromance 🔗 Share this episode with the friend who finally stopped saying yes to everything.

    51 min
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What happens when a nationally recognized hair artist and a Charleston therapist walk into a podcast studio? Unbecoming— the unfiltered space where beauty meets breakdowns and healing gets real. Host Laura Frazier (@hairzillaa), Redken artist and salon owner, sits down with Chris LaCour, licensed therapist and voice of reason (most of the time), to talk about the messy middle of life — mental health, relationships, identity, creativity, and everything that unravels when you start unbecoming who you were told to be. It’s therapy meets comedy, beauty meets breakdown, and self-work with great hair and sarcasm. Expect vulnerable conversations, hard truths, inappropriate jokes, and moments that feel like a late-night talk with your smartest, most brutally honest friends. Because unbecoming isn’t falling apart — it’s finally falling into yourself.

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  • Creator
    hairzillaa
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    63
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Copyright 2023 All rights reserved.
  • Show Website
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