The ADHD Deep Dive

Alannah Aiken

In 2021, everything changed. I was a burnt out teacher who was at breaking point. I decided to quit my career in teaching to start prioritising myself and my health. This journey of self discovery, healing and personal development lead to an ADHD diagnosis at 31 years old. The ADHD Deep Dive podcast is where I share the reality of life after an ADHD diagnosis - through the lens of both a mum with ADHD and an ADHD coach. I share real stories, relatable struggles, strategies and inspiring breakthroughs from myself, guests and other industry leaders. With a background in Education as a Primary Teacher, you can expect to hear stories and strategies that support your children with ADHD at school. This podcast is a space to feel seen and understood, so you can walk away finally feeling empowered and supported with ADHD.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 20H AGO

    17. Managing ADHD Overstimulation (Stories + Tools That Actually Help)

    In this episode, Alannah shares personal experiences and expert insights on recognising and managing overstimulation. She shares a story about how she became overstimulated to the point of tears over the school holidays due to being overstimulated, as well as how to reflect to build more self-awareness after these situations. You will learn how to identify sensory, emotional, and cognitive cues and build effective tools to regulate your nervous system to help with overstimulation in real life situations. CLICK HERE TO JOIN -> DOORS ARE OPEN FOR THE CALM THE ADHD STORM COMMUNITY. Join Alannah's ADHD coaching membership for late diagnosed women to receive ongoing support. Feel calm and proud of yourself, without the 'all or nothing' approach to life. Ditch the overwhelm and finally build awareness of your ADHD inside of this supportive space Key Topics Covered in this episode:The difference between overstimulation and overwhelm and why distinguishing the two mattersPersonal story of overstimulation at a crowded shoe store and the emotional falloutCommon sensory, emotional, and cognitive triggers for overstimulationInternal and external cues that signal you're heading toward overstimulationPractical strategies like reducing input, grounding techniques, and planning ahead for known environmentsThe importance of reflection and awareness to prevent future overstimulation episodesHow community and coaching support building your personalized toolkitTimestamps:00:00 - Introduction to the episode and the concept of overstimulation 00:40 - The difference between overstimulation and overwhelm explained 02:10 - Personal story: Overstimulation at a busy shoe store in 40°C heat 04:00 - Recognizing sensory, emotional, and cognitive inputs 05:40 - Internal cues: sensation, stories, and feelings of being overwhelmed 07:00 - External cues: noisy environments, bright lights, clutter 08:30 - The "red flag" moments at counters and busy shops 10:00 - Strategies for reducing sensory input (earplugs, stepping out) 11:00 - Grounding techniques to regulate nervous system during overstimulation 12:00 - Reflection: Learning from overstimulation episodes to better prepare 13:30 - Internal stories and self-criticism during overstimulation moments 15:00 - Planning and preemptive strategies to manage known triggers 16:30 - Practical tips for environmental modifications and support systems 18:00 - The power of awareness and proactive toolkit creation 19:30 - Community support and ongoing coaching for ADHD management 21:00 - Recap: Building a personalized approach to overstimulation 22:00 - Closing thoughts and invitation to join the Calm the ADHD Storm membership Resources & Links:JOIN NOW. Doors are OPEN for the Calm the ADHD Storm Membership - Join Alannah’s coaching community to receive ongoing support for late diagnosed women who want to feel more calm and proud of themselves, without the 'all or nothing' approach to life. Build awareness of your ADHD with a supportive space Have questions about coaching, ADHD or just want to connect? Follow Alannah on socials: Instagram: @adhd.with.alannah Tiktok: @adhd.with.alannah

    22 min
  2. 16. Unmasking ADHD: When You’re Always Tired and No One Gets It

    10/14/2025

    16. Unmasking ADHD: When You’re Always Tired and No One Gets It

    Let's explores a question so many women with ADHD can relate to: “Why am I always tired and how do I explain that to my partner who doesn't get it?” We're going to unpack what’s really behind the exhaustion from unmasking after diagnosis, to sensory overwhelm, hormonal cycles, overstimulation, and even nutrient deficiencies. Alannah shares her own experience navigating this fatigue, the emotional unraveling that happens after diagnosis, and practical tools to communicate with your partner compassionately (without defensiveness). You’ll walk away learning to finally listen to your body and your ADHD brain. You’ll learn: Why unmasking after ADHD diagnosis feels so exhaustingThe hidden mental load and constant noise of an ADHD brainHow hormonal cycles and overstimulation impact fatigueScripts to help your partner understand your energy dipsWhy rest is productive and how to honor your rhythms without guiltHow to start building awareness around your natural energy cycles If you’re ready to stop fighting your energy and start working with it, book a Connection Call to explore 1:1 ADHD Coaching — spaces are limited before the end of the year. https://www.alannahaiken.com/book-a-session Past episodes to listen to that I mention: Episode 4 - Feeling Burnt Out? The Types Of Rest ADHD Women Actually Need Episode 3 - Energy Audit: What Energises You Vs What Drains You For further support: coaching, consultations, upcoming programs and free resources head to www.alannahaiken.com Social Media: Instagram: @adhd.with.alannah Tiktok: @adhd.with.alannah This podcast is for general educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional/personal medical, psychological, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    12 min
  3. 15. You're Not Lazy! Let's Unpack Motivation & Procrastination

    10/10/2025

    15. You're Not Lazy! Let's Unpack Motivation & Procrastination

    You know that ADHD struggle with motivation, procrastination, and wondering “why can’t I just start?”. This is the episode for you. We’re diving into the difference between an interest-based nervous system (how ADHD brains are wired) and an importance-based nervous system (how neurotypical brains tend to work). I’ll be sharing why we rely so much on interest, novelty, and urgency and how to start working with your brain instead of fighting against it. I also talk about how bringing curiosity to your procrastination can completely change the way you see yourself, and how finding ADHD-friendly ways to create momentum (like gamifying your day or pairing things with joy) can make a huge difference. If you’ve ever felt like you’re lazy or can’t stick to things, this episode will remind you that there’s nothing wrong with you — your brain just needs a different approach. ✨ Key TakeawaysYour ADHD brain runs on interest, novelty, and urgency not importance.Procrastination is often a dopamine problem, not a motivation problem.Gamifying your routines and pairing boring tasks with interest can help you stay engaged.Practicing compassionate curiosity helps you understand why you’re avoiding something without shame.Start noticing the emotions behind your resistance — they often hold the key.Coaching support can help you build structure, accountability, and energy habits that actually work for your brain.Honouring your energy and creating gentle systems leads to more sustainable consistency. Are you a late diagnosed woman with ADHD and need support? I have 2 spots left for 1:1 coaching in 2025. Book a connection call to learn more or get started https://www.alannahaiken.com/book-a-session For further support: coaching, consultations, upcoming programs and free resources head to www.alannahaiken.com Social Media: Instagram: @adhd.with.alannah Tiktok: @adhd.with.alannah This podcast is for general educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional/personal medical, psychological, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    10 min
  4. Why You Struggle With Being Consistent (And The Mindset Shift & Strategies That Helps)

    10/01/2025

    Why You Struggle With Being Consistent (And The Mindset Shift & Strategies That Helps)

    If you’ve ever wondered “Why do I smash out everything in one day, then crash and burn the next?” this episode is for you. We’re diving into the truth behind why consistency feels so impossible with ADHD and what to actually do about it. Spoiler: it’s not laziness, it’s not because you “should just try harder” it’s because of the way your ADHD brain and energy naturally work. Inside this episode, we’ll cover: ✨ Why ADHD brains thrive on novelty but struggle with repetitive routines ✨ How fluctuating energy, hormones, and nervous system regulation impact your ability to “stay consistent” ✨ The trap of perfectionism, black-and-white thinking, and unrealistic expectations ✨ How to move away from all-or-nothing habits into what I call flexible consistency ✨ Practical tips to create minimum baselines that support you on low-energy days (without the shame spiral) ✨ Why self-compassion is your biggest ally in building sustainable habits Whether you’re tired of the burnout cycle or just want to start trusting yourself again, this episode will help you create more ease and flow in your ADHD life. Book a free connection call to grab one of my last spots of ADHD Coaching in 2025 → https://www.alannahaiken.com/adhd-coaching-packages Join the Calm the ADHD Storm Community waitlist → https://www.alannahaiken.com/groupmembership For further support: coaching, consultations, upcoming programs and free resources head to www.alannahaiken.com Social Media: Instagram: @adhd.with.alannah Tiktok: @adhd.with.alannah This podcast is for general educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional/personal medical, psychological, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    9 min
  5. 13. Reclaiming Your Energy, Boundaries & Self Worth with ADHD

    09/11/2025

    13. Reclaiming Your Energy, Boundaries & Self Worth with ADHD

    👉 Doors are now open to Calm the ADHD Storm Community - join as a Founding Member at 50% off. VERY limited spaces left: https://www.alannahaiken.com/groupmembership In this episode, I share a raw and unfiltered story of my turning point with ADHD. On a rainy drive home from work, I found myself at rock bottom. That breakdown became my biggest breakthrough. I talk about the moment I finally said “yes” to myself, quit my job, and began rebuilding my life with boundaries, self-prioritisation, and compassion. What started as survival turned into empowerment and eventually led me to create a supportive community for late-diagnosed women with ADHD who are ready to reset and thrive too. ✨ Key Takeaways: Why hitting rock bottom can spark powerful transformation if you're willing to choose yourselfThe importance of setting boundaries and prioritising yourself through different seasonsStrategies for living a more authentic life with ADHD If you’ve ever felt stuck in the ADHD storm, this story is proof that it’s possible to find calm, clarity, and confidence on the other side. Calm the ADHD Storm Community is a new private online space for late diagnosed women with ADHD who want to feel calm and proud of themselves, without burning out. Stop trying to do it all alone. Learn how to reset your energy, manage your ADHD, and start living as the woman you know you’re meant to be, without the all or nothing pressure. Includes monthly coaching, private community & my new ADHD Reset Formula (plus a growing number of resources. As a Founding Member you'll help shape this space) Join today and lock in the lowest rate it will ever be at just $29 aud per month -> https://www.alannahaiken.com/groupmembership For further support: coaching, consultations, upcoming programs and free resources head to www.alannahaiken.com Social Media: Instagram: @adhd.with.alannah Tiktok: @adhd.with.alannah This podcast is for general educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional/personal medical, psychological, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    9 min
  6. 12. The Unspoken Side of ADHD - Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria

    08/11/2025

    12. The Unspoken Side of ADHD - Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria

    Do you leave catch ups feeling like you said too much and everyone must hate you? Do you overthink every text messages and emails? Do you have moments where you feel like a failure or you're not good enough? Or does rejection and criticism feel like a kick in the guts? This is the episode for you. This is such a big part of ADHD that there is so much shame tied too. In this episode, Alannah dives into Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD), something that affects many women with ADHD, causing intense emotional reactions to perceived rejection or criticism. She explains how RSD manifests in various aspects of life, including work, relationships, and social interactions. Alannah emphasises the importance of emotional regulation and provides practical tools for managing RSD, encouraging listeners to build their own emotional toolkit. Download my FREE Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria workbook to create your own emotional regulation toolkit: https://www.alannahaiken.com/rsdfreebie >> Join the WAITLIST for my new holistic ADHD membership for late diagnosed women - https://www.alannahaiken.com/community Takeaways Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) is a real condition affecting many women with ADHD. RSD can lead to intense emotional reactions to perceived rejection or criticism. Emotional regulation is crucial for managing RSD and overall well-being. Identifying personal themes of self-doubt can help in understanding RSD. Practical tools like deep breathing and mindfulness can aid in emotional regulation. Building a personal toolkit for emotional management is essential. Self-compassion is key when dealing with RSD and emotional dysregulation. Community support can significantly enhance coping strategies for ADHD. Asking 'Is there any evidence?' can help challenge negative thoughts. Personalised coaching can provide tailored strategies for managing ADHD. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) 02:48 The Impact of RSD on Daily Life 07:26 Emotional Regulation and Its Importance 12:48 Tools for Managing RSD and Emotional Dysregulation For further support: coaching, consultations, upcoming programs and free resources head to www.alannahaiken.com Social Media: Instagram: @adhd.with.alannah Tiktok: @adhd.with.alannah This podcast is for general educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional/personal medical, psychological, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    15 min
  7. 11: My Biggest Lessons of ADHD in the First Year of Motherhood (What No One Talks About)

    08/05/2025

    11: My Biggest Lessons of ADHD in the First Year of Motherhood (What No One Talks About)

    I’m reflecting on my first year of motherhood! Not just as a new mum, but as a neurodivergent woman navigating big feelings, broken sleep, shifting identity, and a whole lot of chaos. I’m sharing the real lessons I’ve learned through this season, from learning to say no and honour my capacity, to redefining what productivity looks like with ADHD and a baby on my hip. We talk boundaries, rest, hormonal shifts, and why compassion (especially for yourself) is everything. ✨ Plus, I’m sharing a little sneak peek into why I’m creating a supportive membership space for ADHD mums who are ready to reconnect with themselves, their goals, and each other. >> SIGN UP FOR THE WAITLIST HERE: https://www.alannahaiken.com/community Takeaways: Boundaries are essential to protect your energy and peace. Rest is productive and should be prioritized. Motherhood brings significant internal changes, especially for those with ADHD. Self-compassion is crucial during challenging days. You are not the same person after becoming a mother; embrace the new you. It's important to seek help and support when needed. ADHD symptoms can fluctuate significantly during motherhood. Creating a supportive community is vital for mothers with ADHD. You don't need to earn your rest; it is a necessity. Embrace the journey of motherhood and the changes it brings. Chapters: 00:00 Celebrating Motherhood: A Year in Reflection 03:06 Navigating ADHD and Motherhood 05:54 The Importance of Boundaries 08:48 Rest as a Form of Productivity 12:10 Understanding Changes in ADHD During Motherhood 14:53 Embracing Self-Compassion and Growth For further support: coaching, consultations, upcoming programs and free resources head to www.alannahaiken.com Social Media: Instagram: @adhd.with.alannah Tiktok: @adhd.with.alannah This podcast is for general educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional/personal medical, psychological, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    17 min
  8. 10. What Women with ADHD Really Need (Hint: It's Not ADHD Hacks)

    07/21/2025

    10. What Women with ADHD Really Need (Hint: It's Not ADHD Hacks)

    In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why ADHD hacks alone just don’t cut it especially for women navigating life after a late diagnosis. Sure, timers and to-do lists have their place, but when you're running on empty, emotionally overwhelmed, or feeling stuck in survival mode… hacks aren’t enough. We dive into what women with ADHD actually need: emotional regulation, self-awareness, nervous system support, and real-life routines that honour your energy, your cycle, and your capacity. Because learning to manage your ADHD isn't just about getting things done. it’s about feeling safe and supported enough to do them your way. What You’ll Take Away: ADHD hacks often fall flat because they don’t address your emotions and nervous system.If you want sustainable change, you need support that honours all of you not just your productivity.Your energy and cycle matter. Learning to work with them is a game-changer.Medication can be helpful but it’s not the whole picture.You don’t need another strategy - you need a deeper understanding of yourself.Rest, hydration, movement, nourishment - these are ADHD tools too.You’re allowed to ask for help. Community and accountability make all the difference.Your habits don’t need to be perfect. They just need to feel doable and supportive.You’re capable of so much when your life is built around what actually works for your brain.💌 Ready for real support? Join the waitlist for my new ADHD Holistic Membership coming soon, a calm, empowering space for women like you who are done with quick fixes and ready for something deeper. https://www.alannahaiken.com/community ADHD Coaching in August - Limited spaces available so book your free 20 minute connection call today - https://www.alannahaiken.com/book-a-session For further support: coaching, consultations, upcoming programs and free resources head to www.alannahaiken.com Social Media: Instagram: @adhd.with.alannah Tiktok: @adhd.with.alannah This podcast is for general educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional/personal medical, psychological, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    11 min
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In 2021, everything changed. I was a burnt out teacher who was at breaking point. I decided to quit my career in teaching to start prioritising myself and my health. This journey of self discovery, healing and personal development lead to an ADHD diagnosis at 31 years old. The ADHD Deep Dive podcast is where I share the reality of life after an ADHD diagnosis - through the lens of both a mum with ADHD and an ADHD coach. I share real stories, relatable struggles, strategies and inspiring breakthroughs from myself, guests and other industry leaders. With a background in Education as a Primary Teacher, you can expect to hear stories and strategies that support your children with ADHD at school. This podcast is a space to feel seen and understood, so you can walk away finally feeling empowered and supported with ADHD.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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  • Creator
    Alannah Aiken
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    17
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2025 Alannah Aiken
  • Show Website
    The ADHD Deep Dive