The Adoption Experience Lynn Grubb

I was excited to spend time with Kristi on Mother's Day discussing our shared experiences surrounding our narcissistic adoptive mothers.  We cover how the adoption industry is a breeding ground for narcissism, how a therapist helped Kristi understand narcissism, going No Contact with her enmeshing narcissistic adoptive mother, and what modalities of healing have helped her heal and cope with what she refers to as a "life sentence." Disclaimer:  Only a qualified mental health professional can diagnose Narcissistic Personality Disorder.  This podcast and the series related to narcissism is based on the adopted adult determining that his/her parent has a narcissistic personality style.  It is understood that not all adoptive parents are narcissistic, or even that most are. Comments for Kristi or Lynn can be sent to theadoptedgenealogist@gmail.com Writing process https://courses.crappychildhoodfairy.com/login Dr. Ramani’s new book, “It’s Not You!” https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/710202/its-not-you-by-ramani-durvasula-phd/

Photo credit: debyemm

Ande and I discuss our deceased biological fathers and how we would love to learn more about them.  If you happened to know one of our fathers, please email Lynn at theadoptedgenealogist@gmail.com.
 
 

ASAC conference:

https://www.adoptionandculture.org/conference

Untangling Our Roots:

https://righttoknow.us/communityevent/untangling-our-roots-summit-2024/

Operation Fog Lift:

https://open.substack.com/pub/therealadopteamoxie/p/adoption-new-york-city-fieriness?r=1pbwya&utm_medium=ios

Relinquished book:

https://www.relinquishedbook.com/

Adoption Unfiltered book:

https://adoptionunfiltered.com/

The Last Daughter movie trailer:

https://youtu.be/VApJQrN7hN0?si=kpVDMq_c42CAdb3Z
The Last Daughter book:

https://www.textpublishing.com.au/books/the-last-daughter
Black Cake (Hulu) trailer:

https://youtu.be/aHEF2D8yMes?si=p7OyvW9RwbZevdrt
Lifemark movie:

https://lifemarkmovie.com/
Little Bird (Amazon Prime):

https://www.amazon.com/Little-Bird-Season-1/dp/B0CJK3KYYN

Simon Benn Facebook Poll:

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/TtedicYg56DWeWNh/?mibextid=WC7FNe

Conceiving Christian America (Embryo Adoption):
Book:

https://nyupress.org/9781479818594/conceiving-christian-america
Intro podcast with Ande at The Adoption Files:

https://theadoptionfilescom.wordpress.com/2024/02/25/conceiving-christian-america-introducing-a-new-series-on-snowflake-adoption/

Have an event you want discussed? Email Lynn @theadoptedgenealogist@gmail.com

*Adoptee Tik Tok
*Legislative Summit 2023 in Indianapolis
* Concerned United Birth Parents retreat 2023
*Celia Center adoption conference Nov 10, 11 2023
*Adoptee Rights 101
*Real ID complications (and passport update!)
*Adoptee Remembrance Day- 11/30/23 
*National Adoption Awareness Month
Show Notes:
NAAP Adoption Happy Hour:
https://naapunited.org/adoption-happy-hour
Preorder the book: "Relinquished:  The Politics of Adoption and the Privilege of American Motherhood." 
https://www.amazon.com/Relinquished-Politics-Adoption-Privilege-Motherhood/dp/1250286778/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2A50CHXAVR2JZ&keywords=relinquished%3A+The+politics+of+adoption&qid=1699013928&s=books&sprefix=relinquished+the+politics+of+adoption%2Cstripbooks%2C74&sr=1-1
Celia Center adoption conference:
https://celia-center-adoption-constellation.mn.co/plans/339536?bundle_token=9059baf90d541a7b894e633227303955&utm_source=manual%20noopener
Real ID Debaucle:
https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-burning-question-will-the-government-finally-decide/id1598023322?i=1000633287479
Adoptee Remembrance Day Virtual Candlelight Vigil (10/30/23)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uun76F2JQpE&ab_channel=UnravelingAdoption-podcastandotherresources
 
 

Learn about the nonprofit that was started by first mothers who are helping other women not have to go through what they did when they lost their children to an un-regulated adoption industry.
Correction:  Lisa Woolsey (I said her name wrong on the podcast) gave the training that I attended.
Learn about the Board of Directors of SOS here:
https://savingoursistersadoption.org/saving-our-sisters-about-us/boardofdirectors/
Family Preservation Project (Where Moms and Resources Meet):
https://thefamilypreservationproject.com/
 
 
 
 

Pressure on UK government for formal apology re forced adoption:
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/may/09/victims-of-forced-adoption-step-up-pressure-for-uk-government-apology
Adoption Trends (why a decline in adoption?)
Intersection of coercive control, the troubled teen industry (TTI) and adoption.  More on TTI here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cFLaEnQ2Dp0&ab_channel=60MinutesAustralia
H.R. 1475 - Hospital Adoption Education Act:
https://www.congress.gov/bill/118th-congress/house-bill/1475/text
NAAP Happy hour replay of Friday 6.2.23 Zoom presentation of "All You Have is Love":
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d_G1yXypDcI&t=889s&ab_channel=NationalAssociationofAdoptees%26Parents
Trailer of the documentary here (pledge a donation!):
https://seedandspark.com/fund/allyouhaveislove#story