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In The Adult Chair, Michelle Chalfant applies her holistic approach to healing and transformation as a foundation for better understanding our relationship with ourselves and our relationship with stress, anxiety, depression, physical health, self-love, peace, emotional balance, and how our understanding of ourselves impacts the most important relationships in our lives.

The Adult Chair Michelle Chalfant

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    • 4.9 • 1.3K Ratings

In The Adult Chair, Michelle Chalfant applies her holistic approach to healing and transformation as a foundation for better understanding our relationship with ourselves and our relationship with stress, anxiety, depression, physical health, self-love, peace, emotional balance, and how our understanding of ourselves impacts the most important relationships in our lives.

    The Brain, Meditation, Sleep and Muse with Ariel Garten

    The Brain, Meditation, Sleep and Muse with Ariel Garten

    You guys know I’m a huge believer in meditation for its emotional and spiritual benefits. It’s one of the greatest tools I’ve found for personal growth and living a more peaceful life.
    But it turns out that meditation also has a major impact on the brain, from our fear response to how well we sleep at night. In this show, we take a deeper look at meditation through the lens of neuroscience alongside neuroscientist and brain expert Ariel Garten.
    In this fascinating show with a fascinating guest, Ariel talks about what meditation is (and what it’s not), the benefits of meditation and how it positively affects the brain – backed by tons of research and data. And in case the studies she cites aren’t enough, she actually invented a smart headband called Muse that monitors brain activity and gives you biofeedback to help you calm your busy mind, sleep better and measure the real benefits of a meditation practice! How cool is that?!
    This episode will give you the scoop on all the science behind fear, how our brains get wired for anxiety, how the brain contributes to sleep and the power to choose thoughts that heal our brain instead of hurting it.
    Listen to discover:
    What meditation is and what it does for the brain How to get started with a meditation practice The benefits of meditation (with data to prove it) The amygdala, the fight or flight response and how it connects to meditation What happens to the brain during sleep + the two mechanisms that govern sleep The 5 essentials of a good night’s sleep The neuroscience of anxiety I absolutely love when science helps back up and explain ancient wisdom, and there’s no arguing with the info Ariel shares. We NEED to be meditating as humans!
    If you don’t currently meditate, start small (even 5 or 10 minutes a day has major brain-boosting benefits) and consider using tools like Muse to help you build a habit. I promise you won’t regret it!
    "Meditation is not a weird or woo woo thing. Meditation is a practice or a training that leads to healthy and positive mind states." - Ariel Garten
    "Meditation is a practice. It's not something we can ever master." - Michelle Chalfant
    "Meditation is about learning to observe your thinking and then be able to make a different choice." - Ariel Garten
    "Our amygdala is really there to save us from the bad things in the world, but it goes way overboard." - Ariel Garten
    "Just eight weeks of meditation led to actual change in the brain." -  Ariel Garten
    “The trick with anxiety is just to realize it’s just a broken alarm.” - Ariel Garten
    "In meditation, you have the thoughts that come. You rise up above them. You notice that you're having thoughts and you don't get sucked in." - Ariel Garten
    "We forget how powerful we are, that we can actually choose our thoughts." - Michelle Chalfant
    "We fall victim to our thoughts all the time." - Michelle Chalfant
    "One of the things that may be happening in somebody who has a hyper-reactive emotional state is that they've spent a long time engaging with that emotional state." - Ariel Garten
    "The thoughts in your mind and the emotions in your body don't need to trap you into yourself and into a small way of living your life." - Michelle Chalfant
    LINKS & RESOURCES
    Muse
    https://choosemuse.com/
    Use code POD10 for 10% off
    Muse Social Media
    @choosemuse
    Ariel Garten Instagram
    https://www.instagram.com/ariels_musings
    Untangle (Ariel Garten podcast)
    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/untangle/id1073460738
    The Adult Chair Workshop Nashville: November 3-5, 2022
    https://theadultchair.com/nashville
    MORE ADULT CHAIR
    The Adult Chair® Website
    https://theadultchair.com 
    The Adult Chair® Membership
    https://theadultchair.com/membership/
    The Adult Chair® Events
    https://theadultchair.com/events/
    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification
    https://theadultchair.com/certification
    STAY CONNECTED
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
    Facebook: https://www.

    • 45 min
    How to Find Your Passion and Purpose

    How to Find Your Passion and Purpose

    We were all created with a purpose, but so many of us feel disconnected from who we are and why we’re here.
    We get bogged down by everyday life, social pressure and the need to make money, and we get stuck in survival mode. Many of us don’t even know what our passion is!
    But you were made for more! You were made to live a life of joy and passion that lights you up inside…and it’s never too late to find that.
    In this show, I’m giving you five hands-on steps to uncover your passion and purpose in life. This episode will take you on an exciting journey of self-discovery that will reconnect you back to yourself in a profound way and discover why your beautiful soul is here on this planet.
    So, grab a pen and paper and follow along with me, or listen for the tips and do the exercises at a later date. But I promise, if you go through this process, you WILL discover more about what your purpose is…and how to start taking action towards it!
    Listen to discover:
    5 hands-on steps for finding your passion and purpose 3 lists you can make to uncover your passion today Affirmations for finding your passion and purpose How to keep fear and inaction from getting in the way Our purpose in life isn’t rigid. It might be more than one thing. It might change over the years. The way we live it out might evolve.
    This is why it’s so important that we learn how to tune into our intuition and take the next step on the illuminated path in each season of life.
    When we let go of exactly what it should look like and instead embrace the exciting journey of life, we will be able to respond to the nudges we get from our soul and experience the joy of living in the flow…our unique path, designed around our gifts, passions and purpose.
    “Hopefully, your purpose lights you up and you feel passionate about it.” - Michelle Chalfant
    “The body knows why we’re here.” - Michelle Chalfant
    “Use your heart and your body as a navigation system that will lead you down a path to help you to find your passion and purpose.” - Michelle Chalfant
    “Every soul on the planet has gifts.” - Michelle Chalfant
    "What you hear, you have to take action on." - Michelle Chalfant
    "That soul, it's connected to something way bigger than us. It's got a vision for our whole life." - Michelle Chalfant
    “You are wise beyond your knowledge.” - Michelle Chalfant
    “Life is happening through you all the time.” - Michelle Chalfant
    “Feel your fear and do it anyway.” - Michelle Chalfant
    LINKS & RESOURCES
    Certified Adult Chair® Coaches
    https://theadultchair.com/coaches/
    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the Waitlist!
    https://theadultchair.com/certification
    MORE ADULT CHAIR
    The Adult Chair® Website
    https://theadultchair.com 
    The Adult Chair® Membership
    https://theadultchair.com/membership/
    The Adult Chair® Events
    https://theadultchair.com/events/
    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification
    https://theadultchair.com/certification
    STAY CONNECTED
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/
    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

    • 28 min
    How to Get Rid of Negative Emotions

    How to Get Rid of Negative Emotions

    Grief, anger, sadness, fear…YUCK! I don’t know anyone who likes to feel these emotions.
    I get emails from you guys all the time asking how to get rid of “negative” emotions like these.
    But are these emotions really negative? Or do they serve a purpose in our lives?
    While some emotions might feel more unpleasant than others, I personally don’t believe any emotion is negative. All emotions are part of the human experience and carry information for us.
    However, they can create negative experiences in life when we get stuck in them.
    The problem isn’t the emotions; it’s that we don’t know what to do with them!
    In this show, I’m teaching you how to work through the full range of emotions you were designed to experience as a human and how to get unstuck if you find yourself lost in anger, grief or fear.
    You’ll discover practical steps for feeling your emotions in a way that allows them to move through you, no matter how you saw emotions modeled growing up.
    Listen to discover:
    Why “negative” emotions serve a purpose in life The messages we receive about emotions as children What causes emotions to get stuck Practical steps to feel emotions and move them through you Emotions are simply energy that moves through our body and creates sensation. And on the spectrum of emotions from love to fear, some feel better than others…but because they are energy, they can ALL move through us (and move through us quickly).
    Problems arise when emotions come up that we don’t want to feel. We avoid them and shut them down, which makes us more likely to get stuck in these “negative” experiences.
    That's why we have to start going INTO our emotions, no matter how uncomfortable it might feel. When you do this, you’ll be surprised how quickly they move through you...and what powerful insights they might hold for you.
    ​​“We’re human, and humans were created to have emotions. We were created to have a range of emotions.” - Michelle Chalfant
    “There’s an energy to emotions that rises up and passes through us.” - Michelle Chalfant
    “I don’t even like to call emotions on the fear end of the spectrum ‘negative.’” - Michelle Chalfant
    “Anger propels us forward.” - Michelle Chalfant
    “Energy is always in motion, and emotions are energy.” - Michelle Chalfant
    “Something that keeps emotions stuck is a story.” - Michelle Chalfant
    “Just let it go and be present with whatever is coming up.” - Michelle Chalfant
    “When you put pen to paper, you’re tapping into your unconscious world.” - Michelle Chalfant
    “There’s power when someone is witnessing what’s going on in our inner world.” - Michelle Chalfant
    “If you feel the energy of peace, it's neutral.” - Michelle Chalfant
    LINKS & RESOURCES
    The Adult Chair Workshop Nashville: November 3-5, 2022
    https://theadultchair.com/nashville
    MORE ADULT CHAIR
    The Adult Chair® Website
    https://theadultchair.com 
    The Adult Chair® Membership
    https://theadultchair.com/membership/
    The Adult Chair® Events
    https://theadultchair.com/events/
    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification
    https://theadultchair.com/certification
    STAY CONNECTED
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/
    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

    • 26 min
    How to Thrive After a Narcissistic Relationship with Melanie Tonia Evans

    How to Thrive After a Narcissistic Relationship with Melanie Tonia Evans

    If there’s one thing that most cases of narcissistic abuse have in common, it’s that the narcissist has an incredible ability to blindside their victims. Nearly every story starts out with someone meeting a wonderful, charming person until suddenly their dark side comes out. 

    Sometimes the abuse can be so subtle that the victim doesn’t notice it’s happening until it’s broken them down. The gaslighting can be so intense that even the strongest person can wonder if they’re the crazy one and if it’s all their fault.
     
    Narcissism is so, so sinister.
     
    This was what happened to Melanie Tonia Evans after she married what seemed like a wonderful man, before she even knew what a narcissist was. His abuse eventually pushed her into a breakdown that became a moment of healing, as it revealed to her the unhealed places in herself. Today, she has developed her own energy healing method to heal trauma at the soul level – beyond the conscious mind – and help others recover from narcissistic abuse.
     
    In the episode, Melanie talks about the keys to recognizing and healing from narcissistic abuse, how her experience with narcissism led her to healing her own self-worth and inner child and how she eventually learned to love who she really was and become whole.

    Listen to discover:
    The dynamics of a narcissistic relationship 
    How Melanie discovered the unhealed places in herself that attracted her to a narcissistic partner Why it's so hard to leave a narcissist How to heal from narcissistic abuse in your inner world Next steps when leaving a relationship with a narcissist The difference between a survivor and thriver The #1 mistake people make when trying to recover from narcissistic abuse I’m so thankful that narcissism is more widely talked about. While the narcissist is cunning, with the tools to recognize narcissism and become our emotionally healthy true selves, I hope more and more of us can see through the narcissist's careful image and stop being blindsided by abuse.

    "What really scared me the most was how I started tolerating behaviors I never thought in my wildest dreams that I would be tolerating." - Melanie Tonia Evans
     
    "One of the biggest realizations I had in that epiphany moment was that he was treating me identically to how I'd been treating myself." - Melanie Tonia Evans
     
    "I had plenty of understanding from the chin up, but I wasn't standing in who I was." - Melanie Tonia Evans
     
    "When the person leaves, the narcissist does go after the person that leaves, and it's not pretty."  - Michelle Chalfant
     
    "There's got to be a sense of the inner strength and empowerment in order to leave." - Michelle Chalfant
     
    "The narcissist is a black and white individual." - Melanie Tonia Evans
     
    "You're either serving the false self, where you're amazing. And if you want to get away or you're not, well then you are absolute trash." - Melanie Tonia Evans
     
    "The victim often looks like the perpetrator." - Melanie Tonia Evans
     
    "We actually thrive, not despite what happened to us, but literally because of what happened for us." - Melanie Tonia Evans
     
    LINKS & RESOURCES 
     
    Melanie Tonia Evans Website
    https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/  
     
    Melanie Tonia Evans Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program
    https://courses.melanietoniaevans.com/p/narp  
     
    Melanie Tonia Evans Masterclass
    https://www.recoverhealthrive.com/ 
     
    The Adult Chair Workshop Nashville: November 3-5, 2022
    https://theadultchair.com/nashville  
     
    MORE ADULT CHAIR

    The Adult Chair® Website
    https://theadultchair.com 

    The Adult Chair® Membership
    https://theadultchair.com/membership/ 

    The Adult Chair® Events
    https://theadultchair.com/events/ 

    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification 
    https://theadultchair.com/certification 
     
    STAY CONNECTED

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant 
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ 
    The Adult

    • 53 min
    Understanding and Preventing Suicide with Anne Moss Rogers

    Understanding and Preventing Suicide with Anne Moss Rogers

    Anne Moss Rogers will never forget the day she got the news that no parent wants to hear: her son had died.
    And then a second piece of news came like a punch to the gut: he had died by suicide.
    Anne Moss and her husband knew he had been struggling with alcohol and drugs, but they didn’t realize he had been using substances to mask thoughts of suicide. On top of their loss and grief, they were forced to wrestle with the questions that often come in the wake of suicide: Did they miss the signs? Was there more they could have done? How could such a wonderful person like their son feel so hopeless?
    In this episode, Anne Moss shares her powerful story of surviving and healing after her son’s death, how she overcame the questions and guilt that come when someone close dies by suicide and her work as a mental health and suicide prevention speaker, reaching others who are hurting and educating people on the signs of suicide.
    Anne Moss uses her expertise to pull back the curtain on a tough topic that we often want to sweep under the rug and gives practical advice on how to talk about suicide, how to help someone who might be contemplating suicide and how to process grief following a suicide.
     
    Listen to discover: 
    Anne Moss's story and how she has processed the grief of her son’s death How Anne Moss overcame the guilt and questions surrounding her son's death The increasing rates of suicide among young people and what might be driving it The signs that someone might be contemplating suicide What to say and what not to say to someone contemplating suicide Correct language for describing suicide Tips for parents concerned about their children  
    Suicide is becoming a rising cause of death, especially among young people, and while it’s a tough topic to talk about, it’s one that is too important to ignore. In fact, 86% of people who think about suicide let their intentions be known in some way. Anne Moss’s advice in this episode helps us know how to approach this topic with empathy and boldness and how to walk alongside a child or friend who might be struggling.
     
    If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide, please call or text 988 or visit https://988lifeline.org/ to talk to someone who will offer you support and understanding with zero judgment. You don’t have to walk through this alone.
     
    "Our love isn't what prevents suicides." - Anne Moss Rogers
     
    "They don't leave because they don't love you...they leave because they are in pain or a place of deep despair." - Anne Moss Rogers
     
    "It is really hard for a lot of humans to walk in and sit with someone in their tragedy." - Anne Moss Rogers
     
    "Time removed [grief's] fangs." - Anne Moss Rogers
     
    "You cannot push pain away. You have to go straight into it to heal it." - Michelle Chalfant
     
    "I'd rather somebody be mad at me than dead." - Anne Moss Rogers
     
    "Your job is to listen with empathy...allowing another person to feel heard is the absolute greatest gift you can give to another human." - Anne Moss Rogers
     
    "86% of those who thought about suicide let their intentions be known in some way."  - Anne Moss Rogers
     
     
    LINKS & RESOURCES
    Anne Moss Rogers Blog
    www.emotionallynaked.com
     
    Anne Moss Rogers Website
    https://annemossrogers.com/
     
    "Diary of a Broken Mind" (Anne Moss Rogers book)
    https://www.amazon.com/DIARY-BROKEN-MIND-Mothers-Haunting/dp/0998788163
     
    Suicide Prevention Lifeline
    Call or text 988
    https://988lifeline.org/
     
    The Adult Chair Workshop Nashville: November 3-5, 2022
    https://theadultchair.com/nashville
     
     
    MORE ADULT CHAIR
    The Adult Chair® Website
    https://theadultchair.com 
     
    The Adult Chair® Membership
    https://theadultchair.com/membership/
     
    The Adult Chair® Events
    https://theadultchair.com/events/
     
    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification
    https://theadultchair.com/certification
     
     
    STAY CONNECTED 
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
     
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    • 55 min
    Becoming a Story Buster with Claudine Sweeney

    Becoming a Story Buster with Claudine Sweeney

    As humans, we tell ourselves stories all the time, every day. As we go through life, we try to make sense of our circumstances by making assumptions, filling in blanks and telling ourselves stories about why things are the way they are.
     
    The problem? 97% of the time, these stories aren’t true!
     
    These untrue stories and assumptions that we believe create SO much unnecessary stress, anxiety and pain…they can even destroy our relationships.
     
    In this show, I chat with my good friend and fellow life coach, Claudine Sweeney, about the time that stories and assumptions almost ended our 15-year friendship. This hilarious story is an incredible example of how easily we can all fall into story and the domino effect assumptions have on our lives and our relationships. It’s only because we chose to be truth seekers that we were able to clear up the misunderstanding and save our friendship!
     
    In this show, we’re sharing practical tips for how you can bust stories and live as a truth seeker…and save yourself a whole lot of stress, pain and drama in the process!
     
    Listen to discover:
    The (now) hilarious story of how Claudine and I almost lost our friendship ALL because of assumptions Why our brains so easily create stories How our past experiences can feed our stories and assumptions Steps to bust stories and unwind assumptions How to change your life by choosing better, more conscious thoughts The power of giving others the benefit of the doubt and seeking a higher perspective  
    Stories and assumptions are a vicious cycle because once we have a story in our mind, our ego collects all the evidence to validate that story. We suddenly only see things that reinforce our beliefs.
     
    It takes courage to slow down, question our thoughts and ask others for clarity, facts and truth…but it’s what we do from our Adult Chair!
     
    We don’t just make assumptions about our own lives; we make assumptions about others around us all the time. We assume we know what type of person someone is and what type of experience they’ve had in life because of where they live or what they look like or stereotypes and prejudices we hold. How often do assumptions lead to anger, division and even hate?
     
    By being curious, giving people the benefit of the doubt and leading with love, we not only change our lives and our relationships, but we might even change the world.
     
    “Stories and assumptions are things that plague every aspect of our lives.” - Michelle Chalfant
     
    “And all of the sudden that lack of invitation becomes this whole story and there’s so many assumptions and it can really destroy relationships.” - Claudine Sweeney
     
    “We collect data to reinforce the story…The eyes and the brain will sort for anything to reinforce what my belief is.” - Michelle Chalfant
     
    “What we do as healthy adults is we learn to bust those stories.” - Michelle Chalfant
     
    “Our pasts come into play here.” - Claudine Sweeney
     
    “Blame is all from the ego.” - Michelle Chalfant
     
    “[We] believe our feelings are fact and truth.” - Claudine Sweeney
     
    “97% of the time that we’re in stories and assumptions, they’re incorrect.” - Michelle Chalfant
     
    “If someone comes at us and treats us in an unkind way, we have to consider the circumstance.” - Michelle Chalfant
     
    “I challenge and encourage my clients to get curious, not critical.” - Claudine Sweeney
     
    “We fall victim to our negative, unconscious thoughts.” - Michelle Chalfant
     
    “When I learned that my thoughts generated my emotions…it was mind-blowing and absolutely changed my life.” - Claudine Sweeney
     
     
    LINKS & RESOURCES
     
    Claudine Sweeney Website
    https://claudinesweeney.com/
     
    Share Your Love: Review The Adult Chair® Podcast
    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-adult-chair/id941317634?mt=2&ign-mpt=uo%3D4
     
     
    MORE ADULT CHAIR
     
    The Adult Chair® Website
    https://theadultchair.c

    • 35 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
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1.3K Ratings

karafr ,

Amazing!

Michelle you are a lifesaver. Your podcasts have helped me, and continue to help me more than I can ever say. I love how real you are and how comforting it is to listen to someone who just seems to completely get where I am. Thank you so much!

Softball is my life ⚾ ,

As satisfying as my morning coffee

These podcasts are as satisfying as my morning coffee . In all seriousness, they are overall insightful and empowering. I value my time, they are always worth my time and effort. Thank you !

Pono-eh ,

My favorite!

I love this podcast and it is my favorite. I have learned so much. I am 66 and just starting to sit in my adult chair. I share this podcast with all my friends ❤️

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