The Aligned Actor

Amy Schloerb

A podcast on mindfulness and mindset for performers. thealignedactor.substack.com

  1. 3d ago

    Walk & Talk: Exhausting Thoughts

    NOTE: This episode was recorded while I was on a walk with my dogs so you will hear “neighborhood noise” — planes, cars, poop bags, etc. The written portion of this article is a lightly edited transcript, so it may seem more informal than usual. Hello, and welcome back to The Aligned Actor Podcast. I’m Amy Schloerb, your friendly fellow actor and mindfulness and mindset coach. And this is the podcast where I share practical mindfulness tips and mindset shifts to help us all thrive in our full actor lives. Because actor life, as we all know, is a roller coaster. It is full of ups and downs, twists and turns. We never know what’s coming next. And it can really wreak havoc on our nervous system. The entertainment industry is not set up to be a supportive, welcoming, nurturing environment. To say the least. So it really falls on us to take care of ourselves, to support our physical, mental, and emotional health, so that we can stay strong and can stay in this business. Because this really is a business and we deserve to thrive in it even though it is a business and it’s our artistry and it feels so personal because we’re putting ourselves out there as artists. I was at the SAG-AFTRA Los Angeles Conservatory this weekend for their weekend intensive. I teach classes there. I’m also a member. I take classes there. I really have enjoyed being a part of that organization that’s run through SAG-AFTRA and it’s fantastic. I can’t say enough good things about it. And they had their weekend intensive recently in August. And one of the panelists at a panel that I attended mentioned how acting is one of the only professions where, as artists, we are not removed from our art. We are the product. There is no separation between us and the product. It’s not like, “Oh, I’m a painter and I paint on a canvas and then that canvas is separate from me and I get to display it somewhere.” It’s very different, right, as actors. We are our product in the end. And then everything in our industry, all the rejection, all the uncertainty, all of that kind of stuff — [Pause for dog noise] In case I hadn’t already said it, we are out on a walk and talk again this episode. And my dogs have things to say today about other dogs in our neighborhood. So that is the lovely soundscape that you’re getting as we do this episode. So anyway, where were we? There is no separation between us as artists and the product we produce. And that then can make everything within our industry feel more personal, and hurt more, and wreak all that much more havoc on our nervous systems. Which is why we need to be taking care of ourselves. And the topic that I want to talk about today, and again, because this is just a walk and talk, we’re not going to get super deep into this. This is kind of my preliminary thoughts on this topic. I want to do a deeper dive on it later. So this is really just to whet your appetite. So at the conservatory this weekend, I taught a class on actor energy. I taught a class where the title of it was, Energy for Your Actor Life. And the idea behind it was, there is so much of actor life that is energetically exhausting. We’re exhausted. Friends, there’s so much that we have to do. There’s so much about being an actor that is physically exhausting, mentally exhausting, and emotionally exhausting. And so the point of the class was to identify those things and then to figure out ways that we can get energy back into our systems so that we have enough energy to do all the wonderful things that we want to do as actors. Something really interesting came up in this class where I started to realize, and I kind of already knew this, but it was very abundantly clear from the types of answers I was getting from the participants that one of the most exhausting things about being an actor are thoughts. The types of thoughts that we’re thinking about our career and about the industry. So the point of this episode is just to kind of get you starting to gently consider your thoughts. Your thoughts about yourself as an actor, your thoughts about the industry at large. Are they giving you energy or are they draining your energy? So let me give you some examples. If you have recently been having the thought, “AI is going to take all our jobs, we’re screwed.” Does that thought give you energy as an actor? Or does it take your energy away? Does it make you want to get up and like, “Yeah, I’m going to go do a class and I’m going to, you know, put together some scenes and I want to produce my own content and I want to do my own stuff. I’m really excited to like get myself out there!” Or does it make you go, “Well, if AI is coming for all of us anyway, oh God, what’s the point even? I’m going to sit on my couch.” It’s stressful to think about. It’s stressful to think about AI coming for our jobs and that maybe there won’t be a place for us anymore or what does our landscape look like, right? That’s stressful. That stress tanks our energy. It takes away from our energy. It’s energetically exhausting to think about that constantly and be stressed about it. So that’s just one example. Another example, what about,”They only watch the first 15 seconds of the self-tape.” Okay. So does that thought give you energy as an actor? Does that make you go, “Yeah, they only watched the first 15 seconds, so I’m going to go kick butt at my whole self-tape!” Or, does thinking that thought make you go, “Oh, what’s even the point? I mean, I guess I’ll get it done because I’ve got to get it done, but like, ugh. Why? It’s not fair.” Because it’s not fair. I get it. That thought feels very unfair. I understand that. I would push back on it, though, that that is mind reading. That is projection. We don’t actually know. We don’t know. And we will never know how much or how little — and it’s not our business, frankly — how much or how little of our self-tape casting watches. It’s just out of our control completely. And continuing to feed that thought energy is energetically expensive and energetically exhausting. It’s tiring to keep thinking that, to keep stressing about it, right? So that’s another one. And then...I thought I had a third one. But now I’m not remembering it. So anyway, you get the idea here. And if that third idea, that third example comes to me, I will let you know. But you get the point. The point is, I want you to start thinking through and sort of just opening your awareness to the thoughts that you’re having about yourself as an actor, about your career, about the industry at large. And just start asking yourself, when you catch yourself thinking something like, “They only watched the first 15 seconds,” just notice what that does to your energy. Does it make your energy go up or down? Because I don’t know you, maybe thinking that thought makes your energy go up. I have no idea. Oh, I thought of the third example. So the third example of a thought that I’m guessing probably takes away from your energy and is energetically exhausting — “Why didn’t I book it?” That is a question that cannot be answered. And when we have a question that cannot be answered, our brain won’t let it go. Because our brains like to close loops. Our brains like satisfying conclusions and answers. I t’s kind of like when a song is stuck in your head and you can’t get it out and you never get to hear the end of the song and you’re like just tortured by it for a long time. That thought becomes an earworm in the same sort of way. Because there’s no answer to it. There’s no answer to why you didn’t book. You’ll never know. You will never, ever know. And your brain is going to continually try to answer it. And it’s going to answer it probably with more thoughts that are energetically exhausting. Such as, “I wasn’t good enough. They didn’t like my work. They only watched the first 15 seconds anyway, so of course they didn’t get to see how great I was.” All these thoughts are exhausting because they’re stressful. They stress our nervous system. Our nervous system gets activated, and then that’s a lot for our bodies to handle. So all these thoughts are tiring. So, your homework, should you choose to accept it, is to just be on the lookout for thoughts that are energetically exhausting. When you think about yourself as an actor, when you think about your career, is that thought that you’re having tiring? Does it drain your energy? Or does it give you energy? That’s what I want you to be on the lookout for. And there are plenty of thoughts that you could be thinking about your career and about the industry that could be giving you energy. Just the other day in my wonderful audition technique class with John M. Keating, he was talking about how he’s seen an uptick in coaching sessions that he’s had with people and auditions that he’s been getting for himself. So he’s kind of excited. He’s like, “I’m excited because the landscape for this fall, I think it’s going to be good. I think we’re coming back. I think things are on the rise.” And so that, the idea of like, “Hey, maybe the contraction is turning back into an expansion!” That’s an energizing thought to be thinking as an actor. There’s more and more shows and auditions out there. Things are picking up again from the pandemic, from the strikes. That’s an energizing thought. And of course, everybody’s going to be different in what is an energizing thought versus an energy draining thought. But just be on the lookout for which thoughts are draining your energy? Which thoughts are energizing you? Keep an eye out for that. And again, we’re going to do, you know, this is sort of the rough draft episode because it’s a walk and talk, so we’ll get into this more. But for now, just be asking yourself the question, “

  2. Aug 6

    Walk & Talk: A Quiet Walk

    NOTE: This episode was recorded while I was on a walk with my dogs so you will hear “neighborhood noise” — planes, cars, poop bags, etc. The written portion of this article is a lightly edited transcript, so it may seem more informal than usual. Hello, and welcome to The Aligned Actor Podcast. I'm Amy Schloerb, your friendly fellow actor and mindfulness and mindset coach and this is the podcast where I offer practical mindfulness tools and mindset shifts to help us all thrive in our full actor lives. Because we deserve to thrive in our full actor lives. Despite the havoc that the entertainment industry likes to wreak on our nervous systems, we are not powerless. In the face of all of that, we have tools at our disposal, things that we can do, ways that we can shift our minds, ways that we can shift our consciousness, maybe, or just our bodies, our nervous systems, so that we can set ourselves up for success and thrive and care for ourselves in an industry that really doesn't give an S or an F or an anything about us. (holy run-on sentence, batman!) We can care for ourselves. And we must care for ourselves. This is another Walk & Talk episode of The Aligned Actor Podcast. So you're gonna hear helicopters. You're gonna hear the jingle jangle of doggy collars. You might hear the rustling of a poop bag, if you're lucky. I'm out on a walk with my dogs, but I wanted to record this episode because I have an idea for you, which is something I've talked about in the past, but it's worth mentioning again. Go for a quiet walk. Now, that might sound odd to say or ironic to say as you're listening to all these various sounds around me. The helicopters, the cars, the birds, the, I mean, birds are kind of nice, but, you know, the rustling of the dogs, the whatever. This seems like not a quiet walk at all, right? But what I mean by ‘go for a quiet walk’ is go for a walk without input and without chosen external stimulation in the form of a podcast or an audiobook or watching something on your phone while you're walking. (Seriously, I see people doing that in my neighborhood, and it's a little weird because I'm like, “Don't trip, please don't fall!”) But anyway, a quiet walk. Where you're literally just walking, noticing, looking at the things around you, listening to the sounds around you, even if they're annoying, even if it's helicopters and planes and barking dogs and leaf blowers. However you feel about the sounds, you're just observing, you're just witnessing. There is something really powerful about that. It's very mindful, obviously. It very much brings you into the present moment. Whereas if you're listening to a podcast or an audiobook, you're in your mind. You're probably imagining, you know, what do those podcast people look like? What does their studio look like? Oh, they're talking about a video game, or they're talking about something that happened, and now I'm picturing that event or that level of the video game depending on what the podcast is. Or if you're listening to an audio book and that audio book is doing a really great job of creating a world that you're seeing in your mind's eye and experiencing in that way. And that's all great. Trust me, I listen to a lot of podcasts and audio books when I'm out on walks with my dogs. But I also do sometimes what's called a quiet walk, which is what I've been talking about here today. And I'm finding it funny that I'm walking past a construction site as I'm talking about a quiet walk. But again, it's not about the walk being quiet, it's not a silent walk. It's a quiet walk. Just meaning there's no, I haven't chosen what to put in my ears. I'm not controlling the input. The present moment is controlling the input. So I'm hearing the rolling of a dolly cart. I'm hearing the pft-pft-pft of a nail gun at the construction site. I'm hearing hammering at the construction site. I'm hearing the jingle jangle of my doggys’ collars. All kinds of things. I'm also hearing birds. I'm seeing the world around me. I'm not in my mind. In the pictures of the podcast or the audio book. Not in the inner world. I'm in the outer world. I'm in my present moment. And that is a way to practice mindfulness. It's an informal way to practice mindfulness. We're not sitting still, focusing on our breath. We're literally just being and existing in the present moment. It's a really great way to practice mindfulness because it is your present moment. And it's something that you can do anytime, anywhere. You can practice it when you're in line at the grocery store, or in traffic, or at a museum, or wherever you are, you can be there. That sounds very Yogi Berra of me. But wherever you are, you can practice just being in that moment and observing yourself in that present moment rather than going to your phone for input, or having your headphones in, listening to something for input. Just practice being and existing and taking in your present moment. Because you don't know what will come on ‘the podcast of life,’ as it were. And I don't know, it's just kind of, it's fun. It's a way to practice mindfulness. It's a fun one and it can continue to help you with those ripple effects of you becoming more mindful, more self-aware, more situationally aware. And all of that is very good for you overall. And it helps you in many, many different ways. And a little later on the podcast, we are going to get into the ways that mindfulness is really beneficial for actors and how it helps us all. But taking a quiet walk, I think one of the biggest benefits of that is it's very regulating for the nervous system. It's very calming. It's very relaxing. It's very present moment oriented. You're not off in the future. You're not back in the past. You're in the present. And in the present, things are normally okay. And then when you notice that you're off in the future or you're back in the past, you can easily direct yourself to the present just by observing the world around you, noticing what's happening on your quiet walk. So that's what I have for you today. This is just a little idea I wanted to share. It's something that really helps me calm down and feel more relaxed and at ease and regulate my nervous system. So I wanted to share that with you whilst I was actually out doing it. I was actually out on a walk and doing it quietly. I did not have a podcast in my ears. I was recording a podcast out of my mouth. So there you go. All right. As always, you can go to my website, thealignedactor.com, to find out more about me, Amy Schloerb, and my work. And I look forward to seeing you again real soon. Bye-bye. Thank you so much for joining me! If you found this content helpful and inspiring, I’d be honored if you’d leave a comment, share it with your actor pals, and check out my offerings below. Thanks! Get Out of Your Head and Rock Your Next Audition 🎧 I’ve created a free guided meditation to help you get out of your head and into your character so that you can rock your next audition. It’s going to help you calm your nerves, let go of distracting thoughts — How can I book this? What do they want? — and focus in on what your character wants, what’s going on in the scene, so that you can present your best work every time. Access Your Presence and Feel Empowered in Your Actor Life 📖 The Aligned Actor Mindfulness Toolkit This ebook is comprehensive collection of tools guaranteed to be the Dramamine you need for the roller coaster ride of #ActorLife. Whether you’re dealing with audition nerves, obsessively checking your email after submitting a self tape, or just learned your series has been canceled, there’s something here that will help you access your presence and feel grounded again. I’m a professional actor, a mindfulness and mindset coach, and I’m ready to help you thrive in your actor life. 🎭 I’ve been a professional actress for almost 20 years. I’ve survived 3 industry shut downs - 2 strikes and 1 global pandemic. I’ve worked in TV, film, commercials, and produced my own award-winning web series. 🧠 I’ve been a life coach for 5 years, specializing in mindfulness and neurolinguistic programming and helping people become more aware and focused on making positive changes in their lives. 💖 I blend lived experience with powerful, proven coaching tools. 🎢 Let’s get you feeling resilient, empowered, focused, playful, relaxed, confident, and riding the acting career roller coaster without throwing up! 🤗 Get full access to The Aligned Actor at thealignedactor.substack.com/subscribe

  3. Jul 30

    Walk & Talk: Summer Break

    NOTE: This episode was recorded while I was on a walk with my dogs so you will hear “neighborhood noise” — planes, cars, poop bags, etc. The written portion of this article is a lightly edited transcript, so it may seem more informal than usual. Alright. Hello and welcome to The Aligned Actor Podcast. I’m Amy Schloerb, your friendly fellow actor and mindfulness and mindset coach. And this is the podcast where I offer practical mindfulness tools and mindset shifts to help us all thrive in our full actor lives. Because we deserve to thrive in our full actor lives. The acting business is a roller coaster. It’s full of ups and downs, twists and turns. We never know what’s coming next. We will only survive if we are taking care of our bodies, our minds, and our spirits and making sure that we are fortifying our nervous systems because the entertainment industry likes to wreak havoc on our nervous systems. And so this is the podcast where I try to help us all handle all of that muck and turmoil and trials and tribulations with as much grace and self-compassion, inner kindness and humor and love and laughter and light and all the stuff as possible. For those of you who are consuming this content on Substack (or probably on YouTube as well) you may notice there’s a big difference. There’s no face! There’s no video! Because this is an impromptu episode that I am recording while I’m out on a walk with my dogs. And you might hear me rustling with a poop bag at the moment, because that’s what happens when you’re out on a walk with dogs. Sometimes they have to go 10-2. This is live and unfiltered, folks. Fun times. I’m recording this episode because, like I said, it’s an impromptu episode. I had all these plans for this summer where we were going to do this deep dive on mindfulness, and we still are. We just got through all of the content on the basics of mindfulness. What it is, how to do it. I’ve been giving you practices that you can use and incorporate into your life, and I was about to get into the benefits of mindfulness and why this matters to actors so much. And truth be told, I had recorded all of that content before the summer while my child was still in school. And I thought, “Okay, clearly at times I’m going to find times to step away and record more content.” And that just has not happened because for whatever reason, Summer mode got activated in my mom body. When I have some free time, I am reading a book. The motivation on work kind of went to a standstill this summer, which I think is okay and I actually think is really good. It’s actually what I want to talk about in this episode. I want to talk about how sometimes as actors we feel like we gotta keep going. All the time. There’s always something new, something different, something we could tweak, something we could do better, or different, or more for our careers. But I don’t want us to neglect or underestimate the power of rest, the power of vegging out, the power of reading a book, the power of creative dormancy, the power of just relaxing, and letting life just be what it is in this moment. Because these seasons don’t last forever. They come and they go. Just stopping every once in a while, as Ferris Bueller would say, “If you don’t slow down and look around every once in a while, you’re going to miss your life.” (Something like that, paraphrased.) We need to allow ourselves that time. And I’m actually really glad that I have allowed myself that time this summer. I’ve been spending some really great time with my kid. Like I said, I’ve been reading, I’ve been relaxing, and it’s been very restorative and very helpful. And I think we all need that at times as actors. So that’s really what I wanted to jump on here and let you know about. First off, to know we’re doing a little bit of a hiatus here at The Aligned Actor podcast slash Substack. So don’t expect more content on mindfulness until probably the end of August, I would say. Maybe even September. I’m not exactly sure. Maybe I’ll do another one of these little episodes on some kind of idea. I’m not really sure about that either. I’m kind of going with the flow at the moment. I hope you are enjoying your summer as well. And if you’re not, if something has been slow or not to your liking or whatever the case may be, I want you to know that this too shall pass, which I know sounds trite, but it’s true. Mindfulness teaches us that everything is temporary. Impermanence is really the only permanent thing. Everything changes. Everything flows. Nothing stays the same forever. It just can’t. That’s not realistic. That’s not life. So if this summer has been challenging for you, then my heart goes out to you and I see you. And certainly there have been aspects of this summer for me that have been very challenging as well. So I definitely do see you. I feel you. But know that this too shall pass. There will be another side. We will get through it. And we will continue on. I’m going to go back to enjoying this nice day. It’s actually got a nice breeze here. It’s not too hot. I thought it was going to be really hot when I stepped outside today for this walk with my doggies, but it’s not so bad. So we’re going to enjoy our walk and I hope that you enjoy your day. Thank you so much for joining me! If you found this content helpful and inspiring, I’d be honored if you’d leave a comment, share it with your actor pals, and check out my offerings below. Thanks! Get Out of Your Head and Rock Your Next Audition 🎧 I’ve created a free guided meditation to help you get out of your head and into your character so that you can rock your next audition. It’s going to help you calm your nerves, let go of distracting thoughts — How can I book this? What do they want? — and focus in on what your character wants, what’s going on in the scene, so that you can present your best work every time. Access Your Presence and Feel Empowered in Your Actor Life 📖 The Aligned Actor Mindfulness Toolkit This ebook is comprehensive collection of tools guaranteed to be the Dramamine you need for the roller coaster ride of #ActorLife. Whether you’re dealing with audition nerves, obsessively checking your email after submitting a self tape, or just learned your series has been canceled, there’s something here that will help you access your presence and feel grounded again. I’m a professional actor, a mindfulness and mindset coach, and I’m ready to help you thrive in your actor life. 🎭 I’ve been a professional actress for almost 20 years. I’ve survived 3 industry shut downs - 2 strikes and 1 global pandemic. I’ve worked in TV, film, commercials, and produced my own award-winning web series. 🧠 I’ve been a life coach for 5 years, specializing in mindfulness and neurolinguistic programming and helping people become more aware and focused on making positive changes in their lives. 💖 I blend lived experience with powerful, proven coaching tools. 🎢 Let’s get you feeling resilient, empowered, focused, playful, relaxed, confident, and riding the acting career roller coaster without throwing up! 🤗 Get full access to The Aligned Actor at thealignedactor.substack.com/subscribe

  4. Jul 23

    Let's Give Your Breath A Call!

    In this episode we’re once again going to practice mindfulness of breathing and apply the important phone call metaphor we talked about in a previous episode. The basic overview for this practice is simple: * Start a conversation with your breath. * As distractions try to interrupt that conversation, acknowledge them and stay with your breath, “Hey, I’m having an important conversation, let’s talk later.” * If you notice you’ve completely “dropped the call” or “hung up” your breath, just gently and kindly reconnect with your breath. Disclaimer: If you’re driving or doing something that requires your attention, please come back to the practice later. As always, please practice responsibly. If you want to read the meditation… Go ahead and find a comfortable position for your body. You can keep you eyes open or gently close them, if that feels good. Bring your awareness to your breath, start that curious and kind conversation. Notice your inhales and exhales gently. If it helps you focus, you can think to yourself, “I am breathing in” as you inhale, and “I am breathing out” as you exhale. Or simply, “In” and “Out.” You can also count your inhales and exhales. Converse with your breath in whatever way works best for you. If your mind wanders — you drop your call with your breath — just gently bring your attention back to your breath — reconnect the call — and continue the conversation. As you continue the conversation with your breath, start to notice the qualities of each inhale and exhale. Again, you can narrate what you notice. This might sound like, “I am breathing in (or out) a long breath…a short breath…a slow breath…a deep breath.” Or just “short inhale,” “long exhale,” “slow breath,” “deep breath,” etc. Notice what kind of conversation you’re having with your breath. Again, if your mind wanders — you drop your call with your breath — just gently bring your attention back to your breath — reconnect the call — and continue the conversation, giving your inhales and exhales simple descriptions. And finally, I invite you to expand your awareness a bit and notice your breathing as a whole body experience. Notice how your body moves as you breathe. Again, in your mind you can narrate this experience to help you focus and notice even more. This might sound like, “I feel my chest expanding…belly rising/falling…body breathing.” Perhaps, as you’ve been practicing focusing on and noticing your breath, you’ve notice your body is a bit calmer and more relaxed. Our breath tends to effect our body in that way. Notice any increased sense of calmness you’re experiencing. Again, if your mind wanders — you drop your call with your breath — just gently bring your attention back to your breath — reconnect the call — and continue the conversation, noticing your whole body breathing. We’re going to end our mindfulness of breathing practice. As you feel ready, you can gently open your eyes if they were closed. Congratulations. You just practiced mindfulness of breathing. You had a nice conversation with your breath. Great job! Thank you so much for joining me! If you found this content helpful and inspiring, I’d be honored if you’d leave a comment, share it with your actor pals, and check out my offerings below. Thanks! Get Out of Your Head and Rock Your Next Audition 🎧 I’ve created a free guided meditation to help you get out of your head and into your character so that you can rock your next audition. It’s going to help you calm your nerves, let go of distracting thoughts — How can I book this? What do they want? — and focus in on what your character wants, what’s going on in the scene, so that you can present your best work every time. Access Your Presence and Feel Empowered in Your Actor Life 📖 The Aligned Actor Mindfulness Toolkit This ebook is comprehensive collection of tools guaranteed to be the Dramamine you need for the roller coaster ride of #ActorLife. Whether you’re dealing with audition nerves, obsessively checking your email after submitting a self tape, or just learned your series has been canceled, there’s something here that will help you access your presence and feel grounded again. I’m a professional actor, a mindfulness and mindset coach, and I’m ready to help you thrive in your actor life. 🎭 I’ve been a professional actress for almost 20 years. I’ve survived 3 industry shut downs - 2 strikes and 1 global pandemic. I’ve worked in TV, film, commercials, and produced my own award-winning web series. 🧠 I’ve been a life coach for 5 years, specializing in mindfulness and neurolinguistic programming and helping people become more aware and focused on making positive changes in their lives. 💖 I blend lived experience with powerful, proven coaching tools. 🎢 Let’s get you feeling resilient, empowered, focused, playful, relaxed, confident, and riding the acting career roller coaster without throwing up! 🤗 Get full access to The Aligned Actor at thealignedactor.substack.com/subscribe

  5. Jul 16

    Don't Hang Up on Steven Spielberg!

    In this episode I’m going to share a story-based metaphor for formal mindfulness meditation practice. As actors, we love stories, and humans in general tend to understand and remember ideas more easily when associated with story because stories help us relate to things. If mindfulness meditation is something that’s new for you, maybe you’re having trouble relating to it and there’s still parts of it that feel foreign or complicated or unfamiliar. Let’s fix that! Let’s turn our mindfulness meditation practice into a story. The Call of Your Career! You’ve been cast in a lead role in a Steven Spielberg film. Congratulations! Brilliant director that he is, Steven Spielberg has called you to discuss your character and the project as a whole. You’re having a great conversation. It’s fun and collaborative. You’re really connecting and excited to be working together. Suddenly, your roommate barges in and whines, “Ugh, I’ve had the worst day!” You quickly cover your phone mic and whisper, “I’m on the phone with Steven Spielberg.” Your roommate’s eyes bug out, they give you a huge thumbs up, mouth an apology, and duck out quietly. You and Steven Spielberg continue your conversation, but then you hear the familiar boop boop of call waiting. You notice it’s your scene partner from acting class, probably calling to arrange a time to rehearse, but of course you can’t talk now, so you let the call go to voicemail. Finally, Steven Spielberg is sharing his vision of the big climatic moment for your character when you start to hear the obnoxious whir of a leaf blower in your neighborhood. To make sure you don’t miss any of his genius, you close your window and put in your noise cancelling headphones. You and Steven Spielberg finish up your call, and you hang up feeling excited to be a part of this production. An Important Conversation with Your Breath The above story is a metaphor for mindfulness meditation. Obviously. Like I said in the opening, we’re using story to simplify our understand mindfulness practice. The Steven Spielberg is your breath. You’re staying focused on that conversation no matter what tries to distract you. The roommate, the other phone call, and the leaf blower are all the things that can cause your mind to wander away from focusing on your breath. In both phone calls and mindfulness sessions, distractions are going to happen. And when they do, we just gently guide our focus back to where we want it to be. * We don’t yell at our roommate. * We don’t smash our phone to get rid of the other caller. * We don’t scream at the leaf blower to stop. * And OF COURSE we would NEVER hang up on Steven Spielberg. This is the big difference between our phone call metaphor and an actual formal mindfulness session. Sometimes while practicing mindfulness we will completely “hang up” on our breath. Our mind will wander completely away. But the beautiful thing is that while Steven Spielberg would get really annoyed if we kept randomly putting the phone down mid-conversation to have a side-chat with our roommate, or take the other call, our breath is never upset when our mind wanders. Our breath is like a best friend who is always ready to welcome us back to the present moment with kind, open arms. If you “drop the call” just pick it back up again. No judgment. No shame. No need to beat yourself up. To recap, and sum up a mindfulness session, begin a kind and curious conversation with your breath, noticing your inhales and exhales. When distractions come up, just acknowledge them, “Hey, I’m having an important conversation, let’s talk later” and continue the conversation with your breath. Thank you so much for joining me! If you found this content helpful and inspiring, I’d be honored if you’d leave a comment, share it with your actor pals, and check out my offerings below. Thanks! Get Out of Your Head and Rock Your Next Audition 🎧 I’ve created a free guided meditation to help you get out of your head and into your character so that you can rock your next audition. It’s going to help you calm your nerves, let go of distracting thoughts — How can I book this? What do they want? — and focus in on what your character wants, what’s going on in the scene, so that you can present your best work every time. Access Your Presence and Feel Empowered in Your Actor Life 📖 The Aligned Actor Mindfulness Toolkit This ebook is comprehensive collection of tools guaranteed to be the Dramamine you need for the roller coaster ride of #ActorLife. Whether you’re dealing with audition nerves, obsessively checking your email after submitting a self tape, or just learned your series has been canceled, there’s something here that will help you access your presence and feel grounded again. I’m a professional actor, a mindfulness and mindset coach, and I’m ready to help you thrive in your actor life. 🎭 I’ve been a professional actress for almost 20 years. I’ve survived 3 industry shut downs - 2 strikes and 1 global pandemic. I’ve worked in TV, film, commercials, and produced my own award-winning web series. 🧠 I’ve been a life coach for 5 years, specializing in mindfulness and neurolinguistic programming and helping people become more aware and focused on making positive changes in their lives. 💖 I blend lived experience with powerful, proven coaching tools. 🎢 Let’s get you feeling resilient, empowered, focused, playful, relaxed, confident, and riding the acting career roller coaster without throwing up! 🤗 Get full access to The Aligned Actor at thealignedactor.substack.com/subscribe

  6. Jul 9

    Bring Your Calming Friend to Every Audition, Callback, and Booking

    In this episode we’re going to practice mindfulness of breathing. As the name suggests, we’re going to pay very close attention to our experience of breathing and I’m going to guide you in noticing different things about that sensation. This is one of the most basic, formal mindfulness practices and it often serves as the starting point or foundation for other mindfulness practices, which we will explore later in this series. My favorite thing about mindfulness of breathing is the relationship that it has helped me cultivate with my breath and my body as it breathes. The more I’ve practiced tuning into my breath and really becoming aware of what that experiences really feels like, the more I feel like I become friends with my breath. As I like to say, the breath is like a good friend ready to welcome us to the present moment anytime, anywhere. The breath helps calm the body and the mind, and the breath never judges or shames our mind when it wanders. It’s always happy to welcome us back to the present moment, and like true friends, we can just pick right back up like no time has passed. The breath is pretty much our calming, mindfulness bestie who we take with us everywhere we go. Let’s practice mindfulness of breathing. Disclaimer: If you’re driving or doing something that requires your attention, please come back to the practice later. As always, please practice responsibly. If you want to read the meditation… Go ahead and find a comfortable position for your body. You can keep you eyes open or gently close them, if that feels good. To bring your awareness to your breath, I’m going to invite you to take three slow, intentional breaths. Inhaling and exhaling gently. Then let the pace of your breathing become natural and comfortable for you. Notice as you breathe in, and think to yourself, “I am breathing in.” Notice as you breathe out, and think to yourself, “I am breathing out.” If your mind wanders, gently bring your attention back to your breath and continue narrating your inhales and exhales. Great job. Now that you are an expert as noticing when you’re breathing in and when you’re breathing out, start to notice the qualities of each inhale and exhale. Again, you can narrate what you notice. This might sound like, “I am breathing in (or out) a long breath…a short breath…a slow breath…a deep breath.” Add a simple word to more fully describe what you notice about the breath. Again, if your mind wanders, gently bring your attention back to your breath and continue giving your inhales and exhales simple descriptions. Great job. And finally, I invite you to expand your awareness a bit and notice your breathing as a whole body experience. Notice how your body moves as you breathe. Again, in your mind you can narrate this experience to help you focus and notice even more. This might sound like, “I feel my chest expanding…belly rising/falling…body breathing.” Perhaps, as you’ve been practicing focusing on and noticing your breath, you’ve noticed your body is a bit calmer and more relaxed. Our breath tends to effect our body in that way. Notice any increased sense of calmness or relaxation you’re experiencing. Again, if your mind wanders, gently bring your attention back to your breath and continue noticing how your body moves as you breathe and how your body feels as you focus on your breath. We’re going to end our mindfulness of breathing practice. As you feel ready, you can gently open your eyes if they were closed. Congratulations. You just practiced mindfulness of breathing. Great job! If you enjoyed that experience and want to practice again, you can find an audio track of just the guided mindfulness session in the Substack article. Thank you so much for joining me! If you found this content helpful and inspiring, I’d be honored if you’d leave a comment, share it with your actor pals, and check out my offerings below. Thanks! Get Out of Your Head and Rock Your Next Audition 🎧 I’ve created a free guided meditation to help you get out of your head and into your character so that you can rock your next audition. It’s going to help you calm your nerves, let go of distracting thoughts — How can I book this? What do they want? — and focus in on what your character wants, what’s going on in the scene, so that you can present your best work every time. Access Your Presence and Feel Empowered in Your Actor Life 📖 The Aligned Actor Mindfulness Toolkit This ebook is comprehensive collection of tools guaranteed to be the Dramamine you need for the roller coaster ride of #ActorLife. Whether you’re dealing with audition nerves, obsessively checking your email after submitting a self tape, or just learned your series has been canceled, there’s something here that will help you access your presence and feel grounded again. I’m a professional actor, a mindfulness and mindset coach, and I’m ready to help you thrive in your actor life. 🎭 I’ve been a professional actress for almost 20 years. I’ve survived 3 industry shut downs - 2 strikes and 1 global pandemic. I’ve worked in TV, film, commercials, and produced my own award-winning web series. 🧠 I’ve been a life coach for 5 years, specializing in mindfulness and neurolinguistic programming and helping people become more aware and focused on making positive changes in their lives. 💖 I blend lived experience with powerful, proven coaching tools. 🎢 Let’s get you feeling resilient, empowered, focused, playful, relaxed, confident, and riding the acting career roller coaster without throwing up! 🤗 Get full access to The Aligned Actor at thealignedactor.substack.com/subscribe

  7. Jul 2

    No Mic Hogs in Mindfulness Meditation

    In this episode we’re going to really break down what’s happening in a formal mindfulness session so that you can see how simple the process actually is. Hopefully this demystifies mindfulness meditation for you and makes it feel even more accessible. In simplest terms, mindfulness is about focusing and noticing. We practice formal mindfulness meditation by focusing on the sensation of our breathing. With our breath as our anchor, we notice whatever is happening in our present moment, both internally (thoughts, emotions, body sensations) and externally (anything your 5 senses notice). And we do all this with a general attitude of kindness and curiosity. Internally, you might notice… 💭 Thoughts * Thoughts about the future - “I wonder how much traffic there will be today.” * Thoughts about the past - “I can’t believe I messed up that line in my audition.” * Thoughts about the present - “I wish that leaf blower would stop.” 😩 Emotions or moods (perhaps associate with those thoughts) * Dreading the traffic, worrying you might be late for an audition or work. * Shame or self-doubt about whatever happened in that audition. * Irritation about the sound of the leaf blower. 👤 Body sensations * Tension in your neck and shoulders. * An itch on your elbow. * A rumbling in your stomach because you skipped breakfast. Externally, you might notice… Pretty much anything your 5 senses perceive * The sound of an airplane going over head. * The sight of a candle if you use one as a focus object, or changes in the light you perceive through your closed eye lids. * The feel of your clothing on your skin. * The smell of the lotion you just put on your hands. * The leftover taste of your morning coffee in your mouth. A Potentially Busy Present Moment As we’re focusing on our breath in mindfulness meditation, there’s A LOT potentially trying to get (and keep) our attention. And that’s fine. That is just what’s present in this moment for us. The trick is just to notice whatever is present in this moment without allowing anything to completely take over our mind, causing us to completely drop our focus on our breath. When that happens it’s as if that thought, mood, sensation, or sense perception has claimed “center stage” of our mind. It’s hogging the microphone and not sharing the spotlight. This is going to happen. It’s no big deal. There will be times during a mindfulness session when a thought or sensation will completely hijack our attention. Our mind wanders completely away from the present moment. When you notice that your mind completely wanders away… …gently guide your focus back to the experience of breathing. The key word here is gently. Gently Fade The Mic Think of your wandering mind like an excited actor who has just won an award. They’re caught up in the moment and eager to thank everyone they’ve ever met. But if we let them say everything they’ve every wanted to say, we’d be here all night. They’ve had their moment of acknowledgement and it’s time to get the show back on track. But do two burly security guards grab the actor roughly and haul them off stage? Does the crowd berate them, yelling, “Get off the stage! You’re ruining the show!”? Of course not. Very gently, the orchestra begins to play, alerting the actor to “wrap it up.” If the actor continues much longer, eventually their mic volume simple fades out and the emcee continues the show. It’s simple. It’s gentle. It’s effective. That’s the level of gentleness I want you to use with your wandering mind. At various times through out your mindfulness session, your mind is going to get caught up in thoughts, emotions, and/or sensations. When that happens there’s no need to beat yourself up. Just gently “fade the mic” on that distraction and “bring up the mic” on your breath. Even if your mind is chaotic AF and wanders a lot… * “Ugh, what if I tanked that audition?” --> “Oh, I’m having thoughts about that audition…let me come back to my breath” * “Ugh, I’m SO TENSE! I just can’t relax!” --> “Oh, I’m really struggling with this tension…let me come back to my breath” * “Ugh, that leaf blower is so annoying! Grrr!” --> “Oh, I’m hearing a sound that I perceive as unpleasant…let me come back to my breath” Rinse and repeat, over and over, throughout the session. 1000 times if needed. ❤️ Which is what we are going to practice in the next episode. Thank you so much for joining me! If you found this content helpful and inspiring, I’d be honored if you’d leave a comment, share it with your actor pals, and check out my offerings below. Thanks! Get Out of Your Head and Rock Your Next Audition 🎧 I’ve created a free guided meditation to help you get out of your head and into your character so that you can rock your next audition. It’s going to help you calm your nerves, let go of distracting thoughts — How can I book this? What do they want? — and focus in on what your character wants, what’s going on in the scene, so that you can present your best work every time. Access Your Presence and Feel Empowered in Your Actor Life 📖 The Aligned Actor Mindfulness Toolkit This ebook is comprehensive collection of tools guaranteed to be the Dramamine you need for the roller coaster ride of #ActorLife. Whether you’re dealing with audition nerves, obsessively checking your email after submitting a self tape, or just learned your series has been canceled, there’s something here that will help you access your presence and feel grounded again. I’m a professional actor, a mindfulness and mindset coach, and I’m ready to help you thrive in your actor life. 🎭 I’ve been a professional actress for almost 20 years. I’ve survived 3 industry shut downs - 2 strikes and 1 global pandemic. I’ve worked in TV, film, commercials, and produced my own award-winning web series. 🧠 I’ve been a life coach for 5 years, specializing in mindfulness and neurolinguistic programming and helping people become more aware and focused on making positive changes in their lives. 💖 I blend lived experience with powerful, proven coaching tools. 🎢 Let’s get you feeling resilient, empowered, focused, playful, relaxed, confident, and riding the acting career roller coaster without throwing up! 🤗 Get full access to The Aligned Actor at thealignedactor.substack.com/subscribe

  8. Jun 25

    A Mindfulness Practice That's Shorter Than Most Co-Star Auditions

    In this episode, we’re once again practicing mindfulness and in keeping with what we talked about in the episode about mindfulness misconceptions, I’m going to introduce you to a practice where your mind will definitely not be clear (we’re going to intentionally give it some very specific thoughts to think) and we’re only going to practice for less than 1 minute at a time. We’re actively dispelling the misconceptions that you have to stop thinking and you have have to meditate for a long time in order to be practicing mindfulness. A 10-Count Moment of Mindfulness This is what I call A 10-Count Moment of Mindfulness and it’s a very simple way to start your mindfulness practice. All you’re going to do is count your inhales and exhales up to 10. You’ll count “One” as you inhale, “Two” as you exhale, “Three” as you inhale, “Four” as you exhale, and so on all the way up to ten. Go ahead and give it a try right now. * Count “One” as you inhale. * Count “Two” as you exhale. * Count “Three” as you inhale. * Count “Four” as you exhale. * Count “Five” as you inhale. * Count “Six” as you exhale. * Count “Seven” as you inhale. * Count “Eight” as you exhale. * Count “Nine” as you inhale. * Count “Ten” as you exhale. That’s it. Once again, you practice mindfulness and you did a great job. Congrats! 🥳 Let’s Make It A Regular Practice For the next week, commit to practicing A 10-Count Moment of Mindfulness 1-3 times each day. I know that sounds like nothing, but I promise it’s enough to get you started. If you follow through on this, at the end of this week you will be able to say, “I have a regular mindfulness practice.” The trickiest part will be remembering to do it, so here are some suggestions to help you with that. * Put up sticky notes around your living space. Practice whenever you see them. * Set a few alarms on your phone. Practice whenever the alarm goes off. * Pair the practice with something you already do regularly, such as brushing your teeth or washing your hands. (You still might have to put a sticky note on your bathroom mirror for a while as you build the habit) Pick one of these (or make up your own) and make a commitment to yourself to remember to practice. You got this! Thank you so much for joining me! If you found this content helpful and inspiring, I’d be honored if you’d leave a comment, share it with your actor pals, and check out my offerings below. Thanks! Get Out of Your Head and Rock Your Next Audition 🎧 I’ve created a free guided meditation to help you get out of your head and into your character so that you can rock your next audition. It’s going to help you calm your nerves, let go of distracting thoughts — How can I book this? What do they want? — and focus in on what your character wants, what’s going on in the scene, so that you can present your best work every time. Access Your Presence and Feel Empowered in Your Actor Life 📖 The Aligned Actor Mindfulness Toolkit This ebook is comprehensive collection of tools guaranteed to be the Dramamine you need for the roller coaster ride of #ActorLife. Whether you’re dealing with audition nerves, obsessively checking your email after submitting a self tape, or just learned your series has been canceled, there’s something here that will help you access your presence and feel grounded again. I’m a professional actor, a mindfulness and mindset coach, and I’m ready to help you thrive in your actor life. 🎭 I’ve been a professional actress for almost 20 years. I’ve survived 3 industry shut downs - 2 strikes and 1 global pandemic. I’ve worked in TV, film, commercials, and produced my own award-winning web series. 🧠 I’ve been a life coach for 5 years, specializing in mindfulness and neurolinguistic programming and helping people become more aware and focused on making positive changes in their lives. 💖 I blend lived experience with powerful, proven coaching tools. 🎢 Let’s get you feeling resilient, empowered, focused, playful, relaxed, confident, and riding the acting career roller coaster without throwing up! 🤗 Get full access to The Aligned Actor at thealignedactor.substack.com/subscribe

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