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Why is it so hard to ask for help? In this episode we discuss personal limitations and the bravery involved in seeking outside help.

Talking points in this episode:

How can a man know when he needs outside help?

Our own experiences in therapy and famous men who have been to therapy.

What prevents men from being willing to seek help?

Other topics discussed:

Pushing ego, pride and fear away in order to find the different available resources for help and self improvement.

Finding appropriate help and what to expect in a therapy setting. Also, how to get the most out of your experience.


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This is the inspiring story of an Alpha who became that against all odds.

Bill Schuffenhauer spent some of his childhood homeless and was in 17 foster homes because of his mother's addictions and prostitution. As he became a man, he made some Alpha decisions about who he was going to be and became a three-time Olympian.

He is now a motivational speaker, an advocate for homeless families and coaches corporations and mentors men dealing with depression, addiction and suicidal impulses. This is such a big opportunity to learn from a guy who's been there and done that, from the despair that led to a suicide attempt, himself, to representing the USA in three Olympic Games and winning the first medal for the US in 46 years in four-man bobsled. Trust me, this will challenge you to reach for the Alpha in you.

Questions answered today:


 When did you first realize that you were special and had some gifts and talents?
 You had every excuse in the book...why didn’t you fall into the trap of making excuses?
 When was your athletic journey the hardest and what did you do then?
 What was your motivation to succeed?
 Of all of your accomplishments and successes, what single moment stands out the most as a defining moment in your journey? Describe that.
 Do you or did you have haters?
 What struggle are you the most proud of for pushing through?
 What makes a man a real man?
 What is the most 'alpha' thing about you and were you born with that or did you develop it?
 What are you doing now?



Links:

https://www.olympianspeaks.com/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bill_Schuffenhauer

https://www.olympicchannel.com/en/original-series/detail/against-all-odds/against-all-odds-season-season-1/episodes/bill-schuffenhauer-silver-tale-from-salt-lake-city/

https://www.facebook.com/billtheolympian

https://www.instagram.com/billschuffenhauer/

https://twitter.com/olympianspeaks?lang=en


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Alpha Nick joins the quorum with a super-charged and premier-value message for dudes who wanna level up as an entrepreneur. The change in thinking that will happen in you will boost you toward everything to which your heart is trying to guide you.

This dude's a straight frigging ALPHA and needs to be heard. Nick lived in Asia for six years and has 10 businesses. He teaches that the ability to start businesses fast and cheap is a worthwhile skill to build for the evolving Alpha entrepreneur. Being able to ask uncommon questions has been a major key to his growing success.

From his home in his flip-flops and board shorts, he operates Find Fakes, a highly-successful international counterfeit-defense company that last year removed over 600,000 online listings for counterfeit products on trademarked items like popular streetwear.

He and his wife created a conversation starter card game for couples that is highly popular on Amazon.com. He explains the method he used to start this business with zero of his own money. His resourcefulness will astound you as he motivates the aspiring business owner to take courageous steps in the direction of who they really are. Dig deep into YOU, but also do the research.

He teaches that men should first truly come to terms with what is important to them and what they want, an absolute prerequisite to executing well as an entrepreneur or otherwise-Alpha out there who is trying to magnify his distinction.

You will hear the voice of a well-read man, a dedicated father and community servant. He will teach you what it means to get on the other side of your ideas and make them happen. He shares the books and influencers that have had the most impact on him and teaches from his experience in the execution of multiple top-selling retail products and brand-protective services for small- to medium-sized worldwide corporations.

Nick's charismatic swagger will enliven whatever is already good in you. Give this one a listen, brother. You need to be different. 



https://www.amazon.com/Uncommon-Questions-Conversations-Relationship-Strengthener/dp/B078J7WJY7




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Sometimes we are flat wrong and the things we thought we knew are way off base.  Today we’re going to be discussing how to know when you may be wrong and what to do next.

My guest Jimmy Durbin teaches some high-value lessons about why men are so prone to having trouble admitting when they are wrong and outlines the steps he needs to take to grow into that kind of maturity.  This is the most valuable message in all of our 61 episodes to date.  Whoever you are, this will help you, trust me. 

Questions we answer today:


What makes us believe that we are right even though we are headed the wrong direction about something?

What are some indicators that we may be wrong about something?

What would an ALPHA do upon discovering that he is wrong?

How can we approach life with the humility that we may be wrong sometimes?

What about over-apologizing?





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Host Brad Singletary interviews his father, Emory, in this Father's Day 2020 Special. 

"Today, I'm interviewing a man that has shaped me more than any other man. He's been on this planet for three quarters of a century. He's been married for 56 years. He raised six children professionally. He's done everything from being an over the road trucker, a commercial fishermen, an international business executive, a hospital business manager, a practice manager for a surgeon, an administrative director of a hospice organization and owner of multiple corporations. He's volunteered with the Red Cross, the Boy Scouts of America, and he spent decades serving in his faith community and volunteer roles. He graduated from Florida State University, but of course holds honorary doctorate degrees from the school of hard knocks. Our guest today describes what it means to be a real man and how he has grown over 75 years of failures and successes."

Brad's dad begins by sharing the example his father set about restraining emotional reactions when he broke his own father's tooth with a pair of pliers.

Emory describes the problem with the 'faux alpha'...men who are too angry and self-oriented, leading too loud thereby pushing people away.

He recounts mistakes he has made and what he might have done differently.  Taking supplements, drinking water, exercise and planking have kept him healthy into his 75th year, 23 years after an 8-vessel bypass which was previously thought to only have been remedied by a heart transplant.

He teaches how an Alpha can bring life wherever he goes with friendly conversation and how strong negotiations begin with simple engagement.

He shares a story of how he worked for free with a failing non-profit who was being evicted from their office building until he found ways to increase revenue sufficient to pay for a brand new multi-million dollar facility which was paid for in cash.

Brad's father was an expatriate business executive and lived in Jamaica where he learned what it meant to be a minority, reversing some of his upbringing in a racist environment in the South. 

He shares what he hopes for his sons, grandsons, and great-grandsons: that they live lives which reflect a relationship with God and enjoy a happy home life. In this Father's Day Special, Brad and his father get up close and personal about their own relationship and what they have learned together about being a good man. 

Alpha Up. 




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In another super-personal and starkly-informative episode, Brad Singletary discusses his own experience with suicidal thoughts and what he did to save his own life. 



Brad describes the Alpha Quorum's intention with using the term 'alpha.'  We are talking about men who are strong, capable, reliable, getting things done, and are enjoying fulfilling lives.  



The Alpha is concerned with LIFE. 



He has a life. He preserves his own capacity and remains strong, saving himself first: physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. He enjoys life and faces challenges in his own journey with courage and diligence. 



He creates life. He brings life, not by fathering children, necessarily.  But where ever he goes he brings light and life and brings value to any situation he finds himself in.  He passes life on in his relationships to those close to him, and every human that he appropriately can.   



He saves life. He lifts and rescues those in need, helping others preserve their own life. 



Brad recounts a traumatic family experience dealing with the suicide of an American soldier. 



He also describes some mind-blowing statistics about the duration of the crisis leading up to a suicide or an attempt, most often counted in minutes, not days. 



Suicidal thoughts should be seen as a medical crisis, much like sudden blindness or pissing blood. 



He shares tips for how to recognize suicidal risks and what to do when you or someone around you is feeling these things.



Whoever you are, this information will prepare you for a situation that you will likely be affected by in some way or another during your life. Please listen and share. 



https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/means-matter/means-matter/duration/


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