The Basic Bitch Podcast

Alex Ryan

The only podcast you’ll HATE because it telly you you’re the problem ... and also the solution. The Basic Bitch Podcast is my living library of remembering. Three years ago, I stopped ignoring my knowing and my deepest fear came alive. The life I built collapsed. What followed wasn’t a graceful awakening, but a system crash. And then, slowly, a remembering. This isn’t self-help. It’s about the invisible rules running your life, the patterns you think are “just you.” Until you see them, you are them.

Episodes

  1. 07/28/2025

    The Fear Beneath All Fears: If I let it all go, what’s left of me?

    The Fear Beneath All Fears: If I let it all go, what’s left of me? Who the fuck are you when everything falls apart? Timestamps & Topics below What if the thing that’s blocking you… is that you’re ashamed of being seen trying? In this debut episode, I speak raw and unfiltered about what it really means to resist your own soul. I talk about the shame of effort, the fear of showing up messy and the quiet breaking point that changed everything. I’m not here to teach, I’m here to tell the truth. About the moment my life collapsed, what I realised in the silence and what it feels like to choose creation over survival. If you’ve ever felt like something deeper is calling you, but you’re too scared to answer - this is for you. Topics: The shame of being seen tryingThe illusion of “having it together”Collapse as initiationQuiet suicidal ideation (TW)Rebuilding without a blueprintReclaiming your own rhythm Timestamps: 00.00 - 2:18 - Letting You See Me Trying 🌀 Theme: The illusion of control, vulnerability, and the courage to show up raw. 2:19 - 5:23 - Shame of Being Seen Trying & Collapse of the old life 🌀 Theme: Collapse of the old life and the perception of insanity when we change too fast. Groupthink and inherited judgment. 5:24 - 8:21 - The Culture of Suffering = Worth 🌀 Theme: Our unconscious obsession with pain-as-proof and suffering-as-status. 8:21 - 10:18 - Real Empowerment Isn’t Loud but it's Messy 🌀 Theme: Transitioning out of pain-bonding and into empowered expression. 10:19 - 12:31 - We’ve Normalised the Unthinkable (Suicide TW) 🌀 Theme: The normalised darkness we carry and don’t discuss how dangerous that silence can be. 12:32 - 13:57 - "You Think Too Much” Is How You Get Trapped 🌀 Theme: Stop Calling It Overthinking You were never overthinking. You were noticing. 13:58 - 16:59 - When You Break the Foundation Of Your Identity, What’s Left? 🌀 Theme: The Fear Beneath All Fears: If I let it all go, what’s left of me? The fear no one talks about. The step before your truth. 17:00 - 21:03 - The Secret is Knowing You’re building a new foundation by feel, not by rules. 🌀 Theme: There’s No Map for Where You’re Going. There is a way through, but that it’s not about rebuilding what broke… it’s about building something that’s never existed before. On your terms. Even if it’s messy, even if you get it “wrong.” 21:04 - 23:57 - The Feedback from Your Environment Isn’t the Truth, It’s the Data 🌀 Theme: Messy action and mistakes isn’t wrong, it’s how you fine-tune your truth. You’re not here to obey feedback, you’re here to evolve from it. Your essence is real, it’s just learning how to land 23:58 - 25:43 - Everything Starts to Change When You Do 🌀 Theme: Your inner world is the control room. Change it, and everything else starts listening - NO, this is not a metaphor and YES, it's simple but not always easy. Quantum, psychology, spirituality - it’s all the same truth in different outfits. You’re the one that makes it click. 25:44 - 29:44 - Knowing Isn’t the Same as Embodying - My Most Recent Personal Example 🌀 Theme: You can know the truth and still doubt it when you’re deep in the fog. You’ve read the books, done the work, and you still spiral. Nothing is wrong, you're just reaching new depths of your self. 29:45 - 32:32 - You're Kind of A Big Deal. Fear Isn’t the Problem, Resistance to Self Is 🌀 Theme: Underneath it all, we’re just afraid to meet who we really are. We're afraid of what we know.

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The only podcast you’ll HATE because it telly you you’re the problem ... and also the solution. The Basic Bitch Podcast is my living library of remembering. Three years ago, I stopped ignoring my knowing and my deepest fear came alive. The life I built collapsed. What followed wasn’t a graceful awakening, but a system crash. And then, slowly, a remembering. This isn’t self-help. It’s about the invisible rules running your life, the patterns you think are “just you.” Until you see them, you are them.