The Be Ruthless Show

Samantha Ruth
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The Be Ruthless Show is a place where we’ll be having the conversations other people don’t. The conversations other people won’t. In order to do that, I’m going BIG and BOLD. I’m anxious, I’m proud, and I’ll shout it for the world to hear. The shame game has got to stop, and it starts with US not being ashamed of OURSELVES! Look out, world. I’m ready to make a lot of NOISE and DISRUPT things…. Ruthlessly

  1. Change Your Environment , Change Everything

    3D AGO

    Change Your Environment , Change Everything

    In this episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss something that is far more powerful than most people realize: the environment you live, work, and exist in every day. We often try to fix ourselves while staying in the exact same situations that are draining us, stressing us, or even making us physically sick. But the truth is, environment shapes far more of our lives than we acknowledge. It affects our health, our nervous system, our mood, our behavior, and the way we move through the world. I share a very personal experience in this episode. I recently moved because something in my home environment was making both me and my dogs sick. We were dealing with rashes, allergic reactions, and constant physical stress. When your body is under environmental attack, it doesn’t matter how disciplined you are or how mentally strong you try to be. Your system is constantly fighting to survive. This episode explores the connection between environment and the nervous system, and how chronic exposure to unhealthy spaces can keep the body stuck in a stress response. I also talk about how environments are not just physical spaces. They are emotional ecosystems created by the people and dynamics around us. I share stories from clients who experienced dramatic shifts simply by changing the environments they were in. One client saw major improvements in her mood and stress levels after a toxic colleague left her workplace. Another client left an unhealthy job and experienced better sleep, lower anxiety, and a return of energy she hadn’t felt in years. When the environment changes, everything from productivity to emotional wellbeing can shift. In this episode, I also discuss the hidden costs of staying too long in unhealthy environments. Chronic stress, burnout, and emotional exhaustion are often not personal failures. They are signals that something around us needs to change. We also look at the environments people often overlook, including digital environments, relational environments, and the internal mental spaces we create through the thoughts we allow to dominate our minds. Sometimes growth is not about pushing harder or trying to be stronger. Sometimes the most powerful step forward is changing the space you are standing in. This episode is an invitation to take an honest look at the environments in your life and ask a simple but powerful question: What might change if I had the courage to step into a healthier space? Because when the environment shifts, the nervous system shifts. And when that happens, everything else has the opportunity to change too. Remember,  You can reach out anytime:⁠ sam@griefhab.org⁠ Join the Griefhab Family:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7 ⁠Join Team Ruthless - for multiple support groups every week and EVERY holiday!  https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless Become a Faces of Grief: Surviving Pet Loss Author: https://samantharuth.com/apply-to-be-an-author

    53 min
  2. Can I Say That?

    6D AGO

    Can I Say That?

    How many times have you left a conversation and thought "I should have saId...." Or maybe you've left a conversation thinking "I shouldn't have said that!" We live in a world where many people believe that conversations equal conflict....so many people just bite their tongues. Today's guest on The Be Ruthless Show has plenty to say on this topic! Joining me today is Dr. Chloe Carmichael, a licensed clinical psychologist, USA Today-bestselling author, and media commentator known for her work on stress, anxiety, relationships, and the mental health benefits of free speech. She runs a private practice in New York City, speaks and consults widely, and writes books and articles aimed at helping high-functioning individuals thrive emotionally and socially. This episode is honest, practical, and full of takeaways. Connect with Dr. Chloe at drchloe.com Remember,  You can reach out anytime:⁠ sam@griefhab.org⁠ Join the Griefhab Family:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7⁠ Join Team Ruthless - for multiple support groups every week and EVERY holiday!  https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless Become a Faces of Grief: Surviving Pet Loss Author: https://samantharuth.com/apply-to-be-an-author

    40 min
  3. The Be Ruthless Show Turns 5!

    6D AGO

    The Be Ruthless Show Turns 5!

    Today is special!! I’m celebrating five years of The Be Ruthless Show!!! How is it even possible?!!? I'll be spending the day having live conversations with Griefhab’s very own Melissa Bowman PLUS Northern Michigan changemakers, and honestly… I can’t wait for you to meet them. Meet MaryAnne from Biggby Coffee and hear about different ways Biggby supports community - every single day. Jennifer Holm will be representing the first responders. And I’ll have our April venue host joining us to announce our unique event - which is going to be super special!! We’ll have more special guests popping in to share about the work they’re doing, the communities they’re lifting, and what it really means to keep showing up. If you want to feel inspired, supported, or just connected - come hang out with us! Remember, You can reach out anytime:⁠ sam@griefhab.org⁠ Join the Griefhab Family:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7⁠ Join Team Ruthless - for multiple support groups every week and EVERY holiday!  https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless Become a Faces of Grief: Surviving Pet Loss Author: https://samantharuth.com/apply-to-be-an-author

    43 min
  4. I'm Taking Sassy's Meds With Me

    FEB 24

    I'm Taking Sassy's Meds With Me

    How did we get from we were to where we are today? There’s so much conversation around how to get from where we are to where we want to be. On today's episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I focus on our growth. Because I'm moving. AGAIN. Unexpectedly . And I had chaos within the unexpected chaos. And I didn’t lose it. Not even a little. Original Sam would not be moving because she panicked. Sam X.0 (I've lost count) is moving because she trusts the universe and absolutely never ignores the signs! This episode is about the journey. The lessons. The losses. And the growth. And so much more.

    54 min
  5. If They're In Therapy, You're Involved

    FEB 20

    If They're In Therapy, You're Involved

    Today's episode of The Be Ruthless Show is a wake up call. A 13 year old completes her own intake paperwork. No parent. No guardian. No emergency contact. If something had gone wrong, there would have been no adult to call. A 16 year old starts therapy. No parent reaches out before. No parent follows up after. This is not about blame. It is about responsibility. Teens today are reporting record levels of anxiety, depression, and loneliness. Emergency room visits for adolescent mental health crises have surged in recent years. And yet more and more adults are stepping back from direct involvement in their children's care. In this episode, I discuss : • The growing gap between adolescent mental health needs and adult engagement • Why autonomy without containment is dangerous • The legal and ethical realities therapists face when no guardian is involved • The difference between empowering teens and abandoning oversight • When adult absence is avoidance, burnout, or something more serious • The cultural shift toward convenience over accountability I also address the harder truths: Some teens are acting out. Some are protecting themselves in unsafe homes. Some adults are overwhelmed. Some are disengaged. And systems are making it easier for everyone to opt out. If a minor is in therapy, an adult is part of the treatment whether they participate or not. This episode challenges caregivers, therapists, and systems to examine where responsibility begins and where it has quietly disappeared. Because when a teen shows up alone, someone else is missing. And that matters.

    32 min
  6. Why Are You Yelling?

    JAN 30

    Why Are You Yelling?

    On today's episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I unpack a question that derails more conversations than we realize: “Why are you yelling at me?” What if no one was actually yelling? I talk about how quickly people jump to conclusions based on tone and volume, and how often those assumptions create unnecessary hurt, distance, and conflict. This episode explores why loud does not automatically mean angry, aggressive, or unsafe, and how hearing differences, cultural norms, personality styles, stress, and grief all shape the way we communicate. I break down why our nervous systems default to defense mode, how emotional memory overrides logic, and why silence and walking away often cause more damage than asking one simple question. This episode is an invitation to pause before assuming, ask before withdrawing, and choose clarity over conclusions. Because not every raised voice is a raised fight, and curiosity could save a relationship. Remember, You can reach out anytime:⁠ sam@griefhab.org⁠ Join the Griefhab Family:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7⁠ Join Team Ruthless - for multiple support groups every week and EVERY holiday!  https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless Become a Faces of Grief: Surviving Pet Loss Author: https://samantharuth.com/apply-to-be-an-author

    30 min
  7. It Could Have Been You

    JAN 21

    It Could Have Been You

    On today’s important episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I address the targeted killing of a licensed mental health counselor inside her Orlando office and the uncomfortable truth the profession avoids. This was not random violence. This was intentional, and it happened in a space designed for healing. I break down why this loss hits so deeply for clinicians, especially those in private practice, and why empathy, skill, and experience do not make someone immune to physical danger. I speak to the silence within mental health culture around workplace violence, the pressure to internalize risk, and the myth that better boundaries or better therapy could have prevented harm. This episode challenges the idea that safety measures mean fear, that boundaries provoke violence, or that therapists are responsible for managing other people’s dangerous behavior. I name the ethical tension between duty to care and duty to self, and why being a “good therapist” should never require being a martyr. This is a conversation about grief, anger, fear, and the collective impact incidents like this have on the field. It is also a call for ruthless honesty about risk, responsibility, and the right of mental health professionals to go home alive. Content note: This episode discusses workplace violence and death. Listener discretion is advised. If this episode stirred something in you, you’re not alone. You’re not weak. And you’re not overreacting. Because compassion is not a bulletproof vest. Remember, You can reach out anytime:⁠ sam@griefhab.org⁠ Join the Griefhab Family:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7⁠ Join Team Ruthless - for multiple support groups every week and EVERY holiday!  https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless Become a Faces of Grief: Surviving Pet Loss Author: https://samantharuth.com/apply-to-be-an-author

    31 min
  8. From Then Until Now

    JAN 14

    From Then Until Now

    On Sunday - January 18th, Griefhab turns 5!  Five! Five years ago, Griefhab started as an idea. Today, it’s a more than a community. On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I reflect on what’s changed from then until now, what grief has taught me in real time, and what I want you to know if you’re still trying to find your footing after loss. This episode is about truth, love, and learning how to live again without pretending you’re “over it.” In this episode, we talk about: What it means to keep living while still missing themThe shift from “What’s wrong with me?” to “What happened to me?”Why “closure” isn’t the goal and what actually helpsHow grief changes you, and why “different” doesn’t mean “broken”What it looks like to ask for support without needing to be “fixed”A guided moment to help you honor who (or what) you missRemember,  You can reach out anytime:⁠ sam@griefhab.org⁠ Join the Griefhab Family  https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7⁠ Join Team Ruthless - for multiple support groups every week and EVERY holiday!  https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless Become a Faces of Grief: Surviving Pet Loss Author: https://samantharuth.com/apply-to-be-an-author

    49 min
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The Be Ruthless Show is a place where we’ll be having the conversations other people don’t. The conversations other people won’t. In order to do that, I’m going BIG and BOLD. I’m anxious, I’m proud, and I’ll shout it for the world to hear. The shame game has got to stop, and it starts with US not being ashamed of OURSELVES! Look out, world. I’m ready to make a lot of NOISE and DISRUPT things…. Ruthlessly

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  • Creator
    Samantha Ruth
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    390
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Samantha Ruth
  • Show Website
    The Be Ruthless Show