The Big Self Show Chad Prevost

“He who conquers others is strong, but he who conquers himself is mighty.” –Lao Szu
So often impulsive behaviors keep us stuck or keep us feeling helpless. From little things to small, it can be hard to stop, especially when we start thinking about the thing. In fact, it’s almost like we spend our day waiting for the moment when we will just give in to the behavior.
From overeating to drinking to email checking to phone checks to gambling to eating ice cream at night to flipping someone off on the highway to getting triggered on Facebook when someone has an experience that makes us jealous, we often feel like must get our fix before we can be “free.” 
The truth about freedom is not doing whatever you want in the exterior world, that leads to paradoxically the opposite. Actually, you’ll find that restraint from your developed inner world, leads you to the very freedom you desire. 
Remember: 
Start small. It’s not going to work every time.Consider it practice. How does practice work? It’s usually not great the first time. It takes consistency and it takes will, and over time it does get easier to do and it does become more effective as you practice it.
Time Stamps:
Impulsive behaviors and how to take back control. 0:03
Chad and Shelley discuss impulsive behaviors as patterns of habitual control, leading to enslavement.
Chad suggests paying attention to automatic habits and patterns without judgment before attempting the 1-2-3 practice.
Self-mastery and addiction recovery. 8:44
The importance of self-mastery in the second half of life, with a focus on identifying and overcoming limiting beliefs and behaviors.
Chad and Shelley discuss the quote from Lao Tzu, "He who conquers others is strong. But he who conquers himself is mighty." (0:11:01)
Practicing self-awareness and filling inner emptiness. 13:32
Practice paying attention to inner experience to avoid compulsive behaviors and feel more whole.
Chad guides listeners to imagine their resistances and reorient themselves to fill emotional voids.
Chad guides listeners to visualize a blue flame for life energy and connection.
Self-control and personal growth through practical exercises. 20:34
Practice inquiring into resistances to heal yourself, rather than blaming external factors.
Freedom, confidence, and leadership gained through self-restraint practice.
Show Notes:
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Reut Schwartz-Hebron was born in Jerusalem. She is a Certifying Partner at KCI (KeyChange Institute). She is a leading expert at the intersection of neuroscience and challenging change.
Reut trains and certifies change leaders to use Neuroscience-based models to support people through transitions.
Today we discuss her opinions about everything related to the personality and whether or not we really can change.
Spoiler alert: We can change--and maybe for a lot longer than you ever imagined.
But why? and how?
Time Stamps:
How we interact with discomfort associated with change. 9:49
Most people aren't going to be moved to want to dig deep until something is failing or not working with their pre-frontal projected rehearsed self.
Think of discomfort as a nourishment. 15:34
The first mountain of life, the first mountain, the second mountain, and how to move forward on it.
Why awareness is not a requirement for transformation. 20:22
Awareness has a wonderful role in our lives and is supportive of transformative processes, but it is not a requirement from a neuroscience perspective.
Being more aware is an explicit function. 27:00
Awareness is an explicit system function, and without awareness, certain exercises will transform.
Addiction is not black and white. There is a chemical aspect to addiction, which means that certain people after they have been addicted long enough or have used substances.
How do you avoid discomfort? 34:44
The idea of neuroplasticity.
Personality is a construct of current preferences.
How long does it take to change an organizational pattern? 44:22
Kindness is not a naivete. It's a powerhouse.
You can change simple as you can change. 48:39
Kindness has nothing to do with being nice. Kindness is not just about being nice, but also about respect.
You can change, even if you don't want to.
Show Notes:
Outswim the Sharks: How to Quadruple Your Team’s Productivity with Kindness
The Art and Science of Changing People Who Don’t Want to Change
Find out more about Big Self School
We offer our flagship burnout coaching package, as well as packages for leaders. We also offer opportunities for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purpose–and we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if you’d like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.
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Today we speak with Dr. James Hollis, a speaker, professor, Jungian analyst, and bestselling author of 19 books examining life and how to cherish every moment. His world-renowned books, Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life, The Eden Project, What Matters Most, and Living an Examined Life, have been translated into over twenty languages. 
We discuss his latest book, A Life of Meaning, which examines the qualities that bring meaning to our human journey. Our culture tells us to seek wealth, power, prestige, or even enrollment in someone else’s idea of a worthy cause—yet where do we turn when these paths fail to fulfill our need for purpose? “When the old stories and beliefs that once defined us have played out and grown exhausted,” teaches Dr. James Hollis, “our task is to access our inner compass, the promptings of the psyche that help us find our way through the complex thickets of choice.”
Hollis offers an examination of myth, literature, historical figures, and the wisdom of depth psychology that provides penetrating insight into the search for purpose. In A Life of Meaning, Hollis offers no easy answers or feel-good certainties—instead, he shares his most valuable questions and reflections to help you find the courage, persistence, and inspiration to navigate your own odyssey.
Time Stamps:
Defining the concept of big self. 6:38
It is important to define how the word self is used in any given paragraph or conversation.
All of us are either serving or running from the instructions of our culture in the first half, with some exceptions, but mostly in the second half of life, about surrendering to something larger than our instructions or our complexes or personal history.
The middle passage, the adolescent passage and the final passage, mortality.
The middle passage trough of despair. 13:40
What to do when your boss is a jerk? 17:28
The importance of reflecting on the nature of his work and asking himself what is his task now.
Finding your own personal guidance system. 23:25
The process of discernment.
One of the dilemmas is, if I choose this path, it could risk my relationship.
Fear and lethargy are the enemies of life. Fear is the seduction of that part of me that wants an easy path. Jung says the greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of the parent.
Talk is cheap, change is difficult, and it always costs something.
The collective unconscious and the wounded healer. 29:53
Empathic caregivers bear the weight of a collective system of unreality, not tuning into human needs, and not tuning in to human needs.
What is the wounded healer complex? 34:03
Some people need to leave the profession to save their lives. Others need to take more breaks and recognize the symptoms of burnout.
The wounded healer complex is a neutral word like an airport complex or...

Brian Bogert is a passionate performance coach, motivational speaker, business strategist, top sales professional and philanthropic leader who believes in helping growth-minded individuals achieve the best version of themselves: their most authentic selves.
Brian teaches how to leverage radical authenticity and awareness to create the intentional life you’ve been dreaming of, but have struggled to create on your own. His revolutionary strategy—embrace pain to avoid suffering—has helped individuals, groups and entire companies break beyond their normal to achieve the success in life and business that they’ve always wanted. 
Time Stamps:
What does being in your big self mean to you? 2:08
The power of a singular choice and the ripple effect. 5:40
This is a new time and we are living in different times. 11:16
How I became aware of how disconnected I was. 15:24
Realizing how disconnected he was at 20.
Human connection without emotion is not human connection.
Suffering is a will and a skill. 20:12
Self-awareness is a will and a skill.
Viktor frankl and the unique opportunity.
Why vulnerability and authenticity are so important in healing? 23:13
The importance of vulnerability and authenticity.
Intellectual vs. emotional connection. 26:21
There are 40,000 brain-like cells in the heart.
Integrating the body and emotions with thoughts.
The two ways to become the protector and connector.
The soft front and strong spine.
The importance of starting with yourself. 32:38
Starting with yourself, regardless of the dynamics.
Podcast Flipping the Lid
Find out more about Big Self School
We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purpose–and we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if you’d like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.
Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype? 
Book a discovery call here
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Joe Sanok is a productivity researcher, business consultant, and creator of the popular The Practice of the Practice podcast. Let’s just say Joe gets a lot done, but he does manage to do this with his ideas of hard and soft boundaries and clearly delineating the lines between what is work and what is play. There is a lot to learn from Joe, his approach, and the initiatives he’s started through his book and from his programs.
Joe shares with us that if we say we want to figure out how to focus more on what’s important when it’s time to focus, we need to prioritize when we’re working and when we’re going to boundary time for play. We learn how to apply these principles to customize them for your own situation to be more productive at work while enjoying more leisure time.
Time Stamps:
The story of the tortoise and the hare. 6:25
Tortoise and hare story.
Hare did it right, but they didn't have the right tools.
Adopt a learner’s mindset. 9:47
Experimentations on the book.
How to avoid burnout by going rock climbing. 15:23
Why is it important to take action? 18:02
The three p’s of podcast launch. 22:24
The full humanity of our life experience. 31:00
Joe’s curiosity test. 38:32
Show Notes:
http://joesanok.com/manifesto
https://joesanok.com/experiments/
https://joesanok.com/test
And use the code TITNY for a free test
Check out his book: Thursday is the New Friday
Find out more about Big Self School
We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purpose–and we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if you’d like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.
Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype? 
Book a discovery call here
Join us at the Burnout to Big Self Facebook Group
Order a copy of Chad’s a...

Chad and Shelley explore the reasons behind why we overwork. They examine the beliefs behind overworking, and consider how and when we can begin to dismantle those beliefs and pursue second mountain work.
Time Stamps:
Why do I overwork? 0:02
We all have a big self and pursuing it is fully, but most of us let fear persuade us not to pay attention to the episodes.
We live in a meritocracy and competition. 2:00
Workaholism overwork is a term that was coined in 1971 by a psychologist.
Being led by our egos. 3:47
A lot of us get to a point where we have been led by our egos, which is a necessary part of self-development.
A client recently asked why she was a workaholic.
Why we are workaholics. 5:02
The ego believes that the ego needs to be workaholics in order to survive, and that overworking is 100% all the time.
James hollis, accumulation and attachment are unconscious.
The ego and the conflation of identity. 7:18
The stakes were really high. 9:10
The first mountain experience.
Why do I want to keep doing this? 10:55
If there is no friction or no breaking down, why would you want to keep doing this?
The five regrets of the dying. 12:49
The tipping point is wanting it, because if you don't, it's all moot.
Work from the soul is more fulfilling than work from ego. 14:38
Surrendering work from the soul is hard work, but it is more fulfilling than work that comes from the ego.
Show Notes:
Find out more about Big Self School
We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purpose. Reach out to us if you’d like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.
Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype? 
Book a discovery call here
Join us at the Burnout to Big Self Facebook Group
Order a copy of Chad’s a...