The Body Love Binge - Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast Victoria Kleinsman

Today I chat with my former coaching client Aga about her journey recovering from an eating disorder and improving her body image. Aga shares openly about her struggles with feeling fat, food guilt, and low self-worth, and how coaching helped her shift to intuitive eating, self-love, and living more aligned with her values.



Key Discussion Points:

- Aga's history with an eating disorder that stemmed from childhood trauma and using restriction to "disappear"

- Her daily battles with body image, feelings of fatness and shame around eating

- The impact of the eating disorder on her social life and relationships

- Trying therapy and realising she needed specialised support

- Deciding to invest in coaching and the self-discovery work she did

- Shifts towards body neutrality, intuitive eating, increased self-worth

- The power of group coaching calls in realising you're not alone



Guest Bio: Aga lives in Barcelona and works as an agile coach. She struggled with an eating disorder and severe body image issues for years before discovering Victoria's coaching.



Key Quotes & Timestamps:

"I had very much the feeling of being fat. So every time I passed by a mirror or somewhere where I could see my reflection, I would look at myself and the kind of feeling of hate would just grow." [00:09:43]

"If we don't do anything about it now, tomorrow might be too late." [00:21:39]

"You're very authentic, and you have lived experience, which I think is very important in this scenario." [00:31:52] describing Victoria



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In this podcast episode, I discuss the differences between extreme hunger and binge eating in eating disorder recovery. I provide an in-depth explanation of the underlying drivers of both to help you understand why they happen and how to overcome them.

Expect to gain clarity and reassurance around extreme hunger and binge eating through my candid wisdom and personal recovery story.



Main Discussion Points:

- Extreme hunger is a biological and psychological response to restriction and past starvation, while binge eating tends to be a reaction to current restriction

- Binge eating cannot happen if you keep allowing extreme hunger without attempting to restrict or compensate

- Emotional eating is using food to cope with emotions, not the same as binge eating

- Physical deprivation (dieting), mental deprivation (fear or guilt around food), and emotional deprivation (not letting yourself enjoy food) lead to binge eating

- The only way out is to eat freely without restriction forever



Key Quotes:

"Binge eating is simply a healthy response to any type of restriction." (00:10:53)



"The quickest way to the other side in freedom is allowing all foods." (00:16:08)



"The only way to full recovery and mental freedom is to eat unrestrictedly for the rest of your life." (00:18:17)



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This podcast episode features Victoria chatting with Marla Mervis Hartmann, a body image expert, about loving your body and yourself. Listeners can expect to learn Marla's journey to self-love and tips on overcoming disordered eating and negative body image.



Main Discussion Points:

- Marla's struggles with food, exercise and body image growing up as a dancer and actress, and her journey to self-acceptance

- The role of spiritual practices like mindfulness, prayer and surrender in building self-trust and compassion

- Tangible tools like thinking of yourself as a friend and asking "would I treat my friend this way?"

- The paradox of learning to surrender and hold space for discomfort in order to experience real pleasure and joy

- Preview of Marla's forthcoming book "Befriend Yourself"



Guest Bio:

Marla Mervis Hartmann is a body image expert, Reiki master and lifestyle coach based in Maui. She struggled with food and body image while pursuing acting and dance, and now helps other women make peace with their bodies through self-compassion practices. Marla has been featured at TEDx Salinas and works at eating disorder recovery centers.



Key Quotes:



"We don't have to do it all on our own. We don't have to figure it all out. We don't have to figure out how to love ourselves, eat well...There's support and there's care and there's love, and it's totally possible to let go of that control and find a deeper, more loving way." [00:06:04]



"Pleasure is how am I talking to myself? Is that bringing me a pleasurable experience? How am I moving my body? And for me that was a big one." [00:21:18]



"Surrender is not giving up. It's actually completely the opposite because surrender can be really hard." [00:48:47]



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BOOK: :https://www.loveyourbodyloveyourself.com/book

Breaking the Cycle of Emotional Eating Free Gift: https://goloveyourbodyloveyourself.com/emotionaleating

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TEDx Talk :Watch my Tedx Talk

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In this episode I provide guidance on how loved ones can support someone recovering from an eating disorder. I share tips on creating a supportive environment, avoiding judgment, showing unconditional love, and being patient through the recovery process.



Main Discussion Points:



- Meet the person where they are at in recovery and accept them fully

- Ask how you can support them rather than telling them what to do

- Create a home environment with plenty of food variety

- Gently encourage small wins along the way

- Educate yourself about eating disorders

- Examine your own behaviors and beliefs around food and body image

- Get outside support for yourself as the caretaker

- Show unconditional love and compassion



Key Quotes:



"Acceptance is giving up resisting what is. Acceptance does not mean approval." (00:02:05)



"If you tell yourself what to do, you'll only rebel against yourself." (00:03:45)



"Recovery does get to be fun if you allow it to be. Fear and fun can go together because you get to decide if they can or they can't." (00:14:07)



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In this episode I interview my former client Emily about her eating disorder recovery journey. Emily shares openly about her struggles with anorexia, extreme hunger, fear foods, isolation, and her road to reconnecting with herself.



Key Discussion Points:

- Emily's background and mindset when she first started working with Victoria

- Her "fake" recovery attempts before fully committing to all-in recovery

- Details of her extreme hunger phase - bingeing on Fear foods like digestive biscuits to find calm

- Learning self-compassion and establishing recovery non-negotiables

- Regaining her personality, interests, laughter and ability to cry

- No longer having disordered habits like OCD behaviors

- Her first time honouring extreme hunger around her parents and fear foods



Key Quotes:

"I had just moved up to Sheffield because I was living in London. And because of the eating disorder, I was severely isolated." (00:14:56)



"Enough's enough. I looked in the mirror, and I was I remember saying to myself, is this what we're doing this for? Because I can see myself." (00:16:46)



"I'm getting sick of eating a whole packet of digestives every day, but they seem to be the only thing that calms the panic in my brain." (00:36:40)



"I actually really like spending time with myself now. And that's not ED, isolation, introvert. It's getting to know myself and being okay with myself." (00:49:58)



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In this podcast episode, I answer a listener's question about finding balance with food and eating intuitively after recovering from an eating disorder. I provide compassionate, in-depth guidance on overcoming restriction, fear of weight gain, and learning to nourish oneself physically and emotionally.

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Key Discussion Points:

- Why the body loses the ability to restrict food after prolonged restriction or starvation

- Identifying and overcoming "emotional restriction" around food

- The importance of full acceptance and surrender to your body's needs in order to recover

- Overcoming fear of weight gain through deep inner work - Choosing foods from a place of self-love and nourishment

Notable Quotes:

"You want what you need. And so at some level, you need the food you're currently eating in the way you're currently eating it." (00:04:54)

"When you fully accept and surrender to whatever it is that you eat, however you eat it, you will then be able to focus on things other than food." (00:12:15)

"It takes courage, support, and commitment to full food freedom and self love to find authentic and easy balance with food." (00:15:51)