The Caring Death Doula

Frances
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In a world that rushes past death and ignores grief, The Caring Death Doula stops to listen with tenderness, truth, and time.  Whether you are grieving right now or here to learn how to help those grieving, join your host, Frances, a certified grief educator on the journey of finding connection, conversations, and comfort. Let's make grief and death a natural part of our conversations.

  1. 2D AGO

    The Numbness of Grief

    In this episode, your host, Frances, shares raw moments after two funerals and the quiet that followed. She names the numbness of early grief and the strength in saying “I’m not okay.”  She offers  encouragement to rest or to return to routine, and permission to reject timelines. • fresh grief after family losses • numb days and decision fatigue • permission to rest without guilt • returning to routine when ready • waves of grief without timelines • no judgment for how you grieve • holding space and reaching out You can always reach out to me. The Caring Death Doula Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

    11 min

  2. 3D AGO

    Grief of Two Funerals in Four Days

    Grief doesn’t follow rules, and it may sometimes not even arrive one loss at a time.  This week, your host, Frances, shares a raw, intimate account of attending two funerals in four days while holding the quieter ache of a father whose memory feels too easy for others to forget. The contrast is striking: the shock and numbness surrounding a brother‑in‑law’s passing versus the slow, complicated sorrow of a parent you loved but didn’t fully know. That tension opens a compassionate space for anyone who has ever wondered if their grief “counts” when the relationship was distant, uneven, or misunderstood. We move from story to structure, noticing the parts of a service that either comfort or create friction: the flow of the ceremony, the choices made by clergy, and the unseen labor of funeral home staff. Those details become prompts to prepare—clarifying wishes, organizing documents, and making sure loved ones aren’t left to guess under stress. Planning is framed not as morbid, but as mercy: a gift to the people who will one day need clarity, calm, and care. The conversation also challenges workplace norms. When a daughter returns to work the day after a funeral, it exposes how narrow bereavement expectations can be.   And throughout, we honor the many valid ways to mourn: photo albums and stories, quiet rooms and small circles, laughter among grandkids, or simple silence. For those who feel like the only ones left to speak a loved one’s name, Frances offers a steady hand—say the name, share the memory, keep the thread. If this resonates, share it with someone who needs permission to grieve at their own pace- to grieve outloud in their own way.  Subscribe for future episodes, leave a review to help others find this space, and share : whose name are you keeping alive today? Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

    13 min

  3. 3D AGO

    Holding Space for Grief

    Grief doesn’t wait for the calendar to clear, and it rarely gives a warning. After an unexpected death in our family, we sit with the shock, the numbness, and the way priorities snap into focus.  In this episode Frances discusses what do people really need in those first days—and in the weeks when everyone else returns to normal? We talk candidly about the urge to gather our children and grandbabies, the care not to push them past their limits, and the deep relief when presence becomes possible. That tension—between need and respect—reveals a simple truth: love and life are fragile. And, presence  matters.  We open up about how personal loss forged our path into grief work, and why the role of a death doula is as much community-building as it is bedside support. The heart of our conversation is practical and all about creating a safe place. Instead of “Let me know if you need anything,” we offer steps you can actually take: bring a meal, sit and listen without fixing or sharing your own experience, and keep checking in after the service. You’ll hear how small, steady gestures create a net that holds families when they feel too numb to ask for help, and why revisiting stories of the deceased is not repetition—it’s healing. It’s presence. It’s becoming a safe place for the grieving person.  If you’ve ever worried about saying the wrong thing, or if you’re carrying your own fresh grief, this episode is a companion and a guide. We challenge the social habit of rushing sorrow, and we model a slower, kinder approach that honors the ongoing nature of loss. By the end, you’ll have language, tools, and the conviction to show up for someone you love—today and again later.  Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review to help more people find grief support that is calm, practical, and real. Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

    13 min

  4. 6D AGO

    Grief In Real Time

    In this episode, we move through a week of shock after a sudden family death, a second funeral in town, and the strange mix of a full house and private numbness. We explore how small rituals, better listening, and humane workplaces can hold grief with more care. • sudden loss and the protective fog of numbness • contrast between anticipated and unexpected death • family gathering as comfort and strain • funerals as support and emotional activation  • small rituals for nervous system care • setting boundaries and choosing rest • why workplace bereavement must change    • planning for the firsts after a death • an ongoing commitment to share the journey I’m The Caring Death Doula sharing my fresh grief, encouraging connection and conversations on grief. We must make changes. We must support each other differently, stronger, compassionately, and longer. I’m here for you. Be there for someone.  Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

    12 min

  5. FEB 2

    Raw Numbing Grief

    The phone rings, life splits, and the air goes thin.  A moment you won’t forget.  That’s the feeling we step into in this episode: raw, sudden grief after an unexpected death in the family, the kind that makes time wobble and ordinary tasks feel impossible. I share what the numbness is like, how disbelief shields the heart in those first days, and why even people who think they’re “ready” are caught off guard by the weight of loss. We pull apart the difference between anticipated and sudden death without ranking anyone’s pain. I talk about how grief reshapes identity—how losing a parent set me on the path to serve as  a caring death doula—and why you can’t simply return to who you were before.  We explore the family side too: children and siblings reacting in their own ways, the shock of unexpected emotions, the simple power of holding each other and showing up in person when it matters most. Then we face a hard truth about work. Too many employers treat bereavement like a short interruption, not a seismic shift. I share a listener’s story of being asked to work during the first week after her spouse died.  If you’re grieving, I’m holding space for you. If you love someone who’s grieving, I’m here for you as well. And if you lead a team, you’ll hear a clear case for changing how we respond to loss at work.  We must start supporting each other better.  Subscribe, share this with someone who needs it, and tell me: what one change would make grieving less lonely where you live or work? Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

    12 min

  6. JAN 29

    Are We Ever Prepared for Grief

    A massive winter storm sets the stage for a conversation we’ve needed to have: you can plan, but you can’t schedule your heart. In this episode, I look at how grief behaves more like weather than a checklist—surprising, shifting, sometimes quiet, sometimes relentless—and why that doesn’t mean you failed to prepare.  I talk about loss in its many forms: the death of a loved one, the goodbye to a beloved pet, the end of a role after children grow, and the identity shock that can follow retirement.  From bedside vigils to last trips and legacy letters, I honor the ways families get ready, then admit the universal truth: the moment still pierces. Grief still hits, and it can surprise you.  Readiness is often a myth we use to feel safe. What helps instead is learning to carry love forward. Tears are not weakness; they are proof of value, attachment, and meaning. It’s okay to feel what arrives without apology. Your way of grieving may not be mine, and that’s the point. Grief is personal because love is personal. If you’re standing in the doorway of a change you chose, or a loss you never wanted, you’re not walking it alone.  I’m here to witness, to name, and to remind you that you still matter, even on days when you feel like you don’t. If this helps, please may I ask that you leave a quick review—your words help others find the support they’re searching for. The Caring Death Doula Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

    10 min

  7. JAN 26

    Gentle Joy in Grief

    Grief can feel endless until, suddenly, it doesn’t—for a moment. In this episode I share a tender look at how relief sometimes arrives unannounced: a letter from a transplant recipient whose life was saved, a beloved house passing to someone who truly loves it, a monarch butterfly gliding through the yard and sparking a memory that warms instead of stings. These aren’t solutions; they’re gentle shifts that help you breathe and remind you that love keeps moving in unexpected ways. Together, we talk about the small signals that appear along a grief journey—a song on the radio, a favorite movie of your loved one, a simple smile that arrives before the ache.  We have an honest conversation about guilt, timelines, and the myth that healing must look a certain way. You’ll hear clear, compassionate guidance on staying open to moments of ease without chasing them, letting memory evolve from sharp to soft at its own pace. Remember this is your personal path of carrying grief and love. There are no rules.  The goal is simple: help you feel seen, heard, and less alone while offering practical ways to welcome comfort when it’s ready to meet you. If you’ve been waiting for permission to smile again—or to not smile yet—you’ll find it here, along with gentle reminders that hope can coexist with sorrow.  If this conversation supports you, follow the show, share it with someone who is grieving, and leave a review so we can reach more hearts who need a little light. Holding space for you,  Frances, The Caring Death Doula Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

    9 min

  8. JAN 23

    Grief can’t be scheduled or planned

    In this episode I ask  whether grief feels heavier during the week or on the weekend, then unpack why sorrow refuses schedules. A planned Monday–Thursday structure gives way to presence, flexibility, and care after life delivers unexpected news. • why rigid episode themes can miss real needs • the myth of timelines and stages in grief • support for the newly grieving and long-term grievers • guidance for friends and caregivers who want to help • a commitment to meet listeners where they are I am The Caring Death Doula and I am here for you.  Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

    9 min
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In a world that rushes past death and ignores grief, The Caring Death Doula stops to listen with tenderness, truth, and time.  Whether you are grieving right now or here to learn how to help those grieving, join your host, Frances, a certified grief educator on the journey of finding connection, conversations, and comfort. Let's make grief and death a natural part of our conversations.

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  • Creator
    Frances
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    48
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The Caring Death Doula
  • Show Website
    The Caring Death Doula