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Richele Batt
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Have you ever put together an outfit that was just right, making you feel amazing from head to toe? It takes thought, planning and effort to create that perfect look. In life and in our relationships it's the same. It's like a unique puzzle with individual pieces that we must pay attention to in order for everything to work together. If something is missing it's like walking out of the house with no pants on. Are you ready to piece together your puzzle of life? Let's go...

  1. 02/16/2022

    Victoria Alexander - Red Flags in Dating and Relationships

    •  Yeah, and so it's about loving yourself enough to know your value and to leave your situation when you know it's not good for you, or not getting into a situation that you know is a huge red flag. There's a couple of funny memes that I've seen that are hilarious one is perfect for Valentine's day, because this guy is holding a dozen red flags and she goes, 'Oh a dozen red flags, I love him so much', and then there's another one where he says 'Good morning beautiful'. And she says, 'Take me off rotation'.  (8:05) •  When that happens, I think is a very important to know what to do. So I think a lot of times people don't do anything because they don't know what to do, they either cut bait and go or they don't do anything. So I think the important thing is to tell people what do you do at that point. Well, that's where communication skills come in, you have to know how to open your mouth and speak. And you know what? It may be a little scary to communicate with someone, especially someone you only just started knowing. I'm like, Listen, first of all, you have to have healthy boundaries. And you have to know what those are. If your boundary is, I need to be respected, like say someone stood you up on a date or something like that. That's probably a boundary. You carve out your time for that person, they decide the last minute they're not going or something, and they act like it's no big deal, that's a red flag. And it's something that needs to be addressed now. (12:40) •  There's so much integrity in realizing, Okay, we're not a match. I tell people, 'You're not dating to make it a match, you're dating to see if it is one, and so even when you go through break ups and such, and I've had episodes about breakups, sometimes you complete a relationship and it's about the two people realizing, Okay, this is not working, this is not going to be... We're not compatible for whatever reason, and sometimes they're very difficult. But as long as you do look and realize, Okay, there's lessons to be learned from here in this relationship, and you take those to heart and you go on in the future and say, Okay, now I know what I need and what I want, and hopefully the other person does too, and you help each other grow... What is better than that? I mean, that's what we all want to do. So you're not forcing it to be a match... I think some people get in a relationship and think I have to make this work, I have to... I have to... And they're just like, beating their head against the wall. What's the point of that?  (19:33) •   I was married for 20 years and you were married for a long time, we have an our story from it, right? We have our experience from it, so do our spouses are ex's. They have their story and what they learned from it, neither is wrong or right to be honest. It's what we both needed. But whenever I was married, my life felt like, my soul that like, I was like dead. So I felt like my life was being sucked out of me, and I don't blame that on my ex, it's just the relationship wasn't meant to continue. He didn't suck the life out of me, it was the relationship that was no longer serving me...or him. And so I had to make the decision, I had to be strong enough and listen to that gut feeling, listen to my inner voice saying, 'You are not supposed to be here anymore, get out. (22:44)   CONNECT WITH VICTORIA: Website: YouAretheMagicPill.com Facebook: facebook.com/youarethemagicpill   CONNECT WITH RICHELE: Visit my website: CoachingCloset.com Connect on free Facebook Group: CoachingClosetConnect.com Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/607035253196498

    37 min

  2. 01/26/2022

    Signs That You're Being Love-Bombed

    •   Another thing that will be done if it's toxic love-bombing is mirroring the person. They will mirror everything that you say, and so when you're getting to know someone and you're talking about your commonalities and your interest, it'll seem like you have every single thing in common. And a lot of times, you will have things in common, but if every single thing is the same, it may seem like, Wait a minute, how is this even possible? Your favorite food is their favorite food, your favorite music, is their favorite music, and that kind of thing. In the beginning, it's kind of important not to just divulge every that you know about yourself to the person, you need to know them a little bit before you tell them everything, because then they can just mirror everything back to you, and that's another tactic. (04:15) •   And then Claims of being a soulmate after a very short amount of time and neediness, not respecting boundaries. If you say you're going to go out with your friends, you're going to do something different, they're going to have to maybe entertain themselves or find something else to do, and they're not okay with that, it's just not going over... Well, that's another sign. And then kind of an uneasy feeling within yourself, just not feeling like this is right, you need to trust that sort intuition. They also might have an issue with gifts over the top, over the top gestures. Dozens of bouquets of flowers instead of one, or expensive plane tickets for a vacation. Or not taking no for an answer when you're like, No, no, no, I don't think that's appropriate. Or maybe an expensive piece of jewelry or a watch or something like that, they like to gain control and kind of create a sense of obligation on your part. (05:33) •   So individually, those phrases on their own, they're not necessarily harmful, but all together, all of these things together could be a big sign that you're being love-bombed. So it's something to pay attention to because it could be a sign of toxicity. This doesn't last forever. This phase of the relationship, if you stay less until they begin to value you, which is another stage of it, it actually ends up in abusive situation, which is at least emotional abuse. You can tell if they're love bombing you, if they're just doing a lot of these things all together, and it's really about control and creating dependency. (6:54) •   If you're feeling like you might be being love-bombed, you can try to set clear and healthy boundaries, maybe refuse the gifts, limit the time you spend together, and just respond to the texts at your own pace, and then kind of communicate that you don't want to rush into things and then see how they respond. If they respond in a healthy way, then that's a really good sign because sometimes it's not necessarily that, but you just want to make sure that you are doing your due diligence, because it could go south really quickly if that indeed is what's happening. So I know that it doesn't always happen like it does in the movies, in fact, very, very rarely, and if it does or if it is, it could be a sign of toxicity. (08:37)   CONNECT WITH RICHELE: Visit my website: CoachingCloset.com Connect on free Facebook Group: CoachingClosetConnect.com Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/607035253196498

    11 min

  3. 01/19/2022

    Revisiting My Weight Loss Journey (Replay)

    •   I would just kind of snack and it wasn't always healthy snacks. And then I would drink wine. I would just grab this, grab that, eat some chips and dips, call it dinner. And then I started going out with friends as I made friends, eating out, things like that. So, you know, I packed on pounds here and there 5, 10, 15, 20. So by the time 2020 hit, I was about 20 pounds up from when I had got divorced, which really wasn't, it was like the top of my weight range, but it wasn't overweight. I was almost overweight, but not really. So then COVID hit and I had just moved to an apartment. And so needless to say, that was when I really got into health crisis with myself. (03:39) •   We went to Vegas and I knew I was overweight there, but it was no big deal. I mean, it was on my mind, but then we went to Cabo together, Jeff and I did. And I think I put it on another five pounds there because it was all inclusive. And we were there for like nine days. I didn't dare weigh myself, but I knew I was big. I just felt so out of place. I felt it was at one time at a resort that I was just like, I am like, I'm the fat girl. I just felt horrible about myself.  (6:19) •   And now I integrated the health coaching program that I lost weight on into my coaching practice so that I can help people that are struggling with their health. It's not just about weight loss. It's a lot about mindset and all the healthy habits that are incorporated into your health. It's about setting you up for long-term success because I got there for some reason, for many reasons, I got to that place where I was unhealthy and a lot of it, or my emotions and the eating, not having sleep habits, eating habits, drinking enough water, all the things that go into it. All the individual healthy habits that do go into your health, they affect not only your weight, but they also affect your emotions, which in turn affect your relationships.  (08:21) •   We need to pay attention, your physical health and your emotional health are tied together so closely. They're interwoven and you can't pay attention to one without paying attention to the other. So I just was so determined to gain mastery over my weight over this thing, that it just was all consuming. At that point, I was like, I have to get ahold of this. And I did. And now it feels amazing to have melted the fat off my body. And now it's not a distraction. It's not a hindrance. It's something that doesn't bog me down.  (09:14)   CONNECT WITH RICHELE: Visit my website: CoachingCloset.com Connect on free Facebook Group: CoachingClosetConnect.com Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/607035253196498

    12 min

  4. 01/12/2022

    Breakups: Learn. Grow. Start Again.

    •  A lot of times, like you spend months, if not years, contemplating like, Am I gonna go or I'm gonna stay... There are even coaches out there that are... Should I Stay or Should I Go coaches? And I'm one of those that I will never tell a client what to do, I help them to decide for themselves what's best for them, and be introspective as what their part is, and if they can show up in a different way so that the relationship will improve. Because many times, if they just show up better and in a more healthy way, the relationship can improve, but it can only improve if both parties want it to. And if both people are willing to show up in a way that is healthy and beneficial for the relationship. (2:29) •  So sometimes a relationship can last a couple of months and then you realize that sometimes it can last a couple of years, sometimes a couple of decades before you realize this is not working, and honestly, it's better to realize that before it becomes completely toxic. Because sometimes you realize it and you start resenting the other person like, Why isn't it working out, why isn't it compatible? Why isn't it aligning with what I want it to be? And many times it comes from both sides, so Conscious Uncoupling is a book, and it's also a program, and it's written by Katherine Woodward Thomas, and it's really great for anyone suffering from a heart that is hurting from a loss of a love relationship. If you're in the midst of a break-up, if you're struggling with unresolved pain from the past, I mean it could have been a decade ago and you're still hurting from that relationship ending, or you're not sure if you are wanting to stay or go. It's something that you might want to think about doing, you might want to think about reading the book, or you might want to think about getting with a coach and exploring conscious uncoupling. (4:31) •  I think we see these fairytales and this happily ever after scenario, and we think, Well, if it doesn't go that way, then it's bad and it was never meant to be, and I should be angry about it, or be bitter about it. Why not look at it a different way? Why don't we look at it as, You know what, what can I value about that time that I had with that person? What do I appreciate about them and how they helped me grow, or the memories we created together, and maybe even the children we created together, and who did I become that I could never have become had it not been for them being in my life? And if you really change your perspective and reframe it in that way, it opens up a whole new part of you and part of your heart and allows you to see things very, very differently. I think if everybody took that approach, people would be walking around with a lot less baggage than they are now, and they'd be able to go into their next relationship a lot lighter, freer and ready to open their heart for love. (6:34) •  I want to challenge you today, if you're feeling stuck from a past relationship that you've held on to because you thought you never wanted it to end or you're holding on to resentment, if you could just release those resentments and maybe write down the things that you're grateful for in that relationship, that's a first step. And I definitely encourage you to pick up the book or order it on Amazon, Conscious Uncoupling, and read it and understand it. Or, you can get it on Audible and listen to it, and it will open up your mind and it will open up your heart. There's definitely more love to have out there in the world, and there's more people for you to love. I've seen this quote, and it says, 'You've not met all the people that are going to love you yet', and you surely haven't.  (8:29) CONNECT WITH RICHELE: Visit my website: CoachingCloset.com Connect on free Facebook Group: CoachingClosetConnect.com Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/607035253196498

    10 min

  5. 01/05/2022

    New Year, New You, New Love

    •  I had parties with friends where we'd sit around and just cut out magazine's words that we liked and pictures that we liked and things that we wanted to manifest or attract in our lives, and put those on the board. And it's crazy because when you do that and then you put it in a place where you see it every day, a lot of those things will actually come to fruition, by how you look forward to the new year and wanting to create some new things. Maybe you want to have a healthier lifestyle, maybe you would like to change some things that you're doing, maybe enjoy life more, maybe you want to have changes in relationships. I just want to encourage you that if you're first seeing it in your mind or feeling it in your heart that you want to change things, the next thing you need to do is really just take a step forward to do it.   (3:21) •  It's really targeted for singles... Mostly singles that have been through a divorce. But it could even be for singles that have been single for a long time. Maybe they've been through some failed relationships or some completed relationships, as I like to call them, not just failed. But anyway, we're going to be really helping them learn to love their life as an individual, and as I do that, getting them ready and prepared to then step into a partnership with someone, if that's their desire. It's great for anyone who's maybe been stuck in a cycle, the cycle dating of the same kind of people. They're not sure why these patterns keep coming up, and they would like to get out of that rut. If that's you or someone that is looking to be introspective and see what their part has been in the relationships that have not succeeded and really wanting to identify patterns that are no longer serving them, and we're going to help you do that.  (4:33) •  Find me on Facebook, find me on Instagram, Richele Batt. You can find Rex Romander on Facebook as well, and either one of us, you can ask for any of the details. It's going to be a six-week course to begin with as we create our full curriculum, and is at a discount price at this time. So you want to get in now while you can be grandfathered into this, because we're going to be expanding and enriching everything as we go along. But go ahead and find us, and we are going to be doing twice weekly live Zoom calls that will be recorded and they'll be in the evenings. Whatever is best for our students. And then we're going to have every other week, both men and women in a classroom, so that we can all discuss. We're going to have an opportunity for our students to submit questions ahead of time so that we really know what is on the heart and minds of our students.  (7:19) •  We'd love to answer any questions that you have in regards to that class and starting your new year off right! And if you're single and if you are tired of the dating that you've experienced, the relationships you've experienced, if you're not sure if you're in a toxic one... I can help you with that, that's my specialty. We just want to really have a safe, healthy place for people to discover about loving their life as a single person.  (8:11) CONNECT WITH RICHELE: Visit my website: CoachingCloset.com Connect on free Facebook Group: CoachingClosetConnect.com Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/607035253196498

    10 min

  6. 12/29/2021

    Rex Romander - Improve Yourself and Your Relationships in 2022

    •  When I went through my divorce, where I really found this part was, you're so used to spending that time together as a family, and then you no longer have that, and that's where you really get that feeling of missing that family feeling during the holidays. And so your first few holidays are... Especially for me, especially when I didn't have my kids. It's really hard for me, but it was a hard adjustment. And the older you get and the longer you do it, the more you realize, it's just okay, it's just... It's a day that's created, but it doesn't have to dictate what day you get to spend with your kids. If I don't have a Christmas morning with my kids, most people, they really struggle with this the first time. And at the end of the day, it's just a day that's created for you to get to spend time with your kids, so... Christmas might have to be on the 27th this year. Right? That's okay. It's not about actually being on the 25th, it's about the time you get to have with your kids.  (3:17) •  A same thing like when I got done with my divorce, when you're a parent, you are like your whole life revolves around your kids and family. The person you actually developed the least amount of time for is yourself. And so when I became single for the first time, it was one of those moments of like, man, like what do I do? Well, I have no idea what to do with my time and for myself, and it was actually the greatest thing that ever happened to me, as far as really getting out to get to know myself, not just What are my hobbies? What's my favorite color? Whatever...  it was more about, who am I as a person, and what were some things that I could have done better that I didn't, that I need to improve on? And need to work on. So it really gives you time to do, not just find your interest and hobbies and what you like, but truly find out who am I.  (5:02) •    They are where they are, but they're remaining where they were, or they won't go on from where they were, they keep reminiscing and keep bringing it up and it's just... You could tell that they're stuck on it. It's a place in limbo where they're so maybe bitter or angry or hurt or heartbroken, and they're just stuck there in this place of limbo because they're not going forward, they're not going back, or they're just stuck there. It is such an ugly place to be, and eventually you have to hit a point again. (9:54) •   That's kind of our starting point. We want to really try to help people that are looking to get a new start on the new year, it maybe they've been stuck in limbo and they're tired of it, and they hit a point... Now, I remember I was working with a woman, she was kind of talking to me, and you could tell by the way she was talking to me that she really wasn't ready for change, she really just wanted somebody to listen. I kind of told her that I said, I'll be honest with you, I don't feel like you're ready. Because people that are ready, they're done, they are so sick and tired of where they are or hurting or being sad, they're done, they want it to end, and that's when they're ready for a change, they just want so bad to be out of that. And that's really when people want to make that, truly make that change to start being happy again, to start seeing that there's other things out there and learning to love themselves and be happy being alone.  (16:00)   CONNECT WITH REX: Website: https://www.rexromander.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rexromander  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Rex-Romander-Life-Coaching CONNECT WITH RICHELE: Visit my website: CoachingCloset.com Connect on free Facebook Group: CoachingClosetConnect.com Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/607035253196498

    19 min

  7. 12/22/2021

    Coping With Grief and Loss During the Holidays

    •  I think that's why it's so difficult. And when you do lose someone around this time of year, just having to say goodbye to them, it's just all that more difficult. So for me, in 2007, we lost many, many loved ones for our family, personally, we lost nine in less than a year. It started with my grandfather in September, followed by my brother's best friend, his wife passed away, and then my cousin died in a tragic accident right after Thanksgiving, and then my parents very best friends and their mom, the grandmother in a home explosion, and then their son who had injuries in the explosion passed away right after that. And then two more people. And so that year was really horrible, but especially around the Christmas time and the triple funeral on Christmas Eve, it was really devastating, and it was surreal to be there. (3:35) •  I was grateful for what I had in that moment. It was very difficult. And so that's another thing. And also for the children of divorced parents, for my children, for all those children out there, even if you're an adult and your parents get divorced, and that's becoming more common, unfortunately, people that have been married 30 plus years, and your parents are getting divorced. That's heartbreaking. You live your entire life with these people that you love and then they split up and then you're forced to deal with that, and so that can be really difficult as well, and then you're trying to help them with their emotions as an adult child, and also splitting your time up between your parents, so I know that's really another thing that can be very painful. (7:33) •  So there's a practice I do with my clients, it's called the inner sanctuary of safety, where you pay attention to yourself and you acknowledge your emotion, and you ask yourself, What am I feeling? And you name your feeling... And then you ask yourself, What do I need? After you name a few of your feelings that you're feeling and your needs may be as simple as, I need a hug, I need a nap, I need to take a walk, I need to get outside, I need to breathe some fresh air. It might be, I need to something I'm hungry, I ignoring myself. But even if it's not as simple as a small self-care practice, even if it's, I really need some new friends, or I really need to speak with a counselor or something larger that it's going to take a little bit of time to address, just acknowledging your emotions and validating them and speaking your needs to yourself is enough to help yourself and soothe yourself in the moment instead of ignoring your feelings and needs. (10:36) •  Just do something new, and maybe if you have other people in your life, invite them to do it with you so that you can start making new memories and be grateful for each and every moment you have, be grateful for each and every person that's been put in your life now, so that you don't miss the gifts you have in this moment, because you can get stuck in grief, even though we do need to go through it, we do need to honor our emotions, you don't want to get stuck where you're not appreciating what you do have now and the people that you've been given now. So just keep that in mind as well and know that you're absolutely not alone, there are other people out there. (13:29) CONNECT WITH RICHELE: Visit my website: CoachingCloset.com Connect on free Facebook Group: CoachingClosetConnect.com Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/607035253196498

    16 min

  8. 12/15/2021

    Dating Apps to Make New Friends and Find True Love

    •  There are some that are more for serious relationships, people that are really looking for a long-term relationship or something permanent, and those are... Match.com is probably the number one app, or they have a app and they also have a website, and then there's E-Harmony, and you'll see the commercials for these more marriages or long-term relationships, and then there's Elite singles was also listed as one of the ones where there's more long-term relationships on there, and then there are some apps, very well-known for hook-ups, and what a hook up is, if you're not familiar, is just, Hey, let's just meet and... It's just a one night thing. (3:58) •  So on Facebook dating, a lot of times you can see their Facebook profile, which you know tells a good amount about somebody, and sometimes people do have public profiles or part of it is public, so you can see, you know at least a fair amount about them. So I know people that have dated on Facebook dating too, so it is interesting how a lot of people, they say, Oh, I just love to meet my person in the grocery store, that would be ideal if I could just meet them organically. But the truth is, we are living in such a busy culture, and especially in the past couple of years, we're living in more of a digital culture and digital age. (6:36) •  Another option is using a matchmaking service that will actually find matches for you and find dates for you. And so these services are gaining more popularity more recently, and people pay big money not to have to go through the trouble of getting on the app and making a profile and talking to people, and they just want it done for them. And so for busy professionals, they will pay anywhere from $1000, around that amount to $10,000 and up for this service to be done for them to get the matches, to get them dates all the way to setting up the date for them, so that all they have to do is just go out on dates with people that are a perfect match for them. These match services are all over the country, in all the major cities, and there's all kinds of services, and a lot of people are meeting that way as well. (8:07) •  I've also met a lot of friends on dating apps because I would go out and there would be like a major friendship chemistry, but not a romantic connection, and we've become friends, and so that happens too. And I've talked to a lot of people like that too. And another thing, I think if you listen to my episode on 'After divorce, how I created what I needed', I explained that on the Bumble app, there is a BFF portion, and I don't know if any of the other apps have this, but you can find friends on there... And I don't know if guys do this, but it's especially helpful for women that are looking for friends, a lot of times, an adult life, it's hard to find friends as an adult, unless you're involved in a lot of activities or community. (10:29) CONNECT WITH RICHELE: Visit my website: CoachingCloset.com Connect on free Facebook Group: CoachingClosetConnect.com Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/607035253196498

    13 min
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Have you ever put together an outfit that was just right, making you feel amazing from head to toe? It takes thought, planning and effort to create that perfect look. In life and in our relationships it's the same. It's like a unique puzzle with individual pieces that we must pay attention to in order for everything to work together. If something is missing it's like walking out of the house with no pants on. Are you ready to piece together your puzzle of life? Let's go...

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  • Creator
    Richele Batt
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2022
  • Episodes
    26
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    Explicit
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