The Collaborative IEP

Ashley Barlow
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Welcome to The Collaborative IEP podcast!  This business has been in my heart for so many years, and I so excited to share it with you.  In these podcasts we’ll discuss all things special education – from eligibility to implementation of the IEP.  We’ll talk about basic concepts and dive deeper into specific topics.  We’ll talk about self-care for caregivers and professionals that support children on IEPs.  We’ll discuss best practices, behavior, therapies, and more!

  1. 4시간 전

    Bad Vibes, Tight Jaws, and Side-Eye: When the IEP Room Feels Hostile Before Anyone Talks

    Have you ever walked into an IEP meeting and immediately felt it? The tension. The forced smiles. The “we’re fine” energy that is very much not fine. In this episode, we talk about what to do when the room feels hostile before the first agenda item is even mentioned — when people look uncomfortable, defensive, or already annoyed… and you’re trying to advocate without getting pulled into the emotional undertow. When the vibe gets tense, some of us talk too much, shut down, over-explain, fidget, or accidentally let our face do the talking. So we start with self-awareness — because knowing your default response is the first step toward changing the dynamic. Then, I walk you through three practical strategies to help soften the room and keep the meeting focused on the child: Disarm the tension by modeling a collaborative, child-centered spirit (and rerouting the discussion back to your child, again and again)Use calm, open body language and regulated communication to support agreement and de-escalationMake the environment more comfortable with intentional “meeting energy” shifts — including small talk, seating choices, and yes… sometimes even treats We also talk about the subtle things that matter more than you’d think: tone of voice, facial expressions, where you sit at the table, how you enter the meeting, and how to avoid getting stuck in a tense posture that signals “battle mode.” If your IEP meetings feel like you’re walking into a storm cloud — and you want tools to shift the atmosphere before it derails the conversation — this episode will help you approach those moments with more calm, more strategy, and more control. (And if you bring cookies… please bring ones you actually want to eat.)

    24분

  2. 2월 10일

    You Don’t Have to Do This Alone: When to Hire an Advocate or Attorney

    Advocating for your child can feel isolating, exhausting, and deeply personal. Even when you understand the system, there are moments when the stress, emotion, and stakes make it nearly impossible to do it alone. In this episode, I share a candid look at what it really feels like to hit that point — including my own recent experience navigating an IEP challenge for my family. We talk about the signs that it may be time to bring in professional support and why hiring an advocate or attorney isn’t a failure — it’s a strategy. This conversation is about recognizing limits, protecting your energy, and getting the right help so you can show up for your child without burning yourself out. In this episode, I cover: The repeating “A vs. B” conversation loop that signals you’re stuckWhy feeling unheard is a communication red flagWhen missing legal or instructional expertise mattersThe hidden toll advocacy takes on your body and mental healthHow outside support can restore clarity and breathing roomWhat advocates actually change at the table If advocacy has taken over your thoughts, your conversations, and your nervous system, this episode is a reminder: you don’t have to carry it alone.

    24분

  3. 2월 3일

    At Impasse with Your School?

    We’ve all hit that moment in an IEP meeting where the conversation just… stops. No agreement. No movement. Just two sides locked in place. That’s impasse — and when it happens at school, walking away isn’t really an option. In this episode, I go back to the foundations of advocacy and negotiation to talk about what to do when discussions stall and you’re stuck in that uncomfortable space between what your child needs and what the school is willing to offer. Using real-life examples, we break down practical strategies parents can use when talks feel frozen. This episode isn’t about being combative. It’s about being strategic. When school teams hold power and conversations feel circular, there are ways to reset the table without escalating conflict. In this episode, I cover: What “impasse” actually looks like in IEP negotiationsWhy walking away isn’t an option in educationThe importance of prioritizing before the meeting startsHow to reframe conversations when you’re stuck in loopsUsing interest-based negotiation to uncover the real “why”Bringing in new voices, data, and ideas to break stalematesPractical ways to move conversations forward without burning bridges If you’ve ever left a meeting feeling stuck, unheard, or unsure how to get negotiations moving again, this episode gives you a framework to reset the conversation and advocate with intention — not exhaustion. Warm coffee optional. Persistence required.

    19분

  4. 1월 27일

    School People Bullying You?

    Okay, "bullying" may be a strong term, but we've all been there. Advocating for your child can feel overwhelming—especially when you’re being told “this is just how it is.” In this episode, in which I again take us back to the roots of The Collaborative IEP, we refocus on the advocacy and negotiation skills parents need when school teams hold the power and control the narrative. While we often focus on practice and interventions, this episode zeroes in on what to do when school staff present information as unquestionable fact—and parents are left feeling talked over, dismissed, or subtly bullied. It comes from one of my first webinars I ever presented here at The Collaborative IEP, Simple Solutions to Seven Sticky IEP Situations!!!! Using real-world examples I see daily in my advocacy and legal work, I walk through practical, accessible strategies for bringing conversations back to objectivity. From asking for data and documentation, to using the IEP’s structure strategically, to leveraging videos, research, and records requests, this episode is about reclaiming your footing at the IEP table. In this episode, I cover: The three core skills every parent advocate needsWhy power imbalances make advocacy so hardHow schools often “tell parents how it is”—and what to do about itPractical ways to bring conversations back to objectivityHow to use the IEP process strategically to support your goals If you’ve ever left an IEP meeting feeling confused, steamrolled, or unsure how to push back without blowing things up, this episode will help you reset, refocus, and advocate with clarity and confidence—heating pad and all.

    26분

  5. 1월 20일

    One Tried and True Super Successful Strategy for Mediations

    Advocating for your child can feel overwhelming—even when you know a lot. In this episode, I come back to the roots of The Collaborative IEP and refocus on the advocacy side of special education. I revisit the three skills I believe are essential to advocating successfully for your child: understanding special education law, understanding special education practice, and having strong advocacy and negotiation skills. While we’ve spent a lot of time on practice, this episode zeroes in on the third skill—negotiation. I walk through a mediation strategy I use to avoid piecemeal decision-making and protect flexibility during negotiations. Using a real-world example, I explain why resolving issues one at a time can limit outcomes and how a more strategic, visual approach can lead to better results at the IEP table. In this episode, I cover: The three core skills every parent advocate needsWhy negotiation strategy matters in special educationHow mediation works in special education disputesA practical strategy for keeping all issues on the table during negotiation If you’re feeling stuck, frustrated, or like you’re missing something in your advocacy, this episode will help you refocus on the skills that actually move the needle.

    25분

  6. 1월 13일

    3 Skills Every Parent Advocate Needed

    Advocating for your child can feel overwhelming—even when you know a lot. In this episode, I go back to the roots of The Collaborative IEP to break down the three essential skills every parent advocate needs to navigate special education with more confidence and less burnout. Along the way, I share a very real “life lately” check-in, including the challenges of an unstructured holiday break, the emotional weight of comparison, and why even experienced advocates can feel knocked off their feet when it comes to their own kids. You’ll learn: Why understanding special education law matters (and how to learn it without drowning in statutes)How to build working knowledge of teaching practices and disability impacts—even if you’re not an expertThe overlooked but critical role of advocacy and negotiation strategy at the IEP table This episode is equal parts practical guidance, honest reflection, and reassurance that you’re not doing this wrong—you’re doing something hard. Whether you’re brand new to advocacy or deep into the DIY phase, this conversation will help you refocus on the skills that actually move the needle for your child. You’re not alone. And you don’t have to figure this out all by yourself. And PS. I accidentally said Ray Nelson is speaking at the Conference. He's not. He's speaking to my Membership later this year! We'd love to have you!

    41분

  7. 2025. 12. 09.

    When Life Gets Heavy: Stress, Seasons, and Finding Your Way Back to Yourself with Kara Riska

    If you’ve ever looked around at your life and thought, “Why does everything feel so hard and why am I handling it better than I expected?” — this conversation is going to feel like a long exhale. Today, I’m joined by my friend Kara Riska, host of The Special Needs Mom Podcast and a seasoned coach who helps mothers navigate the emotional load of raising children with disabilities. What started as a totally different recording plan (long story) turned into a deeply honest conversation about stress, shifting seasons, burnout, identity, and what it actually looks like to feel grounded when life is objectively… a lot. In this episode, we walk through: The kind of stress that builds slowly — across medical uncertainty, school challenges, family transitions, and the invisible emotional loadWhy you can feel the most overwhelmed and the most grounded at the exact same timeHow chronic stress shows up physically (hello, hot flashes, migraines, fatigue, and adrenal burnout)Kara’s perspective on what coping actually looks like when your nervous system is constantly asked to stretch beyond its limitsThe difference between “fixing your life” and changing the way you relate to itThe role of control — why some of us grip everything tightly, and how loosening that grip changes everythingThe turning point: giving yourself permission to slow down, let go, and build a life that doesn’t run on adrenaline and achievementHow community, connection, and coaching provide the scaffolding most of us don’t realize we need This episode is messy, real, heartfelt, and full of those “oh wow… me too” moments that make you feel less alone in motherhood, advocacy, and the unpredictable seasons of life. If you’re navigating stress you can’t simply “opt out” of — but you want to feel more grounded, more whole, and more like yourself again — this conversation may  be a welcome companion. Connect With KaraWebsiteInstagram

    40분

  8. 2025. 12. 02.

    Quick Wins to Support Executive Functioning at Home and School

    If you’ve ever looked at your child and thought, “How can someone so smart fall apart over a planner, a backpack, or one tiny assignment?” — this episode is going to feel like a deep breath. Today I’m talking about something I’m seeing everywhere right now: executive functioning struggles that masquerade as motivation or behavior issues. Between advocacy work, school visits, and conversations with families, I’m hearing the same themes — kids who want to do well but genuinely can’t keep up with the planning, organizing, remembering, and transitioning that school demands. I break down what executive functioning really is, why it tanks for some kids (especially around puberty), and the simple supports that make a huge difference at home and at school. Here’s what I cover: • Why executive functioning struggles aren’t “won’t do” problems — they’re “can’t do yet” • How visual agendas and checklists make task initiation and follow-through so much easier • Using timers to support transitions, attention, and emotional regulation • Chunking big assignments so kids don’t shut down before they even start • Helping kids self-monitor and understand what “successful” looks like • How to trial supports at home and then communicate what works to school teams If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure where to start, you’re not alone. These quick wins can bring immediate relief — and give your child the structure and support they need to feel capable again.

    29분
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Welcome to The Collaborative IEP podcast!  This business has been in my heart for so many years, and I so excited to share it with you.  In these podcasts we’ll discuss all things special education – from eligibility to implementation of the IEP.  We’ll talk about basic concepts and dive deeper into specific topics.  We’ll talk about self-care for caregivers and professionals that support children on IEPs.  We’ll discuss best practices, behavior, therapies, and more!

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    Ashley Barlow
  • 방송 연도
    2020년 - 2026년
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