The Dating Chit

Tea

A story-driven podcast that explores dating dilemmas, relationships, and the search for true soulmates through conversations with quality singles—revealing a vibrant mosaic of modern love that challenges assumptions, dismantles stereotypes, and brings clarity to the emotional chaos of dating. This podcast exists to help you date smarter—with emotional fluency, clarity, and confidence. Support the show by taking Tea out for a virtual coffee at http://buymeacoffee.com/thedatingchit. It helps us to keep the mics on, and we truly appreciate the gesture. Collaboration: hello@thedatingchit.com

Episodes

  1. 16H AGO

    Keeping the Spark Alive: Practical Lessons From 25 Years Together

    What if the biggest upgrade in love isn’t a grand gesture—but a brave sentence said at the right time? In this episode, we sit down with Pie—a nurse, a seasoned relationship wellness coach, mom of two, and partner of 25 years—to unpack the everyday choices that turn relationships from guesswork into something steady, grounded, and joyful. Blending professional insight with lived experience, Pie brings the kind of clarity that only comes from both studying relationships and practicing them over decades. From the very first phone call to the hard conversations after a fight, we explore how timing, tone, and kindness shape every stage of real connection. We start with the foundation: knowing yourself, naming your needs, and understanding how and when to communicate with your partner. Pie shares practical ways to stop emotional spirals, explains why tone matters just as much as words, and offers simple tips to instantly restore respect. For modern daters, we break down realistic ways to build real chemistry and intimacy. Attraction, we learn, grows from emotional safety, equality, and consistent effort. Inside long-term love, intimacy is maintenance—not magic. We get tactical about keeping the spark alive while juggling work and parenting. We also draw clear lines around non-negotiables when choosing a partner, what real repair requires when trust is broken, and why boundaries only work when they come with consequences. We even unpack the difference between support and illusion—touching on “fantasies” versus “ultimatums.” And if you’re thinking long-term, Pie shares what truly predicts durability: how your partner fights, repairs, and shows up for family. Patterns matter—because they repeat. If you’re ready to trade mind-reading for real conversation and build a love that can weather different seasons, this episode is for you. Support the show ☀️Apply to be a guest ☕️Take me out for a virtual coffee ✨Social Media

    46 min
  2. JAN 23

    How To Date A Rockstar Without Getting Played By The Groupies

    Dating gets easier when you stop pretending you’re not afraid and start telling the truth. We sit down with Randy, the magnetic frontman of a long-running Neil Diamond tribute band, to unpack what dating looks like for a self-aware, grounded man who’s not “on the hunt” yet remains genuinely open to connection. He’s divorced, fulfilled, and very clear on his boundaries—and that clarity becomes a compass for anyone navigating midlife love. Randy shares why he prefers women near his age, how shared culture and music deepen attraction, and the real reasons some men seek younger partners, from late fatherhood to legacy. He opens up about contentment after divorce, living alone without loneliness, and how a stable routine can actually make space for surprise. We talk about the tension between love bombing and playing it too cool, why delayed texting is often fear in disguise, and what real interest looks like: responsive messages, low-drama pacing, and planning the next date with intention. We also dive into values as a filter—kindness to service staff, a positive outlook, and the humility to go slow. Love languages come off the page and into real life as we explore quality time, gentle physical touch, and acts of service that feel human, not performative. If you’ve wondered whether emotionally available men still exist, or how to decode midlife dating without cynicism, Randy’s perspective offers both reassurance and a practical playbook. Listen for a thoughtful, honest conversation about autonomy, attraction, and building connection that lasts longer than chemistry. If this resonated, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs some dating clarity, and leave a quick review to help more people find us. Support the show ☀️Apply to be a guest ☕️Take me out for a virtual coffee ✨Social Media

    47 min
  3. JAN 23

    What Women Should Know About Dating Successful Russian Men

    What if the “cold Russian” stereotype is really just a different way of measuring trust? We sit down with Michael, a Russian-born, Israel-raised, Silicon Valley CEO and devoted dad, to unpack how culture, character, and presence shape modern dating. He brings the calm of healthy co-parenting, the thoughtfulness of real chivalry, and the focus of dating one person at a time—no performative games, no juggling six chats for weeks. The conversation starts with divorce done right: transparent communication, shared priorities, and seeing the family like a solar system where the child remains the center. Then we move into cultural nuance: in Russia, strangers start at neutral. Smiles mean something. Gestures like paying for early dates or opening doors come from respect, not control—and Michael adapts to each woman’s comfort, choosing autonomy over rigid roles. When he reenters the dating scene, he strips away the noise of apps: quick coffee in her favorite spot, safety forward, text theater minimized. And then there’s the story you’ll replay in your head: a third-date airport pickup with a limo costume, flowers, and a sign—bold, sweet, and fully intentional. The chemistry was instant, the romance real, and then the cracks appeared: sudden mood swings, trust inconsistencies, hot-cold communication. Michael pressed pause and distilled the lesson with precision: observe longer, define expectations, and don’t let the early rush cancel your logic. His deal breakers are clear—dishonesty, evasive communication, infidelity—while his green flag is beautifully simple: presence. Show up on time, phone down, eyes engaged. If you care about dating with clarity, emotional maturity, and cultural intelligence, this conversation will give you practical frameworks and a renewed sense of hope. Subscribe for more grounded stories, share it with a friend who needs a reframe, and leave a quick review to help more curious daters find us. Support the show ☀️Apply to be a guest ☕️Take me out for a virtual coffee ✨Social Media

    50 min
  4. JAN 23

    Modern Dating Is Hard — Carter Makes It Look Easy

    Dating doesn’t have to feel like a numbers game or a performance review. Tea sits down with Carter, a grounded Gen Z with “golden retriever energy,” to unpack why connection is harder to find online, how speed dating actually feels from the inside, and what turns a first date into a second. His take is refreshingly grounded: show up in person, stay curious, build confidence through self-awareness, and let effort speak louder than ego. We dig into the gap between how men and women experience dating in their 20s. Carter shares what women tell him they want—more questions, better listening, fewer disappearing acts—and why some men struggle with strong, empowered partners. Instead of chasing control or playing it cool, he suggests a different script: do the inner work, value partnership over performance, and treat communication as the core of attraction. A simple reframe powers everything: ask what and how, not why. “What about that upset you?” invites context. “How did that make you feel?” opens trust. Add real listening, and you’ve got the foundation for a relationship that grows. We also talk love languages and the outsized impact of acts of service. Whether it’s planning a date, opening a door, or bringing a thoughtful surprise, small gestures create emotional safety and momentum. At the same time, boundaries matter—kindness should be offered, not mandated. Carter’s hard-won insight is a balm for daters on the edge of burnout: if the other person doesn’t want to make it work, it won’t. Believe them, let go with grace, and make space for a better fit. If you’re ready to move from isolation to connection, this conversation offers practical tools and a mindset shift you can use right away. 📚 Links to books:  “The Four Agreements” https://amzn.to/4sDFR4w “How To Die” https://amzn.to/4px3Mzy Support the show ☀️Apply to be a guest ☕️Take me out for a virtual coffee ✨Social Media

    52 min

Ratings & Reviews

5
out of 5
7 Ratings

About

A story-driven podcast that explores dating dilemmas, relationships, and the search for true soulmates through conversations with quality singles—revealing a vibrant mosaic of modern love that challenges assumptions, dismantles stereotypes, and brings clarity to the emotional chaos of dating. This podcast exists to help you date smarter—with emotional fluency, clarity, and confidence. Support the show by taking Tea out for a virtual coffee at http://buymeacoffee.com/thedatingchit. It helps us to keep the mics on, and we truly appreciate the gesture. Collaboration: hello@thedatingchit.com