The Dating Chit

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A story-driven podcast that explores dating dilemmas, relationships, and the search for true soulmates through conversations with quality singles—revealing a vibrant mosaic of modern love that challenges assumptions, dismantles stereotypes, and brings clarity to the emotional chaos of dating. This podcast exists to help you date smarter—with emotional fluency, clarity, and confidence. Collaboration: hello@thedatingchit.com

  1. -11 H

    The Nice Guy Detox: Unleashing the Power of Vulnerability and Confidence for Real Chemistry (w/Jason L.)

    Share your thoughts, or send in questions📝 If you’ve ever wondered why “being a good guy” still isn’t leading to the relationship you want, this conversation puts language to the problem and a roadmap to the solution. I sit down with Jason Lange, a men’s embodiment coach and certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach, to talk about the quiet ways men lose themselves in dating: people-pleasing, hiding desire, avoiding tension, and trying to earn love by staying “easy” instead of being real. We break down Nice Guy Syndrome, the “man box” pressure to be invulnerable, and why so many men live from the neck up, then feel confused when partners ask for emotional presence. You’ll hear the difference between domination and relational leadership, plus a surprisingly useful tango metaphor for what attunement actually looks like. We also get practical about modern dating dynamics: how clear planning builds trust, why emotional leadership matters (especially around defining the relationship), and how men’s groups create the brotherhood, accountability, and nervous system resilience that makes intimacy easier at home.  If you want a healthier form of masculinity that includes both strength and heart, this one is for you. It is also a great episode for women to understand the challenges men face in dating! Find Jason here Support the show 💖 Meet the host - Tongalag ☀️Apply to be a guest ☕️Take me out for a virtual coffee  ✨Social Media 📝Share your thoughts, or send in questions!

    39 min

  2. 6 MAI

    The Intentional Alpha: From Financial Freedom to the Chaos of Modern Love (w/Ed)

    Share your thoughts, or send in questions📝 I sit down with Ed, a Berkeley and Stanford trained engineer who had a startup exit ($8 Billion project), retired early, and is now rebuilding love after a long marriage while staying on great terms with his ex-wife. He is thoughtful, active, and honest about what it is like to re-enter online dating in midlife with real intention. We get into the stuff people usually avoid: when chemistry turns physical fast, how sex boundaries can protect trust, and why rushing into sex often clouds judgment for both men and women. We also talk about the modern breakup problem, ghosting and ending relationships through text, and how conflict avoidance shows up as avoidant attachment behaviors. We discuss self-awareness, the perfect label, anxious attachment and communications. Ed also shares the most surprising tools he is using right now: an AI dating coach and an attachment-focused AI journaling app that helped him uncover deeper patterns through Internal Family Systems style prompts.  We close with practical relationship advice. If you want more clarity in dating after divorce, better communication, and stronger emotional intelligence, you will get a lot from this conversation. Resources: 📗 Eight Dates by John Gottman Support the show 💖 Meet the host - Tongalag ☀️Apply to be a guest ☕️Take me out for a virtual coffee  ✨Social Media 📝Share your thoughts, or send in questions!

    45 min

  3. 22 AVR.

    How A Great Matchmaker Sees Compatibility, Insights From Matching Thousands of Couples (w/Dara Rahill)

    Share your thoughts, or send in questions📝 Today, I am joined by Dara Rahill, a former top-ranked premium matchmaker at the country's largest matchmaking platform, and now the founder of Dara Rae Matchmaking, to reveal what actually predicts a healthy long-term relationship when you look beyond photos, height filters, and perfect-on-paper stats.  We dig into the behind-the-scenes reality of modern dating:  “checklists”, dating profiles, and how dating app culture amplifies snap judgments.  Dara explains how real compatibility is assessed, plus the intuitive “art” a matchmaker develops after interviewing thousands of singles. We also unpack why even highly sought-after people sometimes choose high-end matchmaking services. One of the most eye-opening parts is who can be hardest to match and why. We also challenge the myth of instant chemistry, exploring how attraction can grow through repeated exposure. If you’re tired of guessing, lower-stakes clarity starts here. Great episode for both men and women. 🎀 Dara Rae Matchmaking 🫶 Dara Rae Instagram Support the show 💖 Meet the host - Tongalag ☀️Apply to be a guest ☕️Take me out for a virtual coffee  ✨Social Media 📝Share your thoughts, or send in questions!

    40 min

  4. 7 AVR.

    What Dating Bay Area Engineers Really Feels Like (w/Violina)

    Share your thoughts, or send in questions📝 Dating a Bay Area engineer can look perfect on paper… but feel unexpectedly lonely in real life. In this episode, we get brutally honest about what it’s actually like dating engineers in Silicon Valley—the parts that feel safe and stable, and the parts that quietly hurt. Violina is back, and we’re sharing real stories, unpacking patterns we kept running into, and reflecting on the moments that led to some big realizations. We also talk about the green flags—what draws so many people to engineers in the first place—and why those same traits can sometimes create disconnect in relationships. This is about understanding what works, what doesn’t, and what actually matters in the long run. If you’ve ever felt like you’re dating someone who tries to debug emotions instead of actually feeling them, this conversation will hit home. Whether you’re dating in the Bay Area, seeing a software engineer, or you are an engineer wanting to understand how this dynamic can land, this episode offers clarity—and some practical questions you’ll wish you had asked earlier. Support the show 💖 Meet the host - Tongalag ☀️Apply to be a guest ☕️Take me out for a virtual coffee  ✨Social Media 📝Share your thoughts, or send in questions!

    39 min

  5. 15 MARS

    Bay Area Alert!! A Growing Number of Men Are Quietly Avoiding Dating Here - Why? (w/Mike)

    Share your thoughts, or send in questions📝 In this episode, we explore dating situations in the Bay Area, why some single men are not feeling great about it, and what happens when someone changes their dating “ecosystem.”  My guest Mike—a thoughtful, twice-divorced tech professional who took five years to reset after his marriages—shares how he approaches dating today. We talk about the reality of swiping, slow replies, and the quiet chase for the “top 1%,” and how these dynamics can make dating feel harder than it needs to be. Mike also shares an interesting experiment: changing his dating locations from San Francisco to places like Chicago and Southeast Asia. Along the way, we unpack what truly predicts compatibility beyond checklists.  This conversation invites both men and women to rethink their strategy: maybe the issue isn’t that good partners don’t exist, but that the environment—and how we approach it—needs a reset. Support the show 💖 Meet the host - Tongalag ☀️Apply to be a guest ☕️Take me out for a virtual coffee  ✨Social Media 📝Share your thoughts, or send in questions!

    31 min

  6. 6 MARS

    Where Are the Good Men? Here’s What Real Masculinity Actually Looks Like (w/Mo)

    Share your thoughts, or send in questions📝 What does real masculinity actually look like today? In this episode, Tea sits down with her friend Mo to talk about the kind of strength that doesn’t need to be loud—quiet confidence, emotional steadiness, and showing up when it truly matters.  From caring for family to navigating modern dating, Mo shares what are some of the qualities matter far more than chemistry or grand gestures. We also unpack the idea of being a “provider,” beyond money—into planning, emotional presence, and responsibility.  In a culture that often rewards intensity and adrenaline, this conversation challenges your checklists and asks a simple question: Are the good men really missing, or are we overlooking the ones who are steady, calm, and consistent? This episode is worth listening to for both men and women.  Support the show 💖 Meet the host - Tongalag ☀️Apply to be a guest ☕️Take me out for a virtual coffee  ✨Social Media 📝Share your thoughts, or send in questions!

    37 min

  7. 23 FÉVR.

    High-Quality Beauty With a Grounded Checklist—The Type Of Girl You've Been Complaining That Doesn't Exisit Anymore (w/Violina)

    Share your thoughts, or send in questions📝 Men often complain that Bay Area women are “too much”—too picky, too hard to impress, too into billionaires. But this episode may just challenge that narrative. Meet Violina: a globally raised, Thai-born professional whose beauty, grace, clarity, and emotional maturity redefine what it means to be a high-quality woman in today’s dating world. In our conversation, she opens up about what actually matters in a partner—revealing the kind of love that lands, the underrated traits that outshine charm, and how empathy, faith, and integrity shape her dating choices. We explore: Non-negotiables that make relationships lastUnderrated green flags in men that women actually valueThe boundaries that women should set clearly in datingHow emotional intelligence > performative charmWhat most men get wrong on dating appsHow to communicate across cultures and love languagesHow stereotypes about Asian women—and “strong” women—need to evolveViolina’s perspective is honest, grounded, and refreshingly direct. This conversation offers practical insights for men who want to be more intentional and more successful in dating. From her candid take on race and sensitivity to her belief in high standards without ego, this is a masterclass in how to approach love from a place of purpose. Ready to raise your dating game—with more clarity, less guesswork, and real emotional fluency? This episode is your field guide. 💌 Interested in Violina? Apply to date her here. Support the show 💖 Meet the host - Tongalag ☀️Apply to be a guest ☕️Take me out for a virtual coffee  ✨Social Media 📝Share your thoughts, or send in questions!

    35 min

  8. 13 FÉVR.

    What Kind of Woman Makes a Guy Feel Like He’s Hit the Jackpot? A Story About A Couple Played Zero Games From the Start! (w/Steve)

    Share your thoughts, or send in questions📝 Turns out, the strongest relationships are built in the small, everyday choices—calling back the same day, asking for the number with a shaking hand, raising the hard topics early, and repairing fully when it gets messy. Steve joins us to share how clear intentions, shared faith, and no-games honesty turned an easy spark into a marriage he’s proud to wake up and choose. He opens up about navigating an age difference, the childfree decision, values alignment, and his checklists. He shares how trust grew between his then-girlfriend and him.  He shares their “seven-hour talk” approach — a tool that helps them to slow down, validate each other, de-escalate conflict, and work through challenges as a team. He breaks down the habits that keep them close, and he also names the traps many fall into—overweighting looks, ignoring red flags, and dating for potential instead of alignment. If you want to hit a 'jackpot' like Steve does, this conversation is worth your attention! Support the show 💖 Meet the host - Tongalag ☀️Apply to be a guest ☕️Take me out for a virtual coffee  ✨Social Media 📝Share your thoughts, or send in questions!

    34 min
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A story-driven podcast that explores dating dilemmas, relationships, and the search for true soulmates through conversations with quality singles—revealing a vibrant mosaic of modern love that challenges assumptions, dismantles stereotypes, and brings clarity to the emotional chaos of dating. This podcast exists to help you date smarter—with emotional fluency, clarity, and confidence. Collaboration: hello@thedatingchit.com

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    Tongalag
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