The Dope Black Chick

Kimberly Spidle
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The Dope Black Chick Podcast is a bold, unfiltered space for Black women over 40 navigating faith, mindset shifts, and life transitions. Hosted by Kimberly, this show dives deep into self-discovery, personal growth, and embracing a soft life with confidence and ease. Whether you're starting over, leveling up, or learning to let go, each episode delivers real talk, inspiration, and soul work to help you thrive in your next chapter. 🎧 Listen, grow, and reclaim your power! #MindsetShift #WomenOver40 #TheDopeBlackChick

  1. 3d ago

    What Happened to Friendship After 40? | How to Keep, Build, and Make Room for Sisterhood When Life Is Life-ing

    Friendship after 40 can look different than it did when life gave you daily calls, spontaneous hangouts, and endless access to each other. That does not mean the love, trust, or connection is gone. In this episode, Kimberly talks about building meaningful adult friendships with more realistic expectations, reciprocity, patience, and intention. She explores why one friend does not have to meet every need, how a distributed village can still be deeply real, and what it takes to let a new friendship unfold. You will hear practical encouragement for making friends after 40: go where your people are, connect around shared interests, follow up, make plans, and give trust time to grow. If you have been wanting a village, girlfriends, or women you can do life with, this is your reminder: you have not met everybody who is going to love you yet. Start your next step at https://thedopeblackchick.com. In this episode: • Why friendship after 40 should not be measured by constant access • How friendships can change shape without becoming weaker • Why every friend does not have to do every job • The difference between chemistry and trust in a new friendship • How shared interests, repeated contact, safe interaction, and follow-up help friendship grow • Why adult friendship often needs to be put on the calendar • How to recognize and nurture a distributed village Questions to journal: 1. What kind of friendship do I actually want in this season? 2. Am I being the kind of friend I say I want? 3. Where would the kind of woman I want to meet naturally be? A reminder from Kimberly: You have not met everybody who is going to love you yet. Start your next step at https://thedopeblackchick.com.

  2. Sep 2

    When Your Old Life Doesn’t Fit Anymore | The Uncomfortable In-Between After 40

    What do you do when your life still looks fine on paper, but it no longer feels like yours? In this episode, Kimberly shares why an in-between season is not necessarily a setback. Using the image of moving through a mountain range, she explores what it means to descend from one peak, cross unfamiliar terrain, and make room for the next version of your life. If you are feeling restless, questioning an old identity, craving more peace, or realizing that what once fit no longer does, this conversation is an invitation to stop calling yourself lost. You may simply be between peaks. Reflect with Kimberly on what no longer fits, why gratitude and growth can coexist, and how to take a small next step without forcing a full plan. Start the free Come Back to Yourself five-day reset. Show Notes In this episode: • Why a descent does not mean you are going backward • What it means when a life that still works on paper no longer feels like yours • How gratitude and growth can coexist • Why the old version of success, ambition, or identity can be valid and still no longer fit • Small, quieter ways to add on to your life without forcing a dramatic reinvention • Why clarity may come after you move—not before Reflection questions: • What part of my life still works on paper but no longer feels like it belongs to me? • If I stopped calling this season a setback, what might I call it instead? • What am I holding onto because it is familiar? • What is this season asking me to become? If your life still works on paper but no longer feels like yours, take five days to pause and listen. Start the free Come Back to Yourself five-day reset: START HERE

  3. Aug 22

    Why Do I Feel Like I Should Know This By Now? | Confidence, Growth & Starting Again After 40

    Have you ever caught yourself thinking, I should know this by now? Maybe you've been in business for years, you've been married before, you've built a career, raised a family, or simply lived enough life that you feel like you shouldn't still be figuring things out. And yet, here you are. In this episode of The Dope Black Chick Podcast, Kimberly A. Spidle explores the pressure women often put on themselves to already have the answers, especially as we get older, and why becoming a beginner again may actually be evidence that you're still growing. A simple experience while learning Spanish led Kimberly to a powerful realization: you don't have to have arrived to have proof that you're capable. Sometimes the evidence is simply recognizing that you can do something today that you couldn't do before. We're talking about confidence after 40, personal growth, learning new things, navigating changing seasons, and releasing the belief that experience means you're never allowed to say, I don't know. In this episode, you'll hear about: Why "I should know this by now" can quietly destroy curiosity How to recognize evidence of growth instead of only measuring the finish line Why starting again after 40 doesn't mean you've fallen behind What happens when competence becomes its own kind of prison Why the strategies that worked in your business years ago may need to be relearned for today's world How being a beginner can actually feel freeing Why every relationship and season may require you to learn something new How trying, failing, learning, and trying again actually builds confidence The powerful difference between "I can't do this" and "I can't do this yet" If you're navigating a new season, questioning whether you've lost your touch, learning something new after 40, or wondering why you haven't figured everything out by now, this conversation is your reminder: You are still capable of learning. You are still capable of changing. And you are still becoming. You don't have to know how to do the whole next season. You just have to be willing to become the student who can learn it. In This Episode | Show Notes Kimberly shares how learning Spanish unexpectedly became evidence of something much bigger: she can still learn. That realization opens a conversation about aging, confidence, entrepreneurship, marriage, reinvention, and the pressure experienced women can place on themselves to already know the answers. Instead of asking: "Why am I not there yet?" Try asking: "What can I do now that I couldn't do before?" Look for the evidence. What feels easier now?What do you understand now?What are you recognizing faster?What used to overwhelm you that you can handle differently today? Your progress doesn't have to be dramatic to count. If you're in a season of change and want some space to slow down, reconnect with yourself, and hear what you actually need next, join the Come Back to Yourself: 5-Day Reset. It's a free five-day email experience with simple reflections and intentional practices designed to help you reconnect with yourself without the pressure to become somebody new overnight. Start your free 5-Day Reset:https://bit/ly/comebacktoyourself5 If this episode made you think of another woman who's learning how to navigate a new season, send it to her. Follow The Dope Black Chick Podcast on your favorite podcast platform so you don't miss the next conversation. And if the show has helped you come back to yourself, leave a rating or review. It helps more women find these conversations. Until next time, keep learning, keep becoming, and keep coming back to yourself.

    Why Do I Feel Like I Should Know This By Now? | Confidence, Growth & Starting Again After 40

  4. Aug 5

    Why Does Everything Keep Going Left? | When Your Nervous System Is Always Looking for What’s Wrong

    Do you find yourself bracing for disappointment, even when life seems to go well? In this episode, Kimberly explores why we often expect the worst, even when we’re hoping for the best. She shares her personal story of how old beliefs and past disappointments can distort what’s happening right now. With practical steps to pause, reflect, and separate past fears from present truth, Kimberly guides you toward healing emotional triggers and learning to trust yourself again. This episode is for anyone who’s ready to stop letting old fears write new stories. Show Notes: Free 5-Day Reset: “Come Back to Yourself” – Sign up here to reconnect with your truth.Mentioned Book: “Ask and It Is Given” by Esther & Jerry Hicks.Follow “The Dope Black Chick Podcast” and leave a review.Until next time, be gentle with yourself, and keep coming back to yourself.

    Why Does Everything Keep Going Left? | When Your Nervous System Is Always Looking for What’s Wrong

  5. Jul 22

    Why Do You Want What You Want? | How to Discover What You Really Want in Life

    How do you know if the life you're chasing is actually the life you want? If you've been searching for your purpose, trying to find clarity, wondering what you really want in life, or working toward intentional living, this episode is for you. In this episode of The Dope Black Chick Podcast, Kimberly A. Spidle explores one of the most important questions you'll ever ask yourself: Why do you want what you want? Sometimes we think we want more money. A promotion. A relationship. A business. A new beginning. But often, those aren't the real desires. They're simply the vehicle for something much deeper. Inspired by the teachings of Ask and It Is Given, Kimberly unpacks how discovering the thing beneath the thing can transform the way you make decisions, pursue goals, and create a life that feels aligned instead of performative. ✔️ How to discover what you really want in life ✔️ Why finding your purpose starts with understanding your true desires ✔️ The hidden emotions driving your biggest goals ✔️ How intentional living creates greater peace and fulfillment ✔️ Why chasing success doesn't always create happiness ✔️ The difference between external achievement and internal alignment ✔️ How self-awareness changes the way you make decisions This episode is perfect if you're searching for: finding your purposehow to find your passionintentional livingpersonal growthself-discoverycreating a life you lovefinding yourself againmindset shiftsemotional healingpurpose-driven livingAsk and It Is GivenAbraham Hickslife alignmentBlack women personal developmentResources Mentioned:📖 Ask and It Is Given by Esther & Jerry Hicks If today's conversation resonated with you, download my free Come Back to Yourself: 5-Day Reset and begin reconnecting with who you are—one intentional step at a time. https://comebacktoyourself5dayreset.subscribepage.io/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=reset_sep26&utm_content=what_do_i_need 🎙️ If this episode encouraged you, follow The Dope Black Chick Podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who's ready to stop chasing what they think they should want and start discovering what truly aligns with who they are.

  6. Jul 8

    You Don't Have to Stay Consistent. You Just Have to Come Back. | Returning to Yourself After Grief, Loss & Life Changes

    In this episode, Kimberly A. Spidle shares her heartfelt journey of navigating loss, grief, and the importance of embracing pauses in life and business. She offers practical insights on how to trust the process, remain consistent through seasons of change, and come back stronger. Key Topics: The significance of understanding life's seasons and natural rhythmsRethinking traditional notions of consistency and pausesThe power of allowing and trusting in life's transition processesHow grief and reflection foster creativity and growthPractical tools: the Come Back to Yourself five-day resetThe importance of self-compassion during challenging seasonsHow to return to yourself without guilt or shameThe role of faith, energy, and trust in navigating transitionsInsights from the book Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry HicksStories of support, love, and resilience within family and business Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction: Kimberly shares her recent life updates and why she paused 02:11 - Embracing peace in difficult times and shifting perspectives on consistency 03:36 - The misconception of constant productivity and natural seasons of growth 06:29 - Redefining consistency: trees, tides, and heartbeat as examples of rhythm 08:25 - The importance of taking pauses without guilt or shame 09:53 - Recognizing that coming back is part of true consistency 11:14 - Insights from Ask and It Is Given on grief, transition, and allowing 12:43 - The power of allowing vs. forcing in life's transitions 14:36 - Trusting the process: energy, transition, and your place in life’s rhythm 16:31 - When you realize you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be 17:29 - The creative power of grief, reflection, and silence 18:38 - Movie recommendation: Everything Everywhere All at Once 20:47 - Invitation to the Come Back to Yourself five-day reset 21:15 - Encouragement: You can always return, and consistency is understanding who you are 22:27 - Final thoughts: Be gentle with yourself and honor your season of pause 23:02 - Closing words: Coming back to yourself is always worth it Resources & Links: Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks⁠⁠Come Back to Yourself Five-Day Reset⁠⁠Celebration Spiritual Center⁠ Connect with Kimberly: Instagram⁠⁠Website⁠

    You Don't Have to Stay Consistent. You Just Have to Come Back. | Returning to Yourself After Grief, Loss & Life Changes

  7. May 27

    The Cost of Silence: Myesha Chaney on Marriage, Identity, and Becoming

    What happens when you build a life that looks like everything — and still lose yourself inside it? In Episode 710, Kimberly sits down with Myesha Chaney, author of the memoir Honest, for a raw and grounded conversation about identity loss in marriage, the quiet cost of silence, and what it takes to finally tell yourself the truth. This one is for every woman who has been performing her life instead of living it. SHOW NOTES: In this conversation we talk about: What it feels like to lose an identity you built your whole life aroundThe moment she realized who she had been was no longer who she wasWhat nobody tells you about rebuilding after everything falls apartWhat silence actually costs us — and what telling the truth can set freeThis episode is for the woman who has been performing okay. The one who built the right life and still feels like something is missing. The one who is ready to come home to herself. Links mentioned in this episode: Myesha Chaney's memoir "Honest" → https://amzn.to/4upMjfDMyesha's website → https://www.myeshachaney.com/Myesha's Instagram → @myeshachaneyJoin the Come Back to Yourself Reset (FREE 5-day email reset) → https://comebacktoyourself5dayreset.subscribepage.io/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=reset_sep26&utm_content=evergreen_resetThe Becoming Circle → https://ihearthatgirl.com/becoming-circle-waitlistThe Dope Black Chick on Instagram → @thedopeblackchickEpisode Tags: mental health, identity, Black women, healing, divorce, rebuilding, memoir, faith, becoming, self-discovery

  8. May 13

    The Most Dangerous Thing a Black Woman Can Do Is Heal | Black Women, Mental Health & Reclaiming Your Power

    This Mental Health Awareness Month, we're not recounting the weight. You already know the weight. This episode is about what becomes possible when you heal. Because here's what I've come to understand — a Black woman who knows she is enough, who is no longer available to shrink, perform, or seek validation from a world that was never going to give it anyway — that woman is dangerous. In the best possible way. In this episode, we're having the conversation that goes deeper than survival. We're talking about healing as reclamation. As power. As the most radical thing a Black woman can do in a world that profits from her exhaustion. I'm also sharing something personal — a realization that honestly rearranged me. That the self-sufficiency I once saw as a flaw was actually the fullest expression of who I am. That I was never lacking anything. I just hadn't healed enough yet to trust what was already inside me. When that shifts — when you stop seeking from a place of lack and start attracting from a place of overflow — everything changes. This episode is for the woman who is tired of being strong for everyone else. The one who has been seeking something she couldn't name. The one who is ready to stop managing her power and start moving in it. You were never the problem. You were always the power. What we cover in this episode: Why the world has a vested interest in Black women staying exhaustedHow healing gives you back the truth about who you always wereWhy self-sufficiency isn't loneliness — it's wholenessThe shift from seeking to attracting — and what changes when you make itWhat it means to be so rooted in yourself that nothing external can shake itThis episode is for you if:You're done surviving and ready to reclaim. You've been performing strength for so long you've forgotten what it feels like to just be. Or you're on the other side of your healing and finally starting to understand what it unlocked. Ready to go deeper? The Becoming Circle membership is where women doing this exact work come together — not to be fixed, but to be fully seen and fully unleashed. Click HERE. Connect with Kimberly:www.thedopeblackchick.com IG: @thedopeblackchick Email: hello@thedopeblackchick.com

    The Most Dangerous Thing a Black Woman Can Do Is Heal | Black Women, Mental Health & Reclaiming Your Power
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The Dope Black Chick Podcast is a bold, unfiltered space for Black women over 40 navigating faith, mindset shifts, and life transitions. Hosted by Kimberly, this show dives deep into self-discovery, personal growth, and embracing a soft life with confidence and ease. Whether you're starting over, leveling up, or learning to let go, each episode delivers real talk, inspiration, and soul work to help you thrive in your next chapter. 🎧 Listen, grow, and reclaim your power! #MindsetShift #WomenOver40 #TheDopeBlackChick

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  • Creator
    Kimberly Spidle
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    140
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Kimberly Spidle
  • Show Website
    The Dope Black Chick