The Dr. Shyamala Show

Dr. Shyamala Kiru
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The Dr. Shyamala Show explores the intersection of leadership, identity, and cognitive transformation. Hosted by Dr. Shyamala Kiru, former psychotherapist of 20 years and founder of the Cognitive Freedom Method™, this podcast explores how internal patterns shape the way we think, lead, and relate - especially in moments of pressure and complexity. Each episode examines the psychology behind leadership and relational dynamics, with a focus on structured cognitive change, emotional regulation, and identity-level transformation. The conversations are grounded in disciplined psychological insight applied to real-world complexity. Dr. Shyamala is also the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the author of The Emotionally Intelligent Woman. Through solo teachings and conversations with practitioners and thought leaders, she brings clinical depth into leadership development and practitioner training. This podcast is for leaders and practitioners who value clarity, structure, and depth in how they think, lead, and relate. Connect on Instagram @iam.drshyam Learn more at www.cognitive-freedom.com Clinical services at www.kirupsychotherapy.com

  1. 17H AGO

    Escaping All-or-Nothing Thinking: The Power of Cognitive Flexibility

    Have you ever had a really intense reaction to something... And then, once the emotion came down, looked back at the situation and thought: why did that feel so overwhelming? Why did I react the way I did? Because the situation itself didn't actually match the reaction you had. Here's what I want you to understand: most of us experience emotional distress not because of what's happening around us. We experience it because our thinking becomes extreme, rigid and fixed.  And when that happens, our perception actually narrows. Think of it like this. Imagine walking down the street and being able to see everything in front of you, the full, wide picture. You can see what's coming and you can respond to what's actually there. Now imagine that view narrowing to almost nothing. That's what happens to an untrained mind under stress. The ability you have to see the nuances of the situation disappear. The range of seeing all sides disappears. And you're left with the most extreme version of whatever you're looking at. All good or all bad. Success or failure. Always or never. This is what we call all-or-nothing thinking, and it's one of the most common patterns we work with inside the Cognitive Freedom Method™. In this episode, I walk you through: Why emotional distress rarely comes from external events, and where it actually originates The most common all-or-nothing patterns (and the specific words that signal you're in one) Why extreme thinking intensifies your emotional reactions and makes situations feel more threatening than they are What the "cognitive narrowing effect" is and how to recognize it in yourself What cognitive flexibility actually means and why it's a skill you can train __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a former psychotherapist of 20 years and the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the Cognitive Freedom Method™. Through her work in leadership development, practitioner training, and clinical practice (now retired), she teaches a structured framework for understanding and transforming the cognitive patterns that shape how we think, lead, and relate. 📘 The Emotionally Intelligent Woman Available on Amazon and Chapters Indigo 🎧 The Dr. Shyamala Show Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify Learn more at  cognitive-freedom.com  kirupsychotherapy.com Real freedom begins when you understand your mind. Where to Connect: My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com Learn More About The Cognitive Freedom Method™: cognitive-freedom.com  LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

    17 min

  2. APR 23

    The Rise and Fall of Emotions: Understanding the Emotional Wave

    Has an emotion ever hit you so hard that you were convinced it would never pass? The panic. The anger. The overwhelm. And in the middle of it, some part of your brain whispers: this is just how it is now. This episode is about that moment. And why that belief is one of the most important misconceptions we can unlearn. In this episode, the sixth in my 12-part series on the Cognitive Freedom Method™, I'm walking you through one of my favorite concepts inside the methodology: the emotional wave. Because here's what most of us were never taught: Emotions don't last forever. They move in a predictable, wave-like pattern. And once you understand that pattern, everything changes. Inside this conversation, I walk you through: Why most people believe difficult emotions are permanent (and why that belief creates so much suffering) The three-part wave structure: rise, peak, and fall Why we tend to react at exactly the wrong moment The common behaviors that show up when we try to escape emotional discomfort What "reappraising permanence" means and how to start practicing it Why the goal is never to eliminate emotions, it's to build your capacity to stay steady while they move through you _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a former psychotherapist of 20 years and the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the Cognitive Freedom Method™.  Through her work in leadership development, practitioner training, and clinical practice (now retired), she teaches a structured framework for understanding and transforming the cognitive patterns that shape how we think, lead, and relate. 📘 The Emotionally Intelligent Woman Available on Amazon and Chapters Indigo 🎧 The Dr. Shyamala Show Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify Learn more at  cognitive-freedom.com  kirupsychotherapy.com Real freedom begins when you understand your mind. Where to Connect: My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com Psychotherapy + Structured Support: Cognitive Freedom Method™: https://kirupsychotherapy.com/cognitive-freedom-program/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

    21 min

  3. APR 16

    The Stories We Tell About Ourselves (And How They Shape Your Life)

    There's a story running in the background of your mind right now. You might not even know it's there. It's not the version of yourself you introduce at a dinner party or describe to a new colleague. It's the quieter one. The one that shows up when something goes wrong, when pressure hits, when conflict arrives. I'm not good at this. I always end up being the responsible one. When stress hits, I fall apart. In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of your cognitive structure to look at something most people never examine: the identity narratives we carry about ourselves and how those narratives shape everything. Not just how you feel.  How you relate.  How you respond under pressure.  How you navigate your closest relationships.  How you move through your entire life. And I'll share something personal: the self story that came out of the hardest season of my life, and how it became one of the greatest gifts I've ever given myself. Inside this conversation, I walk you through: What identity narratives are and why they're different from individual thoughts Where self stories actually originate (family of origin, repeated feedback, and emotionally significant moments) How your mind filters reality to keep confirming the story it already believes Why reframing doesn't mean inventing a new identity — and what it actually means The cognitive skill we use inside the Cognitive Freedom Method™ to begin shifting these patterns __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a former psychotherapist of 20 years and the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the Cognitive Freedom Method™.  Through her work in leadership development, practitioner training, and clinical practice (now retired), she teaches a structured framework for understanding and transforming the cognitive patterns that shape how we think, lead, and relate. 📘 The Emotionally Intelligent Woman Available on Amazon and Chapters Indigo 🎧 The Dr. Shyamala Show Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify Learn more at  cognitive-freedom.com  kirupsychotherapy.com Real freedom begins when you understand your mind. Where to Connect: My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com Psychotherapy + Structured Support: Cognitive Freedom Method™: https://kirupsychotherapy.com/cognitive-freedom-program/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

    26 min

  4. APR 9

    Urges, Avoidance, and the Hidden Drivers of Our Reactions

    Have you ever done something in a moment of pressure and thought — why did I just do that? Checked your phone compulsively. Avoided a conversation you knew you needed to have. Reacted in a way that didn't reflect who you want to be. Most of the time, those behaviors aren't random. They're driven by two very powerful internal forces: craving and avoidance. Craving pulls us toward what feels comfortable or pleasurable. Avoidance pushes us away from what feels uncomfortable or uncertain. And together, they quietly run a huge portion of our daily decisions without us even noticing. In this episode, we go deeper into how the mind actually works, specifically the role that urges play in keeping us stuck in patterns we're trying to change. Inside this conversation, I walk you through: What craving and avoidance are and how they drive most of our behaviors Why urges feel urgent and permanent, even when they're neither The urge wave concept taught inside the Cognitive Freedom Method™ and how it works Why most people act at the worst possible moment of an emotional wave What urge surfing is and how to use it as a practical skill Why the goal is never suppression, but building the capacity to choose How learning to sit with an urge builds the internal architecture of real confidence and self trust When you stop reacting automatically to every urge, something shifts. You create space. You build trust in yourself. And you begin to experience what cognitive freedom actually feels like in practice. ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a former psychotherapist of 20 years and the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the Cognitive Freedom Method™. Through her work in leadership development, practitioner training, and clinical practice (now retired), she teaches a structured framework for understanding and transforming the cognitive patterns that shape how we think, lead, and relate. 📘 The Emotionally Intelligent Woman Available on Amazon and Chapters Indigo 🎧 The Dr. Shyamala Show Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify Learn more at  cognitive-freedom.com   kirupsychotherapy.com Real freedom begins when you understand your mind. Where to Connect: My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com Psychotherapy + Structured Support: Cognitive Freedom Method™: https://kirupsychotherapy.com/cognitive-freedom-program/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

    14 min

  5. APR 2

    Sticky Thoughts: Why Certain Thoughts Take Hold Of The Mind

    Some thoughts pass through your mind and disappear quickly. But some thoughts don't. They linger. They repeat. They feel convincing. They feel like the truth. And no matter how many times you try to move past them, they seem to pull you back in. In this episode, we're talking about what we call sticky thoughts. These are the thoughts the mind becomes attached to. The ones that feel heavy, personal, and hard to let go of. When the mind fuses with a thought, it stops feeling like a thought and starts feeling like reality. And when that happens, that thought begins to shape your emotions, your behavior, and the choices you make. Inside this episode, I walk you through: What sticky thoughts are and why some thoughts grip the mind more than others What it means for the mind to become fused with a thought Why sticky thoughts often attach to themes like self worth, success, relationships, or safety How repetition and emotional charge make certain thoughts feel true Why sticky thoughts are not defined by their content, but by your relationship to them How learning to see a thought as a thought creates space and choice Why the goal is not to get rid of sticky thoughts, but to change how you relate to them When you learn to step back and observe a thought instead of automatically believing it, something important happens. You create space. And in that space, you regain choice. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a former psychotherapist of 20 years and the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the Cognitive Freedom Method™. Through her work in leadership development, practitioner training, and clinical practice (now retired), she teaches a structured framework for understanding and transforming the cognitive patterns that shape how we think, lead, and relate. 📘 The Emotionally Intelligent Woman Available on Amazon and Chapters Indigo   🎧 The Dr. Shyamala Show Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify   🎥 Free masterclass Inside the Mind: The Hidden Patterns That Hijack Your Reactions   Learn more at cognitive-freedom.com kirupsychotherapy.com Real freedom begins when you understand your mind Where to Connect: My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com Free Masterclass: Inside the Mind  Psychotherapy + Structured Support: Cognitive Freedom Method™ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

    16 min

  6. MAR 26

    Why the Mind Misreads Reality: Understanding Cognitive Distortions

    We can have two people experience the same event and have two completely different experiences.  Person A loses their job and spirals into fear and overwhelm.  Person B loses the same job and somehow approaches it with calm, clarity, and groundedness, finding opportunity in hardship. So what's the difference? How that person interprets the event.  Your mind is not a neutral observer of reality. It is a meaning-making system, constantly filtering every experience through your past, your beliefs, your assumptions, and your emotional state.  And when that filter is untrained, it almost always leads you somewhere inaccurate. This is episode two of Inside the Cognitive Freedom Method™, and today we go one layer deeper. Inside this episode, I walk you through: Why two people can experience the exact same event and interpret it completely differently The four categories your mind uses to make meaning of everything that happens to you Why events don't create your emotions directly, and what actually does What cognitive distortions are and why they are quietly running your reactions Six of the most common distorted thinking patterns, including catastrophizing, mind reading, and fortune telling Why your brain does this, and how understanding it is the first step to changing it How identifying a distortion creates distance from it, and why that distance gives you choice _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a former psychotherapist of 20 years and the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the Cognitive Freedom Method™. Through her work in leadership development, practitioner training, and clinical practice (retired), she teaches a structured framework for understanding and transforming the cognitive patterns that shape how we think, lead, and relate. 📘 The Emotionally Intelligent Woman - available on Amazon and Chapters Indigo 🎧 The Dr. Shyamala Show - listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify 🎥 Free masterclass: Inside the Mind - The Hidden Patterns That Hijack Your Reactions Learn more at shyamalakiru.com + kirupsychotherapy.com  Real freedom begins when you understand your mind. Where to Connect: My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com Free Masterclass: Inside the Mind  Psychotherapy + Structured Support: Cognitive Freedom Program LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

    16 min

  7. MAR 19

    Seeing Your Thoughts Clearly: The First Skill in Cognitive Freedom

    Here's something worth sitting with. Right now, your mind is generating somewhere between 60,000-80,000 thoughts today. Over 80% of them are negative. And over 98% of them are simply recycled from the day before. Not because something is wrong with you. Because this is how an untrained mind operates. And most of those thoughts? They're running completely in the background. Unnoticed. Like hold music you've stopped hearing, except this music is quietly dictating your emotions, your reactions, and the direction of your life. This episode kicks off a brand new series: Inside the Cognitive Freedom Method™. And we're starting exactly where transformation has to start. With your thoughts. Inside this episode, I walk you through the very first skill in the Cognitive Freedom Method™, and why everything else depends on it. Why your thoughts feel true even when they aren't How repetition creates the illusion of truth in the untrained mind Why automatic thoughts drive your emotional reactions before you even realize it The ripple effect between event, thought, emotion, and behavior What thought monitoring actually is and why it slows everything down in the best possible way Why the goal is never to eliminate negative thoughts (and what to do __________________________________________________________________________________ Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a former psychotherapist of 20 years and the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the Cognitive Freedom Method™. Through her work in leadership development, practitioner training, and clinical practice (retired), she teaches a structured framework for understanding and transforming the cognitive patterns that shape how we think, lead, and relate. 📘 The Emotionally Intelligent Woman - available on Amazon and Chapters Indigo 🎧 The Dr. Shyamala Show - listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify 🎥 Free masterclass: Inside the Mind - The Hidden Patterns That Hijack Your Reactions Learn more at shyamalakiru.com + kirupsychotherapy.com  Real freedom begins when you understand your mind. Where to Connect: My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com Free Masterclass: Inside the Mind  Psychotherapy + Structured Support: Cognitive Freedom Program LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

    14 min
  8. Freedom Starts in the Mind: What Cognitive Freedom Really Means and How to Practice It

    MAR 12

    Freedom Starts in the Mind: What Cognitive Freedom Really Means and How to Practice It

    If you've ever thought that freedom would come when things finally lined up the right way... When the relationship felt more secure. When work calmed down. When life stopped being so hard. This episode is for you. Because here's what I've come to understand after almost five decades of living and over two decades of this work: Freedom doesn't live out there. It lives in the mind. And if the mind isn't free, nothing else truly is. Not your relationships. Not your self-concept. Not how you show up in the world. This episode is deeply personal for me. I share exactly how the concept of cognitive freedom came to me, what it means in practice, and why I've returned to it as the foundation of everything I teach in this new season. Inside this conversation, I walk you through: Why freedom is not circumstantial and where it actually begins What cognitive freedom is and how it came to shape the Cognitive Freedom Method™ Why 80% of thoughts in an untrained mind are negative and 98% are simply repeated from the day before What it means to commit to cognitive freedom as a daily practice Why this kind of transformation is slower but lasting LISTEN ON SPOTIFY LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS This is not about a quick fix or three easy steps. It's about building a cognitive structure that allows you to meet life differently, respond differently, and show up differently. Every day. And if you're ready to go beyond insight and begin working with your mind in a real, structured way, start with the free Inside the Mind Masterclass. It's the natural next step after this episode. Reach out when you're ready, we're here. Dr. Shyam XO P.S. This is the work I've come home to. And I think it might be the work you've been looking for too. The masterclass is free and available anytime. ACCESS THE FREE MASTERCLASS HERE   Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a former psychotherapist of 20 years and the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the Cognitive Freedom Method™. Through her work in leadership development, practitioner training, and clinical practice (retired), she teaches a structured framework for understanding and transforming the cognitive patterns that shape how we think, lead, and relate. 📘 The Emotionally Intelligent Woman - available on Amazon and Chapters Indigo 🎧 The Dr. Shyamala Show - listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify 🎥 Free masterclass: Inside the Mind - The Hidden Patterns That Hijack Your Reactions Learn more at shyamalakiru.com + kirupsychotherapy.com  Real freedom begins when you understand your mind. Where to Connect: My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com Free Masterclass: Inside the Mind  Psychotherapy + Structured Support: Cognitive Freedom Program LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

    21 min
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The Dr. Shyamala Show explores the intersection of leadership, identity, and cognitive transformation. Hosted by Dr. Shyamala Kiru, former psychotherapist of 20 years and founder of the Cognitive Freedom Method™, this podcast explores how internal patterns shape the way we think, lead, and relate - especially in moments of pressure and complexity. Each episode examines the psychology behind leadership and relational dynamics, with a focus on structured cognitive change, emotional regulation, and identity-level transformation. The conversations are grounded in disciplined psychological insight applied to real-world complexity. Dr. Shyamala is also the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the author of The Emotionally Intelligent Woman. Through solo teachings and conversations with practitioners and thought leaders, she brings clinical depth into leadership development and practitioner training. This podcast is for leaders and practitioners who value clarity, structure, and depth in how they think, lead, and relate. Connect on Instagram @iam.drshyam Learn more at www.cognitive-freedom.com Clinical services at www.kirupsychotherapy.com

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  • Creator
    Dr. Shyamala Kiru
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    100
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © @ Copyright 2024
  • Show Website
    The Dr. Shyamala Show

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