17 episodes

Each week adolescent and parent educator, Ashley Chandler, integrates the art, science, and soul of raising an early adolescent, and listeners gain the insights and tools they need to feel confident while navigating these often turbulent years. Discover what it means to wake up to your unique middle schooler, and to elevate yourself and the next generation for life.

The Elevated Adolescence Podcast Ashley Chandler

    • Education
    • 5.0 • 9 Ratings

Each week adolescent and parent educator, Ashley Chandler, integrates the art, science, and soul of raising an early adolescent, and listeners gain the insights and tools they need to feel confident while navigating these often turbulent years. Discover what it means to wake up to your unique middle schooler, and to elevate yourself and the next generation for life.

    #17: Why perfect parenting is for the birds

    #17: Why perfect parenting is for the birds

    Well-intentioned experts (myself included) are coming out with information and research on the effects of trauma and its impact on our lives. There's a collective awareness brewing that we've all been traumatized a little...and so many parents are becoming afraid of traumatizing their own kids.

    Maybe you're letting go of the idea of the perfect appearance, a Pinterest birthday party, or the perfect family (good for you!). But if you're still worried that with every argument, angry outburst, or less-than-perfect reaction you're F-ing-up your kid, this podcast is for you. 

    As I tell all students and parents I work with: there are no bad emotions - it's what you do with them that matters. If you're reading this you're an imperfect human being, and expecting yourself to not have a full range of emotions is expecting the impossible. Are you getting better at showing up for your middle schooler? But you're forgetting to have patience with your own imperfect self? 

    Perfect parenting is for the birds. Listen in to learn what you both really need! 

    • 11 min
    #16: Where I stand on smartphones and social media use for your middle schooler

    #16: Where I stand on smartphones and social media use for your middle schooler

    I believe it's time to take a stand to the technology use in your middle schooler's life.

    After Facebook whistleblower, Frances Haugen's testimony this week, and until the government imposes stricter laws and regulations of social media giants, it's clear parents of adolescents everywhere must become proactive in education and regulation in our own homes.


    They know our kids are more anxious and depressed, and they are more concerned with their bottom line.
    Adolescent kids feel worse about themselves and their lives, but they still can't stop using it.
    What's happening with social media and smartphone use today is likened to what happened with the tobacco industry and cigarette use. It was largely unregulated and marketed to adolescents with devastating effects.

    I know you want to protect your middle schooler, so don't miss this week's episode. Inside this episode, I share 5 actions I recommend you take immediately.

    I recommend you become proactive in your approach around this. It's clear from Frances's testimony an "everybody else is doing it" and a "wait and see" approach is doing them harm and it's time to focus on what you can control and take action now. 

    • 16 min
    #15: Boost your middle schooler's confidence today

    #15: Boost your middle schooler's confidence today

    If your middle schooler's confidence is low - they aren't alone. 

    Social skills are rusty. Connections have been limited to online. And, they haven't had the freedom and space they need to experiment.

    And, you know all-too-well that low confidence trickles into every aspect of life: relationships, learning, school, and life. 

    True, authentic confidence is an inside-out process.  

    A lot of people think it's about achieving something or having something external: the grade, the gadget, the outfit. But those things are meaningless if you're not confident on the inside. 

    In this week's episode, I share: what lack and acceptance have to do with it, how you can make an immediate impact today with what you express, and why working on this one area makes a huge difference.

    Like anything in parenting, building confidence is not a sprint - it's a marathon. And, it can be a beautiful one if you're planting seeds along the way that the way they are (and you, too!) RIGHT NOW is enough. 

    Remember, you two were made for each other. Your willingness to show up and do what you can will pay off!

    If you like this podcast, remember to like, subscribe, and share so more parents like you can find us!

    • 15 min
    #14: All middle school parenting questions answered with these two words

    #14: All middle school parenting questions answered with these two words

    As a parent, you likely have a constant inner dialogue of questions each week, like:


    "How can I support her through friend challenges?"
    "What if my son's feelings about a crush are a little too intense?"
    "My kids' confidence is so low...I'm worried."
    "My kid is becoming so private about puberty, but I want to help."

    Here's the deal: The answer to 99% of these questions begins with two words:

    Your relationship.

    Inside this week's podcast episode, "All middle school parenting questions answered with these two words", I share: Tangible ways to ensure they open up to you, how tuning into who they are will make you both feel closer, why practicing these tools makes any challenge feel manageable. 

    I've created The RELATE Method to help guide you in building this kind of unbreakable bond between you and your unique middle schooler.



    R: Reveal the Real You

    E: Engage with High-Quality Presence

    L: Listen Deeply Without and Agenda

    A: Attune to their state of being

    T: Trust: Reciprocate Say, Then Do

    E: Elevate: Believe and Act Beyond the Status Quo



    I've created a downloadable, detailed version of The RELATE Method right here just for you! 

    Remember, you two were made for each other. Your willingness to relate to them through these techniques will give you the confidence boost you crave as a parent. 

    If you like this podcast, remember to like, subscribe, and share so more parents like you can find us! 

    • 30 min
    #13: The top 5 ways to boost your middle schooler's motivation

    #13: The top 5 ways to boost your middle schooler's motivation

    Many of you are bracing for the inevitable: "My assignment is due tomorrow and I haven't started!." Perfectionism paralysis, "Why start the assignment if it can't be perfect?!" or looking at the school portal and seeing several missing assignments.

    If fostering motivation and self-drive in your middle schooler has you feeling flustered, today's podcast episode, "Top 5 Ways to Boost Your Middle Schooler's Motivation" is for you. Inside I share: 1) Why the phrase "I trust you" holds so much power, 2) Why doing the work for them will always backfire, & 3) The remedy for them not wanting to admit they need help

    Remember, your middle schooler will be motivated differently than their peers or siblings. Use this episode as a launching pad to boost their ability to not only do what they have to do, but to pursue what they love without fear. 

    • 10 min
    #12: The difference between your kid and a school shooter

    #12: The difference between your kid and a school shooter

    If you're like most parents, you're subconsciously carrying around the fact that these are very intense times for our adolescent kids.

    Many are hopeless, anxious, and depressed. In fact, we're facing a global mental health crisis in our youth, and there was one pre-pandemic as well.

    So, this week in honor of suicide prevention month, I wanted to do some heavy lifting around the heavy topics of school shootings and suicide prevention. Here's the thing: One difference between your kid, a school shooter, and suicide is their mental health. I know these are hard truths to face, but my intention is to provide some relief in what you can do and how you can show up at home.

    In this week's podcast, "The Difference Between Your Kid and a School Shooter" I share: Simple ways to boost consistency and routine (during a year that's been anything but consistent), what your stress level has to do with it, & why being this one thing has a profound, potentially life-saving impact on your kid

    After the year we've been living in, I don't need to tell you that if we don't have our collective health we don't have much.

    When you focus on these things at home, you never know the ripple effect they will create in the world. 

    #suicidepreventionmonth #gunreform #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthawareness #middleschool

    • 15 min

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9 Ratings

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Thanks again!

Thanks again for another gem of wisdom that gets right down to the nitty gritty of parenting! Your advice is refreshingly tangible!

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Highly recommend!

A great guide for those living or working with adolescents. Ashlee’s experience is apparent in the informative yet approachable episodes. Highly recommend!

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Ready to do the work!

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