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The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse Amie Woolsey Brainspotting Practitioner, ICF-PCC, CPC, APSATS-C, ELI-MP, C-DGS
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When you have experienced CPTSD due to your partner's infidelity, addiction and abusive behaviors, it's chipped away at your sense of empowerment. Divorce is hard enough, but divorcing after betrayal, abuse and a narcissist is another level of hard. I help women navigate divorce from a place of empowerment, dignity and strength. Learn tools to practice each week, hear from other women & professionals to help you feel supported along your healing journey. Divorce after betrayal doesn't have to be the story of your life, YOU create the story and are the chooser in it. Because You Can!
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BONUS EPISODE; You Are Cyclical!
Today I am answering a few questions to make up for the missed live Q&A this month!
Question #1: What if the good, is too good to be true?
Question #2: When will the EXHAUSTION end?
Join me as I answer both these questions, and with question number 2- I take a turn towards talking about how we as women are CYCLICAL beings! and how it's so important to honor this about ourselves. We can use our cycle phases to manage our healing and be more gentle with ourselves.
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DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP : Next one MAY 23rd-25th
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop HERE
BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
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88. How To Assess Emotional Maturity- In YOURSELF! Part 2
Surviving emotionally immature relationships require you to show up, or not show up, in certain ways to preserve the relationship and the attachment. Part of healing and especially if you are considering getting into another relationship, means you need to be able to take a look at how YOU showed up in your previous relationship. This is a shift from looking at how your partner may have showed up right?!
You certainly did not CHOOSE your trauma or abuse, and, if you stayed in it- you want to see why WITHOUT SELF -JUDGEMENT, GUILT OR SHAME, so that you don't repeat it! I know ya'll don't want that!
So hang with me today as I walk through a few things that you can consider and self reflect on this week.
Here are the main talking points from the podcast episode about emotional maturity, particularly focusing on self-awareness and coping strategies developed from past relationships:
Emotional Maturity Education: The host emphasizes that emotional maturity is a relatively new area of focus and not widely discussed, even though it's crucial for people who have experienced destructive relationships.
Patterns of Emotional Immaturity: The podcast highlights that behaviors perceived as emotionally immature are often adaptive responses developed to survive in challenging environments, not personal flaws.
People Pleasing: Discussed as a common trait among those who grew up in emotionally immature environments, often used as a strategy to feel safe and avoid rejection. The host plans to dedicate a full episode to this topic.
Boundaries: The difficulty in setting, holding, and communicating boundaries is tied to childhood environments where boundaries were neither respected nor modeled.
Avoidance of Conflict: Many listeners might relate to avoiding conflict as a survival strategy in abusive relationships or with difficult personalities like narcissists.
Dependency on External Validation: This is connected to the lack of emotional support in early years, leading to a reliance on others for validation.
Black and White Thinking: Described as a survival mechanism in unpredictable or chaotic environments, leading to overly simplistic thinking about people and situations.
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DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP : Next one MAY 23rd-25th
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop HERE
BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
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87. How To Assess Emotional Maturity Part 1
Join me today as I share a few key ways to assess emotional maturity in other, AND in yourself. Many of my clients want to know what healthy looks like, especially when they have experience abusive behaviors and communication in their relationships. Many fear repeating the patterns and "choosing wrong again" in future relationships.
With the help of on of my fav's, Lindsay Gibson and her work around emotional maturity, I will walk you through these key points and how to assess them in others, and in yourself.
Self-Awareness:
Responsibility for Actions:
Empathy:
Regulation of Emotions:
Resilience:
Respect for Boundaries:
Consistency:
Communication:
Flexibility:
Shared Humor and Enjoyment
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DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP : Next one MAY 23rd-25th
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop HERE
BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation HERE
Learn More About Assessment HERE
Book you Brainspotting session with me HERE -
86. The 7 Levels Of Energy; What's Your Level?
Today, we're diving deep into the concept of energy levels and how they manifest in our bodies, particularly through catabolic and anabolic energy. This framework is especially valuable if you're still learning to comfortably feel and identify your emotions.
Here's what we'll cover today:
The Seven Levels of Energy: We’ll explore each level, adapted to situations like divorce and betrayal, and how these energies influence our daily interactions and well-being.
Level 1 (Survival Mode): Linked with feelings of victimhood and powerlessness. " I can't"
Level 2 (Conflict Mode): Dominated by anger and blame, serving as protective reactions.
Level 3 (Responsibility Mode): A shift towards personal power and taking responsibility for personal healing. Curious.
Level 4 (Concern for Self): Focused on self-care and building compassion and esteem.
Level 5 (Reconciliation of Self): Embracing change, finding peace, confidence and accepting the past.
Level 6 (Connectedness): Creating a life filled with gratitude and possibility, recognizing personal growth.
Level 7 (Creation ): Harnessing the power to create and influence our surroundings positively.
Each level reflects a different way of experiencing and responding to the world. Understanding these can empower you to choose how you show up in various situations, whether it's a routine morning or confronting new challenges post-divorce.
Join me as we delve into each energy level, understand their implications, and discover how to harness them to lead a more empowered and intentional life.
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DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP : Next one MAY 23rd-25th
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop HERE
BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation HERE
Learn More About Assessment HERE
Book you Brainspotting session with me HERE -
85. Catabolic & Anabolic Energy; Emotions are Energy in Motion
Today, we're diving deep into the transformative concept of catabolic and anabolic energy and its profound impact on our emotional and physical well-being. By understanding our emotions as energy in motion, we unlock the potential to be more present in our bodies, neutralize the intensity of our emotions, and foster healing and growth.
Key Points Discussed:
Understanding Catabolic and Anabolic Energy: Unpacking the differences between these two types of energy and how they manifest in our lives. Catabolic energy, often associated with stress, fear, and survival instincts, can be draining and destructive. In contrast, anabolic energy is constructive and healing, promoting growth and repair.
Emotions as Energy in Motion: Exploring the concept that emotions are not just mental states but dynamic energies that move through our bodies, affecting our physical and emotional health.
The Somatic Connection: How recognizing emotions as energy helps us connect more deeply with our bodily experiences, leading to greater awareness and healing. Drawing on the work of Peter Levine and insights from "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk.
Neutralizing Intense Emotions: Strategies for shifting from catabolic to anabolic states, using awareness and specific practices to transform the energy of our emotions and reduce their intensity.
The Role of Brain Spotting and Somatic Experiencing: Discussing how these modalities utilize our understanding of emotions as energy to facilitate healing from trauma.
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DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP : Next one MAY 23rd-25th
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop HERE
BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation HERE
Learn More About Assessment HERE
Book you Brainspotting session with me HERE -
84. How Do I Handle All The Stress ?
In this episode, we explored essential strategies for managing stress during challenging life situations, such as divorce, co-parenting, and re-entering the dating scene. Here are the key takeaways:
Distinguish between trauma responses and everyday stressors to better manage your emotional well-being.
Identify stressors and recognize where they manifest in your body without judgment.
Determine what aspects of the situation are within your control and explore potential options.
Embrace your emotions fully and avoid forcing positivity when facing difficult circumstances.
Set boundaries with yourself, like not immediately responding to stressful messages, to protect your emotional space.
Establish clear boundaries with others and resist over-explaining or over-accommodating.
Practice mindfulness and grounding techniques to manage stress and avoid unnecessary resistance.
Accept reality as it is to reduce stress and make conscious choices in challenging situations.
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