The Grown-Ups Are Talking

Abby Thayananthan

The transition from college students/recent grads into fully-fledged adults can be a scary one. How do we 'adult'? And how do we know that we're doing it right? In this podcast, my guests and I reflect on all things 'adult'- working life, navigating adult relationships, following our dreams, making mistakes, dealing with rejection, and a lot more. We're going to figure out who we are as newborn adults together, and I'm so excited to have you here with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 1d ago

    69. How to Prepare to Start A New Chapter of Your Life

    In a few weeks I'm starting at Harvard Law School, and it's hard to overstate just how big a change that actually is. I'm moving countries, moving cities, stepping into one of the most rigorous academic environments out there, and going back to being a full-time student after years of building a career and a life that looked nothing like that. In this solo episode, I'm talking honestly about how I'm preparing for all of it, both practically and mentally. I've always loved change. Looking back, I can trace that love through a gap year, transferring universities, and quitting a job I'd built a whole career around, and in this episode I dig into where that comes from, including discovering myself through theatre in secondary (high) school and my dad's early encouragement to explore and travel rather than play it safe. I also talk about what I actually want out of this particular chapter, beyond simply surviving the transition. The bulk of the episode is a practical toolkit I use whenever I'm about to go through major change, the kind of thing I wish someone had told me earlier. I talk about why resting properly before a big transition matters more than people think, and why knowing your support systems, the people you'd actually call in a crisis or just on a hard day, makes such a difference once you're somewhere new. I get into the smaller, less glamorous parts of preparing too, like sorting out your regular appointments and your emergency admin in advance, so you're not scrambling to find a hairdresser or sort your insurance in the first stressful week of law school. I also talk about the routines and rituals that keep me grounded, why hobbies matter so much for holding onto your sense of self and finding community in an unfamiliar place, and how I plan to stay properly connected to friends and family while I'm thousands of miles away, including the weekly phone call ritual that got me through my years living in the US. Towards the end, I give a quick preview of how I'm thinking about the year ahead specifically, covering academics and why I'm not approaching them competitively, how I'm thinking about law firm recruitment, the move itself, the rigour of law school, and the routines that are mine to keep me feeling like me, wherever I am. If you're sitting on the edge of your own new chapter, whether that's a new city, a new job, or a return to school after years away, I hope this gives you something useful to take with you.

    34 min
  2. May 27

    64. Should You Do A Master's Degree?

    If you've ever finished undergrad and thought what now?!— this episode is for you. A master's degree can feel like the obvious next step. It sounds impressive, it keeps you in education a little longer, and it gives you something to say when people ask about your plans. But is it actually worth it? And are you doing it for the right reasons? In this episode, I'm joined by two friends and classmates, Nasreen and Ed, to reflect on our year doing an MA in Podcasting- yes, that's a real thing- and have an honest conversation about graduate school: what it costs, what it gives you, and whether it's actually necessary. We talk about what led each of us here, how a master's compares to undergrad life (it's more fragmented, more self-directed, and a lot less social than you might expect), and what we genuinely took away from the experience— academically, professionally, and personally. We also get into the harder questions. What were the paths we didn't take? How different would things look if we hadn't done it? Are there fields where a master's is genuinely valuable— and others where it's just a very expensive way of buying time? My honest take: I don't think a master's is for everyone. A lot of people do one to delay a decision rather than make one, and that can cost you serious time and money without much to show for it. But I also think there's a version of doing a master's that isn't really about the degree at all; it's about opening a door into a new chapter of your life that you couldn't have planned in advance. That's what it was for me. You don't have to do it right after undergrad. You don't have to do it at all. But if you have a real reason- a specific goal, a genuine curiosity, a sense that it might take you somewhere you actually want to go- it might be one of the better investments you make. Not just in your career, but in yourself.

    34 min
  3. May 20

    63. How to Build Your Dream Life

    This is Part 3 of the Dream Self series-- and this is where everything you've been building finally comes to life. If you've been following along, you've already done the deeper work. In Part 1, you got honest about what you actually want from your life- not what you think you should want, but what genuinely lights you up. In Part 2, you started getting to know the version of yourself you're working towards. Now, in this final instalment, we're getting into the part that most people skip: actually making it happen. Because here's the thing: vision without action is just a daydream. And action without structure is just chaos. So in this episode, we're building the bridge between who you are now and who you want to become, one concrete, practical step at a time. We start with goals-- why setting them is one of the most powerful things you can do for your wellbeing, performance, and sense of self, and how to set them in a way that actually sticks. Then we get into the real magic: systems and habits. You'll learn why motivation is never the answer (and what to rely on instead), how to design your environment so that your good habits become the path of least resistance, and how a collection of small, consistent actions compounds into something life-changing over time. We also talk mindset, because none of the practical stuff works if you're paralysed by perfectionism, self-doubt, or fear of what other people think. We get into how to build confidence through evidence, how to let go of the need to have it all figured out before you begin, and why consistency- even in tiny doses- is the thing that will change everything. This episode draws on research from positive psychology, habit theory, and the work of people like James Clear, and it's packed with real examples from my own life of what it actually looks like to build systems around your goals-- the wins, the things that didn't work, and the adjustments I made along the way. If you've ever had a big dream that never quite got off the ground, if you keep starting things and not finishing them, or if you're someone who knows exactly what you want but can't seem to close the gap between where you are and where you want to be, this episode is for you. You don't need more motivation. You need a plan. Let's build it.

    37 min

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The transition from college students/recent grads into fully-fledged adults can be a scary one. How do we 'adult'? And how do we know that we're doing it right? In this podcast, my guests and I reflect on all things 'adult'- working life, navigating adult relationships, following our dreams, making mistakes, dealing with rejection, and a lot more. We're going to figure out who we are as newborn adults together, and I'm so excited to have you here with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.