The Happya Life with Clare Deacon

Clare Deacon | Trauma-Informed Therapist, Positive Psychology Coach & Author of Blooming Happya
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What if thriving isn’t about having it all together but finally feeling at home in your own skin? Welcome to The Happya Life with Clare Deacon, the podcast for women ready to move from survival mode to self-worth, nervous system healing, and emotional freedom. If you feel stuck in people-pleasing, overwhelmed by self-doubt, or burned out from always doing more, you’re not alone. And you’re in the right place. 💬 We talk boundaries, burnout, emotional regulation, trauma recovery, nervous system work, and creating a life that actually feels good (not just looks good). I’m Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist, positive psychology coach, and Amazon #1 bestselling author of Blooming Happya. I combine science, soul, and strategy to help women stop performing and start becoming. In each episode, you’ll get: Practical tools and nervous system insightsReal talk on trauma, boundaries, and rebuilding your self-worthCoaching grounded in neuroscience, embodiment, and positive psychology This is where self-help meets self-connection. 🎧 Ready to heal the patterns holding you back and start living from your truth? Press play. This is where your transformation begins.

  1. You Know It's Right So Why Is It So Hard to Let Go

    23H AGO

    You Know It's Right So Why Is It So Hard to Let Go

    🪷If something in this spoke to you, I’d love to hear, message me. When a relationship ends and you know it was right, the expectation is that letting go should follow. Logic says so. Everyone around you says so. But your body does not work on logic. In this episode, Clare explores what is really happening when you cannot let go even when you know you should. Why the pull back is not weakness or a sign you made the wrong decision. Why your nervous system stays attached long after your mind has moved on. And why the hardest part is often not losing the person, but losing the version of yourself that existed inside the relationship. Because the women who come out of this most whole are not the ones who forced themselves to move on. They are the ones who understood what they were actually grieving, and did that work properly. This is for you if you are tired of cycling. Tired of returning to it. Tired of knowing something is right and still not feeling free. A Cuppa and Chat is a low-risk conversation to find out whether working with Clare is the right fit. Book at happyacoach.com/chat. You do not have to decide today. But do not ignore this either. Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk Music by LemonMusicStudio

    11 min
  2. Your Emotions Feel Out of Control But There's a Reason

    MAY 13

    Your Emotions Feel Out of Control But There's a Reason

    🪷If something in this spoke to you, I’d love to hear, message me. Nobody prepares you for what menopause does to how you feel about yourself. The physical symptoms get talked about, occasionally. But the emotional shifts, the loss of your old patience, the going from calm to overwhelmed in moments, the reactions that do not feel like you, that part gets largely skipped over. And because it gets skipped over, you can end up going through one of the most significant hormonal and neurological transitions of your life, wondering if something is wrong with you. In this episode, Clare explores what is actually happening when your emotional experience feels out of control during menopause. Not to dismiss it as "just hormones," but to help you understand what your nervous system is doing, what it is trying to tell you, and why the signals underneath the dysregulation are worth listening to. Because understanding what is driving how you feel is the beginning of something changing. And the question underneath all of it, not just "what is happening to me?" but "who am I becoming?", is one worth asking. Book a free Cuppa and Chat with Clare at happyacoach.com/chat.  No pressure, just a conversation. Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk Music by LemonMusicStudio

    13 min
  3. You Don't Feel Like Yourself Anymore But Nothing's Wrong

    MAY 6

    You Don't Feel Like Yourself Anymore But Nothing's Wrong

    🪷If something in this spoke to you, I’d love to hear, message me. There is a version of this that so many women quietly live with. Life, on the surface, looks fine. You are functioning, getting things done, showing up. But underneath that, something is not sitting right. And the harder you try to identify it, the more it slips away from you. That quiet mismatch is one of the most disorienting places to be, because when nothing is obviously wrong, you have no permission slip to feel the way you do. So you push it down. You carry on. You wonder if something is wrong with you. In this episode, Clare explores what is really happening when your sense of who you are begins to quietly drift. Not as a crisis to solve, but as something worth understanding. Because when you understand that what you are feeling is identity drift, not a character flaw or ingratitude, the question "who am I now" stops feeling like a threat. And something that has felt frightening starts to feel like an invitation. If you have been building a life where being needed has quietly become your identity, this episode is for you. Book a free Cuppa and Chat with Clare at happyacoach.com/chat. No pressure, just a conversation. Find out more at happyacoach.com  Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk Music by LemonMusicStudio

    11 min
  4. Series Special Happya Ever After: Living Forward After Loss

    MAY 1

    Series Special Happya Ever After: Living Forward After Loss

    🪷If something in this spoke to you, I’d love to hear, message me. What does “ever after” really mean after the death of a partner? In this final episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon reflects on what it means to live forward after loss not with fairytale endings or forced positivity, but with honesty, compassion, and choice. This episode brings together the heart of the series: how to carry love without being trapped in pain, how to honour what has been lost without freezing your life at the moment of loss, and how to give yourself permission to choose a life that works now. This conversation is for you if you’re navigating life after loss and wondering how to move forward without letting go of love, memory, or meaning. In this episode, Clare explores: What “ever after” really means after griefHow to carry love forward without staying trapped in sufferingWhy pain is not proof of loveHow to live in a way that honours both grief and lifePermission to choose a life that fits who you are nowThis is not about closure or happy endings.  It’s about living forward with integrity, adaptability, and self-trust. You are allowed to live.  You are allowed to choose what works now. 🔗 Explore the Happya Ever After hub: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after 📘 Free guide – Life After Loss: Finding a Way Forward: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after/life-after-loss Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk Music by LemonMusicStudio

    11 min
  5. Series Special Happya Ever After: Finding Meaning After the Death of a Partner

    APR 24

    Series Special Happya Ever After: Finding Meaning After the Death of a Partner

    🪷If something in this spoke to you, I’d love to hear, message me. After the death of a partner, life can lose its sense of direction. In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores what it means to find meaning after loss without confusing meaning with happiness, positivity, or moving on. This episode is for those who feel disoriented, unsure of their purpose, or quietly wondering how to build a life that still feels true after such a profound change. Clare gently explores: The difference between meaning and happiness after lossWhy meaning is not about finding a reason for what happenedHow purpose can emerge quietly after griefWhat it means to create a life that fits who you are nowWhy meaning after loss evolves over time and cannot be forcedThis is not an episode about erasing grief or replacing what was lost.  It’s about allowing life to re-orient in a way that honours both love and loss. You don’t need to feel happy to live a meaningful life.  And you don’t need to have it all figured out. Explore all Happya Ever After resources: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after Free guide – Life After Loss: Finding a Way Forward: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after/life-after-loss Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk Music by LemonMusicStudio

    12 min
  6. Series Special Happya Ever After: Post-Traumatic Growth After Grief

    APR 17

    Series Special Happya Ever After: Post-Traumatic Growth After Grief

    🪷If something in this spoke to you, I’d love to hear, message me. Post-traumatic growth is often misunderstood especially after grief. In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores what post-traumatic growth actually means after loss, and what it very much does not. This is not about silver linings, forced meaning, or turning pain into something positive. Instead, this episode offers a grounded, honest look at how growth can happen alongside grief not beyond it. This episode is for you if the idea of growth after loss has ever felt uncomfortable, invalidating, or like pressure to be okay. It’s also for you if you’ve noticed subtle changes in yourself and wondered what they mean. Clare explores: What post-traumatic growth really means in the context of griefWhy growth does not justify or redeem lossThe difference between growing around grief and trying to move beyond itWhy growth is not a requirement or a goalHow this concept differs from toxic positivityThis episode is not about finding meaning in loss.  It’s about understanding how people sometimes change while continuing to live with grief. You don’t need to grow for your grief to be valid.  And you don’t need to make sense of this today. 🔗 Explore all Happya Ever After resources: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after 📘 Free guide – Life After Loss: Finding a Way Forward: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after/life-after-loss Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk Music by LemonMusicStudio

    13 min
  7. Series Special Happya Ever After: When Survival Stops Working

    APR 10

    Series Special Happya Ever After: When Survival Stops Working

    🪷If something in this spoke to you, I’d love to hear, message me. There often comes a point after loss when simply surviving is no longer enough. In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores the moment when coping mechanisms begin to collapse not because you’re failing, but because survival was never meant to carry you forever. This is the phase that can feel frightening and confusing: when what once kept you going no longer works, when exhaustion sets in, and when pushing through starts to cost more than it gives. If you’ve ever thought “I was coping… and now I’m not”, this episode is for you. Clare gently explores: The moment coping mechanisms stop working after griefWhy this isn’t failure or regressionHow survival mode protects you and why it has limitsWhy this phase often signals a turning point rather than a breakdownHow to recognise when life is asking for something more sustainableThis episode isn’t about forcing change or “doing grief better”.  It’s about understanding this shift with compassion and recognising it as part of the grief journey. You are not falling apart.  You are reaching the edge of survival and that matters. 🔗 Explore all Happya Ever After resources: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after 📘 Free guide – Life After Loss: Finding a Way Forward: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after/life-after-loss Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk Music by LemonMusicStudio

    12 min
  8. Series Special Happya Ever After: Therapy After Loss: What Actually Helps

    APR 3

    Series Special Happya Ever After: Therapy After Loss: What Actually Helps

    🪷If something in this spoke to you, I’d love to hear, message me. Therapy is often suggested quickly after loss but it doesn’t always help in the way people expect. In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores therapy after loss honestly and compassionately, looking at when therapy can be genuinely helpful, when it can be unhelpful, and why some people feel worse before they feel better. This episode is for you if you’ve tried therapy and felt disappointed, overwhelmed, or unsure whether it was right for you or if you’re wondering whether therapy might help, but feel cautious or conflicted. Clare explores: When therapy is useful after loss and when it isn’tWhy timing and readiness matter in grief supportDifferent therapeutic approaches and why fit is essentialWhy some people feel worse before they feel better in therapyWhy therapy not helping does not mean you’re failingThis is not an episode about promoting therapy as the only path forward.  It’s about choice, consent, and understanding what support actually looks like after grief. You are not broken if therapy hasn’t helped.  You are allowed to choose what support works for you. 🔗 Explore all Happya Ever After resources: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after 📘 Free guide – Life After Loss: Finding a Way Forward: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after/life-after-loss Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk Music by LemonMusicStudio

    13 min
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What if thriving isn’t about having it all together but finally feeling at home in your own skin? Welcome to The Happya Life with Clare Deacon, the podcast for women ready to move from survival mode to self-worth, nervous system healing, and emotional freedom. If you feel stuck in people-pleasing, overwhelmed by self-doubt, or burned out from always doing more, you’re not alone. And you’re in the right place. 💬 We talk boundaries, burnout, emotional regulation, trauma recovery, nervous system work, and creating a life that actually feels good (not just looks good). I’m Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist, positive psychology coach, and Amazon #1 bestselling author of Blooming Happya. I combine science, soul, and strategy to help women stop performing and start becoming. In each episode, you’ll get: Practical tools and nervous system insightsReal talk on trauma, boundaries, and rebuilding your self-worthCoaching grounded in neuroscience, embodiment, and positive psychology This is where self-help meets self-connection. 🎧 Ready to heal the patterns holding you back and start living from your truth? Press play. This is where your transformation begins.

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  • Creator
    Clare Deacon | Trauma-Informed Therapist, Positive Psychology Coach & Author of Blooming Happya
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    105
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 Happya Ltd
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