The Happya Life with Clare Deacon

Clare Deacon | Trauma-Informed Therapist, Positive Psychology Coach & Author of Blooming Happya
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What if thriving isn’t about having it all together but finally feeling at home in your own skin? Welcome to The Happya Life with Clare Deacon, the podcast for women ready to move from survival mode to self-worth, nervous system healing, and emotional freedom. If you feel stuck in people-pleasing, overwhelmed by self-doubt, or burned out from always doing more, you’re not alone. And you’re in the right place. 💬 We talk boundaries, burnout, emotional regulation, trauma recovery, nervous system work, and creating a life that actually feels good (not just looks good). I’m Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist, positive psychology coach, and Amazon #1 bestselling author of Blooming Happya. I combine science, soul, and strategy to help women stop performing and start becoming. In each episode, you’ll get: Practical tools and nervous system insightsReal talk on trauma, boundaries, and rebuilding your self-worthCoaching grounded in neuroscience, embodiment, and positive psychology This is where self-help meets self-connection. 🎧 Ready to heal the patterns holding you back and start living from your truth? Press play. This is where your transformation begins.

  1. Series Special Happya Ever After: Post-Traumatic Growth After Grief

    1D AGO

    Series Special Happya Ever After: Post-Traumatic Growth After Grief

    🪷If something in this spoke to you, I’d love to hear, message me. Post-traumatic growth is often misunderstood especially after grief. In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores what post-traumatic growth actually means after loss, and what it very much does not. This is not about silver linings, forced meaning, or turning pain into something positive. Instead, this episode offers a grounded, honest look at how growth can happen alongside grief not beyond it. This episode is for you if the idea of growth after loss has ever felt uncomfortable, invalidating, or like pressure to be okay. It’s also for you if you’ve noticed subtle changes in yourself and wondered what they mean. Clare explores: What post-traumatic growth really means in the context of griefWhy growth does not justify or redeem lossThe difference between growing around grief and trying to move beyond itWhy growth is not a requirement or a goalHow this concept differs from toxic positivityThis episode is not about finding meaning in loss.  It’s about understanding how people sometimes change while continuing to live with grief. You don’t need to grow for your grief to be valid.  And you don’t need to make sense of this today. 🔗 Explore all Happya Ever After resources: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after 📘 Free guide – Life After Loss: Finding a Way Forward: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after/life-after-loss 🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support ➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call: Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk. 👉 happyacoach.com/chat ➤ 🌐 Explore More at: happyacoach.com 💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com  🎵 Music by LemonMusicStudio

    13 min
  2. Series Special Happya Ever After: When Survival Stops Working

    APR 10

    Series Special Happya Ever After: When Survival Stops Working

    🪷If something in this spoke to you, I’d love to hear, message me. There often comes a point after loss when simply surviving is no longer enough. In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores the moment when coping mechanisms begin to collapse not because you’re failing, but because survival was never meant to carry you forever. This is the phase that can feel frightening and confusing: when what once kept you going no longer works, when exhaustion sets in, and when pushing through starts to cost more than it gives. If you’ve ever thought “I was coping… and now I’m not”, this episode is for you. Clare gently explores: The moment coping mechanisms stop working after griefWhy this isn’t failure or regressionHow survival mode protects you and why it has limitsWhy this phase often signals a turning point rather than a breakdownHow to recognise when life is asking for something more sustainableThis episode isn’t about forcing change or “doing grief better”.  It’s about understanding this shift with compassion and recognising it as part of the grief journey. You are not falling apart.  You are reaching the edge of survival and that matters. 🔗 Explore all Happya Ever After resources: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after 📘 Free guide – Life After Loss: Finding a Way Forward: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after/life-after-loss 🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support ➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call: Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk. 👉 happyacoach.com/chat ➤ 🌐 Explore More at: happyacoach.com 💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com  🎵 Music by LemonMusicStudio

    12 min
  3. Series Special Happya Ever After: Therapy After Loss: What Actually Helps

    APR 3

    Series Special Happya Ever After: Therapy After Loss: What Actually Helps

    🪷If something in this spoke to you, I’d love to hear, message me. Therapy is often suggested quickly after loss but it doesn’t always help in the way people expect. In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores therapy after loss honestly and compassionately, looking at when therapy can be genuinely helpful, when it can be unhelpful, and why some people feel worse before they feel better. This episode is for you if you’ve tried therapy and felt disappointed, overwhelmed, or unsure whether it was right for you or if you’re wondering whether therapy might help, but feel cautious or conflicted. Clare explores: When therapy is useful after loss and when it isn’tWhy timing and readiness matter in grief supportDifferent therapeutic approaches and why fit is essentialWhy some people feel worse before they feel better in therapyWhy therapy not helping does not mean you’re failingThis is not an episode about promoting therapy as the only path forward.  It’s about choice, consent, and understanding what support actually looks like after grief. You are not broken if therapy hasn’t helped.  You are allowed to choose what support works for you. 🔗 Explore all Happya Ever After resources: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after 📘 Free guide – Life After Loss: Finding a Way Forward: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after/life-after-loss 🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support ➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call: Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk. 👉 happyacoach.com/chat ➤ 🌐 Explore More at: happyacoach.com 💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com  🎵 Music by LemonMusicStudio

    13 min
  4. Series Special Happya Ever After: Comparison and Judgement in Grief

    MAR 27

    Series Special Happya Ever After: Comparison and Judgement in Grief

    🪷If something in this spoke to you, I’d love to hear, message me. Grief doesn’t just hurt it is often judged. In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores the comparison and judgement that so many people face after loss, particularly widows navigating life in the aftermath of losing a partner. This episode speaks to the invisible rules that seem to appear around grief: expectations about how long you should grieve, how visibly you should suffer, and when you should begin to “move on”. Rules that are rarely spoken aloud, yet deeply felt. If you’ve ever felt watched, measured, or quietly assessed for how you’re grieving this episode is for you. Clare gently unpacks: The unspoken social rules placed on widowsThe damaging impact of “too soon”, “too much”, and “not enough”How comparison with others or with yourself can distort the grief processWhy there is no correct timeline for griefHow to reclaim your right to grieve and live at your own paceThis is not an episode about doing grief better.  It’s about stepping out of judgement, releasing comparison, and giving yourself permission to follow your own timeline. Your grief does not need to be explained.  Your pace does not need to be justified. 🔗 Explore all Happya Ever After resources:  https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after 📘 Free guide – Life After Loss: Finding a Way Forward:  https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after/life-after-loss 🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support ➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call: Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk. 👉 happyacoach.com/chat ➤ 🌐 Explore More at: happyacoach.com 💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com  🎵 Music by LemonMusicStudio

    12 min
  5. Series Special Happya Ever After: Other's Reactions to Grief

    MAR 20

    Series Special Happya Ever After: Other's Reactions to Grief

    🪷If something in this spoke to you, I’d love to hear, message me. One of the most painful parts of grief is often not the loss itself but how other people respond to it. In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores the impact of other people’s reactions to grief, and why navigating relationships after loss can feel unexpectedly difficult, isolating, and exhausting. This conversation is for you if you’ve felt hurt, confused, or alone because of how others have shown up or failed to show up since your loss. When people avoid the topic, say the wrong thing, disappear, or expect you to be “better” by now, it can add a second layer of pain to an already heavy experience. In this episode, Clare gently explores: Why people often withdraw or say unhelpful things after lossThe impact of platitudes, silence, and avoidanceWhy wanting your loved one to be remembered makes senseHow unspoken expectations about grief can create pressureWhy protecting yourself and setting boundaries is not unkindThis is not about blaming others or judging relationships.  It’s about understanding why this happens, reducing self-doubt, and giving yourself permission to grieve honestly. You are not too sensitive.  You are responding to something that matters. 🔗 Explore all Happya Ever After resources: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after 📘 Free guide – Life After Loss: Finding a Way Forward: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after/life-after-loss 🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support ➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call: Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk. 👉 happyacoach.com/chat ➤ 🌐 Explore More at: happyacoach.com 💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com  🎵 Music by LemonMusicStudio

    13 min
  6. Series Special Happya Ever After: Who Am I Now? Identity After Loss

    MAR 13

    Series Special Happya Ever After: Who Am I Now? Identity After Loss

    🪷If something in this spoke to you, I’d love to hear, message me. After the death of a partner, grief doesn’t just affect how you feel it can change how you experience yourself. In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores the often-unspoken impact of loss on identity, and why so many people find themselves asking the question: Who am I now? This is for you if you feel unfamiliar to yourself, unsure where you fit, or disconnected from the roles, labels, and sense of self you once held. When the life you shared ends, it can feel as though a version of you has ended too and that can be deeply unsettling. In this episode, Clare gently explores: Why identity shifts after the death of a partnerThe loss of shared roles, future plans, and being reflected by anotherWhy not recognising yourself doesn’t mean you’re lostWhy identity after loss is something that unfolds, not something you decideThis episode isn’t about reinvention or “finding yourself” quickly.  It’s about understanding why identity feels uncertain after grief and allowing yourself to be in transition without judgement. You are not broken.  You are becoming. 🔗 Explore all Happya Ever After resources: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after 📘 Free guide – Life After Loss: Finding a Way Forward: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after/life-after-loss 🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support ➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call: Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk. 👉 happyacoach.com/chat ➤ 🌐 Explore More at: happyacoach.com 💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com  🎵 Music by LemonMusicStudio

    13 min
  7. Series Special Happya Ever After: Why You Feel Stuck After Grief

    MAR 6

    Series Special Happya Ever After: Why You Feel Stuck After Grief

    🪷If something in this spoke to you, I’d love to hear, message me. Feeling stuck after grief can be deeply unsettling especially when you’re no longer in crisis, but life still isn’t moving forward. In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores why so many people feel stuck after loss, and why this experience is often misunderstood both by others and by the person living it. This is the phase where survival has eased, but direction hasn’t yet returned. Where motivation feels low, the future feels unclear, and you may be quietly wondering why you can’t seem to “get going” again. This episode is for you if: You’re functioning, but feel emotionally flat or directionlessYou know you don’t want to stay as you are, but don’t know what comes nextYou feel pressure to move on, but something inside is holding backYou’re judging yourself for not coping “better” by nowClare gently explains the difference between being stuck and stabilising, why this pause can be a necessary part of grief, and how your nervous system and sense of meaning are recalibrating after loss. This is not an episode about pushing forward or forcing change.  It’s about understanding this in-between phase with compassion and releasing the belief that something has gone wrong. You are not failing.  You are adapting. 🔗 Explore all Happya Ever After resources: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after 📘 Free guide – Life After Loss: Finding a Way Forward: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after/life-after-loss 🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support ➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call: Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk. 👉 happyacoach.com/chat ➤ 🌐 Explore More at: happyacoach.com 💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com  🎵 Music by LemonMusicStudio

    12 min
  8. Series Special Happya Ever After: What Grief Does to Your Nervous System

    FEB 27

    Series Special Happya Ever After: What Grief Does to Your Nervous System

    🪷If something in this spoke to you, I’d love to hear, message me. If you’ve been feeling constantly on edge, exhausted, numb, foggy, or unable to switch off after loss, this episode is for you. In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explains what grief actually does to your nervous system and why so many people struggle long after the immediate shock has passed. This conversation is for those who are surviving life after loss but wondering why their body hasn’t settled, even when time has moved on. When anxiety, shutdown, exhaustion, or emotional numbness persist, it’s easy to assume something is wrong with you. It isn’t. Clare explores: How grief affects the nervous system and sense of safetyWhy time alone doesn’t always calm the body after lossThe difference between being emotionally “over it” and feeling regulatedWhy willpower and positive thinking don’t work at this levelHow understanding your nervous system can reduce shame and self-judgementThis episode isn’t about fixing yourself or forcing calm.  It’s about understanding what your body has been doing to protect you and why that response makes sense. You are not broken.  Your nervous system isn’t failing.  It has been keeping you safe. 🔗 Explore all Happya Ever After resources: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after 📘 Free guide – Calming Your Nervous System After Loss: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after/calming-your-nervous-system 🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support ➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call: Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk. 👉 happyacoach.com/chat ➤ 🌐 Explore More at: happyacoach.com 💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com  🎵 Music by LemonMusicStudio

    12 min
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What if thriving isn’t about having it all together but finally feeling at home in your own skin? Welcome to The Happya Life with Clare Deacon, the podcast for women ready to move from survival mode to self-worth, nervous system healing, and emotional freedom. If you feel stuck in people-pleasing, overwhelmed by self-doubt, or burned out from always doing more, you’re not alone. And you’re in the right place. 💬 We talk boundaries, burnout, emotional regulation, trauma recovery, nervous system work, and creating a life that actually feels good (not just looks good). I’m Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist, positive psychology coach, and Amazon #1 bestselling author of Blooming Happya. I combine science, soul, and strategy to help women stop performing and start becoming. In each episode, you’ll get: Practical tools and nervous system insightsReal talk on trauma, boundaries, and rebuilding your self-worthCoaching grounded in neuroscience, embodiment, and positive psychology This is where self-help meets self-connection. 🎧 Ready to heal the patterns holding you back and start living from your truth? Press play. This is where your transformation begins.

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  • Creator
    Clare Deacon | Trauma-Informed Therapist, Positive Psychology Coach & Author of Blooming Happya
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    100
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 Happya Ltd
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    The Happya Life with Clare Deacon