The Grief Gurus

Lisa Chase McFarland + Carol Banens
  • 5.0 (2)
  • Mental Health
  • Updated Weekly

The Grief Gurus Healing Community is a virtual space for women who are carrying grief—whether it’s recent or something that’s been with you for a long time. You don’t have to have the right words.You don’t have to share your story.You don’t have to be in a certain place. You can simply come and listen. Most people move through grief quietly, trying to make sense of it on their own.  This space offers something different—a place to be around others who understand, without needing to explain. Everything inside the community is optional.You can engage as much or as little as you want, at your own pace. We offer two weeks of complimentary access so you can explore the space gently and see what feels right for you. Because grief is part of your story… but it was never meant to be the whole story.

  1. 2d ago

    Why Does Grief Return Years Later?

    Grief is part of your story. But not the whole story. Many people are surprised — and sometimes frightened — when grief suddenly returns years after a loss. A wedding. A song. A milestone. A quiet moment. And suddenly, the sadness feels present all over again. In this conversation, we explore why grief can resurface long after we think we’ve “moved on,” how unresolved emotions and meaningful life events can reopen grief, and why these moments do not mean you are healing incorrectly. Because grief is not linear. It doesn’t follow a schedule. And feeling grief again years later does not mean you are back at the beginning. Often, it simply means love, memory, and loss are still woven into your life in new ways. 👉 Follow for tools to navigate grief and difficult emotions and visit www.thegriefgurus.com for practical conversations about grief, coping, and living after loss. #TheGriefGurus #CarolBanens #LisaMcFarland #healing Show Notes + Resources: Grief Gurus Healing Community: www.thegriefgurus.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GriefGurus Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thegriefgurus Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/griefgurus/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GriefGurus/ Lisa McFarland: https://lisamcfarland.com/ Carol Banens: https://carolbanens.com/ Information on books written and published by Lisa and Carol can be found on their individual websites, social media profiles and Amazon.

    16 min

  2. Jun 18

    Why Does Feeling Better Sometimes Feel Worse?

    Grief is part of your story. But not the whole story. Many grieving people are surprised to discover that feeling better can bring its own kind of pain. A moment of laughter… a sense of relief… even glimpses of joy… can suddenly trigger guilt, fear, or the feeling that you’re somehow leaving your loved one behind. In this conversation, we explore why healing can feel emotionally complicated after loss and how grief and joy can exist together without canceling each other out. Because loving someone deeply does not require you to suffer forever in order to prove they mattered. 👉 Follow for tools to navigate grief and difficult emotions and visit www.thegriefgurus.com for practical conversations about grief, coping, and living after loss. #TheGriefGurus #CarolBanens #LisaMcFarland #healing #guilt-after-loss Show Notes + Resources: Grief Gurus Healing Community: www.thegriefgurus.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GriefGurus Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thegriefgurus Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/griefgurus/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GriefGurus/ Lisa McFarland: https://lisamcfarland.com/ Carol Banens: https://carolbanens.com/ Information on books written and published by Lisa and Carol can be found on their individual websites, social media profiles and Amazon.

    11 min

  3. Jun 11

    Loving Someone vs. Caring for Them — It’s Different

    Grief is part of your story. But not the whole story. There’s a profound shift that happens when you move from being a companion to becoming a caregiver. The relationship changes. The roles change. And often, so does the emotional landscape. In this chat, we talk about what it’s like when someone you love begins to rely on you for care — how it can affect connection, identity, and the way you show up for each other. This transition can bring love, responsibility, exhaustion, tenderness, and even grief… all at the same time. Because sometimes you’re not just being with the person you love anymore — you’re also holding so much of what they need. 👉 Follow for tools to navigate grief and difficult emotions and visit www.thegriefgurus.com for practical conversations about grief, coping, and living after loss. #TheGriefGurus #CarolBanens #LisaMcFarland #healing #caregiver Show Notes + Resources: Grief Gurus Healing Community: www.thegriefgurus.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GriefGurus Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thegriefgurus Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/griefgurus/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GriefGurus/ Lisa McFarland: https://lisamcfarland.com/ Carol Banens: https://carolbanens.com/ Information on books written and published by Lisa and Carol can be found on their individual websites, social media profiles and Amazon.

    16 min

  4. Jun 4

    When People Ask: "Are You Over Your Grief Yet?"

    Grief is part of your story. But not the whole story. “Are you over your grief yet?” It’s a question many grieving people hear — directly or indirectly — and it can carry so much pressure, shame, and misunderstanding. In this conversation, we explore why grief is not something you simply “get over,” how healing differs from forgetting, and what it can look like to build a meaningful life while still carrying love and loss together. Because grief is not a finish line. It’s a relationship, an experience, and often a lifelong integration of what mattered deeply. 👉 Follow for tools to navigate grief and difficult emotions and visit www.thegriefgurus.com for practical conversations about grief, coping, and living after loss. #TheGriefGurus #CarolBanens #LisaMcFarland #healing Show Notes + Resources: Grief Gurus Healing Community: www.thegriefgurus.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GriefGurus Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thegriefgurus Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/griefgurus/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GriefGurus/ Lisa McFarland: https://lisamcfarland.com/ Carol Banens: https://carolbanens.com/ Information on books written and published by Lisa and Carol can be found on their individual websites, social media profiles and Amazon.

    14 min

  5. May 28

    Stop Warning Grieving People About Year Two

    Grief is part of your story. But not the whole story. People love to say: “Just wait until the second year…” But what if that message creates more fear than comfort? In this video, we explore why telling grieving people “the second year is harder” can feel discouraging—and why grief is too personal to predict. Your grief is your own. Not a script someone else hands you. 👉 Follow for tools to navigate grief and difficult emotions and visit www.thegriefgurus.com for practical conversations about grief, coping, and living after loss. #TheGriefGurus #CarolBanens #LisaMcFarland #secondyearblues Show Notes + Resources: Grief Gurus Healing Community: www.thegriefgurus.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GriefGurus Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thegriefgurus Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/griefgurus/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GriefGurus/ Lisa McFarland: https://lisamcfarland.com/ Carol Banens: https://carolbanens.com/ Information on books written and published by Lisa and Carol can be found on their individual websites, social media profiles and Amazon.

    13 min

  6. May 27

    Addressing the Inclination to Curse, especially when someone asks "How Are You?"

    This episode contains curse words. So many of us were taught to ignore, suppress, minimize, or “push through” our feelings. But healing often begins the moment we stop telling our emotions to “F” off and start getting honest about what’s really happening inside us. In this guided meditation, we gently practice noticing our emotions without judgment, fixing, or forcing them away. This is an invitation to soften the fight with yourself and create space for honesty, compassion, and self-awareness. Whether you’re grieving, overwhelmed, numb, angry, anxious, or simply exhausted, this meditation offers a grounded place to reconnect with yourself exactly as you are. Show Notes + Resources: Grief Gurus Healing Community: www.thegriefgurus.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GriefGurus Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thegriefgurus Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/griefgurus/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GriefGurus/ Lisa McFarland: https://lisamcfarland.com/ Carol Banens: https://carolbanens.com/ Information on books written and published by Lisa and Carol can be found on their individual websites, social media profiles and Amazon.

    23 min

  7. May 21

    If You're Already Grieving, This May Be Why

    Grief is part of your story, but not the whole story. When someone you love is seriously ill or nearing the end of life, it’s common to experience anticipatory grief—grieving before the loss has happened. But many people begin living through imagined future pain now, trying to predict how devastating it will feel. The truth is: you don’t fully know what the experience will be like until it happens. In this video, we talk about the danger of borrowing pain from the future, while also honoring the importance of practical preparation. We cover: • What anticipatory grief really is • Why imagining worst-case outcomes can increase suffering • The difference between emotional fear and practical planning • Important preparations like legal, financial, healthcare directives, and DNR decisions • Why getting grief support before the loss can be incredibly helpful If you’re caring for someone or facing an expected loss, this conversation is for you. 👉 Follow for more tools to navigate grief and difficult emotions and visit www.thegriefgurus.com for practical conversations about grief, coping, and living after loss. #TheGriefGurus #CarolBanens #LisaMcFarland #healing Show Notes + Resources: Grief Gurus Healing Community: www.thegriefgurus.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GriefGurus Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thegriefgurus Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/griefgurus/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GriefGurus/ Lisa McFarland: https://lisamcfarland.com/ Carol Banens: https://carolbanens.com/ Information on books written and published by Lisa and Carol can be found on their individual websites, social media profiles and Amazon.

    10 min

  8. May 19

    Healing Together: Inside the Grief Gurus Community

    Grief is part of your story. But not the whole story. In this conversation, Lisa and Carol share what the Grief Gurus community is all about — a supportive space for women navigating grief, loss, and life after profound change. We talk about the heart behind the community, the kinds of conversations and support we offer, and why feeling seen, understood, and less alone can make such a difference in grief. Whether you’re newly grieving or years into your journey, we hope this gives you a sense of the warmth, connection, and compassion we aim to create together. 👉 Follow for tools to navigate grief and difficult emotions and visit www.thegriefgurus.com for practical conversations about grief, coping, and living after loss. #TheGriefGurus #CarolBanens #LisaMcFarland #healing Show Notes + Resources: Grief Gurus Healing Community: www.thegriefgurus.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GriefGurus Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thegriefgurus Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/griefgurus/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GriefGurus/ Lisa McFarland: https://lisamcfarland.com/ Carol Banens: https://carolbanens.com/ Information on books written and published by Lisa and Carol can be found on their individual websites, social media profiles and Amazon.

    17 min
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The Grief Gurus Healing Community is a virtual space for women who are carrying grief—whether it’s recent or something that’s been with you for a long time. You don’t have to have the right words.You don’t have to share your story.You don’t have to be in a certain place. You can simply come and listen. Most people move through grief quietly, trying to make sense of it on their own.  This space offers something different—a place to be around others who understand, without needing to explain. Everything inside the community is optional.You can engage as much or as little as you want, at your own pace. We offer two weeks of complimentary access so you can explore the space gently and see what feels right for you. Because grief is part of your story… but it was never meant to be the whole story.

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  • Creator
    Lisa Chase McFarland + Carol Banens
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    249
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The Grief Gurus
  • Show Website
    The Grief Gurus