The Playbook

Amanda Carroll
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Welcome to The Playbook — the no-BS podcast for successful women who are done wasting time on situationships, unavailable men, and “good on paper” guys who leave you bored out of your mind. If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe I’m too much, maybe there aren’t any good men left, maybe I should just settle…” — girl, stop lying to yourself. You’re not too much. He’s just not enough. This season, we’re blowing up the old dating rules. No more waiting to be chosen. No more outsourcing your love life to matchmakers. No more pretending “fine” is good enough. High-value women don’t need a provider. We need a partner. And I’m giving you the exact playbook to attract one. Every week, I’ll drop savage truth bombs, scandalous stories, and the strategies that will get you into a committed, passionate, high-value relationship in 5 dates or less. Period. This is raw. This is real. This is where you stop auditioning and start doing the choosing.

  1. 4d ago

    What Dolly Parton’s Marriage Can Teach You About How to Choose a Man Well | The Dolly Play

    Dolly Parton never had to become less Dolly to be loved. When I heard the news of Dolly’s passing, I found myself reading about her nearly 60-year marriage to Carl Dean. And one thing hit me hard: Dolly became richer, more famous, more powerful, more ambitious, more flamboyant and more DOLLY. And the man she chose never seemed to require her to shrink so he could feel significant. So imagine if 20-year-old Dolly had followed some of the dating advice successful women still hear today: You’re too intimidating. You need to soften. Let him lead. Be more feminine. Imagine telling Dolly Parton to be more feminine. In this episode of The Playbook, I’m breaking down what Dolly and Carl’s love story can teach YOU about one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make: who you choose to build your life with. Because sometimes the wrong relationship doesn’t destroy your life. It quietly puts a ceiling on the life you could have built. You’ll learn: • Why choosing the right partner is about more than chemistry • How to recognize a man who is secure enough for your success • The difference between healthy compromise and slowly shrinking yourself • Why you should pay attention to how a man responds when you WIN • The two questions to ask before choosing a life partner • How to run The Dolly Play in your own dating life this week And most importantly, I want you to stop asking: “Am I too much for him?” And start asking: “Who do I get to become beside this man?” You have no idea yet how big your life could become. Choose someone who gives you room to find out. Choose well. Choose like Dolly. FREE TRAINING: THE GAME PLANYou’ve spent enough time learning how to get a man to choose you. It’s time to learn how to choose HIM. Join me for The Game Plan, my free live dating training, Monday at 12pm PT / 3pm ET. I’ll teach you how to stop wasting years on the wrong men and start dating with an actual strategy for identifying the man worth choosing. Register free: https://amanda-pedone.lpcontent.net/FovJCAgskn Come live or register to get the replay. IN THIS EPISODE00:00 Dolly never had to become less Dolly 02:00 Before Dolly was DOLLY 05:00 Imagine if Dolly followed today’s dating advice 09:00 Why Carl Dean’s security mattered 12:00 The real story behind “Jolene” 15:00 Sometimes the wrong relationship quietly limits your life 19:00 Compromise vs. diminishment 22:00 The Dolly Play 23:00 Step 1: Stop asking if you’re too much 24:00 Step 2: Show him something big 25:00 Step 3: Watch him when you win 26:00 Step 4: Test independence 27:00 Step 5: Run the Future You Test 29:00 The Dolly Rule 31:00 Choose well. Choose like Dolly. THE DOLLY PLAYNever choose a man who requires your diminishment as the price of his love. Instead ask: Who do I get to become beside this man? And: What parts of myself would I eventually have to give up to keep this relationship peaceful? Then watch his behavior. Don’t shrink to test compatibility. Expand and watch what happens. CONNECT WITH AMANDAListen to The Playbook for intentional dating strategies designed to help you stop dating to be chosen and start dating to choose well. Subscribe so you don’t miss next week’s Play. For more dating strategy, relationship advice, and daily reminders to stop dating to be chosen and start dating to choose well, follow Amanda on TikTok and Instagram: @therealamandacarroll

  2. Aug 19

    Too Busy to Date? How to Date When You Travel for Work | The Intentional Play

    Your calendar is the first thing you blame. It's also the first thing everyone else blames. The travel, the hours, the weeks you're barely home — somewhere along the way that became the answer to why you're still single. And it's the one thing you're not willing to give up. You don't have to. Your schedule was never the problem. This week you'll hear from Jessica, who spent six years cycling through a loop you probably know by heart — get on the app, get off the app, meet someone in the wild, end up with another adult friendship. She was told the travel was too much. She was told the Escalade and the three-bedroom house were intimidating. She didn't shrink her life. She changed her approach. What happened after that took less time than the average talking stage. You'll get the reframe that makes the apps bearable again, what to do when men call your career intimidating, the first-date read that almost cost her the right man, and the boundary work that protects far more than your dating life. Six years, then five months. The difference wasn't more time. It was a strategy. In this episode: Why "too busy to date" is a diagnosis, not a fact — and what's actually happeningThe swipe reframe that takes the pressure off every single matchWhat to do when men call your career, your house, or your car intimidatingThe first-date read that almost cost her the right manHow to stop quitting the apps every time it gets hardHow "intentional" becomes the standard you vet byThe Game Plan — free live trainingYou've never had a shortage of effort. You've had a shortage of strategy. That's why years of getting on the app and getting off the app produce friendships instead of a partner — and it's why another year of the same approach produces the same thing. The Game Plan: How to Stop Wasting Years on the Wrong Man and Start Dating With Strategy is the free live training where you get the framework. You'll walk out knowing how to spot the wrong man in weeks instead of eight months in, how to build a profile that filters for you before a single conversation starts, and how to run this part of your life the way you already run every other part well — on the calendar you actually have. Live, with me. Free. 👉 Save your free seat: https://amanda-pedone.lpcontent.net/FovJCAgskn Subscribe, follow, and leave a review so more women can find the show.

  3. Aug 4

    How to Know If He’s the Right Man for You | The Choose Well Play

    How do you know if he’s actually the right man for you—not just a man you have incredible chemistry with? Most women have been taught how to attract a man, keep his interest, and figure out whether he likes them. But very few of us were ever taught how to evaluate whether we should choose him. In this episode of The Playbook, Amanda Carroll teaches The Choose Well Play: a practical framework for evaluating whether the man you’re dating actually has what it takes to build a healthy, committed relationship with you. We’re talking about the four things that become more important—not less—with time: character, emotional stability, compatibility, and partnership capacity. You’ll learn why chemistry is information, not evidence; why his résumé isn't his character; why dating a man's potential can cost you years; and the one question Amanda wants you to start asking after every date. And if you've quietly stopped dating because you're exhausted by the apps, afraid of choosing wrong again, or starting to believe there simply aren't any good men left, this conversation is especially for you. You don't have to blindly trust your picker. You need a process you can trust while you rebuild trust in yourself. And if you want your love life to look different by the holidays, don't wait until November to start. Starting now gives you the time to meet men, gather evidence, walk away from the wrong ones, and allow the right relationship to develop without rushing it. IN THIS EPISODEYou'll learn: The difference between being chosen and choosing wellWhy chemistry can't tell you whether he'll make a good partnerThe four qualities to evaluate when deciding whether a man is right for youWhy successful men aren't necessarily relationship-ready menHow to stop falling in love with potentialWhy emotional stability matters so much in a long-term partnerHow to tell the difference between attraction and compatibilityWhy you don't have to make a good man into a villain to decide he's not right for youThe simple Choose Well Play you can run on your own dating historyThe one question to ask yourself after your next dateTHIS WEEK'S PLAYLook at your last three serious dating choices. First, write down what initially attracted you to each man. Then write down what eventually made each relationship unworkable. Put the two lists side by side. What were you selecting for compared with what ultimately determined whether the relationship worked? Then, after your next date, replace: “Does he like me?” with: “What did I learn about his character?” Start collecting evidence. 🎯 READY TO STOP GUESSING? JOIN THE GAME PLAN — FREEIf this episode made you realize you've never actually been given a complete strategy for dating, I want to help you build one. Join me LIVE every Monday for my free training: THE GAME PLAN: How to Stop Wasting Years on the Wrong Men and Start Dating With Strategy I'll teach you the three plays of a real dating strategy—Clarity, Process, and Vetting—so you can see exactly where your dating strategy is working, where it's costing you time, and how to start making better decisions in weeks instead of years. Monday at 12 PM PT / 3 PM ET 👉 SAVE YOUR FREE SEAT

  4. Jul 29

    The Biggest Dating Mistake Smart Women Don't Know They're Making | The Game Plan

    You don't have a broken picker.You have a broken scorecard. After her divorce, Amanda Carroll became obsessed with one question: Why do smart women keep choosing the wrong partners? The answer surprised her. It wasn't a lack of intelligence. It wasn't bad luck. It wasn't that women were "too much." The real problem? Most of us were never taught how to evaluate character. In this episode you'll discover: • The biggest dating mistake almost every woman makes • Why chemistry isn't enough • The three personality traits research has linked to happier marriages • How to stop dating on hope • A practical play you can use immediately Whether you're newly divorced, healing from heartbreak, or simply tired of wasting time on the wrong relationships, this episode will help you begin dating with clarity instead of confusion. FREE TRAINING🎯 The Game Plan Reserve your free seat here: https://amanda-pedone.lpcontent.net/FovJCAgskn Connect with AmandaInstagram https://www.instagram.com/amandacarrollofficial Website https://www.amandacarroll.org CHAPTERS00:00 A gallon of milk changed everything 02:47 Why your picker isn't broken 07:36 The scorecard you inherited 12:50 The research that predicts happy marriages 16:42 Trait #1: Conscientiousness 22:01 Trait #2: Emotional stability 28:17 Trait #3: Openness to growth 34:21 This week's Play 38:02 Run the Play 42:08 Join The Game Plan 45:17 Final thoughts

  5. Jul 14

    Attachment Theory & Dating: Why You Don't Have to Be Healed to Find Love | The Begin Anyway Play

    You've done the therapy. The journaling. The inner work. You've read the books, taken the courses, and you know your attachment style. And you've decided: you're not ready yet. Here's the problem. Six of the most important psychologists in history looked at that logic — and they all said the same thing. You're wrong. In this episode, I break down exactly what Winnicott, Rogers, Bowlby, Ainsworth, Jung, and Freud all concluded about healing and relationships. Six frameworks. Six eras. One unanimous answer: healing doesn't happen before relationships. It happens inside them. The strategy you're calling "self-awareness"? They'd call it avoidance. And the fact that it sounds so clean and responsible is exactly what makes it so hard to see. This episode is for the woman who has built an extraordinary life — and is somehow still watching it from the sidelines. What You'll Hear in This Episode[00:00] Why six of the most important psychologists in history all agree about your love life [02:15] The six frameworks, broken down — what each one actually says about waiting to be "ready" [08:30] "Fear in a very reasonable costume" — how to tell the difference between wisdom and a sophisticated avoidance strategy [11:00] The pattern that keeps pulling capable women toward emotionally unavailable men — and why it doesn't heal on the sidelines [13:00] The Begin Anyway Play: three steps, thirty minutes, one thing you'll do this week that isn't waiting [16:00] This week's listener challenge — finish this sentence and send it to me The Six PsychologistsDonald Winnicott (Object Relations Theory) — You don't need to be fully healed. You need to be real, held in a "good enough" relationship.Carl Rogers (Humanistic Psychology) — Being accepted as you are isn't the reward for healing. It's what causes it.John Bowlby (Attachment Theory) — Waiting to be completely healed may deny you the very environment healing requires.Mary Ainsworth (Attachment Theory) — Healing happens inside safe, corrective relationships. Not before them.Carl Jung (Jungian Psychology) — Without relationships, parts of yourself may remain permanently unseen.Sigmund Freud (Psychodynamic Theory) — You don't wait to be healed. You discover what needs healing through relationships.Free Masterclass — This WednesdayThe 90-Day Playbook: How Successful Women Meet a Committed, Equal Partner Without Wasting Years on the Apps One hour. The exact strategy my clients use — including the four-step commitment-ready filter that tells you what you need to know about a man early, before you've spent months finding out the hard way. 📅 Wednesday · 6PM CT / 7PM ET · Live on Zoom 👉 Save your seat → The 90-Day Playbook Can't make it live? Register anyway — I'll send you the replay. Connect With Amanda📸 Instagram: @therealamandacarroll🌐 Website: www.amandacarroll.org If this episode hit home, share it with one woman in your life who needs to hear it. You know exactly who she is. And if you're not subscribed yet — do it now. A new play drops every week.

  6. Jul 7

    Swearing Off Men Won't Save You. This Will. | The New Blueprint Play

    "I'm done with men. I can provide for myself. What would a husband even add?" If you've said it — or quietly felt it — this episode is for you. Amanda Carroll names what's actually keeping high-value women single (it isn't you, and it isn't the men), puts the research on the table — including why the old "he leads, she follows" model is 7.4x more likely to end in divorce — and hands you The New Blueprint Play: the twenty-minute exercise that turns "I'm done dating" into "I'm finally in charge of it." Because you didn't give up on love. You gave up on the only version of it anyone ever showed you. And those are not the same thing. In this episode: The calm, four-word sentence high-achieving single women keep saying about men — and what's really underneath itWhy you're not "too much" or "too picky" — you're running a dating model that was built to failWhy the old blueprint was a hierarchy with a wedding cake on topThe research: relationships where he makes the decisions are 7.4x more likely to end in divorce — even when he consults her firstThe twist that recasts everything — the "traditional" couples that actually work are partnerships in disguiseWhy your standards were never the problem — the design wasThe truth that changes your dating life: attracting the right man is a skill, not luckThe New Blueprint Play — the three-step exercise you can run in twenty minutesResearch referenced: Sheila Wray Gregoire — Bare Marriage / The Great Sex Rescue, survey of 20,000 women on marital and sexual satisfactionSheila & Dr. Keith Gregoire — The Marriage You Want, on what actually builds intimacy beyond gender rolesDr. John Gottman — research on shared power and divorce predictionFree training + resources: 🎯 Magnetic Attraction — my free live training on becoming the woman a commitment-ready man moves toward, on purpose: https://www.bravesinglemoms.com/pl/2148731615📋 4 Keys to Vetting a Commitment-Ready Man: https://www.bravesinglemoms.com/pl/2148725052📞 Free Dating Strategy Call: https://calendly.com/d/cn4j-kd2-5g5

  7. Jun 30

    How to Stop Giving Second Chances to Men Who Were Never Good Enough for You | The Love Audit

    You audit everything else that matters — your numbers, your team, your health. So why is your love life the one place you keep blaming the apps, the city, and "no good men"? In this episode, Amanda runs a live love audit with her client Kate: a four-part walkthrough of the patterns, filters, and quiet standard-slips that keep smart women stuck in talking stages that go nowhere. By the end, you'll have a standards reset and a seven-day plan to run the play yourself. Key Takeaways Why the problem isn't the apps, your city, or a shortage of good men — it's the strategy you've been dating withoutThe CEO shift: slow to hire, fast to fire, never rehire — and how to apply it to your love lifeHow to require clarity early instead of chasing it for monthsThe three places you're over-giving, and how to match a man's effort instead of out-running itA standards reset you can write down today, plus a seven-day action planChapters 00:00 — What a love audit is (and why you stop blaming everything else)02:25 — Audit 1: Your patterns — the last three men and how they made you feel09:30 — The red flag women normalize, and why you fire fast11:00 — Audit 2: Your filters and the CEO shift17:00 — "I'm looking for a relationship, not a pen pal" — slow to hire, fast to fire24:56 — Audit 3: Energy and behavior — over-giving, chasing clarity, abandoning standards37:00 — There's no shortage of good men. You're ignoring the ones who show up.38:30 — Audit 4: Your standards reset41:30 — Your seven-day action plan44:00 — Listener Q&A: attraction, leading someone on, and calling it soonerLinks 🧲 Free training — Magnetic Attraction: set up a dating profile that only attracts high-value men → https://www.bravesinglemoms.com/pl/2148731615📞 Book your personal Love Audit with Amanda → https://calendly.com/d/cn4j-kd2-5g5Subscribe, follow, and leave a review so more women can find the show.

  8. Jun 17

    Why You're Still Guessing at the One Thing You Want Most | The Strategy Over Hope Play

    You are the most strategic woman in every room — and somehow, your love life has been the one place you forgot to bring a plan. In this episode, Amanda Carroll breaks down the Strategy Over Hope play: why high-achieving women default to hope in dating, where that rule came from, and exactly how to replace it with the same framework you've used to build everything else. Key Takeaways: The unspoken rule that taught you to leave love to chance — and why it's costing youWhy "staying open" is not a strategy, it's being undirectedThe three things that replace hope with a real framework: Clarity, Process, and VettingThe three-step play you can run this week Links: 🎯 Win at Dating Challenge (June 23–25, live with Amanda): https://amanda-pedone.lpcontent.net/fO9M0JrFzZ📋 Free Dating Profile Cheat Sheet: https://www.bravesinglemoms.com/pl/2148446153📞 Free Dating Strategy Call Subscribe, follow, and leave a review so more women can find the show.

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Welcome to The Playbook — the no-BS podcast for successful women who are done wasting time on situationships, unavailable men, and “good on paper” guys who leave you bored out of your mind. If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe I’m too much, maybe there aren’t any good men left, maybe I should just settle…” — girl, stop lying to yourself. You’re not too much. He’s just not enough. This season, we’re blowing up the old dating rules. No more waiting to be chosen. No more outsourcing your love life to matchmakers. No more pretending “fine” is good enough. High-value women don’t need a provider. We need a partner. And I’m giving you the exact playbook to attract one. Every week, I’ll drop savage truth bombs, scandalous stories, and the strategies that will get you into a committed, passionate, high-value relationship in 5 dates or less. Period. This is raw. This is real. This is where you stop auditioning and start doing the choosing.

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  • Creator
    Amanda Carroll
  • Years Active
    2016 - 2026
  • Episodes
    179
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Amanda Carroll
  • Show Website
    The Playbook

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