The House We Build

Becky and Don Vasquez, Build His House

Welcome to The House We Build, where every seat at the table is a seed of transformation. In a world divided by conflict and fear, we explore the raw realities of relationships—dissecting disconnects, triggers, and brokenness to rebuild in love. Hosted by Becky Vasquez, cofounder of Build His House, alongside her husband and a team of co-missionaries, we invite you to join the family. Here, we're not just talking about love; we’re living it. Together, let’s create spaces of hope and reconciliation—no one left behind. This is The House We Build!

  1. The Stories We Live By: Breaking Free from Judgment with Lucas Sherraden

    6D AGO

    The Stories We Live By: Breaking Free from Judgment with Lucas Sherraden

    Welcome to Season 2 of The House We Build Podcast! In this powerful episode of The House We Build, we sit down with author, former pastor, realtor, and father Lucas Sherraden to explore what it truly means to live—and lead—uncaged. At the heart of this conversation is a simple but life-altering truth: we are not trapped by our circumstances, but by the meaning we assign to them. So often, we live confined by judgment—of ourselves and others—mistaking our thoughts and preferences for truth. But what if curiosity could set us free? Lucas shares raw, personal stories that reveal how the words we speak and the narratives we believe can either propel us toward the vision we long for—or keep us stuck, sedentary, and small. Drawing from his upcoming book The Uncaged Leader (releasing August 2026), he challenges the idea of quick fixes and high-performance hacks, offering something far more lasting: a new way of seeing ourselves, our relationships, and our leadership. With the depth of a Master of Divinity and years of guiding others, Lucas brings clarity and conviction. He hands us a mirror to transform failure into fuel, a flashlight to uncover what’s holding us back, and a blueprint for building cultures rooted in trust, ownership, and creativity. This episode is more than a conversation—it’s a wake-up call. If you’re ready to step out of judgment, rewrite your story, and build a life marked by vision and hope, this is where it begins. https://theuncagedleader.com/ #buildhishouse #thehousewebuildpodcast #theuncagedleader

    43 min
  2. What are you producing?

    06/26/2025

    What are you producing?

    In this soul-stirring episode 15 of The House We Build, Nicole Atkinson invites us into a powerful and honest conversation about emotional intelligence, the impact of what we consume, and the fruit our lives are producing. Drawing from research, personal testimony, and the transformative truth of Scripture, Nicole unpacks how our habits, thoughts, and influences shape how we show up in the world. She shares how meeting Jesus began a lifelong process of inner transformation—how His promises continue to renew her mind and challenge negative, ruminating thoughts. From the science behind prayer and its mental health benefits to the dangers of unchecked social media consumption, this episode explores what it means to be strategic with our minds, our time, and our calling. God has placed something inside of you. Are you producing with what He gave you? Dive in as Nicole asks the hard questions: What are you feeding your mind? What are you creating with your life? And how can we choose daily to consume His goodness and exude it into the earth? You were made for more! _________________________ Meet Nicole Atkinson– Lover of Jesus, Author, Teacher, Ordained Minister, and Purpose Ignitor. She has her Masters Degree in Mental Health Counseling and a Licensed Professional Counselor. She is an expert researcher and thrives on learning new things. Her superpower is helping others draw closer to God! - and in doing so, discover their purpose to overcome mental blocks that prohibit them from walking in their full potential! Connect with Nicole, her books, retreats, etc. at www.nicoleatkinsoninc.com

    39 min
  3. The Silent Pandemic: Real Talk on Burnout!

    06/17/2025

    The Silent Pandemic: Real Talk on Burnout!

    The silent pandemic: Real Talk on Burnout! Discover the powerful connection between soul care and active rest. In this powerful episode of The House We Build, we welcome special guests Natalie and Bryant Borges for a deeply honest conversation about burnout, identity, and the soul. As burnout silently spreads like a pandemic—impacting families, pastors, husbands, moms, and leaders—how do we truly find rest in a culture that keeps us running? So many of us have learned to survive at high levels of stress, driven by the belief that we always need to be doing something. But this constant drive floods our bodies with cortisol and stress hormones that don’t quickly leave—and overtime, they wear us down. Bryant shares his personal journey of discontent in his military career, and the life-changing moment he encountered the Holy Spirit in the secret place. He speaks to the soul-level transformation that comes from radical humility, intimacy with Jesus, and the art of lingering in His presence—not for performance, but for peace. Bryant speaks to how the brain and the body react to ongoing stress and high levels of cortisol that can lead to burnout. He walks us through what it looks like to a "Tactical Pause" and keeps our spirit permeable to the Father through the Holy Spirit. Natalie brings her expertise in counseling and soul care, reminding us that we are made of body, soul, and spirit. While we often care for the body and tend to our spiritual practices, the soul—our mind, will, and emotions—is frequently neglected. She invites us to consider: is your soul being shaped more by the pressures of the world, or by the wisdom and Word of God? This episode is an invitation to pause—on purpose. To rediscover the power of rest. To let the Holy Spirit meet you where you are, and lead you into daily renewal. If you're feeling exhausted, burned out, or barely holding on, you're not alone. This conversation is for you. Rest is possible. Wholeness is within reach. Let’s build from the inside out. Get to know our guests: Bryant is a Harvard-trained Executive Coach and Burnout Prevention Strategist with 15+ years of leadership in the medical field, Department of Defense, nonprofits, and mental health. He’s led multimillion-dollar operations and faith-based initiatives, witnessing how leadership without margin leads to burnout. Blending over 10,000 hours of clinical experience with neuroscience, somatics, and biblical leadership, Bryant equips CEOs, Pastors, and teams with practical tools for resilience, clarity, and sustainable impact. His mission: to help leaders overcome burnout and lead with endurance. Find him at: www.borgescatalyticsolutions.com Natalie is Creation Therapy-certified, a Temperament Analyst and Wellness Coach with over 15+ years of ministry leadership experience across church, nonprofit, and community settings. She leads a faith-based coaching business equipping individuals and families for healing, growth, and sustainable transformation. As a homeschooling mother of four boys, Natalie brings both lived experience and spiritual insight into the challenges of modern Christian parenting, emotional resilience, and identity restoration. Drawing from her background in ministry, biblical counseling, and family systems, she helps women and families move from survival into Spirit-led wholeness. Her mission: to help faith-filled families heal from trauma, reclaim their identity in Christ and walk in lasting freedom.

    58 min
  4. Embracing the Unexpected: Loving like Jesus! with April Foster - Part 1

    05/28/2025

    Embracing the Unexpected: Loving like Jesus! with April Foster - Part 1

    What does it really mean to love unconditionally—especially when life takes an unexpected turn? In this powerful and deeply personal episode, April opens up about her own journey of walking in love and clinging to her faith in the midst of one of her adult children stepping into an unfamiliar space within the LGBTQ+ community. Through her children's book, The Unexpected Guest, April offers a glimpse into the process of trusting God in the unexpected things life can throw at you. Lean in and listen to how she processes the disappointment and fear and into full surrender as she embraces the promises of God's unconditional love. April Foster is a best-selling author, an encounter coach where she utilizes her Bachelors in Psychology degree and Master in counseling to assist individuals reclaim their identity in Christ. She is also a prior classical home schooling momma, wife to John for three decades and podcast host with her husband on Bedroom & and Bible. Join host Becky Vasquez and her guest April Foster for a real conversation about navigating relationships through the lens of God’s Agape love, instead of religion. Together, we explore: How to maintain a strong, grace-filled connection with your children in the face of differing beliefs. The difference between religious spirit and Christ-like loveWhat it looks like to walk “The Jesus Way” in today’s divided worldHow to support, listen, and love without losing your faith—or your familyThis episode is a must-listen for Christian parents, mentors, and anyone facing the tension between faith and unconditional love. Get ready to be challenged, encouraged, and reminded that love never fails—even when the path ahead feels uncertain. The path does feel uncertain. But it is a straight path.

    48 min
  5. Learning & Leaning into Love: A powerful marriage story of When Love Stops Fixing and Starts Healing!

    04/24/2025

    Learning & Leaning into Love: A powerful marriage story of When Love Stops Fixing and Starts Healing!

    In this fun, heartfelt, and honest episode, we sit down with Kess and Steve Scharff — a couple who have weathered 27 years of marriage, raised three daughters, opened their hearts as foster parents, and walked through the shadows of childhood trauma and the freedom gained in Christ after years of struggle with alcohol dependency. Their story is one of resilience, raw faith, and radical love — not the kind that tries to fix or control, but the kind that holds space, leans into grace, and chooses personal growth over blame. As Kess and Steve share, Real love isn’t about fixing someone — it’s about holding space while they grow. Together, they explore what it truly means to love someone as they are, to navigate pain without losing connection, and to let God’s love transform the way we care for those closest to us. Because as they’ve learned through experience, You can’t build a strong house if you’re only pointing at the cracks in someone else’s walls. Whether you're in the midst of relationship struggles, parenting challenges, or your own healing process, this episode is a powerful reminder: no house is too broken for God to rebuild — brick by brick, with Jesus at the center! Kess and Steve Scharff's ministry center on showing the love of Jesus to everyone they meet, teaching their family to break generational sin, and teaching other to love and serve like Christ. They believe family extends beyond blood, encompassing all who love Jesus and live according to His call. Through their work with SEEDS for Change, they emphasize holistic healing, experiential growth, and breaking free from cycles of trauma by living in alignment with God's Word and being full of gratitude and joy in the simpleness of the day. Learn more at www.kessscharff.com and get the Couples Devotional on Amazon: Sacrificial Love: The Marriage I Didn't Say I Do To, Husbands and Wives Tell All

    54 min

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Welcome to The House We Build, where every seat at the table is a seed of transformation. In a world divided by conflict and fear, we explore the raw realities of relationships—dissecting disconnects, triggers, and brokenness to rebuild in love. Hosted by Becky Vasquez, cofounder of Build His House, alongside her husband and a team of co-missionaries, we invite you to join the family. Here, we're not just talking about love; we’re living it. Together, let’s create spaces of hope and reconciliation—no one left behind. This is The House We Build!