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A podcast for Police Officers and Police Staff to help them  reduce stress, eliminate overwhelm and stop procrastinating so they can switch off and bring balance back to their life.

  1. 1D AGO

    Why Some Failure Feels Worse Than Others

    In this Episode I share with you a lesson I recorded in my 'Stress to Success' Program. Failure never feels nice, but why do some failures feel worse than others. Failure is supposed to feel uncomfortable because it draws our attention to the problem; the gap between what we expected to happen and the result we actually got.  That's the normal pain that is going to, in the most part be unavoidable. This is often referred to as the Fist Dart.  Then there's the second, optional dart, and this comes from what we make that failure mean. For so many perfectionists they make the failure mean that 'They are a failure', 'They have let others down' or that that 'They are worthless'.  They then start doubting themselves which effects their future decision making which feed the cycle.  But why does our brain do this?  My theory is that it is the brain's protective mechanism. It's protecting us from future judgement of others. If we judge ourselves first, then the judgement from others won't feel so bad. This is obviously b******t because the judgement from others still feels just as bad and we have just made it worse by adding to the judgement ourselves. It's not like judging ourselves makes us immune to the pain.  The brain registers judgement and rejection in a similar way to physical pain and therefore wants to avoid it at all costs. This made sense when we lived in tribes and our very survival was dependent on staying in that tribe and being accepted.  This wiring is outdated but our brain has not had the software update, and that isn't coming anytime soon. That's why we need to be aware that the discomfort we feel from being judged is just our brain thinking we are going to die and the fear we feel beforehand is the brain warning us of that future threat.  As we learn to fail in front of others, process that discomfort and show our brain that we are safe, it starts to fear judgement less.  Why is this important?  Because the fear of judgement is the most pervasive fear, affecting carers, relationships, has us saying 'Yes' to everything and feeling overwhelmed.  Ultimately it stops us just being ourselves, feeling trapped and living a life of quiet desperation.

    39 min

  2. FEB 9

    The Highs and Lows of Life

    This episode my wife, Nicky Bevan and I talk about the Highs and lows of life. We talk about how when we (especially men) feel vulnerable we default to anger and frustration. We get very angry with ourselves and add a lot of self judgement that pushes us further down the spiral. In this episode I even get compared to Basil Fawlty when dealing with the delights of technology. There's a lot of learning to be had here, especially for couples. Have a listen and see what you think. Jonny

    53 min

  3. FEB 2

    What makes you good can also burn you out

    In this episode I am with my wife, Nicky Bevan who is also a Life Coach and Coaches women on building emotional resilience. We talk about how, what makes someone good at something can also be the same trait that burns them out. Have a listen and see what you think. Jonny

    32 min

  4. JAN 26

    Pleasing Yourself

    We're back! Ron, Carl and Jonny are back for another three way and this time we are discussing Pleasing Yourself. We discuss People Pleasing, what it is and the affect it can have on our lives and other's.  We all have different opinions on this so it is interested to hear them and see what falls out. What do you think of People Pleasing? Have a listen and let me know what you think. Jonny

    54 min

  5. JAN 19

    Is the way we work sustainable?

    In this week's episode I am talking to Clare Flaxen who is a CBT Therapist and the Founder of Stretch Mindset Method. Clare helps make personal development and growth sustainable with wellbeing at the core. Clare has a background in Social Care where she worked as Mental Health Social Worker in North London, so she is well versed in working in high pressure, demanding environments. In this episode we talk about the sustainability of how we are working and how that feeling of 'not doing enough' and 'letting people down' leads to Burnout. If you want to reach out to Clare and enquire about her services then check out her website: clareflaxen.com or email her on hello@clareflaxen.com Clare is an amazing person who is doing amazing work. Thanks for coming on Clare.

    44 min

  6. JAN 13

    Performing Under Pressure

    In this week's episode I am joined by Katy Rosewood who is a Sport & Exercise Psychologist in training. Katy is a qualified Personal Trainer and also a qualified Nurse with 25 years of experience in the NHS. Katy has always been involved in sport and exercise, mainly due to having parents who were good role models.  Today we talk mainly about Sport Psychology and how this transfers to other areas of work where people need to perform under pressure. We discuss the importance of 'mental toughness' and what that looks like.  Before you ask, mental toughness is not the absence of negative feelings, it's being able to experience those feelings and still being able to perform. So many people think that the definition of 'strong' is not feeling any fear, anxiety or doubt and being able to keep soldiering on in challenging environments, and in my experience it's this perspective that burns people out, because we are human and we will experience negative emotions - That doesn't mean that we are weak!  We also discuss resilience and what that looks like in sport and in challenging careers like the Police and NHS. If you want to know more about what Katy does then please please follow her on her Socials: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katy-r-640732211/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_mindsetinmotion_psych_/

    45 min

  7. 12/29/2025

    Stop Trying to Feel Better

    In this episode I talk about the dangers of constantly wanting to feel better. Most people's pain comes from the fact that they are fighting the way they are feeling in a given moment. Because of how the human brain is wired we cannot escape the fact that we will experience negative emotions. The problem is, is that we have been conditioned not to experience negative emotions and then we try and move ourselves out of it which normally causes more negativity. The author of 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F%@k', Mark Manson said it perfectly when he said "The desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience and paradoxically, the acceptance of one's negative experience is itself a positive experience."  Instead of constantly trying to make ourselves and others feel better we should be teaching ourselves and others how to feel. Have a listen and see what you think. Jonny

    16 min

  8. 12/22/2025

    Can you manage time?

    This episode was recorded while I was still in the Police and I attended a Time Management Course. Here I share my beliefs on Time Management and how no strategy is going to stick unless you address perfectionism, people pleasing and the fear of other's opinions. There are so many helpful strategies out there but you first have to learn to manage yourself. Have a listen and see what you think. Jonny

    16 min
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A podcast for Police Officers and Police Staff to help them  reduce stress, eliminate overwhelm and stop procrastinating so they can switch off and bring balance back to their life.

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  • Creator
    Jonny Bevan - The Police Burnout Coach
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    108
  • Rating
    Explicit
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