The Lit Lounge Live!

Debra & Jabari Steward
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He’s straight outta Compton. She’s straight outta Orange County. He’s a Clippers fan. She’s a Lakers fan. They’ve got a mic, a marriage, and a mission. The Lit Lounge Live! is the podcast where Christian couples learn how to step out of the busyness, reclaim intentional connection time, and build a healthy Marriage Culture rooted in God’s design. Hosted by Debra & Jabari Steward, Christian Marriage Transformational Architects and founders of Keeping It Lit Media, the show draws from their own journey. God took one man straight outta Compton and one woman straight outta Orange County, from rival NBA loyalties and completely different worlds, and forged a marriage that is deeply connected, alive with excitement, and rooted in purpose. Debra & Jabari serve at Saddleback Church, empowering marriages in the South Bay community. Their message has been shared in 13 nations across 5 continents. They are leading a global movement in the Body of Christ, We Are Marriage Culture, establishing a healthy Marriage Culture where intentional connection time is not optional but foundational. Episodes offer couples a relational plan that works, a biblical framework for building spiritual connection, communicating with love, and cultivating a marriage you actually enjoy every single day. This isn’t just a podcast. It’s a front-row seat to the global movement redefining marriage in the Body of Christ. This podcast is for singles, dating couples, pre-marital/engaged couples, newlyweds, and married Christian couples at every stage. Subscribe to The Lit Lounge Live! for conversations and insights that empower you with a proven relational plan that works.

Episodes

  1. Couples Relationship Secrets: How to Turn Conflict Into Deeper Connection

    09/29/2025

    Couples Relationship Secrets: How to Turn Conflict Into Deeper Connection

    Every relationship faces conflict. What if those moments of tension could actually bring you closer instead of pushing you apart? In this episode of The Lit Lounge Live Podcast, you’ll discover practical steps for couples to transform conflict into deeper connection. What you’ll learn: How to communicate without constant arguing so both partners feel heard and respected. Simple strategies to turn disagreements into opportunities for trust and deeper understanding. Why conflict, when handled the right way, creates emotional safety, closeness, and lasting trust. Tools that work for couples everywhere—whether you’re dating, engaged, or married. Instead of letting fights drain your relationship, you’ll gain a clear path to use conflict as a bridge toward the love you’ve always wanted. No matter where you are in your journey, these relationship tips and communication strategies will help you build a relationship that feels deeply connected, alive with excitement, and rooted in purpose. Tune in now to The Lit Lounge Live Podcast and learn how to transform conflict into connection.

    26 min
  2. How Can Busy Christian Couples Build Spiritual Connection?

    08/31/2025

    How Can Busy Christian Couples Build Spiritual Connection?

    Welcome to The Lit Lounge Live! where Christian couples discover how to move beyond the busyness of life and build a marriage that’s deeply connected, alive of excitement, and rooted in purpose. Hosted by Debra and Jabari Steward, Transformational Christian Marriage Architects and founders of Keeping It Lit Media, this podcast blends biblical wisdom and real conversation that empower Christian couples with a relational plan to begin establishing a healthy Marriage Culture in their home. Whether you’re single, dating, newly married, leading in ministry, or years into your journey, The Lit Lounge Live! is your space to grow spiritually, communicate with love, and experience marriage the way God designed it. Many couples find themselves serving in church, raising kids, and managing demanding careers, yet struggling to pray together, read The Bible together, or feel spiritually close and connected. Too often busyness becomes the silent thief of intentional connection. In this episode of The Lit Lounge Live!, Debra and Jabari Steward, Transformational Christian Marriage Architects, and founders of Keeping It Lit Media, share a practical, Bible-based pathway to build spiritual connection in your relationship or your marriage. You’ll discover: Why busyness is one of the biggest threats to spiritual intimacy Daily practices that help couples step out of busyness and into God’s Presence together How The Keeping It Lit Signature Framework for Marriage Transformation gives couples God’s Relational Plan for building a marriage that is deeply connected, alive with excitement, and rooted in purpose If you’ve ever asked, “How do we grow spiritually together as a busy Christian couple?” this conversation gives you the answers, encouragement, and tools you need.

    48 min
  3. Marriage Help Now: The Truth About Why We Put God First

    05/11/2025

    Marriage Help Now: The Truth About Why We Put God First

    We don’t just coach couples, we are the couple who had to do the work first. In this episode of The Lit Lounge: Real Talk for Christian Marriages, we walk through parts of our Marriage Reset Checklist—live, in real time. Not for show. For realignment. We're Debra and Jabari Steward. We help Christian couples transform their marriage from just 'fine' to truly phenomenal. We've built the frameworks and tools we wish we had when we were showing up more for our calendars than we were for our own marriage. The disconnect didn’t look dramatic—but it was deep. We were functional, responsible, even successful… but not truly connected. Inside this episode, we model: – A guided spiritual check-in that invites safety, not surface talk – Spoken appreciation—because appreciation, when spoken, strengthens connection – What it looks like to pause productivity and choose presence This isn’t a crisis conversation. It’s a calibrated reset—and an invitation to do the same. If your marriage looks “fine” on paper but feels off at the heart, this episode will show you what real, strategic, faith-shaped reconnection looks like. Because your marriage isn’t meant to settle. It’s meant to be whole, rooted, and phenomenal.

    1h 1m
  4. When God Feels Closer Than Your Spouse: The Reality of Spiritual Isolation in Marriage

    02/14/2025

    When God Feels Closer Than Your Spouse: The Reality of Spiritual Isolation in Marriage

    What Happens When God Feels Closer Than Your Spouse? It’s a silent struggle many married couples face but hesitate to address. In this powerful and vulnerable episode, Jabari Steward shares the deeply personal story of following God’s call, the spiritual isolation that crept into his marriage, and the heartbreaking consequences that followed. But this isn’t a story of defeat. It’s a testimony to God’s unshakable grace and His power to redeem what feels lost. In His perfect timing, God brought Debra into Jabari’s life—a radiant example of His ability to restore, renew, and exceed expectations. Today, Jabari and Debra walk in unity, serving side by side in marriage ministry, helping couples everywhere reconnect with God and each other. If you’ve ever felt the weight of spiritual disconnection in your marriage, this episode offers more than hope—it reveals the practical steps and proven path to transformation. Your marriage doesn’t have to settle for “fine.” God designed it to thrive. Key Takeaways: Spiritual Disconnection Can Be Silent but Powerful: When couples stop seeking God together, the gap begins to grow—and it quietly impacts every part of the marriage. Unity Requires Intentionality: Spiritual connection isn’t automatic. It requires praying, fasting, and pursuing God as a team. Redemption is Possible: No matter how broken things feel, God’s grace is greater. He can rebuild and create something extraordinary in the wake of loss. A Clear Path to Transformation: The Keeping It Lit Signature Framework, created from personal experience, is helping couples reconnect spiritually, emotionally, and relationally. A Heartfelt Invitation Have you ever felt spiritually alone in your marriage, even while walking in faith? Have you noticed how the distance in your spiritual connection quietly seeps into every part of your relationship? You don’t have to stay there. This episode invites you to step into something new—a marriage rooted in faith, unity, and purpose. Practical Action Steps Pray Together Daily: Begin with just five minutes, inviting God into your relationship as a team. Fasting as a Couple: Choose a shared purpose and dedicate time to seek God together. Have the Hard Conversations: Be vulnerable about where you feel disconnected and invite your spouse to do the same. Explore the Signature Framework: Discover a proven, step-by-step pathway to create the connection you’ve always hoped for. Words of Encouragement Your marriage isn’t broken—it may simply need reconnection. The same God who created the heavens and the earth is capable of restoring the gaps in your relationship. His plan isn’t just for survival—it’s for transformation. And that transformation starts with one step. When you pursue God together, He will take the weight of spiritual isolation and replace it with unity, peace, and joy. Trust Him. Reconnection is not only possible—it’s waiting for you. Scripture for Encouragement “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” — Ecclesiastes 4:12 More from Jabari and Debra Learn about the Keeping It Lit Signature Framework and how it’s transforming marriages by addressing the root cause of all marital struggle: Disconnect Stay connected with us for inspiration, encouragement, and tools to help you take your marriage from ‘fine’ to phenomenal.

    8 min
  5. Kobe’s Winning Formula for Your Marriage

    01/09/2025

    Kobe’s Winning Formula for Your Marriage

    A Laker fan married a Clipper fan… what could go wrong? We’ve got our differences (and trust us, it gets lively during basketball season), but one thing we agree on is this: even the best need a coach.Take Kobe Bryant—a Laker legend. At the top of his game, he had Phil Handy as his personal skills coach, sharpening his skills and pushing him to even greater heights. But what does that have to do with your marriage? Everything. In this newly produced edition of The Lit Lounge Live!, we share why having a marriage coach can be a game-changer—and how investing in your marriage can take it from 'fine' to phenomenal. Hit play now to discover how coaching works and why even the strongest couples need it.

    7 min
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He’s straight outta Compton. She’s straight outta Orange County. He’s a Clippers fan. She’s a Lakers fan. They’ve got a mic, a marriage, and a mission. The Lit Lounge Live! is the podcast where Christian couples learn how to step out of the busyness, reclaim intentional connection time, and build a healthy Marriage Culture rooted in God’s design. Hosted by Debra & Jabari Steward, Christian Marriage Transformational Architects and founders of Keeping It Lit Media, the show draws from their own journey. God took one man straight outta Compton and one woman straight outta Orange County, from rival NBA loyalties and completely different worlds, and forged a marriage that is deeply connected, alive with excitement, and rooted in purpose. Debra & Jabari serve at Saddleback Church, empowering marriages in the South Bay community. Their message has been shared in 13 nations across 5 continents. They are leading a global movement in the Body of Christ, We Are Marriage Culture, establishing a healthy Marriage Culture where intentional connection time is not optional but foundational. Episodes offer couples a relational plan that works, a biblical framework for building spiritual connection, communicating with love, and cultivating a marriage you actually enjoy every single day. This isn’t just a podcast. It’s a front-row seat to the global movement redefining marriage in the Body of Christ. This podcast is for singles, dating couples, pre-marital/engaged couples, newlyweds, and married Christian couples at every stage. Subscribe to The Lit Lounge Live! for conversations and insights that empower you with a proven relational plan that works.

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