Find Love With Emily

Emily Bucknell
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Welcome to Find Love With Emily, the podcast for successful, single women in their 30s and 40s, exhausted by dating and wondering why love’s so hard to find. If you’ve tried all the dating advice; trying harder, swiping more, fixing yourself or “not looking”, and it still hasn’t worked, this podcast explains why. Each episode breaks down how love really happens, the one rule it always follows and why dating has left you scared that maybe love is not meant for you. This is the end of ridiculous dating games, trying to be the woman men want and hoping your luck changes. Here, dating finally makes sense and real, lasting love becomes possible again.Subscribe to Find Love With Emily for weekly episodes that cut through the usual dating BS and get to the root of what makes love inevitable.

  1. 7h ago

    "I Never Get Past A First Date"

    If you’ve been dating for years and love still hasn’t happened, there are ways you could be holding yourself back from love without having any idea you’re doing it. And this is happening all the bloody time. Because there are certain things you say about yourself when it comes to men, dating and love that might seem completely true based on your experience so far. “I never get past a first date.” “Men don’t want someone like me.” “Dating doesn’t work for me.” But what if the way you see yourself is actually helping to keep those same dating experiences playing out again and again? In this episode of Find Love With Emily, I’m sharing one of the best breakthroughs that happened inside Attract YOUR Man recently, because it shows just how easily you can hold yourself back from the relationship you want without being able to see it. And once you DO see what’s happening, you can start calling BS on yourself, and finally stop being the woman who keeps having the same experience with men and dating. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why the way you describe yourself when it comes to dating and love matters more than you might realiseHow to start noticing the patterns that could be keeping you stuck in datingWhy you might keep having the same experiences with men even when you desperately want something differentWhat might really be happening when you feel like you never get past a first dateWhy you could be unknowingly holding yourself back from finding loveA completely different way to approach first, second and third datesWhy you don’t need to decide whether a man is your future husband on a first dateWhat I mean when I say, “When you slow down, love speeds up”How to stay open to love instead of ruling men out too quicklyHow changing what you do can begin to change what you believe is possible for you If you’re a successful single woman in your 30s or 40s who is exhausted by dating, struggling to get second dates, wondering why dating never seems to go anywhere, or scared you’ll never find the relationship you want, this episode will give you a completely different perspective on what might actually be happening. EPISODE TO LISTEN TO NEXT: 🎧 He's Nice... But There's No Physical Attraction 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

  2. 3d ago

    "I'm So Tired Of Being Told To Give Up On Love"

    If you’re a single woman dating in your 30s, 40s or 50s, you’ve probably noticed just how much negativity there is around dating, men and finding love. Dating apps are awful. Men only want sex. Romance is dead. Finding a good man after 30 is impossible. It's EVERYWHERE. And if you want to find love, you need to start noticing how much of it you’re letting into your world. In this episode of Find Love With Emily, I’m talking about the negativity that surrounds single women who want a relationship, from being made to feel like you shouldn’t want a man at all, to the endless stream of stories telling you how terrible modern dating has become. It's not that you have to pretend every dating experience is wonderful or ignore the disappointment when something doesn’t work out. But there’s a HUGE difference between feeling it, moving through it and getting back to love… and making all that negativity your home and therefore the story you keep living. I’ll show you how to start getting out of the “dating is shit and men suck” story, get clear on what you actually want to experience with men and dating, and surround yourself with more of THAT instead. Because love follows love. And where you put your energy, attention and focus matters. In this episode you'll discover: Why wanting a relationship doesn’t make you any less smart, successful or independentHow other people’s opinions can make you question your desire for loveWhy negativity about men and dating can keep you stuck in experiences you don’t wantHow social media can quietly reinforce the belief that dating is awfulWhat to focus on instead if you want to meet kind, genuine and emotionally mature menWhy women inside AYM often find themselves naturally stepping away from negative conversations about datingHow to move through a disappointing dating experience without letting it drag you back into “I’m never going to find love” If you’re exhausted by dating and surrounded by messages telling you that finding a good man is impossible, this episode will help you see just how much that noise is affecting you, and what needs to change if you want to move towards love instead. Hit play and listen now! 🎧 Episode to listen to next: There's Nothing Embarrassing About Wanting Love 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

  3. Sep 8

    Why It's Always A Fight For Love & Attention

    Finding love can feel like one, exhausting long fight you never win. It can feel so unfair when you think about how much love you have to give. And that you're not asking for anything ridiculous, or what other people don't have. You just want a loving, committed relationship with a man who actually shows up for you. A relationship where you can just relax. But for some reason, who you are and what you do, it never seems to be enough. It feels like you're always having to try harder, put more effort in, rethink what you're doing to find love, unsure of what else you can possibly do to finally make love happen. But what if the answer was never to try harder or put more effort in?!?! What if it was doing the opposite?! Because there’s something much deeper that's kept you fighting for love and attention... and never actually getting it. And once you understand this, you'll see how coming at finding love in a way that actually feels better, might be all that you've need to do all along. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why finding love can feel so much harder for you than it seems to be for everyone elseWhat’s actually driving the constant need to try harder when dating feels uncertainHow the fight for love and attention keeps repeating itself in your dating lifeWhy it feels near impossible to hard to relax and focus on your lifeWhat begins to change when you finally stop fighting and come back to loveHow to find love without the fight. If you’re exhausted from trying to make dating work and wondering why finding a loving relationship has been so damn hard, hit play and listen to the full episode now. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

  4. Sep 5

    Imagine If Dating Was Fun...

    If you’ve spent years trying to figure out how to find love, there’s a good chance you’ve also consumed a LOT of dating advice. Which dating app should you use? Should you message first? How do you get past the talking stage? How do you get a man to actually ask you out? Should you be more in your feminine energy, less anxiously attached, play it cool, stop trying so hard? How do you "put yourself out there" more than you are already?? And yet despite doing all the “right” things, finding the relationship you want still feels ridiculously hard. In this episode of Find Love With Emily, you'll see exactly why typical dating advice is isn't what you want to be listening to AT ALL, if you genuinely want real, lasting love. It's actually what's been keeping you single. The recent experience of one of the women inside Attract YOUR Man illustrates this perfectly... Five weeks ago, she was utterly disheartened by dating, struggling to get past the talking stage and on a real date and it felt like it was just problem after problem she needed to somehow solve on her own. Now... She's talking to 5 men, has 2 dates planned and in her own words dating is "SO MUCH FUN!!" This wasn't because her luck changed, she found some new manipulative dating strategy, or rewrote her dating profile for the 75th time. Something much more fundamental changed and dating got easier. If you’re tired of dating advice, dating apps, situationships and constantly wondering what you’re doing wrong, hit play and listen to this episode now. You'll see: Why more of the usual dating advice isn't the answer What happens when you stop trying to “get dating right”Why finding love and being good at dating are not the same thingHow to take the pressure out of datingWhat makes dating (legit) fun!What to focus on when what you actually want isn’t to be good at dating, it's love. 🎧 Episodes to listen to next: Love Is Simpler Than You Think - Here's What's Been Missing Self-Assessment: Your Blocks To Love | PART 1 Self-Assessment: Your Blocks To Love | PART 2 The Uncomfortable Truth About Following The One Rule Love Does 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

  5. Sep 1

    The Balance Between Chasing Love And Not Doing Enough

    Are you trying too hard to find love… or are you actually not doing enough? Both can leave you in exactly the same place... Still single, still exhausted and frustrated by dating, unsure why you never get any closer to love and having absolutely no idea what you're meant to do differently. Are you supposed to "put yourself" out there more, meet more men, get on more dates?! Or is love simply going to happen when it's meant to?!? In this episode of Find Love With Emily I answer these questions and explain the fine line between chasing love and actually taking the steps that move you towards the meeting the man and having the relationship you want. And you'll know the questions to ask yourself so you can get this balance right. Because sometimes the thing that feels like "trusting love" is actually the thing keeping you stuck... And something "putting yourself out there" is doing the exact same thing. If you’ve been dating for years, you’re exhausted by dating advice, and you genuinely don’t know whether you need to do more or do less to find love, hit play and listen to this episode now. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

  6. Aug 29

    What Makes It Easier To Find Love Over 30

    If you’re single in your 30s or 40s, it probably feels like love's only getting harder for you to find. The dating pool is smaller. All the decent men are already taken. Men want younger women. It's harder to meet people. And after years of being single, dating the wrong men or watching seemingly everyone else find their person, it can start to feel less like a fear and more like a FACT... That finding love IS harder the older you get. But is that actually true? In the last episode, we talked about The REAL Reason Is Harder To Find Love After 30 (go listen to that one now if you haven't already) and in this episode we're taking that conversation one very important step further. Because if you want love to finally get easier, like you want it to happen for real, then you can't keep living in this story that love's harder for you to find with every year that passes. In this episode, I'm poking holes in some of the biggest “proof” your brain has collected about why love is harder to find in your 30s, 40s and beyond because if you ever want to find love, we've got to pull this story apart. There's a VERY different way to look at your age, your dating life and what’s possible for you in love. And once you see it, that rock-solid belief that finding love only gets harder the older you get might not feel quite so true anymore... Which is your FIRST step in finally finding love! 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

  7. Aug 25

    The REAL Reason It's Harder To Find Love After 30

    Does it feel like finding love is hard because you're over 30, over 40? That there were more decent men to date when you were in your 20s? Dating was easier? You chances of finding love were better then? And now that you're in your 30s or 40s, it feels like you chance of meeting the right man and finding love are getting slimmer by the second? And 100%, you've got PLENTY of evidence that says yes, "the older I get the harder it is to find love"... But what if your age wasn't actually the problem? This episode uncovers the deeply ingrained belief that finding love gets harder after 30 and how that shapes what you see, how you date, the men you meet and whether or not you find love. You’ll discover: The real reason why dating after 30 can genuinely feel so much harderWhat actually determines your dating experiences and whether or not you find loveWhy the pressure to “find someone before it’s too late” changes the way you dateWhy trying harder to date well, only makes love feel harder to findWhat has to change if you want finding love to get easier (regardless of your age). If you’re a single woman in your 30s or 40s who’s scared you’ve left it too late, exhausted by dating apps, or wondering where all the good men have gone, this episode is one you need to hear. Because your age may not be the thing making love harder to find at all! Hit play to listen now. 🎧 Episode to listen to next: Self-Assessment: Your Blocks To Love | PART 2 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

  8. Aug 22

    "Is He Interested?" How To Know For Sure

    If you've got a crush on a man and you're wondering… Does he like me? Is he actually interested? Is there something here… or am I imagining it? Maybe it's the guy at the gym. Someone you work with. A friend. The man you see every morning getting coffee. There are glances. Smiles. Conversations that feel like something. And meanwhile, you've already imagined approximately 47 different versions of your future relationship together 💭 But if what you actually want is a loving, committed relationship, you can't spend the next six months wondering whether this man likes you. In this episode, I'm giving you the simplest way to find out if a guy is genuinely interested in you... and what to do if he isn't. But more importantly, I'm showing you why your crush might have very little to do with this particular man and everything to do with the next step love is asking you to take. Because whether he turns out to be your man or not, this can still move you closer to the relationship you actually want. In this episode you'll discover: How to know if a man is genuinely interested in youWhy you don't need to wait for the man to make the first moveExactly what you can say without asking, “Do you like me?”The point where you need to take his lack of action as your answerWhy spending months obsessing over a crush can keep you stuck and singleHow to use this situation to actually move towards love If there's a man you're interested and you want to know if he feels the same way... 🎧 Hit play and listen to this epsiode now! Our next Loved Up Week: Dating To The REAL Relationship starts Monday 24th August inside Attract Your Man. If you're meeting men, getting matches, talking, maybe even going on a few dates, but it never seems to become the actual relationship, click the link below and come join us for this Loved Up Week. Over five days, we're changing the way you see dating and what you think it takes to get the relationship, so the relationship stops feeling like this enormous thing you have to somehow make happen and starts feeling like the natural next step. Join Attract Your Man 👇 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

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Welcome to Find Love With Emily, the podcast for successful, single women in their 30s and 40s, exhausted by dating and wondering why love’s so hard to find. If you’ve tried all the dating advice; trying harder, swiping more, fixing yourself or “not looking”, and it still hasn’t worked, this podcast explains why. Each episode breaks down how love really happens, the one rule it always follows and why dating has left you scared that maybe love is not meant for you. This is the end of ridiculous dating games, trying to be the woman men want and hoping your luck changes. Here, dating finally makes sense and real, lasting love becomes possible again.Subscribe to Find Love With Emily for weekly episodes that cut through the usual dating BS and get to the root of what makes love inevitable.

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  • Creator
    Emily Bucknell
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    75
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 null All Rights Reserved.
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    Find Love With Emily