Find Love With Emily

Emily Bucknell

Welcome to Find Love With Emily, the podcast for successful, single women in their 30s and 40s, exhausted by dating and wondering why love’s so hard to find. If you’ve tried all the dating advice; trying harder, swiping more, fixing yourself or “not looking”, and it still hasn’t worked, this podcast explains why. Each episode breaks down how love really happens, the one rule it always follows and why dating has left you scared that maybe love is not meant for you. This is the end of ridiculous dating games, trying to be the woman men want and hoping your luck changes. Here, dating finally makes sense and real, lasting love becomes possible again.Subscribe to Find Love With Emily for weekly episodes that cut through the usual dating BS and get to the root of what makes love inevitable.

  1. 7H AGO

    "Is It Too Late To Find Love And Become A Mum?"

    If it feels like you’re running out of time to meet the right man and have the baby, family and life you’ve always wanted… This episode will help no end 🙌 Because the truth is: That pressure you feel to find love and start a family last, is the very thing stopping it from happening. I know that’s hard to hear, but you already feel this, don’t you? Dating feels hard. Connections feel forced. Nothing clicks the way you so badly want it to. This isn’t because you’re doing anything wrong. But because of the energy you’re in when you’re dating. In this episode, I break down what actually happens when you feel like you’re “running out of time” and that intense pressure to find love and start a family while it feels like you still can. And why it creates a cycle that only pushes love further away. You’ll hear: Why rushing and trying to find love fast (even if it’s only under the surface) kills connection before it’s had a chance to buildWhat your brain and body do when you feel that timeline pressure and how it works against youThe real reason dating never gets you any closer to love (even when you’re doing everything “right”)Why focusing on the BIG vision (man + relationship + baby) makes it harder for you to find The simple shifts that take you out of this pressure and back into the energy of love so it all finally fall into place for you. This isn’t about “pretending like you don’t care” or not worrying anymore (you already know does advice doesn’t help at all). This is about understand how love really works so you can stop pushing it away without realizing. …only the most important lesson of your lifetime!! Because love doesn’t respond to pressure. It responds to love. And once you see this, you unlock everything you need to finally live that vision you’ve always had for your life. If you’re done with all the pressure, feeling like time’s running out for you to find love and become a mum… 🎧 Hit play and listen to this episode a few times over! Because this is love happens.  💖 Episodes to listen to next: Self-Assessment: Your Blocks to Love | Part 1 (Energy & Emotions) Self-Assessment: Your Blocks to Love | Part 2 (Thoughts, Beliefs & Subconscious Patterns) READY FOR LOVE?!?!? Follow the one rule love does and Attract YOUR Man: Get the trusted steps, tools and practices that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love, click here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/aym-podcast   CONNECT WITH ME: Send me a DM on Instagram @findlovewithemily If you found this episode helpful, please send it to a friend who might need to hear it too. And don’t forget to follow/subscribe to Find Love With Emily so you don’t miss the exciting upcoming series!

    25 min
  2. 3D AGO

    The Uncomfortable Truth About Following The One Rule Love Does

    If dating, finding love feels hard, exhausting and honestly, a bit hopeless right now… I want to gently point something out to you. Without realizing, you’re kinda, actually choosing this. NOT consciously. NOT because you want it. But because it’s familiar 🧸   The same relationships that end in heartbreak. The same types of men. The same conversations that go nowhere. The same feeling of “why does this keep happening to me?” Yes, it’s painful. It’s not what you want. But it’s what you know. And your subconscious mind (which drives 95% of what you do, without you realizing) will always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven. Every. Single. Time. This means that finding love in a way that you haven’t before (like following the one rule love does)… It doesn’t feel natural at first. It feels weird, uncomfortable. Maybe even like you’ve lost your mind 🤪🤯 I’m here to tell you that’s normal. I went through it all myself. Inside this episode I’m taking you BTS of what it actually looks like to find love in a way you haven’t before. Why there are so many doubts and fears. Why it feels so uncomfortable to start. What’s happening underneath it all. And why discomfort is actually a sign you’re finally moving towards love. Not away from it any more 🙌 Inside this episode you’ll see: What “familiar hell vs unfamiliar heaven” actually looks like in your love life Why you keep going back to the same patterns (even when they aren’t what you want) The real reason doing something new feels so uncomfortable My honest experience going through this (and what happens on the other side) A simple way to start breaking these patterns keeping you away from love this week If you keep doing what you’ve always done… You already know how that ends 💔 This episode is your way out of that. 🎧 Hit play and listen now! READY FOR LOVE?!?!? Follow the one rule love does and Attract YOUR Man: Get the trusted steps, tools and practices that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love, click here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/aym-podcast   CONNECT WITH ME: Send me a DM on Instagram @findlovewithemily If you found this episode helpful, please send it to a friend who might need to hear it too. And don’t forget to follow/subscribe to Find Love With Emily so you don’t miss the exciting upcoming series!

    13 min
  3. 6D AGO

    This Week's Love Note: For When Your Love Life Feels Non-Existent

    Each week in This Week’s Love Note, I share a short reflection and a quick practice to take you through this week that will have you feeling a littler lighter, a litter clearer and a litter closer to the love you want. These simple, honest episodes are your weekly reminder of how love actually works and the small shifts that make ALLLLLL the difference to your experience of dating and finding love. Think of this as a little weekly reset for your heart. Each week you’ll get an insight on love and a small step to that this week that will bring you closer to love. Because the kind of real, lasting love you want doesn’t come from trying harder, “fixing” yourself, waiting for you luck to change or following endless dating advice (you know won’t work). It’s only when the way you feel, think and believe about love begins to shift that the way love shows up in your life begins to shift too. Remember: Love follows love. Love always, Em xx READY FOR LOVE?!?!? Follow the one rule love does and Attract YOUR Man: Get the trusted steps, tools and practices that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love, click here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/aym-podcast   CONNECT WITH ME: Send me a DM on Instagram @findlovewithemily If you found this episode helpful, please send it to a friend who might need to hear it too. And don’t forget to follow/subscribe to Find Love With Emily so you don’t miss the exciting upcoming series!

    6 min
  4. APR 4

    Why You Attract The Men Who Pull Away (And How To Break The Pattern)

    Have you ever had this happen? He’s clearly interested in you. The messages are great, flirty, fun. It feels, for sure, like there’s something happening with him. And then suddenly… The messages get colder, shorter, stop coming as frequently. He says he doesn’t want a relationship or anything “serious.” He pulls away 💔 And you’re left thinking… WTF??!?!? Inside this episode, I break down exactly why this happens and the 4 steps that break you out of this pattern. For good. Because attracting men that don’t care if they lose you… It’s not random. It’s not about them. And it’s not bad luck. There’s a reason you keep attracting the men who seem all in… And then aren’t. Once you understand why, you can break this pattern completely. Inside this episode you’ll see: Why men pursue you, then pull awayWhat you don’t see that’s happening under the surface that keeps that pattern repeatingWhat actually attracts the man who does not want to lose youThe 4 steps that break this pattern and get you on track to find real, lasting love. Journal prompts from the episode: When I think about this man / my dating experiences, I feel…When I think about dating, finding love, men, I am done feeling… 💖 Episodes to listen to next: Self-Assessment: Your Blocks to Love | Part 1 (Energy & Emotions) Self-Assessment: Your Blocks to Love | Part 2 (Thoughts, Beliefs & Subconscious Patterns) 🧲 Other episodes in the “Why You Attract…” series:  Why You Attract Emotionally Unavailable, Avoidant Men (And How To Break The Pattern) Why You Feel Invisible To Men (And How To Break The Pattern) Why You Attract The Boring Men You're Not Attracted To (And How To Break The Pattern) Why You Attract Men Who Pull Away (And How To Break The Pattern) Why You Attract The Men That Only Want One Thing (And How To Break The Pattern) Why You Attract Bare Minimum Men Who Breadcrumb You (And How To Break The Pattern) READY FOR LOVE?!?!? Follow the one rule love does and Attract YOUR Man: Get the trusted steps, tools and practices that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love, click here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/aym-podcast   CONNECT WITH ME: Send me a DM on Instagram @findlovewithemily If you found this episode helpful, please send it to a friend who might need to hear it too. And don’t forget to follow/subscribe to Find Love With Emily so you don’t miss the exciting upcoming series!

    22 min
  5. APR 1

    Self-Assessment: Your Blocks To Love | PART 2

    We’re answering the BIG question you have when you’re a woman dating in her 30s, 40s or 50s:   “Why am I still single… even thought I’ve done everything right?”   This episode gives you that answer. Clearly. Finally!!!   In Part 1 of this series (you can catch up on that here) you saw how the way you feel (or your energy) has been shaping your dating experiences and the quality of men you attractive.   Inside this episode we go deeper.   To the root of why you haven’t got any closer to meeting the right man or love, no matter how much you want it, how hard you try or what you do…   The beliefs you hold in your subconscious mind. And how aligned (or not) they are with love.   This is where EVERYTHING finally clicks.   And you’ll see exactly what dating more, swiping on apps, trying to be less “anxiously attached”, thinking more positively were never going to work if real, lasting love is what you want.   Inside this episode, I walk you through a short, practical exercise that shows you:   The exact “unloving” subconscious beliefs currently shaping your love lifeHow you brain is always working to prove your beliefs to be trueWhy the same patterns play out for you in dating and in the type of men you attractThe simple steps to rewire your beliefs for love so you break out of these patterns and into love.  👉 Click HERE to download the exercise.   This is the piece most single women over 30 are missing.   It is the reason it’s felt like you’ve been doing everything “right” and still getting nowhere.   By the end of this episode, you’ll see exactly why love’s been so hard for you to find. And more importantly, you’ll have the clear, simple steps that change this so that you finally find love.   Be sure you follow/subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss the EFT session I have planned for you!   💖 To learn more about the one rule love follows, click below to listen to: 🎧 Self-Assessment: Your Blocks To Love | PART 1   🎧 Why Love Feels So Hard To Find (Even When You've Done Everything "Right") 🎧 Love Is Simpler Than You Think - Here’s What You’ve Been Missing READY FOR LOVE?!?!? Follow the one rule love does and Attract YOUR Man: Get the trusted steps, tools and practices that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love, click here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/aym-podcast   CONNECT WITH ME: Send me a DM on Instagram @findlovewithemily If you found this episode helpful, please send it to a friend who might need to hear it too. And don’t forget to follow/subscribe to Find Love With Emily so you don’t miss the exciting upcoming series!

    21 min
  6. MAR 29

    This Week’s Love Note: For When Dating Makes You Feel Like You’re Not Enough

    Each week in This Week’s Love Note, I share a short reflection and a quick practice to take you through this week that will have you feeling a littler lighter, a litter clearer and a litter closer to the love you want. These simple, honest episodes are your weekly reminder of how love actually works and the small shifts that make ALLLLLL the difference to your experience of dating and finding love. Think of this as a little weekly reset for your heart. Each week you’ll get an insight on love and a small step to that this week that will bring you closer to love. Because the kind of real, lasting love you want doesn’t come from trying harder, “fixing” yourself, waiting for you luck to change or following endless dating advice (you know won’t work). It’s only when the way you feel, think and believe about love begins to shift that the way love shows up in your life begins to shift too. Remember: Love follows love. Love always, Em xx READY FOR LOVE?!?!? Follow the one rule love does and Attract YOUR Man: Get the trusted steps, tools and practices that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love, click here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/aym-podcast   CONNECT WITH ME: Send me a DM on Instagram @findlovewithemily If you found this episode helpful, please send it to a friend who might need to hear it too. And don’t forget to follow/subscribe to Find Love With Emily so you don’t miss the exciting upcoming series!

    6 min
  7. MAR 28

    Why You Attract The "Boring" Men You’re Not Attracted To (And How To Break The Pattern)

    You keep attracting boring men you’re just not attracted too… There’s no chemistry. No spark. No real attraction. Definitely nothing exciting. While the men you actually want, don’t want you back. You might feel the chemistry, the spark, the attraction. But they’re no interested, don’t choose you or aren’t interest in the kind of relationship you want. This isn’t back luck. It’s not because “all the good men are taken.” Or your only option is to settle for okay. This isn’t random. There’s a reason that this keeps happening in your dating life, especially if you’re dating in your 30s or 40s. The 3 steps you’ll find inside this episode that will break this pattern for good… So, you can finally attract the whole package man (kind, genuine, consistent AND attractive AF!!!) Inside this episode, you’ll learn: Why you attract men you’re not attracted toWhy you the spark feels so hard to find in dating (and what it really means)Why you’re drawn to men who don’t choose youThe subconscious beliefs that shape who you attractHow dating culture in 2026 has it ALLLLLL wrong (if you want love)The counter-intuitive approach to dating that speeds love up3 steps to break this pattern so you can finally find love 🎧 Press play now to finally understand why attracting the right man has felt so hard for so long. And get the steps that make attracting the right ones so much easier! 💖 Episodes to listen to next: 🎧 Why Love Feels So Hard to Find (Even When You’ve Done Everything Right) 🎧 Self-Assessment: Your Blocks to Love (Part 1) 🧲 Other episodes in the "Why You Attract..." series: Why You Attract Emotionally Unavailable, Avoidant Men (And How To Break The Pattern) Why You Feel Invisible To Men (And How To Break The Pattern) Why You Attract The Boring Men You're Not Attracted To (And How To Break The Pattern) Why You Attract Men Who Pull Away (And How To Break The Pattern) Why You Attract The Men That Only Want One Thing (And How To Break The Pattern) Why You Attract Bare Minimum Men Who Breadcrumb You (And How To Break The Pattern) READY FOR LOVE?!?!? Follow the one rule love does and Attract YOUR Man: Get the trusted steps, tools and practices that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love, click here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/aym-podcast   CONNECT WITH ME: Send me a DM on Instagram @findlovewithemily If you found this episode helpful, please send it to a friend who might need to hear it too. And don’t forget to follow/subscribe to Find Love With Emily so you don’t miss the exciting upcoming series!

    24 min
  8. MAR 22

    This Week's Love Note: For When You're Exhausted By Dating

    Each week in This Week’s Love Note, I share a short reflection and a quick practice to take you through this week that will have you feeling a littler lighter, a litter clearer and a litter closer to the love you want. These simple, honest episodes are your weekly reminder of how love actually works and the small shifts that make ALLLLLL the difference to your experience of dating and finding love. Think of this as a little weekly reset for your heart. Each week you’ll get an insight on love and a small step to that this week that will bring you closer to love. Because the kind of real, lasting love you want doesn’t come from trying harder, “fixing” yourself, waiting for you luck to change or following endless dating advice (you know won’t work). It’s only when the way you feel, think and believe about love begins to shift that the way love shows up in your life begins to shift too. Remember: Love follows love. Love always, Em xx READY FOR LOVE?!?!? Follow the one rule love does and Attract YOUR Man: Get the trusted steps, tools and practices that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love, click here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/aym-podcast   CONNECT WITH ME: Send me a DM on Instagram @findlovewithemily If you found this episode helpful, please send it to a friend who might need to hear it too. And don’t forget to follow/subscribe to Find Love With Emily so you don’t miss the exciting upcoming series!

    7 min
4.9
out of 5
8 Ratings

About

Welcome to Find Love With Emily, the podcast for successful, single women in their 30s and 40s, exhausted by dating and wondering why love’s so hard to find. If you’ve tried all the dating advice; trying harder, swiping more, fixing yourself or “not looking”, and it still hasn’t worked, this podcast explains why. Each episode breaks down how love really happens, the one rule it always follows and why dating has left you scared that maybe love is not meant for you. This is the end of ridiculous dating games, trying to be the woman men want and hoping your luck changes. Here, dating finally makes sense and real, lasting love becomes possible again.Subscribe to Find Love With Emily for weekly episodes that cut through the usual dating BS and get to the root of what makes love inevitable.

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